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Bullying is perverse and can be negatively life-altering. If you’re anything like I was, you’re probably having difficulty deciding how to properly stand up for yourself. As someone who’s been there, I’m giving you the steps to defend yourself against bullies.
You’re going to learn the exact method of defending yourself against bullies and bullying.
After you learn all these powerful strategies, you will be extra prepared for the next bullying incident and be able to better handle yourself in bullying situations.
This post is all about how to defend yourself from bullies so that you can ensure your own safety and take back control of your life.
How to Defend Yourself from Bullies
1. think like a bully (just don’t act like one)
This is your first step.
Most people who become targets of bullying are genuinely good hearted and would never dream of hurting another human being. On the other hand, bullies are consistently thinking up newer and more sophisticated ways to inflict harm on others.
Their hunger for power is such that they have left a long line of victims in their wake and are always on the lookout for new targets.
The reason most good people become targets of bullying is that bullies are notorious for taking kindness for weakness. Therefore, to protect yourself from becoming the next target requires that you adopt the bully mindset.
You must think as bullies do but not act as they do.
I realize this can be difficult because the mind of a bully isn’t a pleasant place to be. It can be downright ugly!
Moreover, to think as a bully takes a certain degree of identifying with them. However, you must think as they do in order to better predict what bullies will do next.
If you can figure out what their next move will be, you can stay a few steps ahead of these creeps and protect yourself.
Therefore, this won’t be easy. The mind of a bully can be a real cesspool. However, sometimes you must wade through a ton of crap for safety’s sake.
2. Respond in kind
There’s nothing wrong with responding in kind when people are mistreating you. This doesn’t mean tit for tat. However, it does mean getting ugly when you must.
When you respond in kind, you act with power by meeting your bullies where they are. In other words, you speak to the bullies in the only language they understand.
You must realize that when a bully is in your face, you can’t afford to be nice about it. In fact, there is no being polite.
You can never handle a bully “nicely” because they will only see that as weakness and use it to their advantage. Moreover, there is no being quiet about it because bullies will take your silence as being afraid.
Again, you must speak to the bully in the only language they understand. And what they don’t understand is nice and polite.
For example, the bully is in your personal space and they’re cursing you out. That’s when you put your hand out like a traffic cop. Then, you tell them in no uncertain terms to get the hell out of your face.
This shows that you command the dignity and respect that’s due to the next person. Also, it shows that you have the guts to stand your ground when some creep violates your boundaries.
As a society, we’ve been conditioned by politicians, the media, corporations, educators, and even certain members of our families that responding in kind only makes us as bad as the bullies.
bullies only understand strength and power
There’s no law that says that you must accept abuse from anyone. Yet, we’re very subtly being told that we should take it, and with a smile, and a yes sir/ma’am, then ask for seconds. In today’s world, society tries to dictate that we should agree to abuse.
And we’re still being conditioned to do so. We’re being told to “ignore” people’s atrocious behavior, and in some cases, even submit to it.
However, I want you to understand that the only thing bullies understand is strength and power and anyone they deem as weak is fair game.
Therefore, if you don’t respond in kind to bad behavior, bullies will get the message that there are no consequences for their abuse. Moreover, they will get the impression that they can walk on you anytime they feel like it.
Then, there will be no stopping them from escalating the bullying and no limit to what they’ll try next.
You must set boundaries, and how you set boundaries is by imposing consequences on anyone who violates those boundaries. But how do you impose consequences?
By responding in kind to bullies when they cross the line.
Therefore, never be afraid to respond in kind and never feel guilty for it. It’s normal, expected, and it’s how you defend yourself and treat yourself well.
Remember that the only rights you have are those you fight for.
3. How to defend yourself from bullies: don’t worry about what other people think
People will tell you, “You shouldn’t have said that to so-and-so because you only stoop to their (the bullies’) level.”
However, it’s funny how they never said a word to the bully, who had you backed in a corner and was unloading on you. Now, all of a sudden, you are the mean one for telling the bullies exactly what they are.
Therefore, realize that when you’re forced to get just as nasty, there will be people who try to tell you the same thing.
Instead of worrying about their reaction, always come back with, “Funny, you never said a word when they were doing the same to me, so you have nothing to say about my behavior. Now, get lost!” And say it with conviction and without guilt.
“It’s not ladylike,” they say? Well, it’s not ladylike for the bully either. It goes both ways.
Tell them how you feel and what you think of them because you can’t be nice when you’re dealing with people who wish to harm you. You have to get funky with it! You must put your bitch-face on when things get hot. When some schmuck is in your face, nice and polite goes out the window.
And once they find out that you aren’t as weak as they thought, they just might back off and think twice before confronting you again.
however, before you can do this, you must first not worry what others think.
When you stop concerning yourself with what others think or say, standing up for yourself comes so much easier. Remember, these people aren’t dealing with bullying. You are. Therefore, they have no place putting their noses in your business.
What they think and how they feel about it doesn’t matter. So, stop worrying about the feelings of those who aren’t worth your time.
4. respond to physical bullying by hitting back.
Yeah, you read that right. If a bully hits you first, you are well within your rights to hit them back… twice as hard as they hit you. How to defend yourself from bullies involves responding to physical attacks.
Understand this right now. When a bully physically attacks you, you have a God-given, primal, animal right to defend yourself from being harmed. I state this with full conviction!
Therefore, if a bully hits you first, haul off and knock his block off! And when you do, don’t just give him a love pat. Deck the creep with the strength of your entire body- hit so hard that the bully has difficulty getting back up.
Then unleash a hail of hard licks so that he doesn’t get up. Because once the bully gets up, he will charge you!
Yeah. I know it isn’t the “politically correct” thing to do. But when someone is harming you, all that jazz about political correctness and being the bigger person goes out the window, and the gloves are off.
School stuff may suspend you from school, and managers may fire you from work. You may even go to jail for a night or two. However, people are much more vicious with physical attacks nowadays.
Furthermore, if you just let someone smack you around, they’ll only intensify the beatings until they hurt you bad enough to send you to the hospital or worse! And you’d much rather them suspend you, fire you, or take you to jail than to spend a month in the hospital or end up six feet under.
Let’s face it. Sometimes, bullies can have you cornered and fisticuffs is the only option you have.
5. How to defend yourself from bullies: take self-defense Classes
Although not always affordable, martial arts classes are a godsend for victims of bullying. Not only do you learn how to defend yourself, you also learn respect and discipline.
Moreover, these classes will give you the confidence you never knew you could have and you will become more physically fit.
this post was all about how to defend yourself from bullies to help you ensure your safety and take back control of your life
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