Would you like to know how to avoid being gaslighted? Here are 5 easy tricks to buffer yourself from the gaslighter’s spell.

Gaslighting is the worst form of abuse. It is the worst form of manipulation and psycho/emotional control, and it happens when bullies and abusers consistently feed their targets lies that cause them to doubt their own experiences and what they know to be true.

In other words, it undermines your perception of reality. Consequently, if bullies gaslight you often enough and for long enough, it can make you think that you must be coming unglued.

Therefore, in this post, you will learn how to avoid being gaslighted so that you can protect your right to stand up to anyone who mistreats you.

Once you learn this life-changing information, you will easily see through the tricks of any bully and become resistant to gaslighting.

This post is about how to avoid being gaslighted so that you can protect yourself from bullying and abuse and become like kryptonite to gaslighters.

How to Avoid Being Gaslighted

Nowadays, those with narcissism, abusers, users, and those with psychopathy (BKA, bullies) are everywhere, and they will try to use and abuse you. Then, when you set boundaries and stand up to them, they will become angry and attempt to gaslight you.

And if you’re not sure how to avoid it, they will turn your life upside down. Sadly, many targets of bullying don’t have this knowledge. Therefore, they end up brainwashed once the gaslighting has gone on for so long.

Once this happens, targets will then become victims. Gaslighters and brainwashers can be anyone. They can be bullies in school or at work, abusive parents and spouses, satanic cult leaders, and crooked politicians and dictators.

Although these categories of people are different kinds of bullies from different walks of life, know this! They all pull the same tactics. In other words, the game is always the same, no matter who’s doing the gaslighting.

Moreover, they all have the same goal- power!

Therefore, you must learn how to avoid being gaslighted. Then, you can overcome it and protect yourself from any future gaslighting.

Here are Five easy ways to avoid this evil tactic.

Avoiding gaslighting is easy once you follow these steps.

1. How to Avoid Being Gaslighted:

First and Foremost, Know yourself!

This is the most important thing you must do. It means knowing who you are, what you want out of life, and what you absolutely will not accept.

You must know yourself inside and out and be secure with who you are. And if you don’t, you must find ways to get to know yourself. And be patient with the process because it may take a while.

But I promise you. It will be well worth it in the end. Once you know yourself completely, you’ll have the courage to set firm boundaries. Additionally, you’ll feel even better about yourself for doing it.

2. Know what Gaslighting is and Recognize the tactics when bullies use them!

What is gaslighting? Gaslighting is a form of psychological and emotional abuse. It’s when the abuser does something abusive to you, then manipulates you to try to get you to doubt your own memory and experiences.

To realize when someone is gaslighting you, you need to know how to recognize the tactics they use. So, what are the most common tactics used in gaslighting?

• Doing something abusive and then denying it when you call it out.
• Attacking your self-esteem when you defend yourself against abuse, such as name-calling, minimizing the abuse, and ridicule.
• Projection- when the bully projects all their shortcomings onto you.
• Distraction- when the bully calls attention to your flaws to keep people from noticing theirs.
• Victim-blaming- blaming you for their abuse of you. Saying things like, “You made me do it,” “You had it coming,” “You deserve it.”

These tactics are all gaslighting because they are designed to shift blame onto you. Therefore, when you recognize these tactics, do not take the blame.

Instead, you must immediately end the conversation, tell the person to stay away from you, and walk away. If the person is in your house or office, show them the door. Fast!

How to Avoid Being Gaslighted:

most common gaslighting phrases

Recognizing gaslighting means to know it when you hear it. Here are the most common statements gaslighters make.

• “I didn’t say that.”
• “You’re only imagining things.”
• “That didn’t happen.”
• “You need help.”
• “You’re too sensitive.”
• “Everyone agrees with me.”
• “You’re overreacting.”
• “Are you sure you remember that correctly?”

If someone ever says one of these things to you after they’ve abused you and you stood up to them, tell them to get away and stay away.

But what if you can’t tell them to get away from you? What if the gaslighter is someone you must work with? And what if the person is your spouse? Here are a few comebacks that shut down gaslighting.

Comebacks that shut down gaslighters

• “The truth hurts sometimes.”
• “I don’t see it that way.”
• “Whatever.”
• “I’m sorry you feel that way.”
• “That’s your opinion, not mine.”
• Responding with a question: “How?” “Like what?” “Like who?” etc.
• “That’s your problem, not mine.”
• “That’s your fault, not mine.”
• “That’s on you.”

There are many ways you can respond to a gaslighter if you cannot get away from them. However, for these responses to work, you must not get emotional. The trick is to stay calm, cool, and confident.

3. How to Avoid Being Gaslighted:

Distance yourself from the bully (if possible).

This means having as little to do with the bullies as possible. Avoid the places they may gather. Put your hand up and walk away from them if they approach you.

Do everything you can to put distance between you and them. If they start running their mouths, don’t respond unless you see an opportunity for a good burn that will embarrass the bejeebers out of them.

4. See the bullies for the pathetic chumps they are.

When you realize that bullies are really a bunch of cowardly blowhards, their words will no longer carry any weight. Therefore, their gaslighting is least likely to affect you.

Realize that anyone who bullies others is on a lower level than you. And once you begin seeing them as inferior, nothing they say will matter.

5. How to Avoid Being Gaslighted:

Shut down the conversation and be on your way.

In other words, refuse to discuss the matter any further. Here are things you can say to shut down an argument with a gaslighter.

• “I’m not having this conversation with you.”
• “I’m not going to debate this any further with you.”
• “This discussion is closed.”
• “We’re done here.”
• “You’re done. Bye.”

And when you use any of these responses, don’t waste any more time with the person. Quickly turn your back and walk away before they have time to come back with anything else. Leave them standing there looking foolish.

Never argue with a gaslighter.

Never! It’s a waste of your time and energy, and they aren’t worth it. You must realize that an argument is precisely what the gaslighter wants.

They want to drag you down to their level. Moreover, the more you argue with them, the more they can weaponize it and use it against you.

So, don’t allow them to waste your time. Stay above them.

The best thing to do is to walk away quickly and have no more to do with them. This is how you protect your self-esteem and mental health.

Also, you expose them for the creeps they are. And you teach them that you won’t play their childish games.

How to Avoid Being GAslighted:

Walk away and keep going.

They may shout as you’re walking away and accuse you of not being able to handle a good debate. They may even accuse you of being chicken. However, you know it isn’t true.

You also realize that they’re trying to keep the drama going. Therefore, their words won’t faze you, and you’ll keep walking.

This is how you avoid their gaslighting and protect your mental health.

I can’t stress this enough! Confidence is the number one deterrent to gaslighting. The more confidence you have, the less likely you are to fall victim to it.

You may be a target of bullies and their gaslighting, but you will never be a victim. Therefore, after so long of gaslighting you and not getting the reaction they want, the bullies will more than likely get bored and move on to someone else.

And you win!

In closing:

The first step to avoiding being gaslighted is to recognize the signs of gaslighting when it happens. So learn it, know it, and defend against it.

You will save yourself a ton of trouble and, not to mention, psychiatric bills down the road.

This post is all about how to avoid being gaslighted so that you can protect your confidence, self-esteem, and overall mental health from people who wish to destroy it.

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1. Signs of Gaslighting: The 7 Signs You Must Know

2. Bullying and Gaslighting: 7 Ways Bullies Gaslight Victims

3. Gaslighting Examples: 11 Notable Tactics Gaslighters Use

4. Phrases to Shut Down a Gaslighter: 9 Powerful Statements to Use