Resilience: 16 Ways to Stand Tall When You Suffer Bullying

February 3, 2026January 2, 2026Leave a comment

‘What is resilience? Here’s what it is and how it helps you overcome bullying.

Resilience is essential for overcoming bullying. In fact, it’s how you defeat any adversity. Therefore, in this post, you will learn all about it so that you can overcome anything that tries to bring you down.

Once you learn these critical life lessons, you will be able to overcome any challenges you face.

This post is about resilience, to assure you that you still have some control over your circumstances.

What is Resilience?

Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity quickly. You may bend, but you don’t break. So, how do you stay resilient?

Here are all the ways to do it.

1. By Knowing Yourself

When you know yourself inside and out, you know, without a doubt, the definition of who you are. In other words, you won’t allow bullies and abusers to define you.

Instead, you only accept your own definition of yourself. And you can more easily avoid bullying because you’re better able to recognize it. And when you can recognize abuse, you’re least likely to put up with it. Moreover, your self-esteem won’t take such a massive hit.

Knowing yourself is freedom!

2. Know what you want, and what you will and will not tolerate.

Refuse to accept what you won’t tolerate. Focus on your wants and needs and work hard to achieve them. This means working on yourself. Moreover, it means working toward your goals and your aspirations.

This is of the utmost importance. Why? Because when you’re too busy working on yourself, you won’t pay attention to your bullies. You’ll care less about anyone’s opinions other than your own.

3. Resilience:

trust yourself to make the right decisions.

Here’s a little nugget you should know: your first instinct is usually the correct one.

For instance, any time you have bullies shaming and ridiculing you, your first instinct is to get away from them. However, when they see you’re leaving, they may mock you.

They may say, “Are you scared? Is that why you’re leaving? Don’t be a wuss. Stand up and face us.” They may even tell you, “You’d better run!”

You’re not afraid to put your hand up and walk away when toxic people accost you. Why? Because you don’t have time for foolishness and drama.

Sure. The taunts might sting a little, but they won’t crush your spirit.

4. Practice speaking out and showing your emotions.

Resilience means that you won’t feel the need to hold back emotions. You’ll be able to recognize them better and allow yourself to feel them. In some situations, it may be okay to express them.

Don’t let others tell you how you should feel. Never allow bullies to shame you into suppressing yourself.

You wouldn’t want to break down crying in front of everyone at school because a bully called you a name. Instead, you’d show annoyance and tell the bully to get stuffed.

Also, you wouldn’t cry publicly at work because the boss chewed you out or your project fell flat. You’d just stick out your chest and try to do better the next time.

However, you would cry at the funeral of a loved one. In fact, during those times, it’s perfectly acceptable to cry.

5. Resilience:

be yourself.

Know that you don’t have to put on a big front and try to act like someone you’re not. There’s no need to try to fit in with anyone. You don’t have to prove your worth to anyone.

When you’re willing to be yourself, you know your worth. You accept that you are valuable, regardless of what people say or where you are in life.

Those who aren’t authentic will follow the crowd and try to fit in. People who are insecure about themselves will accept others’ definitions of them without realizing it.

They build fake identities based on others’ expectations and ideas of who they should be. But not you. You are true to who you are.

You would rather be original because you understand that originals are like famous paintings and artwork. They’re much more valuable than copies. Therefore, you refuse to be a cheap knock-off!

6. Refuse to blame yourself for others’ behavior.

Realize that other people’s behavior is no reflection on you. It only speaks volumes about their own lack of morals, decency, and character.

Know that what your bullies do to you is wrong. Now, this inner realization may or may not stop them from attacking you. In fact, it may make the abuse worse.

However, instead of hating and blaming yourself, know in your heart that they are the bad ones. Realize that they’re only projecting their own shortcomings onto you. A bully’s accusation is usually a confession.

7. Resilience:

trust your gut.

Listen to what your gut tells you. Pay close attention to the vibes you’re getting from the people around you. The energy people put out never lies.

This is how you maintain your inner strength and sense of self. It takes listening to your instincts when they signal that you should be cautious around certain people.

And don’t be ashamed of it. Instead, pay close attention to how your body reacts when you’re around certain people. You may not be able to pinpoint it. And you may not know why you’re having these yucky bodily sensations.

However, you must still pay attention to what you’re feeling.

Does your body automatically tense up?
Do you have that bad feeling in the pit of your stomach?
Does something feel off about the person or people you’re with?

If so, know that any one of these symptoms is your cue to get away from these people… and fast!

8. Resilience:

Be Confident.

When you’re being bullied by everyone, holding onto your confidence can be challenging. And that’s putting it mildly. Moreover, after being bullied, it can sometimes take years to regain the confidence you lost.

However, there are steps you can take to buffer your confidence and mitigate the impact of their attacks. Here’s a shortlist of ways to build your confidence.

Watch and listen.
Know that you aren’t the only one these creeps have bullied.
Befriend others your bullies have bullied.
Collect info on your bullies.
Keep company only with those who love you and want the best for you.
Show off your talents and gifts.
Do the things you enjoy.
Be there for others who are suffering.
Look your best.
Make positive affirmations.
Find someone to talk to about what you’re going through.
Never internalize any labels others stick to you.
Stop caring about others’ opinions.
Don’t be silent. Speak out!

If your confidence wanes, so does your performance, social abilities, and everything else! Therefore, guard it with your life. Why? Because your life truly does depend on it!

9. If you have a negative mindset, work to change it.

If people bully you at school or at work, you’re more likely to feel insecure. Moreover, you’ll have a horribly negative outlook. Therefore, it will require significant reprogramming to change.

Also, it will be the hardest thing you have ever done. It is easy to change certain things about yourself. However, changing ingrained thought patterns is one of the most challenging tasks. And it won’t happen overnight.

Negative thought patterns can take years to change completely.

However, once you start, you will gradually notice a positive difference in your outlook. Additionally, your circumstances will improve.

10. Resilience:

Turn Every negative thought into a positive thought.

For instance, you have a test or an interview coming up, and you ask yourself, “What if I fail?” or “What if I don’t make it?”

Immediately catch yourself. Then, turn that thought into a positive one by asking yourself, “What if I pass?” “What if I succeed?” or “What if I do make it?”

Or, if you find yourself thinking, “What if things go wrong?” Immediately turn it around and ask, “What if things go right?”

Also, if you catch yourself thinking that you’re a loser. Tell yourself, “No. I’m a winner.”

And talk to yourself like you would your best friend. Instead of putting yourself down, begin building yourself up. Encourage yourself to keep going when things get tough. Give yourself the love you would give to your family and best friends.

Continue doing this until thinking positively becomes like second nature!

11. Maximize your chance-opportunities.

If you’re talented in writing and you find a writing contest, enter the contest. In other words, instead of letting this opportunity pass you by because you’re too afraid that you’ll lose, face your fears and enter the contest anyway.

And you never can tell. You might win that contest! The point I’m making here is to try! Because if you don’t try, you don’t know. Put another way, if you try, you at least have a good chance of winning. However, if you don’t, there’s no chance of it.

Therefore, taking risks is crucial to achieving positive change in your life.

12. Resilience:

Get out of your comfort zone.

This brings us back to what we mentioned in the last section, taking risks. Resilient people take risks. And because they take risks, they score many successes.

This isn’t to say you’ll succeed every time; you won’t. Even resilient people fail sometimes. However, they don’t let failure stop them.

They do not give up. Instead, they move on to the next opportunity and keep trying until they succeed.

Remember the line in Rocky Balboa, “It ain’t about how hard you hit, it’s about how hard you can get hit. It’s about how much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done.”

In other words, the resilient get hit all the time, but they keep going. They continue to take risks and don’t stop until they reach their target. And that’s how they win! So, don’t be afraid to take risks!

13. Set goals and work hard to achieve them.

Set goals and go after them. Work hard and don’t quit until you achieve those goals. Moreover, never let bullies and jealous people discourage you.

Why? Because if word gets out that you’re working on a goal, there will be those who will do everything possible to discourage you. And this goes especially if you suffer from bullying. Therefore, keep striving and don’t stop until you reach the finish line.

14. Resilience:

Befriend others your bullies have bullied.

You and they have something in common. Therefore, this should be a piece of cake! Align yourself with these other victims.

And be there for them when they need you. In fact, be there for those who are suffering. Why? Because if you’re there for them, then it’s likely that they will be there for you, too.

Understand that strength comes in numbers, and human predators prefer loners. If you band together with other victims, they will think twice before accosting you. But most of all, it will enhance your resilience.

15. Keep company only with those who uplift you.

A true friend uplifts you and helps your confidence soar. They encourage you, have your back when you’re in trouble, and cheer you on when you succeed.

All too often, victims latch on to fake friends – frenemies who only tolerate them. These frenemies will subtly humiliate you in public. Then they throw you under the bus when you’re in trouble.

Resilience wanes sometimes. Therefore, to stay resilient, you must feed your confidence by surrounding yourself with only those who encourage you.

Resilience:

16. Make affirmations every day.

This is as easy as looking in the mirror each morning and making “I am” statements to yourself. For example, you can say,

“I AM beautiful.”
“I AM smart.”
“I AM better than what they say.”
“I AM a good person.”
“I AM worthy of love and friendship.”
“I deserve respect and dignity.”

There are many affirmations you can choose to tell yourself. This may be awkward at first. However, the longer you practice this technique, the more natural it will feel.

And, most importantly, the better you will feel about yourself. This produces resilience.

In closing

Resilience can determine the entire trajectory of your life. It determines your successes and failures because you need it to avoid giving up when times get tough.

Therefore, it’s crucial to remain resilient when you experience bullying. Thinking positively also helps. Remember that bullies want you to give up. They want you to quit.

Don’t give them what they want. Be someone they find hard to bring down.

This post was all about resilience and how important it is to have it when you suffer from bullying.

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Let It Make You or Break You: Being a Victim of Bullying

December 9, 2025November 19, 20256 Comments

“Let it make you or break you.” You’ve heard the term. Here’s how to overcome bullying so that you can move on to peace, happiness, and success!

In this post, you will discover that, no matter how severely you are bullied, you still have the power to determine the outcome. Let it make you or break you.

Once you learn all about this vital truth, you will be compelled to let it make you better instead of bitter.

This post is all about the choice you must make, whether to let it make you or break you, so that you can make the right decision.

Let It Make You or Break You

Understand that simply caring about anyone or anything is going to be painful. It’s why so many who were once kind and caring people are now cold, hard, angry, and bitter.

These people were relentlessly bullied, and they allowed it to make them cold and mean. They are often those who adopt the “I’m going to get you before you get me” attitude.

Bullying has a way of taking it all out of you. It doesn’t only take away your self-esteem, confidence, energy, and happiness. It also strips away your love and kindness, your health —even your will to live.

But only if you let it!

Bullying will either make or break you. It will either wise you up or dum you down. And it will make you better or bitter. Either way, these results are up to you.

Bullying changes a person, no doubt about it. But don’t let it make you bitter. Let it make you better!

You still have the power to determine your outcomes.

Being the object of bullies is a hell that only a few people can comprehend. If you aren’t careful, it can very easily turn you from a kind and caring human being to one of two things:

an angry, bitter. distrusting and mean-spirited person
a sad, sullen, and withdrawn individual.

Bullying can either make or break you. Sadly, so many people end up broken. But I want you to know that it doesn’t have to be this way. You still have a choice of what you do with it.

If you continue practicing self-care, chances are the bullying you experience won’t have as much impact. So don’t—I repeat—DON’T give up! EVER!

I say this because I’m living proof. I’m a very happy, healthy, and successful adult. But if you knew me during high school, you never would’ve thought that I would ever make it as far as I have.

The bullying didn’t break me. It made me! I consciously chose not to let it break me. And you, too, have that choice. Being bullied is never good. But it not only made me a stronger, more resilient, and compassionate woman.

Let it Make You or Break You:

Being bullied can be a powerful motivator.

It also motivated me.

It gave me the drive to pursue my goals and dreams. Also, it gave me a purpose. And that purpose is to spread awareness of the bullying epidemic, which seems to be sweeping the globe.

It gave me the drive to become a published author and be a voice for those who are too afraid to speak out. It can do the same for you, too!

But understand this: If you have a dream, there will be people along the way who will do their best to discourage you. Why? Because if you flourish, it will compel them to take a long look at their own mediocrity.

It’ll be as if you’re holding a mirror up to them and showing them a reflection of who they really are. You will be a walking reminder of their own personal failures.

Therefore, no matter how others may treat you, you must continue to follow your dreams. You must do what makes you happy. Never shrink yourself down to make someone else feel better about themselves.

Tune out the voices of toxic people.

You must mute the voices of these toxic people and get them out of your life, if possible. And do it as quickly as you can. Then continue pursuing and achieving your goals, because life is too short not to.

You only get one shot at life. Make it count! Do what fulfills you and live life to the fullest! You can do it!

Let it Make You or Break You:

Bullies May Turn Others Against You, but Never Allow Them to Turn You Against You!

No matter what other people may think of you, you are the only one who knows who you truly are. Bullies love spinning smear campaigns and turning others against you.

Why? Because it’s the only way they can make their lies and accusations seem valid. However, no matter how convincing the bullies are or how many believe them, it doesn’t make the talk true. Remember that reputation doesn’t equal character!

Only you can judge who you really are, nobody else can do that. They may try. They may think they know you. But do they really?

I know it’s difficult not to question yourself when it seems that everyone hates you. Anyone who finds themselves in this situation would ask themselves, “What did I do?” or “What did I say?”

It’s only a natural human reaction to being ostracized. In other words, it’s difficult not to blame yourself.

But please, for your own self-esteem, do not blame yourself. Remember that the problem lies with the bullies, not with you. Their behavior reflects on them, not you.

Therefore, you are not responsible for their ugly behavior. Believe it!

You must love yourself even if others don’t.

Continue to love yourself. Continue to be true to your own heart! Keep doing the things that give you pleasure. Surround yourself with those who love you and want the best for you.

Why? Because when everyone bullies you, you must ‘baby’ your self-esteem! Bullies may turn everyone else against you! Just don’t allow them to turn you against yourself.

You have no reason to hate yourself. So, love yourself even when it seems that others hate you. I promise you that your self-esteem will thank you for it! You will thank yourself for it!

Let it Make You or Break You:

Avoid Self-Pity

It all comes down to you. You are responsible for your successes and your happiness. Happiness is a choice, not something that magically happens to only certain people.

It’s okay to cry when someone hurts you. It’s OK to be hurt, angry, and sad. In fact, you need to allow yourself to feel.

So, allow yourself to be angry. Permit yourself to cry it out. Just don’t unpack your things and live in that dark place.

Understand that your bullies are cowards and fighting demons of their own. Only they are doing it the wrong way. And their mistreatment of you only proves it.

So, never let your tormentors cause you to feel sorry for yourself because self-pity is so unattractive and socially repelling! The only thing it does is bring more misery and repel people.

Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, try positive self-talk. Begin praising yourself for all your good qualities. And know in your heart the good you bring to this world.

Also, realize what a blessing you are to the people who love you. Because the more you love yourself and the less self-pity you live in, the easier it will be to find solutions.

Let it Make You or Break You:

You Are Responsible for your own life.

Let’s face it. Life isn’t fair.

It’s the truth. It never has been and never will be. Whether you’ve been mistreated and cheated, no one owes you anything. But you owe it to yourself. And you have every right to pursue and achieve happiness and make a good life for yourself.

No one owes you anything. You owe it to yourself.

God deals each of us a hand of cards. Some people get a crappy hand and some, a lucky hand. However, the trick is to play the hand you’re dealt wisely.

It’s the luck of the draw. Nevertheless, you have the choice of whether to move up, stay where you are, or descend. In other words, if you don’t like where you are, you can move upward.

It may take time and a ton of hard work. But if you want it bad enough, you will do what you must do to achieve it.

empower yourself by ditching the word “fair”

People need to man up (or woman up). You must accept that the world isn’t all unicorns, rainbows, fairies, and pixie dust.

In short, the world isn’t fair. Sadly, I see many victims of bullying saying, “It’s not fair!” And, though I hate to admit it, I did the same once upon a time.

But since when has life ever been fair?

Banish the word “fair” from your vocabulary and start working toward your goals. I guarantee that you’ll be much happier.

Let it Make You or Break You:

Try to Avoid Complaining.

When you’re being bullied, it’s easy to complain about it. However, when you whine and complain, you focus only on the problem, not on possible solutions. This is why others don’t like, nor do they respect, a complainer.

If you need to get something off your chest, that’s okay. However, there is a time and place for it. However, complaining won’t change things.

Complaining always comes from powerlessness! It comes from weakness. It stems from feelings of powerlessness and a victim mentality. Moreover, it comes from laziness and a lack of personal responsibility.

Sure. Everyone has times when they must blow off a little steam. However, when you do it every time something doesn’t go your way, it becomes a problem.

So, which would you rather do? Let it make you or let it break you? If you let bullying break you, they win. But if you let it make you, then you become the winner.

And how do you empower yourself? Learn to love yourself. Practice confidence. Become your own hero!

This post was all about the decision to let it make you or break you so that you will be encouraged to take the steps you need to overcome bullying.

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Survivors of Bullying: How It Feels to Overcome

July 14, 2025January 5, 20267 Comments

‘Want to know about the resilience of survivors of bullying? If you’re one of them, this post should make you feel proud that you not only survived, but you overcame!

The survivor of bullying who escapes the abuse first comes out with shock, anger, and sadness. But once the healing is underway, they’re filled with renewed hope.

Therefore, in this post, you will learn about the resilience and strength of survivors of bullying and why you should be proud of overcoming bullying and regaining your happiness and peace of mind.

Once you learn about what it means to overcome bullying, you will feel nothing short of victorious.

This post is all about survivors of bullying and what it feels like to finally rise above bullying and feel that renewed confidence that those like me feel to give you hope if you’re currently being bullied.

Survivors of Bullying

When school or workplace bullying experiences have exposed you to the darkest sides of human nature, you have a stronger sense of your own endurance and capability. This is all because of what you have endured and were able to overcome.

You never know your own strength until you’ve overcome bullying, especially severe and chronic bullying and mobbing.

They have an enhanced ability to read people and their intentions.

Another takeaway is that the survivor has a stronger sense of people. They can smell fakery and BS from a mile away. Additionally, they can identify bullies before even speaking to them.

The survivor pays closer attention to how people carry themselves. They also notice their body language and the vibes and energy others emit.

As a result, they are better able to avoid people who might want to harm them. Why? Because they’ve learned the hard way the importance of listening to their gut instinct and heeding it.

Anytime something is even the slightest bit “off” about a person, they notice right away. The survivor of bullying has learned that it’s essential to trust himself. Additionally, they realize that it’s equally important to trust his feelings and judgment.

Survivors of Bullying make it a point not to follow the crowd.

On the other side of bullying, a survivor learns and develops the determination never to conform to the standards of others. They live life on their terms because they know what it’s like to be a slave to the approval of others.

In other words, they know what it’s like to be a prisoner to outside influences. And they see the powerlessness of having one’s pleasure depend on the permission of others.

They know what it’s like when others force them to apologize for simply being who they are. And they aren’t having any of it!

They know that following the crowd will only suppress who they are. Therefore, they refuse to lose themselves in the crowd! They’ve learned this the hard way.

They know their worth.

Overcoming past abuse gives the survivor a restored and refined sense of their worth. In other words, they gain insight into the immense value they bring to the world.

He awakens to his goodness and realizes that yes! They are worthy of love, friendship, affection, and all the best things in life.

He also realizes that there are people who love him and there always have been, no matter what those vile bullies told him. The survivor of bullying ends up with a much clearer vision of what she will not tolerate or settle for.

She is unmovable in her refusal to kiss butt or bow down to anyone no matter what the cost may be. She’s wasted enough years living on her knees. And if others are going to punish her for her unwillingness to kowtow, she’ll suffer those consequences standing up.

Survivors of Bullying stand up for other victims.

The survivor of bullying is also a fierce warrior for other victims. If he sees another person being bullied, he will stand up for that person. He will go toe-to-toe with the bullies to protect the target.

And they will fight for that victim, then take them under their wing. They will also teach them how to defend themself.

They know what it’s like to take crap off of people. Therefore, they bestow onto other victims what they’ve endured and what they’ve learned from it.

They make it a point to set boundaries and enforce them if they must.

The survivor who has overcome bullying isn’t afraid to say no. And they aren’t too scared to walk away from any relationship that doesn’t fulfill them.

Additionally, they aren’t afraid to call out bad behavior. They will stand up to anyone who tries to abuse them. Predatory people may try to bully them, but they’ll only do it once.

They’ve been through that bullshit before and they aren’t about to endure it a second time.

Survivors of Bullying are selective of the people they allow to come around them.

They automatically gravitate toward relationships that nourish them. Moreover, survivors of bullying keep their circles small. This is because they choose the quality of friends over quantity.

In other words, they’re highly selective of who they allow into their lives. If they ever find out that someone they thought was a friend is betraying them, they aren’t afraid to cut that person off.

Moreover, they aren’t afraid of being alone and friendless for a while. The survivor of bullying knows that they can always make new friends. And they would much rather be by themselves than tolerate those who only pretend to be their friends.

Loyalty is a characteristic that survivors look for in potential friendships. And once you break their trust, they rarely give second chances.

If they do, they make you work like a dog to prove yourself worthy of their friendship.

They refuse to stay in toxic places.

Survivors of bullying refuse to stay in any environment that doesn’t allow them to grow and flourish. They avoid toxic environments like the plague.

For example, if a survivor of bullying works in a toxic work environment. They won’t stay there long. They’ll quickly and quietly search for employment with a healthier company, then submit a letter of resignation.

Survivors of Bullying don’t settle for anything less than what they want.

The survivor realizes what she deserves and goes after it with resilience and tenacity. Life’s given her enough of what she doesn’t want. And now, the time has come for her to claim what she knows she deserves and has a right to.

The survivor realizes, probably more than anyone, that life is short. And you only get one shot in this world. Therefore, they work diligently to create the life they know they deserve. And they do it without guilt.

The survivor knows that she’s neither entitled nor privileged. She realizes that the big, bad world owes her nothing. And that’s okay. She’s willing to work for what she wants.

They are self-reliant.

Survivors of bullying are fiercely independent. They realize that there’s no such thing as a free ride. Why? Because, damn! No one ever gave them anything but hell.

What they understand more than anything is that all you have is you. The only person you can depend on is you.

So, they know that reaching their goals and dreams is up to them and them alone. And they work toward those goals with fervor.

Survivors of bullying never take their friends and loved ones for granted.

The survivor of bullying makes it a point never to take anyone for granted. They let their family and friends know they love and value them. Why? Because they know what it is like to be alone, unwanted, and abused.

And they would never want anyone, especially the people they care about, to feel that way or endure what they have.

They see the people who love them as blessings, and they appreciate them.

They are grateful for everything positive in their lives.

The survivor of bullying savors every wonderful moment, every positive encounter, and every happy event because he has seen enough negativity.

What the survivor enjoys more than anything else is wonderful relationships. Why? Because they were relationships they never had when people were bullying them.

Survivors of bullying are also thankful for every happy moment they are blessed with. Moreover, they create more of them.

They enjoy helping others who go through what they once endured. And they use their experiences to encourage them and give them hope. This also creates positive rewards for them.

In Closing

Bullying can be traumatic. But sometimes, others must tear you down before you can build yourself back up again. Sometimes, fake friends must abandon you now before you can truly appreciate the family and friendships you have later.

And sometimes, it takes having others deny you approval and validation before you can enjoy the freedom of self-love. When you finally regard others’ opinions with indifference, you set yourself free.

When you learn to discard the opinions of those who don’t matter and, perhaps, never should have mattered, your self-esteem skyrockets and you take back your power and live life on your terms.

Surviving and overcoming bullying gives you a renewed sense of your value, independence, and overall freedom. It changes everything! And for the better! And, if you’re an adult survivor of school bullying, congratulations! You’re getting an earlier start!

And there’s nothing that tastes sweeter than that!

Therefore, never be ashamed of having been bullied. Be proud that you overcame it!

This post was all about survivors of bullying so that, if you survived bullying and overcame, you can feel good about that!

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Letter to a Bullied Girl

July 12, 2025July 8, 20255 Comments

Here is a letter to a bullied girl. It is a letter that I wrote to my teenage self several years ago. However, this is a letter to everyone who is bullied. I would be grateful if you could read it as well, so that it will encourage you and give you hope.

Being bullied is the fight of your life. It is the kind of stress that no one, adult or child, deserves, and only those with the most determination survive.

Therefore, in this post, you will read a letter to a bullied girl, so that you can find the courage and hope you need to keep pushing forward.

Once you have read this letter, you will be encouraged to persevere even when you want to give up. And you will be more likely to find the determination you need to stick with it and eventually overcome.

This post is a letter to a bullied girl, so that you feel empowered to stand firm, put yourself first, and show yourself the compassion you need.

Letter to a Bullied Girl

I know it’s tough. But sometimes you must first live with what you hate before you can move on to what you love. You must weather the storm before you can see sunlight. Understand that only when we’ve been through hell do we appreciate heaven so much more.

Although your mind tells you that there’s something wrong with you, it says that it’s your fault and that you must be doing something to rub these people the wrong way. Your heart tells you differently.

Your heart tells you that you did nothing wrong. It suggests that your classmates dislike themselves and are projecting their negative energy onto you.

However, this war between your mind and your heart leaves you exhausted.

You’re tired of fighting. I get that.

You’re tired of all the drama that surrounds you and wants to overwhelm you. I understand because I’ve been there. However, no matter how tough things get, I see that small glimmer of hope in your eyes. Please don’t lose it.

Although you carry an enormous amount of pain, you’re still holding on, taking it one day at a time. Keep it up! Keep loving yourself and continue to forge your path, regardless of how others may treat you.

And please don’t hate your classmates. Instead, feel sorry for them- take pity on them. Because their lives aren’t as perfect as they let on, believe it or not, your classmates are hurting too.

Letter to a Bullied Girl:

Hurt people hurt people.

They have mental problems of their own that they never confessed to or got help for. Only they’ll never tell you about it in this lifetime.

Understand that they’re only keeping up appearances, which is such hard work. And they’re angry at you because you don’t have to work as hard as they do.

Realize that many of them are abused at home. Some have parents who are into prostitution, drugs, and alcohol. Others hear their parents fighting all the time.

Many of them are also dirt poor, surviving on welfare. And they’re ashamed of it! Many of your peers have home lives you couldn’t imagine! School is their happy place.

Open your eyes and see that your home life is better than that of many kids your age. Be thankful for it. Your home is a sanctuary compared to most.

And they’re also scared. Bystanders are scared of becoming just like you- a target! Therefore, they feel compelled to join in the bullying.

But understand that all this makes them cowards, and again, they’re to be pitied, not hated.

You don’t yet realize how strong, brave, and resilient you are. But you are. You are all those things simply because you haven’t dropped out of school, unlike many of your peers. You haven’t quit the race! And you haven’t given up on life!

You don’t realize your own strength.

You expect to be bombarded with a barrage of taunts and insults, or worse, physically attacked once you pass through the school entrance. However, you still gather the courage to get up every morning and go to school. And you do it scared!

So, who are the weak ones now?

They may have favor with most of the teachers. And many of those teachers have little hope for you. However, most of them will never leave this town.

This is a small town- only a dot on the map. In a small town, it doesn’t take much effort or very long to maximize one’s potential.

Even though you feel so small and insignificant, understand that each of your bullies feel the same way you do. And the only way they can feel big and powerful is to make you feel bad.

Letter to a Bullied Girl:

One day, you’re going to see just how they end up.

Only a few will make it. The rest will be living in loveless and abusive marriages. Many will be poor and wondering how they’ll pay the rent. Some will join gangs or begin slinging dope.

Several of your bullies will immerse themselves in drugs and alcohol to cope with their failures in life. A good portion of them will end up behind bars. And many will have kids who disrespect and hurt them.

Most of your classmates will be on a desperate and never-ending search for love. They will go through numerous divorces and broken relationships. And the sad thing is that they’ll never learn to fall in love with themselves and with life first.

They’ll be on an endless quest for happiness and never realize that happiness comes from within themselves.

You want to fix it so badly, but you don’t know what’s broken.

You’ll laugh at me when I tell you what I’m about to say to you. You’ll probably tell me I’m nuts and that I don’t know what I’m talking about. But I’m going to tell you anyway.

There’s nothing wrong with you. Your classmates are the ones with the issues! They are the ones who are mentally imbalanced. And to keep everyone from figuring it out, they put it all on you.

I want you to know that you pose a significant threat to them. That’s right. You are a threat to your bullies. Do you know why?

It’s because you’re smart. You’re smart enough to see right through them, and they know it. They also hate it!

You are a beautiful girl! You’re also talented. You can sing, for crying out loud! Your classmates know you can sing, and they’re jealous of your beautiful voice.

They’re afraid that you’ll expose the bullying and let all their skeletons out of the closet. Why do you think they shout you down and tell you to “shut up” every time you start to open your mouth?

And why do you think they scream at you and tell you to sit down every time you get up to so much as sharpen a pencil or turn in homework?

But they’re very much afraid that you’ll humiliate them. Therefore, they keep you from speaking up.

Letter to a Bullied Girl:

Your very presence terrifies their demons.

They hate it when you write. But understand that they’re afraid you might be writing about them and their cruelty. Isn’t that why they had your journal taken?

But know this. You have so much potential. Only you don’t realize it yet. Why? Because they have programmed you to think that you’re no good. And they’ve brainwashed you into thinking that you’ll never amount to anything.

I know that sometimes you want to die. But if you keep living. I promise that things will get better- much better! You’re going to accomplish things you never thought you would. You will end up surprising yourself!

Although you think this is a load of feel-good garbage now, the truth is that your classmates bully you to keep you down. Why? Because they fear that if you ever rise, you’ll cause them to fade into the background.

You feel you have nowhere to go to find peace.

I realize that your home life isn’t so hot either. Your father doesn’t believe in you and treats you more like a stepchild than a child. He acts like you’re not one of his.

But understand that he’s battling demons of his own.

You’re anxious for your mother to remarry so you’ll have a replacement dad. I see that you dream of having a stepdad who’ll legally adopt you as his own. But honey, no one else will ever replace your daddy, and someday, you’re going to realize it.

It seems that you and Mom don’t see eye to eye. And the easiest way to avoid any fights is to stay in your room. You want to keep it in a safe place, where you can write and get lost in the music you play so loudly.

You feel like she’s ashamed of you and wishes she had a different child. She isn’t, and she doesn’t.

She loves you very much, and the bullying you suffer hurts her too. Know that she’s on your side. Only she’s at a loss as to what to do about it.

And you’re going to find out later that if you open your heart to her and talk, even cry to her, she’ll listen while she holds you. Then, you’ll grow closer than ever before.

Every kid goes through times when they’re at odds with their parents. And I’ll go back to a point I made earlier- your home life is a lot better than most.

Letter to a Bullied Girl:

You’re withdrawn.

You’ve closed yourself off to people. You’re scared to talk to people because you’re afraid they’ll make fun of anything you have to say. You have so much you want to say to your classmates, but you’re scared of what they might do to you. Take the risk anyway.

Open your heart to people. Laugh and have fun with them. I promise you that they just might see your golden heart and love you for it.

School is worse than anything. Inside, you want to laugh, you want to sing, and you want to dance. However, you’re afraid. Rest assured that one day, you’ll have the courage to let yourself do and be.

What you’re going through now is only temporary.

It won’t always be this way.

People won’t always bully you. And your classmates won’t always be in your life.

Your stomach won’t always be in knots, and you won’t always be running to the bathroom and throwing up because of the intense stress. Moreover, you won’t always have to wonder when some snake at school is going to attack you in the halls or the girls’ room.

You look in the mirror and try different outfits, makeup tricks, and hairstyles. Why? Because you think that if you make yourself more attractive than you already are, the bullying will go away. That will soon end, too.

Letter to a Bullied Girl:

You’ll no longer wonder if you’re good enough.

The constant worrying that you’re not good enough and worthy of love? This will go away as well. The consistent question of whether you’ll ever be allowed to be yourself and relax will pass.

The worry that you might never have true friends – friends who will love you for being you, stick up for you, and take care of you? Friends, you don’t have to explain yourself to? In a few years, none of it will even be an issue.

Trust me. There will come a day when you won’t have the fake friends you have in school. And when that day arrives, you will have real friends. People who will love you for all that you are and all the beauty you bring to this world!

There will come a day when you’ll have the courage to walk away from toxic people. You will have the courage to let go of those who are no good for you. And you won’t be afraid to stand alone until better people find you.

The bullying you endure now won’t even matter anymore.

There will come a day when you’ll be so confident and secure in yourself that the cruel words of others will no longer matter. The time will come when you’ll have a family of your own and friends who’ll love you for you.

Letter to a Bullied Girl:

People will no longer only tolerate you. They’ll celebrate you!

Your courage is astounding! And each rejection, each bad name, each cruel taunt hurled; each punch, each kick, shove, and blow to your body will piss you off a little more, and a little more. But that anger will give you the dogged determination to tune out the naysayers, follow your dreams, and reach success!

Each incident of bullying is only preparing you for what you’re meant to do later. It’s preparing you for a rewarding and prosperous future.

Each blow you take – each bruise, each disappointment, each humiliation, each pull of your hair, and each tear you cry is only making you better. It’s making you the woman you’re meant to become —a more compassionate, empathetic, stronger, and wiser person.

Your loneliness now will be a source of appreciation for the circle of friends and abundance of love you’ll have later. Naivete will become wisdom.

Your persecution will become your launchpad. And your bullies, your motivation.

I know it hurts. It hurts terribly! But the pain you suffer today will be the power you enjoy tomorrow!

This post was a letter to a bullied girl to help encourage you to keep going when things are at their worst. Also, it’s to give you determination, hope, and courage.

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