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Physical Bullies: 9 Secrets You Should Know

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‘Want to know secrets of physical bullies. Here are all the secrets they hide so you can use them to your advantage.

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They may appear tough. However, physical bullies are the weakest ones of all.

In this post you will learn all the secrets physical bullies don’t want you to know so that you can use them to your advantage.

Once you learn all about these important details, you will feel better about yourself just knowing that you don’t have to result to physical means to get through life.

This post is all about physical bullies and their weaknesses so that you can use them as weapons to protect yourself.

Physical Bullies

The weakest person always uses physical violence. However, the strongest person always uses their brain. It’s also true that the weakest person talks the most and the loudest, but the strongest person gets his message across in few words.

Through experience, I’ve found that these bullies were taught at home that violence is the answer to all their problems. Most of my classmates had the same brutish mentality.

Therefore, if you didn’t give them what they wanted, they resorted to using their fists to force you to comply. Also, they used physical violence any time they felt you weren’t giving them the respect they thought they deserved.

Additionally, bullies like these may even use physical violence to take their frustrations out on you. Whenever they’re in a bad mood, they hold you responsible for it. It’s pathetic really.

But they would never tell you these things!

Here are the secrets they hope you never find out.

1. Physical Bullies are highly insecure with themselves.

Physical violence is weakness. Why? Because people only submit because they don’t the bully to beat them up.

True persuasion is having someone do something for you because they want to do it. Therefore, when people have a choice and they choose to do something you want, it’s so much more rewarding.

Understand that physical bullies see everything as zero-sum. In other words, they feel they either have total control, or none at all. And there’s no in-between.

If they can’t have complete influence, they feel powerless.

2. Physical Bullies:

They compare themselves with others.

Physically violent bullies often compare themselves with others. They see themselves as less effective at persuasion than others.

Therefore, they feel that they’re not as good at getting others to cooperate. And they feel that they should always be in command of circumstances and situations.

In their intense anger and rage, these bullies look at you. And through use of force and violence, these bullies shift the blame. They shift it from their own sense of powerlessness to something you must have done.

They see you as their enemy or their adversary. Therefore, they feel that they must punish and destroy you.

Therefore, their knee-jerk reactions are triggered with a self-demeaning or self-defeating thought and feeling of indignation. And this trigger happens somewhere between your statement or action and their blow-up.

3. They care what you and everyone else thinks of them.

Consequently, the bully has an afterthought that compels them to physically attack you. The afterthought can be something like:

  • “He thinks I’m a wuss.”
  • “He thinks I’m chicken.”
  • “She thinks I’m weak.”
  • “I’m not getting through to this jerk.”
  • “He doesn’t respect me.”
  • “I need to show this person she cannot ignore me and just walk away.”

This is all the result of the bully’s feeling hurt. Therefore, they cover this hurt feeling behind a veneer of anger and toughness.

Moreover, physically violent bullies believe that being calm and cool is a sign of weakness. They feel the same about walking away from confrontation.

 They also think that ignoring an aggressor is a sign of disrespect. However, understand that these bullies place high value on their status and social image.

Therefore, when they feel that you’ve slighted them, they make you responsible for their feelings of indignation.

4. Physical bullies must use violence to keep their power.

In other words, they think they’re entitled to put their hands on you. Why? Because they think that you wronged them somehow. Therefore, you should be punished.

Also, physically violent bullies impose rules of engagement on you that they, themselves, don’t follow. Bullies think they’re exempt from any rules.

Again, physical bullies have a sense of entitlement. They believe that you should respect them at all times. According to your bullies, you should know what they want from you.

In fact, your bullies expect you to do what they tell you to do and never say no to them. Moreover, you should only tell them what they want to hear.

In short, your bullies expect you to satisfy their every whim, even if it means sacrificing yourself for them.

5. They see themselves as the victim and you as the aggressor who must be punished.

In their minds, they’re thinking the following thoughts.

  • “You caused me distress!”
  • “You made me mad, so I must make you pay dearly for it!”
  • “How dare you defy me!”
  • “That loser is not giving me the respect they owe me.”

By reversing the roles and making you the aggressor, physical bullies can blunt the pains of their frustrations and disappointments. Why? Because anger and rage are less unpleasant than hopelessness.

Physical violence may Seem like strength. But, is it?

Physical bullies may look strong and mighty. They may seem tough when they’re whipping and beating up on you, However, they’re really weak.

In fact, they’re the weakest of all other types of bullies. And it’s because they can’t have power any other way. The only way they can get it is to use physical force.

Outside of their use of fear and bodily harm, these bullies are totally ineffective. They have no gift of gab, charm nor seductive powers.

In other words, they aren’t able to persuade people to do what they want.

Physically violent bullies constantly apply evil intentions to you. Therefore, they feel consistent urges to make you pay for being such a pain.

Remember that your bullies are under the delusion that you’re persecuting them when, in fact, it’s the opposite. However, realize that blaming you helps them soothe their self-image.

Fisticuffs give physical bullies psychological rewards.

When physically violent bullies attacks you and beats you down, they get instant psychological rewards. As a result, they relieve their anger and get a sense of power.

Finally, they get to feel a sense of satisfaction and justice.

Moreover, your bullies get to deal with you up close. They get to look into your eyes to see your pain. Also, they want to hear you cry out or scream in pain.

They also get the satisfaction from the possibility of getting you good and bloody. For them, that’s icing on the cake.

Realize that these people are sick individuals. They derive pleasure from inflicting cuts, bruises, and broken bones.

6. These types of Bullies Feel Powerless. they’re are No Different Than Rapists

For example, the reason why most rapists rape isn’t only about power over another. Put bluntly, it’s because they couldn’t get sex any other way.

Maybe they have no game. In other words, they have a hard time seducing a woman to go to bed with them. It could be that they don’t know how to flirt with or court a woman effectively.

Moreover, maybe they’re creepy or unattractive and women find them repulsive. Either way, they’re a turn off to potential partners.

Most rapists are ineffective and powerless with women under normal circumstances. So, the only way they can get sexual gratification is to use force and violence- rape!

7. Physical Bullies Feel Vulnerable during conflicts.

It comes down to the  views of not just others, but of themselves. The reason these bullies use physical force and violence is because they feel vulnerable in conflicts.

Therefore, they go to the only problem-solving technique they know. Physical violence is the only way they can punish their targets and restore their self-esteem.

Here’s another way to look at it. Anytime anyone has to physically threaten you to make you do what they want, it only means that you have all the power, not them. They may beat the crap out of you but you don’t have to resort to that kind of behavior to get your needs met.

Moreover, your scratches, bruises, and broken bones will heal. But your bullies’ stupidity and lack of social intelligence are things they are stuck with forever!

If nothing else, remember this! You have a God-given, animal right to defend yourself from harm. If a bully is pounding on you, it’s no use relying on the school, workplace, or the law to protect you.

You must learn to protect yourself and if that means throwing up your dukes, so be it!

8. Instant Gratification.

These bullies tend to crave instant and immediate gratification. Physical violence gives them that. Moreover, your bullies get an immediate rush of power and dominion.  And they think that they’ve won.

Many physically violent bullies are egocentric and have delusions of grandeur. And when you stand up to them, you shatter their delusions.

Moreover, if you say anything back to the bullies, it automatically puts your bullies on the weaker end. Therefore, they fly into a rage and use violence to restore that sense of power and invincibility.

Understand that these types of people are self-serving. And they feel superior to anyone else. Therefore, they think they have innate entitlements that supersede even your most basic human rights.

Physical Bullies Expect you to take their shit.

These bullies believe they’re entitled to hurt you.  On the other hand, they believe you’re just supposed to shut up and take it. They expect you to take the abuse without question or protest.

Therefore, when you stand up and oppose the abuse, your bullies will take it as a challenge. They may even see it as an insult. As a result, they will use forceful and violent measures to take you down.

9. They are Sadistic.

Physical bullies derive feelings of pleasure when beating you up. Moreover, they feel no shame unless the wrong people find them out.

They’re open with their violence and don’t fear accountability. Why? Because they know that most others are too scared to confront them.

Physical bullies have no qualms about asserting their dominance over others. They feel their entitlements supersede your basic rights.

Therefore, they confidently encroach on your time, your space, and your safety. Where most people would feel shame over hurting someone, physical bullies only feel powerful.

Sadly, there isn’t much you can do to help these types of people. Sadistic people are resistant to any help. Consequently, those who are physically violent usually end up in prison for battery or murder.

Bullies have many secrets and it’s up to you to find out what they are. Also, it’s up to you to defend yourself against them no matter what.

This post is all about the mentality of physical bullies so that you’ll be more emboldened to defend yourself.

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How to Deal with Physical Bullies

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‘Want to know how to deal with physical bullies. Here’ what you need to know.

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Dealing with physical bullies can be intimidating if you don’t know your rights as a victim of bullying.

Therefore, in this post, you will learn how to deal with physical bullies so that you can defend yourself when you need to.

Once you learn all about this important, even life-saving information, you will be able to stand up to physical bullies freely and without hesitation.

This post is all about how to deal with physical bullies so that you can feel better about fighting back and protecting yourself from harm.

How to deal with Physical Bullies

Throughout my life, I’ve heard people preach against fighting, even in self-defense. When I was being physically bullied, people often told me that violence didn’t solve anything.

Also, they would tell me, “fighting isn’t lady-like.”

However, I should have asked them this question. “How lady-like is getting your face beat in every other day?”

You can’t just stand there and take the beatings. You absolutely must stand up for yourself. However, when stand up for yourself, be prepared for others to gaslight you.

You must be prepared for other people to climb up on their soapbox and insert their two cents where it doesn’t belong. They’ll tell you that “violence doesn’t solve anything.”

Also, they’ll say that “you shouldn’t stoop to your bullies’ level.” However, they have no skin in the game. They’re not the ones taking heat from the bullies. Therefore, you shouldn’t listen to them.

You’ve heard the term, “All up in your Kool-Aid, and don’t know the flavor.”

What else do you do if you’re a kid at school getting their brains beat out every other day? Just stand there and allow yourself to be harmed over and over again?

When you’re being physically attacked, you can’t afford Listening to others’ two cents worth.

Every day, victims of bullying get suspended or expelled from school when they finally defend themselves against a bully. They waste six months to a year of being mercilessly bullied and trying to handle it through nonviolent means.

But others only call them a wuss and bullies only beat them up more. Why? Because bullies don’t respond to peaceful solutions. They only understand power and strength.

Therefore, the victim gets fed up after a while. They start standing up to their bullies.

As a result, These victims end up beating the living crap out of their bullies.

Now, all of a sudden, everyone’s surprised and outraged! Not at the bully, but at the victim!

However, where was their outrage when the victim was getting their body pummeled without provocation? Where was their anger when the shoe was on the other foot?

Where was their humanity when the target cried out for help?

How to Deal with Physical Bullies:

Don’t worry about how others feel about it.

If you’re in school and you’re a target of bully. These questions are those you should ask the school authorities and bystanders who get offended by your defending yourself.

Know that you’re just as good as the next person. Also, know that you have the same rights as anyone else- including your bullies. And know that you have the right to defend yourself anytime they threaten you with physical harm.

Understand that this is a part of self-care. It’s true that fighting isn’t always the answer but sometimes, bullies will leave you no other choice.

So, if you’ve tried everything else, know that you must do what you must to keep yourself safe. And if it means putting up your dukes and getting busy, so be it.

It’s sad when a target must fight all the time to keep themselves from being harmed. However, I don’t hold it against anyone who fights back under those circumstances.

Why? Because you have to take care of yourself or no one else will.

Why Most Bullies Resort to Physical Violence

They do it because they feel that they would otherwise have no influence over people. Therefore, when people dare to disagree with, defy, thwart, or worse, ignore them, they automatically think:

  • “Nobody will listen to me.”
  • “I can’t get anywhere with anyone.”
  • “They don’t value me.”
  • “They don’t respect me.”
  • “I can’t get any cooperation out of anyone.”
  • “I can’t get any satisfaction.”

And the list goes on and on…

This causes them to feel weak and defeated. Therefore, they use force and violence to get their point across because it’s the only thing that works for them.

Physical Bullies Are the Weakest of All

Physical bullying is weakness. Why? Because people only submit to keep themselves safe from harm. They never do it because they want to.

True persuasion or influence is having someone do something for you because they want to do it. In other words, when people have a choice and they choose to do something you want, it’s so much more rewarding.

Understand that these bullies see everything as zero-sum. They either have total control, or no control at all. There’s no in-between. If they can’t have complete influence, they feel ineffective and powerless.

The Psychology of Physical Bullies

Physically violent and forceful bullies often compare themselves with others. They see themselves as less effective than others when it comes to persuasion and influence.

They feel that they’re no good at getting others to cooperate and at being in command of circumstances and situations.

Therefore, in their intense anger and rage, and through use of force and violence, these bullies shift the blame. They shift blame from their own sense of powerlessness to the behavior of their victims.

These people see their targets as their enemies or adversaries. Therefore, they feel that they must punish and destroy these targets.

How to Deal with Physical Bullies:

Using Physical Violence for Anything Other Than Self-Defense is Weakness.

Physical bullies think these kinds of thoughts.

  • “(The target) is wrong for defying me.”
  • “He never listens to me.”
  • “She never pays attention to me.”
  • “That loser is not giving me the respect they owe me.”

When bullies shift the blame onto their targets, they are able to blunt the pains of their frustrations and disappointments. Why? Because anger and rage are less unpleasant than sadness and hopelessness.

Again, I want you to realize that this is weakness in and of itself.  Physically violent and forceful bullies may look strong and mighty as they’re whipping and beating up on some poor helpless human being.

However, they’re really weak. In fact, they’re the weakest of all other types of bullies. And it’s simply because they can’t get power any other way. The only way they can get it is to use the fear of physical harm and yes, even murder.

Outside of their use of fear and bodily harm, these bullies are totally ineffective. They have no gift of gab, charm nor seductive powers. In other words, they cannot get people to do what they want them to do through the use of persuasion.

Physical Bullies are No Different Than Rapists

I’ll use rapists as an example. The reason why most rapists rape isn’t only about power over another. Put bluntly, it’s because they couldn’t get sex any other way.

Maybe they have no game- they have a hard time seducing a woman to go to bed with them. It could be that they don’t know how to flirt with or court a woman effectively.

Moreover, maybe they’re creepy or unattractive and women find them disgusting and repulsive. Either way, they’re a turn off to them, which means that they are ineffective and powerless.

So, the only way they can get sexual gratification is to use force and violence- rape!

It’s the same analogy with physical bullies. Anytime anyone has to physically threaten you to make you do what they want, it only means that you have all the power, not them.

Yes, they may beat the crap out of you. However, you don’t have to resort to that kind of behavior to get your needs met.

And your scratches, bruises, and broken bones will heal. But your bullies’ stupidity and lack of social intelligence, powers of persuasion, and people skills are things they are stuck with forever!

And if nothing else, remember this! You have a God-given, animal right to defend yourself from harm. If a bully is pounding on you, it’s no use to rely on the school, workplace, and sometimes the law to protect you.

You must learn to protect yourself and if that means throwing up your dukes, so be it!

This is how to deal with physical bullies:

Recognize hostile body language and know when your bullies are about to get physical is the first thing you do. Be prepared.

Then, what do you do if they get in your face or hit you?

What you do, is you haul off and knock the hell out of them. Moreover, you do it hard enough to knock them on the floor. Then you keep beating them until someone pulls you off them.

Never give them a chance to get up! Because, if they ever get up, they’ll come back after you. You want to keep them down until someone comes along and breaks it up.

Moreover, you want to put such a beating on them that they won’t even think about messing with you again.

You may get a three-day suspension. However, getting kicked out of school for three days is better than putting up with a bully for three years.

So, put up your fists and defend yourself! Always! It’s how you set and enforce boundaries!

This post was all about how to deal with physical bullies so that you won’t be afraid to fight if you have to.

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1. Physical Bullying: Should You Hit Back?

2. Hostile Body Language: 17 Signs Bullies Want to Get Physical

3. Physical Bullying Information: 5 Must-Know Secrets Bullies Don’t Want You to Know