Even today, thirty years later, there are other targets from way back who are afraid of telling their stories. Some are scared that it may somehow get back to the people who bullied them. And that the bullies from high school will hunt them down and harm them or their families if they speak out. Hey, Oakley’s a small southern town and they have to live there. Luckily for me, I got out of there.
Their worries aren’t exactly needless either. Many of them live in the same small town the bullies do, and the bullies have powerful connections. Many of the classmates who bullied me are either working in law enforcement (Isn’t it funny how most people who were bullies in school seek out careers that give them a little power and authority?), or ended up with spouses in law enforcement.
People in small towns never forget who they hated in high school and seem to carry grudges for a lifetime. Many of them would jump at the chance if they could bully the person again for old time’s sake. Trust me. I know these people, and they wouldn’t think twice about it!
I’ve heard countless horror stories from others. They were stories about how these former bullies from high school would have certain people they didn’t like pulled over and plant drugs in their vehicle to press bogus charges of illegal possession and ruin their lives. It happens more than we realize. So far, when passing through, I’ve been very fortunate.
I’ve also heard another story from a very reliable source about how one of the women who bullied me in school, handled marital issues with her husband.
Because she was angry and wanted to get back at her spouse, she sent a picture of herself and another man in their home to her husband’s phone while he (the husband) was at work at the police department, all to prove a point to him that she could leave and have any other man she wanted.
In doing that, she baited her police officer husband into losing his temper, leaving his shift and coming home to fire several shots into the home they shared, placing both herself and their children in grave danger. Yep! Talk about stupid!
Luckily, neither she nor the kids were hurt. However, if she would do a damn fool thing like baiting her spouse to do something foolish and make herself out to be the innocent wife who’s so abused and mistreated, then she’d bait someone else with whom she wanted to get revenge on. And most of her friends, who were also bullies, are the same manipulative way, which is why I make it a point to keep them at a long distance from my loved ones and me.
I’ve committed a grave sin by writing and publishing a book about being bullied in high school, and yes, they know about it. Although I never used their real names in the book, I received quite a few nasty and threatening messages from them after the book became available, and a few other classmates bought it.
One woman even informed me that she had contacted several classmates, and they all wanted to meet me somewhere where we could “have a meeting” and “have a well-needed discussion” over what I’d written and published.
That meeting didn’t happen. And it never will because I wouldn’t trust any of them as far as I could throw them. You never know what they may be plotting or what might happen. Had I stupidly agreed to meet with them, there’s no telling what I would’ve walked into. So, I bade them thanks, but no thanks.
No reunions for me. I hope my classmates have fun, but they’ll have to do it without me.
There are times I still get nasty messages from a classmate or two, not often, but it does happen. It doesn’t phase me any because number one; they don’t know where I live. Number two; I could care less.
If I must do any business in the town, I do it without worrying about the possibility of being seen by the wrong people. I know that they would be a fool to approach me today.
The bullies know that if they try anything foolish, and if anything happens to me, anything at all, they will only prove every word I wrote in “From Victim to Victor.” Also, people from everywhere will come around asking questions and guess who they’ll go to for answers.
They will only make themselves suspects.
In essence, “From Victim to Victor” is my protection. The book can serve as a shield from any retribution my old bullies may want for my daring to speak out about the notoriously vile and ignorant way they acted years ago. These people know not to bust themselves.
My other classmates, who were also victims, do not have that protection going for them, and I can only hope and pray that they are left alone to live their lives with their families in peace.
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Okay, the fact that they wanted a meeting is super creepy and scary, considering what they must have done in the past. I’m so glad you chose not to go!! That would not have been safe at all.
I also recently read a book called, “5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life” by Bill Eddy, and in it he mentioned that bullies often go into careers where they can power over other people. Which makes sense in your case with bullies joining the local police.
Also, is your book on Amazon? I’m trying to find it 🙂
Thank you so much, Jarilissima! That was my first thought too. And yes, it’s on Amazon. Here’s the link:
And here’s the link to the eBook version:
Thanks! And you are very brave and inspiring, because even with the pushback and these bullies tried to meet with you (which is still so creepy), you’ve written about this topic and are not backing down. That’s awesome 🙌
This means so much, Jarilissima! Thank you from the bottom of my heart! <3
Thanks for sharing your story Cherie. The fact that people are still affected by their high school experiences well into adulthood shows how traumatic it can be. It’s quite sad to think bullies are still behaving in the same way all these years later
You’re so welcome. And you’re right. It’s so sad indeed. Most school bullies become adult bullies.
Look at it this way. If you had written anything about your former bullies that wasn’t true,they could have sued you. So they must know it’s true.
Exactly. They know they can’t sue.
They might try, but they wouldn’t have a leg to stand on.
The fact they wanted to meet up with you says it all. If you didn’t use their names what would be the point…unless they were guilty! But you bring up a great point, the high school mentality. So many people can’t seem to get past that. People change or at least they should and bullying should never occur.
Thank you so much. Your comment is both powerful and spot on! <3
I’m writing a short story about my bullying & attempted-rape in high school, hoping to publish it in the New Yorker or Good Housekeeping.
I wish you all the best with it. 😁👍
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