‘Want to know about sexual bullying? Here are all the details you need to know about.
Sexual bullying is real, and it usually happens to bullied women and girls. Females who are chronically bullied especially suffer from it. Why? Because people have bullied them for so long that they’ve grown comfortable abusing them.
And, because they never faced accountability for it, they know that they’ll get away with sexually harassing these girls, too.
Therefore, in this post, you will learn all about sexual bullying and what constitutes it.
Once you learn these crucial details, you will be able to better defend yourself from it.
This post is all about sexual bullying so that you can recognize it and stand up to it.
Sexual Bullying
Often, when a girl is a target of bullying, the torment she suffers leaves her wide open for sexual harassment. And, sadly, this isn’t discussed enough.
The harassment can range from inappropriate and embarrassing comments to unwanted physical touching. I’m female and am writing this post from a female perspective. However, I realize that this can happen to bullied young men as well, though not often.
What it’s like for a bullied female to endure sexual harassment
I cannot tell you how many stories I’ve heard from other female victims and survivors of bullying. And I can relate to them.
Numerous times, my bullies subjected me to this type of behavior when I was in junior high and high school. Young creeps on the bus would sneakily run a hand up my skirt. Boys in the lunch line, who stood behind me, would grab a handful of my behind.
The males who bullied me would make sexual comments. It was enough to make me sick!
As any woman or girl knows, when people hurl sexual comments at you, grope, and feel you up, it leaves you feeling cheap and violated.
Why do we blame ourselves?
If you have ever suffered this kind of bullying, your first thought is to blame yourself. You automatically wonder what you did to bring it about.
- “Was my dress too short?”
- “Were my jeans too tight?”
- “Did I have on too much makeup?”
It feels bad enough when you blame yourself. But it’s worse when others do it.
What happens when you endure Sexual Bullying
If you are a female victim of bullying, several things can happen after male bullies harass you sexually.
1. other girls will blame you for it.
Even worse is when other girls side with the creeps and blame you for their disgusting behavior.
This happens all the time, but most girls are silent about it.
Other girls may see the male bully touch you inappropriately. However, they will only assume that you “must have done something to make him do it.” They will say that somehow, you “asked for it.”
2. You will attract jealousy from the creep’s girlfriend and her friends.
If the male bully who groped you in the hallway has a girlfriend. She won’t place her anger where it belongs. Oh, no. Even if he does it right in front of her, she won’t yell at him for it. Why? Because, in most cases, these creeps’ girlfriends don’t want to risk pissing them off and losing them.
Instead, the girlfriend will accuse you of trying to steal her boyfriend. She may call you a slut. She may tell her friends that you’re a cheap whore and try to ruin your good name.
All the while, the pig who violated you walks away free as a bird. This only doubles the victimization. It’s no different from the aftermath that a rape victim goes through!
Sexual Bullying:
Other girls will also sexually harass you.
Believe it or not, female bullies can also sexually harass their female victims. Only they do it in different ways. Girls sexually harass other girls by verbal means. They make vicious comments such as,
- “Nobody will $%#! you.”
- “I’ll bet you’re still a virgin, aren’t you?”
- ”You’d $%&# anything that moves!”
- “Your _____ smells like a sewer!”
These are only a few, and I’ve heard worse. Sometimes, the other girls will encourage the male bullies to harass you sexually. Afterwards, they will turn it around on you, calling you a whore, slut, take your pick.
In school, I knew another bullied girl who others referred to as “Tuna Fish.” I’ll say no more.
Sexually Humiliating Comments
Understand that any time people bully a female, they make the most unspeakable comments and remarks. Moreover, they’re bold enough to do it to her face.
They’re so horrible and explicit that you don’t dare repeat them by mouth, much less write them in a book or article. There is no limit to the low that sexual bullies will sink.
These bullies can invent the raunchiest and raciest epithets. They can come up with the dirtiest, most vile, hurtful, and demeaning comments and actions.
Anyone who hasn’t been on the receiving end of it would be shocked if they heard or saw some of the things a bullied girl has. Bullies show a side to their victims they would never in a million years reveal to anyone else.
Sexual Bullying:
Victims of bullying usually learn about human cruelty early.
Objects of bullying witness firsthand the shocking evil and cruelty of which people are capable. They see the absolute darkest sides of the human character.
When bullied girls are sexually harassed, they stay silent. And, they do it for good reasons.
You must realize that bullies are experts at fooling bystanders and authority. They are highly skilled at manipulating a social infrastructure.
Bullies are also aware that if the victim reports such abuse, others will not believe her. Why? Because the same bullies have meticulously ruined her once good reputation.
Who’s going to take the word of someone with a notoriously bad name? Who’s going to believe a “slut” or a “whore” when she reports sexual harassment?
Understand that bullies will only show the worst sides of their characters to their victims and no one else. And why not? To bullies, the victim is both inferior and powerless.
When a person believes that you are inferior and powerless, they couldn’t care less about what you think of them. As far as they’re concerned, any opinions you have are irrelevant.
Whereas, anyone the bullies see as equals or superiors will only see the best sides of their character.
Here are the characteristics of sexual bullying:
1. Sexual Comments
Both males and females may make sexual comments toward you. Sexual remarks are those that mention sexual acts or sexual body parts. They can also be remarks that may not necessarily mention but imply sexual acts and anatomy.
For example, one of your bullies may tell you, “You’d spread your legs to anyone, wouldn’t you?”
But, make no mistake, your bully is sexually harassing you, and you have a right to stand up to it. And, how you stand up to it is to speak out.
2. Groping
Groping includes putting their hands up your dress or grabbing your breasts, behind, or genitals. If nothing else, remember this! No one has the right to touch you inappropriately. In fact, they don’t have the right to put their hands on you at all!
3. Sexual Name-Calling
Bullies shame female targets for their looks, femininity, and virtues. They call you names like “hoe,””whore,” “slut”, and other names that attack you as a woman.
They may even call you the c-word. Therefore, you must realize that when they do this, they are sexually harassing you.
Here’s how you handle male bullies who put their hands on you.
Therefore, call them out on it. Better yet, haul off and punch them as hard as you can. If your bully is male and he hits you for it, play the woman card! Point out that he just hit a woman and that he is a pathetic coward for it.
Sexual Bullying:
No matter what they tell you, you are not to blame.
Sexual bullying and harassment are wrong, no matter who deals it and who it is aimed at.
If you are a bullied female, I want you to know with every fiber of your being that it isn’t your fault. You are not responsible for someone else’s rotten behavior.
Know that you never asked for that kind of behavior, nor brought any of it on yourself.
If you are bullied and endure sexual harassment, do not take any blame for it. And for goodness’ sake, don’t be afraid to report it!
They may not listen to you. However, there’s also no way they can avoid hearing you. Again, you have a right to report sexual harassment. No one has the right to harass you!
The abuse won’t last forever
Know that the abuse you suffer will not last forever. The bullying will eventually stop. And, one day, if you hold on to your confidence and goodness, others will love and respect you.
Realize that this challenging period is only one chapter in your life, not the entire book. You too can overcome and move on to love, happiness, and success.
Just don’t give up! You are beautiful! You are a great person despite what others may tell you or how they may treat you. And some people love you and care for you!
This post is all about sexual bullying so that you can recognize it and stand up to it.
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Good post
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Aum Shanti
Thank you, Shanti!
Yesss! I think one of the issues is even in the United States, we have too many males that have not been raised to properly respect females. Males seem to think making sexual remarks consistently or in bullying situations attacking a female with sexual comments is somehow “funny.” No guys, it is called being trashy. And frankly our current President has a large history of making snide remarks about women’s looks (not trying to get political here). It is one thing for the genders to flirt with one another but if a male (or in some cases a female) is always saying something overly sexual or deragatory about someone’s looks, that is a good indication of who they are as a person. And on that subject isn’t it interesting that often times that bully who is Mr. or Mrs.Popularity in high school has reached their peak and often are the ones who put on a lot of weight, look totally different, etc, while that meek scholarly boy or girl grows up to be a knock out after getting past those gawky years. None of it should matter but anyone who attacks someone’s physical looks or sexually is the worst kind of coward and if you do it behind a keyboard, you have given up your right to respect.
It’s usually the popular jocks at school or the good ole’ boy clique at work who think they’re beyond reproach who sexually bully girls, so you’re right about that, Clint. And all bullies will degrade your looks. You could be a supermodel or beauty queen, and bullies will still attack your looks. Therefore, we really shouldn’t take them very seriously. They only do this to hurt your feelings and if you show them that their garbage doesn’t affect you, they’ll get bored and go find an easier mark.
It is a disgusting reality but sadly some boys (who grow up to be adult boys) think there is something “manly” about discussing their sexual pursuits (many of which didn’t happen in a lot of cases) or making overly sexual comments to females. It not only shows a lack of respect for females but it shows a lack of respect for themselves as well. Sadly, some females are even told by their own mothers to sexualize themselves.
Controversial opinion but I loathe when parents will put their daughters in beauty pageants where their age up the little girl and basically turn them into a sex object. I am not against beauty pageants but when you see a 5 year old girl claiming that is what she desires, she is not old enough to know if that is what she wants and later in life it tends to do a lot of damage to the young ladies.
As far as the dudes go, it is ridiculous. If you poll many men, they will tell you the want their lady to be strong mentally and physically, share some of their interest, have a successful career, be very intelligent……unless they end up being smarter, stronger, make more more, be more intelligent than THEM.
Now allow me to also say this respectfully. A female should be who she is and shouldn’t have to be bullied or harassed by bullies or perverted males but there does have to be some self-respect involved in some cases as well. If you walk around with your breasts hanging out or your shorts halfway up your butt then you are setting yourself up for guys with no morals to make comments. There is nothing wrong with being sexy and dressing up to impress your mate or a potential mate or maybe among friends but use some discretion.
Hahahaha! I love that first paragraph, Bradley. I know plenty of guys in high school who would tell stories about their sexcapades and you just knew they were lying. And then you had those who bragged about their size, and you just knew the truth was the exact opposite! 😂🤣
And I definitely agree with everything here. Especially your last point. A little discretion goes a long way in keeping girls safe from oglers and jerks who make sexual comments.
Thank you for your comment, Bradley. You made some excellent points!