How to Overcome Low Self-Esteem: 7 Insanely Easy Ways

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Would you like to know how to overcome low self-esteem so that you can feel good about yourself and take control of your life?

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Low self-esteem can drag you down and hold you back from your full potential. Therefore, if you’re wondering how to overcome low self-esteem, then look no further. I’m about to show you easy and powerful ways to do so.

You will learn the best and easiest practices to do so. As a result, you will finally be a pro on how to overcome low self-esteem.

After you learn these simple and highly effective practices, your self-esteem will skyrocket! Your confidence will soar! And you will be ready to take life by the horns and master all your talents and abilities fearlessly.

This post is all about how to overcome low self-esteem so that you can feel so much better about yourself and have the confidence to go after your dreams and work on achieving those life-long goals!

Even better, you will have the courage to confidently stand up to bullies and haters that even attempt to try and bring you down.

How to Overcome Low Self-Esteem

Overcoming low self-esteem isn’t easy, especially if you have bullies and negative people attacking you from every corner. However, practicing thought habits and daily physical habits to raise your esteem is still so important.

Moreover, it may even feel weird at first. Doing something you’re not used to doing always does. But push through that feeling. Once you practice these new things long enough, they’ll come naturally.

And you’ll be surprised at just how much it will change your life!

Now, without further adieu, here are the ways on how to overcome low self-esteem.

1. Replace Negative Thoughts about Yourself with Those that are Positive

This means catching every negative thought that pops in your mind with a positive thought. However, it won’t be easy and may even feel weird at first, but you must stay on top of it.

Guard your mind and if you catch a negative thought, immediately replace that thought with a positive… without waiting. Also, do it repeatedly until it becomes like second nature.

You’ve heard the quote, “You are what you eat.” So, it goes with your thought processes. You are also what you think.

This is especially important for victims of bullying because they usually start off as confident and outgoing people.

However, after years of bullying and abuse, they become insecure, afraid, and withdrawn. Sometimes, they can turn against themselves.

Negative Thoughts Produce Negative Things!

For example, they began to think that they aren’t worthy of anything good in life. They stop believing in their own good qualities. They no longer think they’ll ever be loved, ever be accepted, or ever be successful and that nothing will ever go right for them.

And before long, things begin to happen that matches their thoughts and feelings. These poor people began to fall out with friends and family, they have back-to-back bad breaks. They finally develop feelings of self-loathing and end up alone, rejected, unsuccessful, and unlucky.

This is why you must realize that your thought patterns determine your outlook (attitude). Your outlook determines your decisions and behavior. Then, your decisions and behavior determine your outcomes.

Your outcomes determine your life and the events that happen in it. All this then re-enforces your outlook or attitude. This becomes a cycle and cycles always repeat themselves.

It’s the Pygmalion Effect at work.

Again, for your own sake, get into the habit of thinking positive. Moreover, put in the inner work to change your thought patterns for the better and you’ll be amazed at how it will completely change your life!

2. How to overcome Low self-esteem: Practice Self-Care

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Self-care isn’t selfish, it’s essential! It’s imperative!

Self-care is more than just treating yourself to a soothing soak in the tub, or changing your eating habits and starting an exercise regimen. Yes, all the things I just mentioned are a part of self-care.

However, it can also mean making some heartbreaking decisions, like going no contract with a toxic family member or breaking off a relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend with narcissistic personality disorder.

Moreover, you may even be forced to break off a friendship with a jealous bestie.

Believe me, those things are the most difficult to do because we care deeply about these people. However, if they don’t care enough about you to stop abusing you, then, what choice do you have?

You must love and care enough about yourself to walk away from anyone who brings you down and causes you anguish. Life is too short to tolerate abuse. Know that you deserve better.

3. Surround Yourself with Positive and Uplifting People

Many times, your self-esteem levels have so much to do with the company you keep. In other words, if you spend most of your time around people who constantly berate you and bring you down, no wonder your self-esteem is shot to shit!

One thing that few of us think about is that we each are the sum of the types of people we spend the most time with. In other words, if the people you spend most of your time with are negative, then negative is what you become.

On the other hand, the opposite is true also. If you spend most of your time with people who are positive and uplifting, then you will feel and be the same.

So, if you’re the only positive person in the room, you’re in the wrong place! If you’re around people who drain you and make you feel bad, you must find a way to fix it without hanging around and trying to fix them.

You can only fix things by removing yourself from their company.

Know that you always know when you’re with the wrong people because you will immediately sense that something is off anytime you’re around such negative folks. You will feel exhausted just being around them because it will be as if they’re sucking the oxygen out of the room.

Also, you’ll feel yucky because they’re killing your good vibes. Therefore, you must get out of there… fast!

Don’t stifle your own peace, happiness, and, most of all, growth by continuing to hang around. Make it your goal to get away from these people and out of that environment!

4. How to overcome Low self-esteem: Make Positive Affirmations to Yourself

You would be surprised at how effective making  positive affirmations is when it comes to boosting your self-esteem. Therefore, when you make these affirmations, look at yourself in the mirror each morning and make these “I AM” statements.

Here are a few examples of affirmations and “I AM” statements:

I am not to blame for being bullied.

I am lovable.

You can even say,

I am a good person.

I am worthwhile.

There are hundreds of affirmations you can use. These are only a few.

Moreover, if you do this for long enough, you will begin to believe it with every fiber of your being and your life will change for the better.

5. Love and Accept Yourself

This means embracing your flaws as well as your perfections, allowing yourself to make mistakes, and having the courage to be yourself.

If you don’t love yourself, no one else will either. Moreover, you won’t be able to properly love anyone else. Therefore, you’ll be on an endless quest for love and acceptance from others.

Realize that your love only comes from within, not from without.

Completely love and accept yourself. For, it is a stepping stone to happiness. When you accept yourself as you are, quirks and all, and stop being so concerned about how others see you, you experience total freedom. It’s like a huge weight being lifted off of you.

Also, you become much more attractive to people. In fact, you will draw them to you like a magnet!

Moreover, the creeps who are waiting for you to mess up will only get bored, give up and stop watching you. I know this from experience. Self-love and acceptance is such sweet freedom!

6. Stop Caring What Other People Think

Remember. When you care too much about the opinions of others, you become their slave. Therefore, free yourself by not bending over backwards to please others and doing the things you want to do.

Gather the courage to be yourself and realize that there will be a few people who dislike you and yes, even hate you. Moreover, see this as a part of life and embrace it.

This is how you become a powerful force in your own life!

7. Focus On Your Life Goals and Dreams

When you begin working on yourself and focusing on your life goals and dreams, you will be too busy to dwell on the negative opinions of others. Also, you will more than likely succeed at attaining your goals.

This, in itself, is a lesson in how to overcome low self-esteem.

In other words, you must focus on what you want out of life and go after it with a fever and a fervor.

This post was all about how to overcome low self-esteem so that you can take back control of your life.

Related posts you’ll enjoy:

1. How to Stop Caring What People Think: 9 Powerful Steps

2. Signs of Toxic People: 5 Tell-Tale Indicators

3. Signs of Gaslighting: The 7 Signs You Must Know

4. Important Facts About Bullying: 3 Truths You Must Learn

5. Setting Boundaries: 3 Powerful Practices to Hold Your Ground

 

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30 thoughts on “How to Overcome Low Self-Esteem: 7 Insanely Easy Ways

  1. Aparna J says:

    Hi Cherie,

    You have always been an inspiration to me, Your posts only gave me strength to face and riss against my bullying abusive husband. It’s amazing to see you back, dear.

    ❤❤❤❤❤😊😊😊

    • authorcheriewhite_xpmr1f says:

      Thank you so much, Aparna! It’s great to see you again too! This means a lot and I’m so glad this blog helped you. Bless you!

    • authorcheriewhite_xpmr1f says:

      Thank you so much! I’m so glad to see you too! I’ve missed you all. May God continue to bless you!

  2. Kim Reck says:

    OMG! So true! I wortked with a bunch of negative ninnies lead by a couple of bully bosses and a Narcassistic supervsor that I actually came to believe the crap they said about my abilities- I am proud to say that I healed and found a clear shore line! Can I get an AMEN?! LOL! Cherie, you certainly helped guide the way to this safe haven and I have pulled myself outta that toxic cess pool and now am moving on!! You are hugely insightful to the nastiness of bullies and I know from all that you shared that you have taken your pain and hurt and turned it around to help others. You know many would simply just join in and become equally nasty. Not you!! You are a beautiful, caring human despite your heartache. Thank you!

    • authorcheriewhite_xpmr1f says:

      You don’t know how much this means, Kim! Thank you so much! I’m so glad this blog helped you to take back your power and to find your happiness again. Bless you, sweetie!

  3. Stella Reddy says:

    Beautifully said Cherie… I am still working on it… Been in NL now almost 3 years and tho I have people I spend time with, I don’t have many out of fear of this. I have fear of getting myself in a negative environment once again. Maybe I am too choosy!! lol

    • authorcheriewhite_xpmr1f says:

      Thank you so much, Stella! And I understand completely. Once you’ve been burned, it sometimes takes years to overcome the fear of getting in with negative people. Just give yourself time and don’t rush. You’re going to do great!

  4. Celt says:

    People DO “rub off” on you over time, just like yourself leave an imprint on others – whether you all know it or not.

    Good to see you again, Cherie! : But I wish you had a “Like” button on here under your posts. I always read you, but don’t always know what to say…

    • authorcheriewhite_xpmr1f says:

      Thank you, Celt. I’ll see what I can do to get the like buttons back. I just went self-hosted so there’s a learning curve I have to get around.

  5. murisopsis says:

    At work there was a “negativity vortex” and it would suck you in if you weren’t careful! I avoided those folks as if my life depended on it!! Very good advice!

    • authorcheriewhite_xpmr1f says:

      Thank you so much, Valerie. You were so wise to avoid the negative Nannies at your job. I admire your resilience and strength not to get sucked into their doldrums. God bless you!

    • authorcheriewhite_xpmr1f says:

      Thank you so much, Clive. I went self-hosted so there’s a bit of a learning curve. But, thank goodness for YouTube tutorials. I have finally installed the Like button just a few minutes ago. It’s nothing fancy, but it does the job. 😁

    • authorcheriewhite_xpmr1f says:

      You’re absolutely right, Tamara! The people we spend most time with have a huge impact on our self-esteem, outlook on the world, how we see ourselves, all of it. 🙂💖

  6. Jill says:

    This is such a tough one for me because I have always suffered from self-esteem. And it is something that is tough to even describe. Most people have told me I am pretty, but I have always felt very average if that. I have been successful in my career and done very well for myself. I know in my mind I am a good parent yet I feel like I am not more often than not. And when I got married, I hate to say this but I think I had a greater fear of being alone than anything. I knew there wasn’t a lot of commonality or anything . That is not a pot shot. Though the marriage didn’t work, they are still a great person with much to offer. We just weren’t right for one another. But I guess I haven’t ever really felt loved or loveable. If I say hello to someone and smile and they don’t say hello back and smile back, I feel like there must be something wrong with me. Obviously I know better but yet I can never really get past my own anxiety.

    • Cherie White says:

      Jill, here’s what helped me. I realized that people really only think about themselves more than they do you. Bullying and abuse come from the bully’s selfishness because they have a need to feel more powerful. Don’t give them that. It’s not that they really think less of you. It’s that they think less of themselves and are talking about you to feel more powerful. Again, don’t give them that power over you. Don’t let them crush your self-esteem. Be confident, sweetie!

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