‘Want to know the things school bullies try to hide? Here are 13 things that they’re ashamed of and possibly part of the reason they bully in the first place.

School bullies may come off like they’re invincible and others may think so too. However, they have things they keep secret and hope others never find out. And many of those secrets are sad. However, it doesn’t excuse their behavior.

You will learn the things school bullies try to hide so that you can be assured that they aren’t as cool or tough as they try to make you think.

Once you learn these truths, you will feel better about yourself and pity for your bullies. Moreover, you’ll no longer hate yourself nor them.

This post is all about the things school bullies try to hide so that victims can be assured that under that tough exterior, bullies are just as vulnerable as they are.

Things school bullies try to hide

Bullies keep so many secrets. They have to, to maintain the facade they hide behind.

In other words, bullies must continue to wear a veil of perfection, toughness, and coolness. They take extreme pains to keep that veil from falling off.

However, if you watch and listen, your bullies secrets will eventually seep through by either foolish mistakes they make, or through the gossip of others.

13 Things School Bullies Are Ashamed Of

1. One or both of their parents are drug dealers.

A few of your bullying classmates may came from homes that people buy drugs out of. Because of this, these bullies are either ashamed of what they were living in or they feel ignored at home and this is sad way to live.

Therefore, they bully you to cover that shame and get the attention at school that they aren’t getting at home.

2. Things School Bullies Try to Hide:

They are on welfare.

Many bullies come from families that have a tradition of living on welfare. Moreover, in many cases, this goes back a few generations.

Sadly, a few of these bullies may deliberately have babies to draw a welfare check. Therefore, these are the kids who probably don’t care who knows.

However, most school bullies are ashamed of it and may take extreme measures to hide it from the rest of the student body.

Don’t get me wrong, I never look down on anyone who draws assistance. Life happens. We lose our jobs or issues with our health arise.

Therefore, sometimes we need a little help keeping the bills paid. I get that. But when someone tries to be someone they’re not and act like they’re better than the rest, I have an issue with it.

Granted, there’s nothing wrong with keeping it private, because, really, it’s none of anyone’s business. However, when you put on a facade and treat someone so rotten that they don’t want to live anymore, then maybe you deserve to be exposed.

3. Their parents fight all the time.

Many of your classmates may deal with drama at home. They may lie awake at night, hearing Mom and Dad fighting like cats and dogs in the next room.

They may consider this to be the norm. Therefore, they would start altercations at school too. You are what you live.

4. Things School Bullies Try to Hide:

They are being abused/neglected by parents.

Several of your bullies may be getting their butts kicked at home. Therefore, they come to school to bully and physically attack you and a few others.

Why? Abused children feel powerless. And so, these bullies do it to overcompensate and feel some sense of power. If they have no control over their own lives, they’ll come to school and assert control over someone else’s.

5. Their mothers have a different partner over every night.

So many bullies come to school and called girls whores, sluts, and skanks. However, it may be that these are names they really want to call their own mothers. Many of my bully classmates lived in these types of circumstance.

 Why? Because, in most of these situations, the lovers in these mothers’ lives usually come before the needs of their children.

Moreover, being ignored and neglected can make a child angry after a while. Therefore, they come to school and bully you to get some of that anger out.

Either these mothers may be working in prostitution to pay the bills or they’re desperate and afraid to be alone. No judgement here, but it does happen.

Whatever the case may be, it’s harmful for the kids and may breed some resentment.

6. Things School Bullies Try to Hide:

The Bullies have a parent who have an alcohol problem or drug addiction.

Such was the case with many of my school bullies years ago. Many of your bullies may be angry and bitter because they have parents who stay drunk and loaded. These parents usually put drugs and booze before their children.

 Therefore, it may force the family into poverty. Some of the parents may be “mean drunks” and lash out at their children.

Is it any wonder these bullies are so angry? This doesn’t justify their behavior. However, it should make you thankful if you live in a healthy home with loving and attentive parents.

Moreover, it should be a relief to you that your bullies are just as human as you and not the heroes they think they are.

7. Things School Bullies Try to Hide:

They have a parent who was supposedly a criminal.

One of my female bullies had a parent who was rumored to be a murderer. Although the suspected parent was a big wheel in the town and was never convicted, there was plenty of talk about it around town and everyone knew about it.

I believe there was a bit of shame and embarrassment there and she bullied to make herself feel better.

8. They’re living in abject poverty.

Many bullies may live in trailer parks, shacks, and in the projects. I can remember that some of my bullies didn’t have indoor plumbing and used outhouses for a bathroom- even in the winter.

Because they are ashamed of their living conditions, they’ll come to school and bully you to feel better about themselves.

Moreover, they may also bully you because they’re jealous that you might have life a little better than they do.

9. A parent has abandoned them.

Again, many bullies are full of anger and bitterness. Therefore, when they get to school, they’ll take it out on their vulnerable targets. It gives them a sense of power.

Also, because the parental abandonment throws many of these bullies into poverty, they’re also jealous of targets who have more than they do. Therefore, they bully them as punishment for being from families who are financially better off.

10. Things School Bullies Try to Hide:

They’re victims of sexual abuse by a family member or their mothers’ boyfriends.

These kids feel utterly powerless. So, to not feel so helpless, they’ll jockey for power at school by asserting dominance over their victims.

11. They’ve had multiple abortions.

Many female bullies, especially those who are popular, sleep around. As a result, many become pregnant, sometimes two or three times during school.

Moreover, if their parents are public figures with images to protect, they’ll force their daughters to have abortions to hide it.

Why? Because they fear their perfect little families will come under scrutiny. I remember one girl being forced into one in the sixth grade.

This is not to voice any political viewpoints here. The point is that bullies are far from perfect (but aren’t we all?). 

Yet, they’ll move Heaven and Earth to hide any blemishes and wear a veil of sheer perfection. Moreover, bullies will condemn others for doing the same things they themselves are doing.

Bullies are notorious hypocrites.

12. Things School Bullies Try to Hide:

They’ll go slumming.

Many bullies in the high school preppy crowd will sometimes go to the projects and sleep with some of the women who live there.

I can remember when the parents of two of my bullies found out that they were doing it, they sent them to a group home for the rest of the school year (ninth or tenth grade).

Again, bullies aren’t the shiny, perfect people they’d like you to think they are.

13. One of the teachers who bullied me was sleeping around

Teachers who bully certain students are known to have sordid affairs with some of the athletes on the school sports team.

Years ago, it was common knowledge around my town that my bully teacher was having these types of liaisons. However, because she had connections in town and her father was a businessman, she kept her job.

Moreover, everything was hush-hush around certain people who were allies of hers.

However, when people were at a safe distance and out of earshot of anyone who might have gone back and informed her of who the talkers were, they would trumpet the juicy info loud and proud.

In Conclusion

People can live their lives the way they want. No one is perfect and we all have hang-ups.

As long as it doesn’t affect your life, more power to them. But when they look down on others they deem unworthy of dignity and accuse them of committing the same sins as they do, it’s a clear indicator of gross hypocrisy.

The point is that most bullies have dirty little secrets they don’t want to get out. Always! Why do you think they target you with their vitriol?

It’s all designed to keep the negative spotlight off them and place it on you.

In other words, it’s a way to keep their own closet skeletons from seeing the light of day. Because if everyone is too busy looking at you, they pay less attention to their’ sins, snafus, and faux pas.

This is something you must keep in the back of your mind.

This post was all about things school bullies try to hide and the hypocrisy and double-standards that go along with bullying.

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