Survivors of Bullying: How It Feels to Overome

July 14, 2025July 14, 20255 Comments

‘Want to know about the resilience of survivors of bullying? If you’re one of them, this post should make you feel proud that you not only survived, but you overcame!

The survivor of bullying who escapes the abuse first comes out with shock, anger, and sadness. But once the healing is underway, they’re filled with renewed hope.

Therefore, in this post, you will learn about the resilience and strength of survivors of bullying and why you should be proud of overcoming bullying and regaining your happiness and peace of mind.

Once you learn about what it means to overcome bullying, you will feel nothing short of victorious.

This post is all about survivors of bullying and what it feels like to finally rise above bullying and feel that renewed confidence that those like me feel to give you hope if you’re currently being bullied.

Survivors of Bullying

When school or workplace bullying experiences have exposed you to the darkest sides of human nature, you have a stronger sense of your own endurance and capability. This is all because of what you have endured and were able to overcome.

You never know your own strength until you’ve overcome bullying, especially severe and chronic bullying and mobbing.

They have an enhanced ability to read people and their intentions.

Another takeaway is that the survivor has a stronger sense of people. They can smell fakery and BS from a mile away. Additionally, they can identify bullies before even speaking to them.

The survivor pays closer attention to how people carry themselves. They also notice their body language and the vibes and energy others emit.

As a result, they are better able to avoid people who might want to harm them. Why? Because they’ve learned the hard way the importance of listening to their gut instinct and heeding it.

Anytime something is even the slightest bit “off” about a person, they notice right away. The survivor of bullying has learned that it’s essential to trust himself. Additionally, they realize that it’s equally important to trust his feelings and judgment.

Survivors of Bullying make it a point not to follow the crowd.

On the other side of bullying, a survivor learns and develops the determination never to conform to the standards of others. They live life on their terms because they know what it’s like to be a slave to the approval of others.

In other words, they know what it’s like to be a prisoner to outside influences. And they see the powerlessness of having one’s pleasure depend on the permission of others.

They know what it’s like when others force them to apologize for simply being who they are. And they aren’t having any of it!

They know that following the crowd will only suppress who they are. Therefore, they refuse to lose themselves in the crowd! They’ve learned this the hard way.

They know their worth.

Overcoming past abuse gives the survivor a restored and refined sense of their worth. In other words, they gain insight into the immense value they bring to the world.

He awakens to his goodness and realizes that yes! They are worthy of love, friendship, affection, and all the best things in life.

He also realizes that there are people who love him and there always have been, no matter what those vile bullies told him. The survivor of bullying ends up with a much clearer vision of what she will not tolerate or settle for.

She is unmovable in her refusal to kiss butt or bow down to anyone no matter what the cost may be. She’s wasted enough years living on her knees. And if others are going to punish her for her unwillingness to kowtow, she’ll suffer those consequences standing up.

Survivors of Bullying stand up for other victims.

The survivor of bullying is also a fierce warrior for other victims. If he sees another person being bullied, he will stand up for that person. He will go toe-to-toe with the bullies to protect the target.

And they will fight for that victim, then take them under their wing. They will also teach them how to defend themself.

They know what it’s like to take crap off of people. Therefore, they bestow onto other victims what they’ve endured and what they’ve learned from it.

They make it a point to set boundaries and enforce them if they must.

The survivor who has overcome bullying isn’t afraid to say no. And they aren’t too scared to walk away from any relationship that doesn’t fulfill them.

Additionally, they aren’t afraid to call out bad behavior. They will stand up to anyone who tries to abuse them. Predatory people may try to bully them, but they’ll only do it once.

They’ve been through that bullshit before and they aren’t about to endure it a second time.

Survivors of Bullying are selective of the people they allow to come around them.

They automatically gravitate toward relationships that nourish them. Moreover, survivors of bullying keep their circles small. This is because they choose the quality of friends over quantity.

In other words, they’re highly selective of who they allow into their lives. If they ever find out that someone they thought was a friend is betraying them, they aren’t afraid to cut that person off.

Moreover, they aren’t afraid of being alone and friendless for a while. The survivor of bullying knows that they can always make new friends. And they would much rather be by themselves than tolerate those who only pretend to be their friends.

Loyalty is a characteristic that survivors look for in potential friendships. And once you break their trust, they rarely give second chances.

If they do, they make you work like a dog to prove yourself worthy of their friendship.

They refuse to stay in toxic places.

Survivors of bullying refuse to stay in any environment that doesn’t allow them to grow and flourish. They avoid toxic environments like the plague.

For example, if a survivor of bullying works in a toxic work environment. They won’t stay there long. They’ll quickly and quietly search for employment with a healthier company, then submit a letter of resignation.

Survivors of Bullying don’t settle for anything less than what they want.

The survivor realizes what she deserves and goes after it with resilience and tenacity. Life’s given her enough of what she doesn’t want. And now, the time has come for her to claim what she knows she deserves and has a right to.

The survivor realizes, probably more than anyone, that life is short. And you only get one shot in this world. Therefore, they work diligently to create the life they know they deserve. And they do it without guilt.

The survivor knows that she’s neither entitled nor privileged. She realizes that the big, bad world owes her nothing. And that’s okay. She’s willing to work for what she wants.

They are self-reliant.

Survivors of bullying are fiercely independent. They realize that there’s no such thing as a free ride. Why? Because, damn! No one ever gave them anything but hell.

What they understand more than anything is that all you have is you. The only person you can depend on is you.

So, they know that reaching their goals and dreams is up to them and them alone. And they work toward those goals with fervor.

Survivors of bullying never take their friends and loved ones for granted.

The survivor of bullying makes it a point never to take anyone for granted. They let their family and friends know they love and value them. Why? Because they know what it is like to be alone, unwanted, and abused.

And they would never want anyone, especially the people they care about, to feel that way or endure what they have.

They see the people who love them as blessings, and they appreciate them.

They are grateful for everything positive in their lives.

The survivor of bullying savors every wonderful moment, every positive encounter, and every happy event because he has seen enough negativity.

What the survivor enjoys more than anything else is wonderful relationships. Why? Because they were relationships they never had when people were bullying them.

Survivors of bullying are also thankful for every happy moment they are blessed with. Moreover, they create more of them.

They enjoy helping others who go through what they once endured. And they use their experiences to encourage them and give them hope. This also creates positive rewards for them.

In Closing

Bullying can be traumatic. But sometimes, others must tear you down before you can build yourself back up again. Sometimes, fake friends must abandon you now before you can truly appreciate the family and friendships you have later.

And sometimes, it takes having others deny you approval and validation before you can enjoy the freedom of self-love. When you finally regard others’ opinions with indifference, you set yourself free.

When you learn to discard the opinions of those who don’t matter and, perhaps, never should have mattered, your self-esteem skyrockets and you take back your power and live life on your terms.

Surviving and overcoming bullying gives you a renewed sense of your value, independence, and overall freedom. It changes everything! And for the better! And, if you’re an adult survivor of school bullying, congratulations! You’re getting an earlier start!

And there’s nothing that tastes sweeter than that!

Therefore, never be ashamed of having been bullied. Be proud that you overcame it!

This post was all about survivors of bullying so that, if you survived bullying and overcame, you can feel good about that!

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Knowing Yourself: Why it’s the First Step in Building Confidence

June 18, 2024August 12, 202452 Comments

‘Want to know what the first step is to building confidence? It’s knowing yourself with every fiber of your being.

Knowing exactly who you are goes a long way when people are bullying you. As someone who had to learn this the hard way, I can tell you that when you know yourself inside and out, the least likely bullies are to get under your skin.

You are going to learn how to get to know yourself as well as the importance of knowing yourself.

After you learn these all the powerful ways to do so, you will be next to invincible to any future attacks from bullies.

This post is all about the steps to knowing yourself to give you the confidence you need to counter your bullies’ attacks successfully.

Knowing Yourself

Before we get into the steps, let’s first discuss the importance of knowing yourself.

When you know yourself inside and out, you are better able to define yourself. In other words, you won’t allow others, particularly bullies and abusers, do it for you.

Therefore, when you learn to accept only your definition of who you are, you can more easily avoid bullying because you’re better able to recognize it. And when you’re able to identify abuse, you’re least likely to put up with it.

1. Know what your needs are, what you want, and what you will and will not tolerate.

Then refuse to accept what you won’t put up with. Also, focus on your wants and needs and work hard to achieve them. This means working on yourself. Moreover, it means working toward your goals and your aspirations.

This is of the utmost importance. Why? Because when you’re too busy working on yourself and pursuing your dreams and interests, you won’t pay attention to what your bullies have to say. In other words, you’ll care less about anyone’s opinions and verbal attacks.

Also, when you know who you are, you also know what you want and what you will and will not tolerate, which is why knowing who you are is of the utmost importance.

Knowing yourself means knowing your feelings, senses, and instincts and trusting them to guide you through this messed-up thing called life. Tuning in to your feelings and instincts means tuning into your gut. As we all know, your gut can guide you out of dangerous situations and environments if you allow it to.

2. Knowing yourself: Begin trusting yourself to make the right decisions for yourself no matter what.

Here’s a little nugget you should know, your first instinct is usually the correct one.

For instance, any time you have bullies shaming and ridiculing you, your first instinct is to get away from them. However, when your bullies see that you’re leave. They may mock you for it.

They say something to the tune of, “Awww! Did you get your feelings hurt? Is that way you’re walking away?” or “Are you scared, is that why you’re leaving? Don’t be a wuss. Stand up and face us.”

Moreover, they may even tell you, “You’d better run!”

Know that it’s okay to walk away from a toxic situation. Also, know that you aren’t scared, but you aren’t going to stick around people who try to make you feel bad. When you know yourself, you know that walking away isn’t being afraid. It’s being smart!

In other words, your bullies definition of you won’t get into your head. Therefore, you’ll refuse to allow your bullies to ridicule or guilt you into staying in circumstances that don’t feel good to you.

Therefore, any time your bullies accost you, don’t be afraid to put your hand up and walk away. Know yourself well enough to know that you don’t have time for their foolishness and drama.

Understand that when you turn your back and walk away from bullies and they call out these things to you, they do it for two reasons:

a. to control you by defining you. In other words, bullies try to shame you into sticking around

b. to bait you into a fight because they know the chances are good that you’ll get blamed for it.

No one wants others to label them a coward. However, people will try to define you as one to corner you and trick you into doing what they want. Bullies know that most people will feel compelled to hang around and they’ll do it for no other reason than to prove to the rest of the world that they aren’t.

Again, this is why you must know yourself. When you know deep down that you’re not what people call you, you won’t feel any need to do any posturing. Why? Because you’ll know that there’s no need to prove anything.

Although the name-calling might sting a little, it won’t bother you as much.

3. Practice speaking out and showing your emotions.

…in appropriate settings, of course.

Knowing yourself means that you won’t feel the need to hold back emotions. You’ll be able to recognize them better and allow yourself to feel them. In some situations, it may be okay to express them.

Therefore, you won’t let others tell you how you should feel or bullies to shame you into suppressing yourself.

However, there are times when expressing and suppressing emotions is the right thing to do. For instance, if you’re attending the funeral of a loved one and you feel sad, it’s perfectly acceptable to cry.

Whereas, you wouldn’t want to break down crying in front of everyone at school because a bully called you a name. Instead, you’d show annoyance and tell the bully to get stuffed.

Also, you wouldn’t cry publicly at work because the boss chewed you out or your project fell flat. You’d just stick out your chest and try to do better the next time.

4. Another step to knowing yourself is to Practice being yourself.

Know that you don’t have to put on a big front and try to act like someone you’re not. Also, there’s no need to try to fit in anyone. In other words, know that you don’t have to prove your worth to anyone.

Knowing yourself means also knowing your worth and that you are valuable no matter what people say and regardless of where you are in life.

Moreover, understand that people who don’t know themselves will follow the crowd and try to fit in. People who don’t know themselves will accept other’s definitions of them without realizing it.

They’ll build a fake identity based on how others view them and others’ expectations and ideas of who they should be.

Sadly, if a target is told by abusers that he’s ignorant, no good, lazy and that he’ll never amount to anything, in many cases, they’ll live up to it. It will show up in their grades, performance, and how they interact with people.

Therefore, don’t be that person. Authenticity is key here. Be an original because originals are like famous paintings and artwork. They’re much more valuable than copies.

So, don’t be a cheap knock-off!

Knowing yourself is freedom!

5. Get rid of the temptation to blame yourself for any bullying and abuse you suffer.

Always be true to your own heart no matter the cost. Though it may not look that way to the outside observer, quietly dig deep and get in touch with your inner sensations and instincts. Moreover realize that you aren’t to blame for the abuse you endure.

Knowing yourself is to fully understand that other people’s behavior towards you is no reflection on you. It only speaks volumes about their own lack of morals, decency, and character.

Getting to know yourself will only bring absolute confirmation that what your bullies do to you is wrong. Now this inner realization may or may not stop bullies from attacking you. In fact, it may make the bullying worse.

However, instead of hating and blaming yourself, know in your heart that they are the bad ones. Realize that bullies are notorious for projecting their own faults and shortcomings onto others.

It’s true! A bully’s accusations is usually a confession.

6. Always trust your gut.

I can’t stress this enough. Listen to what your gut tells you and believe it. Also, pay close attention to the vibes you’re getting from the people around you.

The energy people put out never lies.

This is how you maintain your inner strength and sense of self. It takes listening to your instincts when they tell you that you have reason to be cautious around certain people.

Even better, don’t be ashamed of it. Instead, pay close attention to how your body reacts when you’re around certain people.

Also, realize that you may not be able to put your finger on it and you may not know why you’re having these yucky bodily sensations.

Does your body automatically tense up?

Do you have that bad feeling in the pit of your stomach?

Does something just feel off about the person or people you’re with?

If so, know that any one of these symptoms is your cue to get away from these people… and fast!

Once you begin knowing yourself fully, bullies will no longer have power over you. As a result, you’ll be a much happier, freer, and healthier person for it.

Getting to know yourself may take time and lots of hard inner work, but it will be worth it in the end.

This post was all about knowing yourself and what steps to take to get to know yourself in order to help you raise your self-esteem and confidence levels.