Be kind, yes. But being kind doesn’t mean you have to kiss booty. Too many people seem to think that kindness is weakness. This distortion of thinking comes from the assumption that being kind equals kissing booty. Let me dispel these myths right now. Kindness is not weakness and it doesn’t mean kissing butt.
Understand that when people make these generalizations, they do it for two reasons:
1. As an excuse not to be kind.
2. Because they’ve been taught these types of things by abusive parents and family members, or by bullies.
Again, kindness isn’t weakness nor is it kissing booty. With that said, let’s distinguish between the two. What’s the difference between being kind and kissing butt? Here are your answers:
1. Being kind comes from confidence. Confident people extend kindness because they’re confident and they know they don’t have to be unkind. When a person is kind, they have confidence in both themselves and in others.
Kissing booty comes from insecurity and a lack of confidence. The intentions of kissing butt are never pure.. People kiss butt out of fear and insecurity.
2. Being kind comes from having pure intentions. People who extend true kindness expect nothing in return. Just the notion that they’ve made someone smile is the rewards they get. Being kind is being true.
Kissing booty comes from ulterior motives. People kiss butt either to get out of trouble and escape accountability, or they do because they want something from the “booty-kissee,”
Many times, people kiss butt for acceptance and approval, favor, and special treatment. They do it because they expect to benefit, whether socially, psychologically, or materially. Kissing booty is being manipulative.
3. Being kind also means being kind to yourself. Kind people are kind to themselves too. What this means is that, that they know that they can be kind to others without taking any crap from them. Truly kind people have boundaries. They don’t extend kindness at their own expense. Being kind is a virtue.
Kissing booty can mean being a doormat. A person who kisses butt has no boundaries and may put up with bad treatment from the people he kisses up to. He’s willing to sacrifice his dignity and self-respect just to get the benefits he’s after. Sadly, this kind of person usually gets shafted and then laughed at. Because most people have no respect for him, not even the people he kowtows to. Kissing booty is pathetic!
You’ll put up with shoddy treatment, all for the safe of getting that benefit you’re seeking by sucking up. And the harsh truth is that you may not get that benefit anyway. Some people are only good for reneging once you’ve served your purpose. Then you’ll only look and feel like a real tool. And you know what? That’s exactly what you are- a tool.
Therefore, it’s imperative that you learn the difference in the two, that way you’ll better be able to extend kindness and, at the same time, protect yourself from being used.
With knowledge comes empowerment!
“Being kind also means being kind to yourself.”
Love this post!
Thank you so much, Lance. 😊🤗
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Thank you so much, Anne. By the way, I just posted in the Facebook group. My apologies for being a day late. I was away from home most of the day yesterday.
I really love your style (whatever I’ve read so far). You are writing on topics that are unthinkable and fresh. About the blog, I agree with it, sometimes people sees kindness and humbleness as a gesture of fear. They then try to dominant.
Absolutely! Bullies are such people. 💯💯💯
There is a line you have to draw. Some people will take advantage of a person’s kindness. Once the person says this is not good for me. I see you are crossing my boundaries, then that person becomes the villain. You can give someone kindness and not expect anything in return, but you also need to protect yourself when some one uses you.
Absolutely right, Molly! 💯 Very well-said!
This is another post that is truly beneficial to me. Thank you😊 💕
You’re most welcome, Ruby! 😊
Nooooo, not kissing the booty!!! LMAO 😝😂😆 Now see, this part tripped me out, yet it is so true Cherie:
“Kissing booty comes from ulterior motives. People kiss butt either to get out of trouble and escape accountability, or they do because they want something from the “booty-kissee,”
Noooooo, not the booty kissee??? Girl, while this is a serious subject, you can put this matter in one comic relief show. Love this girlfriend. 💖💛🧡💜💚💝
Have a non-booty kissing day girlfriend!!! LOL 😜💋😘🌺🤗
😂🤣😂🤣😜 Gurrrl! Now you got me cracking up! Booty kissee was the only word I could come up with for the receiver! My day has been a great no-booty kissing day! 💋 ❌️💋❌️ No if, ands, or “butts!” ( | )
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Please…stop…I am LMAOROTF! 🤣😝🤭😜😂 Girl, you sure do get creative with your references. I love it, not to take away from your main message, but the booty kissing kissers, well now, I just couldn’t contain myself. Too funny and even your emojis are memorable! 💋❌😲
😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😜😜😜 Girl, I’m dying over here! 🤣
Me too! 😂😜🤣😝🤣 I’m still rollin’ and it ain’t on the river neither!!! 😲
Heeheeheee! 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
Yes indeed, kindness is a misunderstood action…
That, it is, and it’s a shame! 😞 They either accuse the kind person of kissing up or being a pushover. Kindness is neither.
This is great. I know a lot of brown noses who would benefit greatly from reading this. 😁Once again, Cherie, thank you. 😊 💕
You’re most welcome Therese. ❤🌺🌷🌞
Yes! Yes!
Thank you so much Serene! 💓 This means a lot!