“You’ll see it when you believe it.” What does it mean? It’s the opposite of “I’ll believe it when I see it.” It’s about being positive even in the face of adversity. Though difficult, you must learn to think positively. You will be surprised at the results.
I’ve always heard people make the statement, “I’ll believe it when I see it.”The problem is that our attitudes shape our perspectives. Therefore, our perspectives shape what we see.
Put another way, our perspectives can blind us to a lot of things, even when they’re right in front of our faces. Because if you have the mindset that you’ll believe it when you see it, the chances are you never will.
Therefore, in this post, you will learn why you’ll see it when you believe it, and why it’s essential to work on your mindset if you’re being bullied or facing any other type of adversity.
Once you learn this critical life lesson, you will be compelled to do the work to change your mindset and improve your life.
This post will give you all the reasons you’ll see it when you believe it, so that you will change your attitude and perhaps change a few of your outcomes, too.
You’ll See It When You Believe It
Many victims are bullied just as innocent people are convicted of crimes they didn’t commit. On the flip side, many bullies and criminals are promoted to high positions. It’s because of others’ attitudes!
We often base our judgments of others on our attitudes towards them. We judge them by what we’ve heard about them and whether we like them.
Many times, we judge others too harshly because we can’t see past our dislike or hatred of them. However, we also do this with our own lives.
If we’ve had a string of adversity throughout our lives, we usually come to expect more of the same. And sadly, we end up getting that!
We come to see ourselves as unlucky, undesirable, unlovable, and incapable of success. As a result of our thinking, we face increasing adversity.
It’s all about mindset.
Attitudes and perspectives about our lives will blind us to opportunities- opportunities that are right in front of us.
Sadly, these are opportunities we miss, while others see and seize them. Then, we’ve missed out once again, and thus, the cycle begins again.
Case in point: our attitudes and perspectives shape and influence our lives. They influence what happens in them and where they take us. Moreover, they attract people and events.
This is why you must do the inner work to change your thought patterns. In other words, you must check your attitude and work to replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
The only way you will have a positive life is to have a positive attitude. Then you will have a positive perspective, which can only develop by having positive thoughts.
I know it’s hard to do when it seems that adversity is coming at you from every possible direction. Believe me, I understand because I’ve been there.
It won’t be easy, and it won’t happen overnight. But I promise you this. If you start now by catching each negative thought and replacing it with a positive idea, you’ll be surprised at how much better your life will get!
“What if it doesn’t work out?”
“Oh! But “What if it does?”
It worked for me, and it’ll work for you too!
You’ll See It When You Believe It:
Let’s talk about the negative self-fulfilling prophesy.
After bullies and others have put you down and degraded you for so long, serious changes in your thought patterns begin happening. You begin having symptoms that should warn you that you’re on your way to having a “bullied brain.”
Also, it’s the same with any other form of adversity, whether it be accidents, illnesses, or just plain old bad luck.
1. If You’re Bullied, You start to wonder if they’re right about you.
Moreover, you wonder if they were all along and that you just didn’t see it. If you aren’t careful, bullies will tell you lies about yourself so often, for so long, that you’ll begin to believe it too.
Why? Because a huge piece of your self-esteem has broken off. Therefore, your brain is rewiring itself to accept what these creeps tell you as gospel.
You may think to yourself, “Well, everyone else thinks I’m no good, maybe they’re right. Because if there is any good in me, why would so many people tell me differently?”
Never let your bullies get into your head. They may turn everyone else against you, but you don’t have to let them turn you against yourself.
You are good enough, and you matter. Never allow others to define who you are.
2. You’ll See It When You Believe It:
You begin to get awkward and clumsy.
If you start believing you have nothing but bad luck, you will soon begin to live up to it. The same will happen if you allow bullying to define you.
Your brain will begin preparing itself for a hostile environment. And your mind and body will enter survival mode.
Your decision-making skills will take a big hit. Therefore, you’ll start fumbling and screwing up constantly. And, the harder you try not to make mistakes, the more of them you will make.
3. You have a bad attitude about life.
You then begin to lose faith. Moreover, you have thoughts such as:
- All humans are mean-spirited, greedy, and selfish pieces of sh**.
- The world is a crappy place.
- I’ll never amount to anything.
- Life sucks.
4. Adverse things will happen in your life.
Your grades drop, your performance starts to wane, and you lose out on awards, achievements, and opportunities. It will seem that nothing ever works out for you.
Like attracts like; bad things tend to draw even more bad things. However, your attitude can make all the difference.
5. You’ll See It When You Believe It:
Your relationships will suffer.
The people in your life don’t understand what is happening to you. Therefore, they begin to question you. Some may accuse you of having a bad attitude.
Also, some may accuse you of being stubborn or defiant when you’re really shutting down. Therefore, they become disappointed in you and eventually stop believing in you.
And you may complain constantly. No one likes to hear whining, even if you have justification for it.
6. Goals that were once easy to achieve will become difficult.
Schoolwork or work projects that were once easy for you suddenly become difficult. This is because you’re in survival mode.
In other words, you’re too busy looking over your shoulder and trying to survive bullying to learn anything or concentrate on work projects.
After all, your brain can only do so much at once. Again, you learn and concentrate on work using your logical brain. Therefore, when the survival part of your brain turns on, the part involved in learning and concentration shuts down.
7. learned helplessness.
You may grow tired of trying. Everyone else has convinced you that you’re doomed to fail and live in misery. Therefore, you unintentionally live up to their expectations.
Do you see where I’m going with this? It’s only the Law of Attraction at work. It starts with negative thought patterns. Like attracts like. What you think about, even on a subconscious level, always comes about.
However, know that it isn’t your fault. So, don’t blame yourself.
You’ll See It When You Believe It:
You must take responsibility for your own well-being!
Every day, you hear the same vitriol and get the same abuse over and over. Again. Repetition, repetition, repetition. However, this doesn’t relieve you of your responsibility to yourself.
You must train your brain to re-frame everything. Moreover, you must train your brain to see through others’ behavior and see the intentions behind it.
Otherwise, you’ll only start believing the crap that your bullies feed you. Then, you’ll to live up to it. Moreover, you’ll have a hard time controlling it or stopping it from happening.
Your bullies are trying to condition you.
Why are they so hell-bent on making you believe their lies?
- Because they want to brainwash you.
- What they want is to break your spirit.
- Their end goal is to bring you so low that you never recover.
- If they can do the above three, then you’re likely to prove them right.
- Know that it’s all an attempt to reprogram you, and in a vast majority of cases, it works!
Self-fulfilling prophesies are real, and they can destroy your life. Therefore, don’t let bullies cause you to have a losing, self-defeating, and bitter attitude.
Put plainer, bullies mean to get you to believe that you are, in fact, worthless. Moreover, they want to force you to agree with it and that you deserve the mistreatment. Why?
Because if they can get you to believe it too, then you’re more likely to submit to their abuse without protest. Moreover, if they can get you to think you deserve it, then you’re least likely to fight back.
Why else would they try to drum such garbage into your head a million and one times a day?
You’ll See It When You Believe It:
Bullying is a form of brainwashing.
Understand that bullying, because of its repetitiveness and brutality, is a form of brainwashing. In other words, it is designed to condition you to believe that you’re no good and will never amount to anything.
Being stuck in a bullying environment is akin to being stuck in a communist re-education camp. It’s just as mind-altering as it is damaging.
This is because bullies spoon-feed you their bullshit repeatedly until your mind absorbs it. Therefore, you end up believing it.
They physically and emotionally beat you down. Next, they gaslight you and convince you that you deserve it.
They gaslight you. They blame you for their bad behavior when the truth is that you have no control over it. Setting boundaries is the best thing you can do. It’s as easy as putting your hand up and saying, “Bye, (bully’s name),” then walking away.
You’re Not Responsible for their behavior!
You can’t control anyone else’s behavior. Only they have control over their actions. The only person’s behavior you can control is your own. Always remember that!
Start training your brain to resist gaslighting. Do not internalize anything they throw at you. Why? Because these things listed below can happen if you aren’t careful.
- You’ll stop believing in yourself.
- You’ll have a condition known as “Learned Helplessness.”
- Your grades will plummet, and your performance will suffer.
- You’ll attract all kinds of bad fortune into your life.
- You’ll want so badly to get out of the bad environment and situation you’re in that you’ll begin making poor decisions and life choices out of desperation- choices that may alter the entire course of your life.
- You may drop out of school to get away from your bullies. I almost did.
- You may quit your job before you have time to find other employment.
- You may join a gang or extremist group to feel like you belong and to have friends.
- You may use drugs to fit in or to dull the pain.
And what’s really sad is that you won’t even realize it’s happening until you’re already too far down the rabbit hole. That is, if you ever realize it.
The best way is to stop caring what they think.
You’ll See It When You Believe It:
The right attitude is key.
Confidence, self-love, and a positive attitude will bring good things into your life. It may take a while, but be patient! It will happen!
This is not to say that bad things won’t sometimes happen; they do. Sometimes things happen that we have no control over. And it happens to all of us.
However, with a positive attitude, your life won’t be one huge string of bad luck. You will have more victories than losses.
Again, attitude attracts things into your life, like attracts like. How I wish I had known this when I was young.
Finding That Healthy Balance Between Positive and Negative Experiences
Everyone has both positive and negative experiences with others. This can affect confidence and self-esteem. The trick is to keep the positive either equal to or higher than the negative.
When you feel hopeless and pushed to the breaking point, it means you’ve had too many negative experiences. Any positive experience you’ve had in the past feels irrelevant.
You’ll See It When You Believe It:
Think of confidence and self-esteem as a bank account.
If others bully you nonstop for long enough, it will quickly deplete your positive account. This is why you must continue to “deposit money” into your bank account every day. You do this by giving yourself words of encouragement and love.
You can also build confidence by reading books that teach confidence-building techniques. Another way to build your self-esteem is to keep company with those who uplift you.
Positive words, actions, and experiences must equal, or better yet, outweigh the negative you receive from bullies. Only then will you restore your self-esteem and regain your confidence. And once confidence is restored, you’ll be better able to combat bullies and stop being a victim.
Although talking about the abuse and getting it out helps with healing, it only does so much. The best way to maintain your self-esteem and confidence is to create more positive experiences than negative ones.
Build friendships outside the bullying environment. Create lasting memories. That is the best kind of therapy. And, most importantly, think positively. Add self-care to the equation, and you have a surefire way to restore your confidence.
The purpose of this post was to remind you that you’ll see it when you believe it. Think positive and maintain a positive attitude, and things will change for the better.
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