‘Want to know how to outsmart a bully at school or work and make yourself bully-proof? Here is one proven three-part technique you need to know about.
Having a bully on your tail can be overwhelmingly stressful. If you’re anything like I was when it was happening to me, you’re probably wondering how to outsmart a bully. As someone who has been there and used this method successfully, I’m giving you the exact tactic that worked for me.
You are going to learn the exact tactic that works like a charm.
After you learn this three-step strategy. You will be able to successfully lure your bullies into a trap they won’t be able to escape from. Moreover, they will think twice before trying to use you again.
This post is all about how to outsmart a bully at school, work, or the community by using the three part tactic that every victim of bullying should know.
how to outsmart a bully
Before we get into the three-part strategy, let’s first discuss the bully’s attitude about anyone who is smart.
Whether in the school, workplace, community, or even family setting, bullies hate a person who’s smart. Why? Because anyone who’s intelligent is likely to see through their acts and smoke screens.
Moreover, bullies also hate anyone who’s independent because they’re least likely to be controlled and subdued. In fact, most independent people are smart because they know how to improvise and do not need anyone else to hold their hand.
As we see in so many examples today in government and media, bullies would rather have you dependent, submissive, and ignorant. Now, why is this?
It’s because an ignorant person is a gullible person who will believe anything others tell them even if it leads them to the slaughter.
naivete is the root of dependence and submissiveness.
People who aren’t very bright, are the easiest to take power from and control because they never think for themselves. Also, they never think critically. People with low IQ take everything at face value and will fall for anything.
Moreover, a person who is naive either hasn’t had enough life lessons to learn, or they’ve been coddled and sheltered. In other words, they weren’t allowed to fall on their butt and have never been made to pick themselves back up.
Therefore, this person is also dependent. They are dependent because they never learned how to fend for themselves. Who can learn anything when, people are constantly bailing them out?
The ignorant are also submissive because they’ll do anything people, especially those who have a little influence (politicians, media, celebrities, sports figures…anyone with authority and clout) tell them just to stay in their good graces and those of society and the public.
How to outsmart a bully: Realize that Bullies easily take advantage of those who are naive, dependent, and submissive.
Therefore, understand that knowledge is power. Having the knowledge of evil and the motives and intentions behind it is the only way you’ll be able to protect yourself from it.
On the other hand, if you don’t know evil is happening, you’ll never be able to defend yourself against it. Therefore, you will be blindsided and thrown off balance when evil finally strikes!
And then you will be defenseless!
And the same will be if you’re willfully blind and ignorant. Though ignorance may be bliss, it won’t help you when evil strikes and reality is staring you square in the face. You’ll be just as defenseless!
You’re never too old to learn. And the process of attaining growth and wisdom is never comfortable.
In fact, it can be downright painful because it requires that you unlearn some of the falsehoods that have been drummed into your head for so long.
It also requires that you admit that you were duped- that you fell for all the bullies’ lies and that you were wrong. And, yes, it also demands that you admit that you are, or have been…wait for it… a dimwit! Gasp! Ouch!
It’s what I had to do, and it wasn’t fun, I can tell you!
It will be worth it in the end!
However, once you allow yourself to go through this painful process. In other words, once you admit some hard truths, you will come out a much better version of yourself. You will be wise, and it will be as if you’ve been given a new set of eyes.
You will see so much clearer and be able to pick out the tiniest detail. And the devil is always in the details.
Again, ignorance is bliss, but only for so long. Eventually, you will do either one of two things. You will either wise up and act to save yourself. Or, you will suffer the shock of realizing you were duped all along.
And your eyes will finally open the moment you face the very real prospect of being destroyed by the very people who fooled you.
How to outsmart a bully at school or work: What is the three-part strategy?
1. go ahead and allow the bullies to think you’re ignorant.
In other words, play the fool!
Here’s one thing you must know right now. When people think you aren’t very smart, you can run circles around them if you know how to use it to your advantage.
Why? Because you can use it to deceive your bullies and lull them into a false sense of security. Moreover, you can give them a feeling of mind-superiority and disarm any suspicions they may have.
Here’s one of the anti-bullying quotes I put on social media a few years back.
“When people mistake you for being stupid, it can really be a good thing if you know how to use it to your advantage. You can pull some sly, shady stuff and get away with it because no one would ever suspect it was you. They’d never think you were smart enough to pull it off!”
This is especially true with aggressive bullies because they’ll often rush in foolishly and make rash decision. As a result, they can get themselves in a lot of trouble.
Furthermore, this also works on arrogant and overconfident bullies. Why? Because the easier they think it is to abuse you, the easier it is for you to flip the script on them.
How to Outsmart a Bully: If you’re going to play the fool, be a genius at it!
If you want to move up any ladder but are low on the social hierarchy, appearing foolish can be the perfect cover! In other words, look like a complete moron, and no one will ever suspect you have tricks up your sleeve.
When bullies deem you a dummy, they don’t perceive you as a threat. They may look down on you, yes. But they’ll likely leave you alone. Therefore, when you finally put your plan into action and strike without warning, you’ll catch them completely by surprise.
So let them think you’re a complete idiot and use it as a weapon against them and a boon for yourself. Bullies may laugh at you behind your back, but if you know how to use it to your advantage, you’ll be the last one laughing!
When Bullies Label You “not smart,” Always Remember this:
Everyone’s a dummy outside of their talents, gifts and fields!
Fish can’t fly,
Birds can’t swim,
Most pro football players can’t write fiction novels,
And most singers and writers probably suck at sports!
My point is that everyone has something they’re good at, maybe some haven’t found out what it is, but everyone has a talent somewhere!
Moreover, understand that people will say things like this any time they feel you are surpassing them at something. Even better they lull themselves into thinking you are the most foolish person on earth.
However, if you see it as an opportunity, you can turn tables on bullies and make utter fools out of them- right before the eyes of everyone else!
2. How to Outsmart a Bully at school, work, or anywhere: Slyly Bolster your bullies’ ego.
In other words, let them delude themselves into a false sense of superiority and security. Oh yes! You read that correctly! Let them think you’re the most ignorant fool around because it’s the first step in laying your trap for them.
And once they get the idea that you’re such a dim bulb that you couldn’t pour pee out of a boot, that’s when it’s time to pull something elaborate, sly and shady as hell!
Put another way, look even more ignorant than your bullies and their perceptions of you will be your shield. They will be your cover when you slyly bait them or attack them, trick or deceive them!
Then, once they do find out you were behind it, it’ll be too late. And your bullies will look like blooming idiots!
3. Strike Unexpectedly.
Put your attack or dirty trick into action. Then, stand back and watch your bullies as they stand there slack jawed. Enjoy the embarrassment they feel and laugh to yourself.
Here’s a good example of this three-step strategy: This is how to outsmart a bully at school.
Celie is in the seventh grade and is a victim of bullying. A group of female bullies sits at the table next to hers and they are brutal.
One day, suddenly and out of the clear blue, they begin acting nice to Celie.
Celie knows there was a catch somewhere. However, she decides to humor the bullies just to see what they want.
Sure enough, a week later, the bullies very sweetly ask her to take up their trays (Ah-HA!!!)
Celie smiles at her bullies and agrees to do it. Therefore, she decides to demean herself for a little while and be their maid for a while. Why? Because Celie has a slick plan for those little creepstresses!
1. How to outsmart a bully At School: Celie Let’s the bullies think she’s ignorant.
So, the other kids laugh and think Celie is a complete pushover. But they don’t suspect that Celie knows something they don’t. But, they’ll soon find out once the opportunity arrives for her to put her plan into action.
2. Celie bolsters her bullies’ ego by continuing to clean up their mess.
Celie continues to play maidservant to her bullies for the next two weeks. That is, until the day finally comes when the bullies decide to get up and leave the lunchroom.
Just as Celie hopes they do, the bully girls leave their trays, empty milk cartoons, dirty napkins and other garbage lying on the table. They have grown so arrogant, thinking Celie will continue to clean up after them.
3. Celie seizes the opportunity and strikes unexpectedly.
Celie sees her chance. She only gets up and goes to her next class, leaving those trays sitting right there on the table. She leaves the trays exactly where the girls have left them!
As a result, the cafeteria ladies take down the names of all the girls and reports them to the principal!
The principal then calls the girls out of class, takes them back to the cafeteria and makes them clean up their mess. Oh, the humiliation they suffer!
Word gets around about the incident in a matter of minutes, and the girls became laughing stocks of the school! School staff scowl at the girls and other kids point fingers at them, calling them pigs, skanks, slobs, and other degrading names!
Joy! Celie ends up making her bullies look like the utter garbage they are.
And the bullies’ reactions? Fury! Rage! They immediately threaten physical retaliation. They yell and scream, calling Celie all kinds of names, while she only points and laughs at them.
The bullies never bother her again after their anger cools. They learn a valuable lesson in this. Never underestimate someone you think isn’t smart. They just might prove to be smarter than you think.
This post is all about how to outsmart a bully so that you can humiliate your bullies so badly that they stop targeting you.
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These are great tips on how to outsmart a bully! Happy Friday! 🌺🩷😂
Thank you, Kymber! Happy Friday to you as well. 🌸
Fantastic tips! The only drawback in Celie’s case is if it was male bullies and Celie was a boy, they would follow through on physical retaliation.
True that. And Celie’s bullies threatened physical violence but it didn’t happen. They didn’t bother her anymore because she’d humiliated them so bad. However, it varies from case to case. With male bullies, you’re right. Therefore, throw up them dukes and fight like your life depends on it.