“Let it make you or break you.” You’ve heard the term. Here’s how to overcome bullying so that you can move on to peace, happiness, and success!

In this post, you will discover that, no matter how severely you are bullied, you still have the power to determine the outcome. Let it make you or break you.

Once you learn all about this vital truth, you will be compelled to let it make you better instead of bitter.

This post is all about the choice you must make, whether to let it make you or break you, so that you can make the right decision.

Let It Make You or Break You

Understand that simply caring about anyone or anything is going to be painful. It’s why so many who were once kind and caring people are now cold, hard, angry, and bitter.

These people were relentlessly bullied, and they allowed it to make them cold and mean. They are often those who adopt the “I’m going to get you before you get me” attitude.

Bullying has a way of taking it all out of you. It doesn’t only take away your self-esteem, confidence, energy, and happiness. It also strips away your love and kindness, your health —even your will to live.

But only if you let it!

Bullying will either make or break you. It will either wise you up or dum you down. And it will make you better or bitter. Either way, these results are up to you.

Bullying changes a person, no doubt about it. But don’t let it make you bitter. Let it make you better!

You still have the power to determine your outcomes.

Being the object of bullies is a hell that only a few people can comprehend. If you aren’t careful, it can very easily turn you from a kind and caring human being to one of two things:

• an angry, bitter. distrusting and mean-spirited person
• a sad, sullen, and withdrawn individual.

Bullying can either make or break you. Sadly, so many people end up broken. But I want you to know that it doesn’t have to be this way. You still have a choice of what you do with it.

If you continue practicing self-care, chances are the bullying you experience won’t have as much impact. So don’t—I repeat—DON’T give up! EVER!

I say this because I’m living proof. I’m a very happy, healthy, and successful adult. But if you knew me during high school, you never would’ve thought that I would ever make it as far as I have.

The bullying didn’t break me. It made me! I consciously chose not to let it break me. And you, too, have that choice. Being bullied is never good. But it not only made me a stronger, more resilient, and compassionate woman.

Let it Make You or Break You:

Being bullied can be a powerful motivator.

It also motivated me.

It gave me the drive to pursue my goals and dreams. Also, it gave me a purpose. And that purpose is to spread awareness of the bullying epidemic, which seems to be sweeping the globe.

It gave me the drive to become a published author and be a voice for those who are too afraid to speak out. It can do the same for you, too!

But understand this: If you have a dream, there will be people along the way who will do their best to discourage you. Why? Because if you flourish, it will compel them to take a long look at their own mediocrity.

It’ll be as if you’re holding a mirror up to them and showing them a reflection of who they really are. You will be a walking reminder of their own personal failures.

Therefore, no matter how others may treat you, you must continue to follow your dreams. You must do what makes you happy. Never shrink yourself down to make someone else feel better about themselves.

Tune out the voices of toxic people.

You must mute the voices of these toxic people and get them out of your life, if possible. And do it as quickly as you can. Then continue pursuing and achieving your goals, because life is too short not to.

You only get one shot at life. Make it count! Do what fulfills you and live life to the fullest! You can do it!

Let it Make You or Break You:

Bullies May Turn Others Against You, but Never Allow Them to Turn You Against You!

No matter what other people may think of you, you are the only one who knows who you truly are. Bullies love spinning smear campaigns and turning others against you.

Why? Because it’s the only way they can make their lies and accusations seem valid. However, no matter how convincing the bullies are or how many believe them, it doesn’t make the talk true. Remember that reputation doesn’t equal character!

Only you can judge who you really are, nobody else can do that. They may try. They may think they know you. But do they really?

I know it’s difficult not to question yourself when it seems that everyone hates you. Anyone who finds themselves in this situation would ask themselves, “What did I do?” or “What did I say?”

It’s only a natural human reaction to being ostracized. In other words, it’s difficult not to blame yourself.

But please, for your own self-esteem, do not blame yourself. Remember that the problem lies with the bullies, not with you. Their behavior reflects on them, not you.

Therefore, you are not responsible for their ugly behavior. Believe it!

You must love yourself even if others don’t.

Continue to love yourself. Continue to be true to your own heart! Keep doing the things that give you pleasure. Surround yourself with those who love you and want the best for you.

Why? Because when everyone bullies you, you must ‘baby’ your self-esteem! Bullies may turn everyone else against you! Just don’t allow them to turn you against yourself.

You have no reason to hate yourself. So, love yourself even when it seems that others hate you. I promise you that your self-esteem will thank you for it! You will thank yourself for it!

Let it Make You or Break You:

Avoid Self-Pity

It all comes down to you. You are responsible for your successes and your happiness. Happiness is a choice, not something that magically happens to only certain people.

It’s okay to cry when someone hurts you. It’s OK to be hurt, angry, and sad. In fact, you need to allow yourself to feel.

So, allow yourself to be angry. Permit yourself to cry it out. Just don’t unpack your things and live in that dark place.

Understand that your bullies are cowards and fighting demons of their own. Only they are doing it the wrong way. And their mistreatment of you only proves it.

So, never let your tormentors cause you to feel sorry for yourself because self-pity is so unattractive and socially repelling! The only thing it does is bring more misery and repel people.

Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, try positive self-talk. Begin praising yourself for all your good qualities. And know in your heart the good you bring to this world.

Also, realize what a blessing you are to the people who love you. Because the more you love yourself and the less self-pity you live in, the easier it will be to find solutions.

Let it Make You or Break You:

You Are Responsible for your own life.

Let’s face it. Life isn’t fair.

It’s the truth. It never has been and never will be. Whether you’ve been mistreated and cheated, no one owes you anything. But you owe it to yourself. And you have every right to pursue and achieve happiness and make a good life for yourself.

No one owes you anything. You owe it to yourself.

God deals each of us a hand of cards. Some people get a crappy hand and some, a lucky hand. However, the trick is to play the hand you’re dealt wisely.

It’s the luck of the draw. Nevertheless, you have the choice of whether to move up, stay where you are, or descend. In other words, if you don’t like where you are, you can move upward.

It may take time and a ton of hard work. But if you want it bad enough, you will do what you must do to achieve it.

empower yourself by ditching the word “fair”

People need to man up (or woman up). You must accept that the world isn’t all unicorns, rainbows, fairies, and pixie dust.

In short, the world isn’t fair. Sadly, I see many victims of bullying saying, “It’s not fair!” And, though I hate to admit it, I did the same once upon a time.

But since when has life ever been fair?

Banish the word “fair” from your vocabulary and start working toward your goals. I guarantee that you’ll be much happier.

Let it Make You or Break You:

Try to Avoid Complaining.

When you’re being bullied, it’s easy to complain about it. However, when you whine and complain, you focus only on the problem, not on possible solutions. This is why others don’t like, nor do they respect, a complainer.

If you need to get something off your chest, that’s okay. However, there is a time and place for it. However, complaining won’t change things.

Complaining always comes from powerlessness! It comes from weakness. It stems from feelings of powerlessness and a victim mentality. Moreover, it comes from laziness and a lack of personal responsibility.

Sure. Everyone has times when they must blow off a little steam. However, when you do it every time something doesn’t go your way, it becomes a problem.

So, which would you rather do? Let it make you or let it break you? If you let bullying break you, they win. But if you let it make you, then you become the winner.

And how do you empower yourself? Learn to love yourself. Practice confidence. Become your own hero!

This post was all about the decision to let it make you or break you so that you will be encouraged to take the steps you need to overcome bullying.

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