Some people get the two confused. Loving yourself doesn’t mean you’re self-centered. But you can bet that bullies will accuse their target of it when they realize she’s growing a backbone.
Understand that when you start loving yourself enough not to take your bullies’ opinions of you seriously, the bullies will take notice of it right away. They’ll realize that they no longer have power over you. To get that power back, they will try like the devil to guilt you by accusing you of either selfishness or self-centeredness.
Don’t fall for that con game! When bullies lose the benefits they’ve grown accustomed to getting at your expense, they always get irate. Right or wrong, whenever someone has had power over another person for a long time and has gotten used to having that power, then suddenly loses it, of course, they’re going to be upset- and intensely so.
But don’t concern yourself with how your bullies feel. After all, they never gave a thought to your feelings the entire time they jerked you around.
Ditch these people! The sooner, the better! You’re not being selfish by choosing to put yourself first. What you’re doing is having the courage to love yourself and treat yourself better.
Realize that the bullies are the self-centered ones, in expecting you to go on being their doormat. No one has the right to expect you to put up with something they wouldn’t tolerate if it were happening to them.
To expect any differently from another person than what they’d do shows a complete lack of respect for people other than themselves and is sheer arrogance, self-entitlement, and stupidity.
There’s a name for this- double-standard!
Remember that we teach others how to treat us. And how we teach them to treat us is by how well we treat ourselves- by the boundaries we set, our ability to say “no,” and whether we continue to allow them to be in our lives.
So, treat yourself well! You’re worth it!
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Thank you so much, Benjamin. 😊
My pleasure! Enjoy the day! It will be epic!
I sure will. And you too. 🤗
Thank you so much 😊
Sometimes being stupid to bullies is much better. Instead of letting them act arbitrarily on us. As long as they don’t respond, they will feel bored themselves, right?
I’ve been doing that until now. They left because they were bored on their own.
Yep girlfriend, you’re right, self-love does not mean self-centeredness. You have to take time to focus on your mind, body, and spirit. If you don’t, you’re an easy target for manipulation.😠 Love this Cherie! 😍 🥰 😘
Thank you so much, Kym. 🤗❤💐
My pleasure Cherie!!! 🌟 💐 ✨
Absolutely sweetie. And when you decide to love yourself, you’re so surprised at the kinds if wonderful people who are drawn to you- healthy people, happy people…loving and caring people! 💖🤗💐🌹😍
🎯 Oh girlfriend I agree 💯. There is truly a different type of attraction for sure! 🤗
Amen, Sistah! <3