‘Want to know how to deal with physical bullies. Here’ what you need to know.

Dealing with physical bullies can be intimidating if you don’t know your rights as a victim of bullying.

Therefore, in this post, you will learn how to deal with physical bullies so that you can defend yourself when you need to.

Once you learn all about this important, even life-saving information, you will be able to stand up to physical bullies freely and without hesitation.

This post is all about how to deal with physical bullies so that you can feel better about fighting back and protecting yourself from harm.

How to deal with Physical Bullies

Throughout my life, I’ve heard people preach against fighting, even in self-defense. When I was being physically bullied, people often told me that violence didn’t solve anything.

Also, they would tell me, “fighting isn’t lady-like.”

However, I should have asked them this question. “How lady-like is getting your face beat in every other day?”

You can’t just stand there and take the beatings. You absolutely must stand up for yourself. However, when stand up for yourself, be prepared for others to gaslight you.

You must be prepared for other people to climb up on their soapbox and insert their two cents where it doesn’t belong. They’ll tell you that “violence doesn’t solve anything.”

Also, they’ll say that “you shouldn’t stoop to your bullies’ level.” However, they have no skin in the game. They’re not the ones taking heat from the bullies. Therefore, you shouldn’t listen to them.

You’ve heard the term, “All up in your Kool-Aid, and don’t know the flavor.”

What else do you do if you’re a kid at school getting their brains beat out every other day? Just stand there and allow yourself to be harmed over and over again?

When you’re being physically attacked, you can’t afford Listening to others’ two cents worth.

Every day, victims of bullying get suspended or expelled from school when they finally defend themselves against a bully. They waste six months to a year of being mercilessly bullied and trying to handle it through nonviolent means.

But others only call them a wuss and bullies only beat them up more. Why? Because bullies don’t respond to peaceful solutions. They only understand power and strength.

Therefore, the victim gets fed up after a while. They start standing up to their bullies.

As a result, These victims end up beating the living crap out of their bullies.

Now, all of a sudden, everyone’s surprised and outraged! Not at the bully, but at the victim!

However, where was their outrage when the victim was getting their body pummeled without provocation? Where was their anger when the shoe was on the other foot?

Where was their humanity when the target cried out for help?

How to Deal with Physical Bullies:

Don’t worry about how others feel about it.

If you’re in school and you’re a target of bully. These questions are those you should ask the school authorities and bystanders who get offended by your defending yourself.

Know that you’re just as good as the next person. Also, know that you have the same rights as anyone else- including your bullies. And know that you have the right to defend yourself anytime they threaten you with physical harm.

Understand that this is a part of self-care. It’s true that fighting isn’t always the answer but sometimes, bullies will leave you no other choice.

So, if you’ve tried everything else, know that you must do what you must to keep yourself safe. And if it means putting up your dukes and getting busy, so be it.

It’s sad when a target must fight all the time to keep themselves from being harmed. However, I don’t hold it against anyone who fights back under those circumstances.

Why? Because you have to take care of yourself or no one else will.

Why Most Bullies Resort to Physical Violence

They do it because they feel that they would otherwise have no influence over people. Therefore, when people dare to disagree with, defy, thwart, or worse, ignore them, they automatically think:

• “Nobody will listen to me.”
• “I can’t get anywhere with anyone.”
• “They don’t value me.”
• “They don’t respect me.”
• “I can’t get any cooperation out of anyone.”
• “I can’t get any satisfaction.”

And the list goes on and on…

This causes them to feel weak and defeated. Therefore, they use force and violence to get their point across because it’s the only thing that works for them.

Physical Bullies Are the Weakest of All

Physical bullying is weakness. Why? Because people only submit to keep themselves safe from harm. They never do it because they want to.

True persuasion or influence is having someone do something for you because they want to do it. In other words, when people have a choice and they choose to do something you want, it’s so much more rewarding.

Understand that these bullies see everything as zero-sum. They either have total control, or no control at all. There’s no in-between. If they can’t have complete influence, they feel ineffective and powerless.

The Psychology of Physical Bullies

Physically violent and forceful bullies often compare themselves with others. They see themselves as less effective than others when it comes to persuasion and influence.

They feel that they’re no good at getting others to cooperate and at being in command of circumstances and situations.

Therefore, in their intense anger and rage, and through use of force and violence, these bullies shift the blame. They shift blame from their own sense of powerlessness to the behavior of their victims.

These people see their targets as their enemies or adversaries. Therefore, they feel that they must punish and destroy these targets.

How to Deal with Physical Bullies:

Using Physical Violence for Anything Other Than Self-Defense is Weakness.

Physical bullies think these kinds of thoughts.

• “(The target) is wrong for defying me.”
• “He never listens to me.”
• “She never pays attention to me.”
• “That loser is not giving me the respect they owe me.”

When bullies shift the blame onto their targets, they are able to blunt the pains of their frustrations and disappointments. Why? Because anger and rage are less unpleasant than sadness and hopelessness.

Again, I want you to realize that this is weakness in and of itself.  Physically violent and forceful bullies may look strong and mighty as they’re whipping and beating up on some poor helpless human being.

However, they’re really weak. In fact, they’re the weakest of all other types of bullies. And it’s simply because they can’t get power any other way. The only way they can get it is to use the fear of physical harm and yes, even murder.

Outside of their use of fear and bodily harm, these bullies are totally ineffective. They have no gift of gab, charm nor seductive powers. In other words, they cannot get people to do what they want them to do through the use of persuasion.

Physical Bullies are No Different Than Rapists

I’ll use rapists as an example. The reason why most rapists rape isn’t only about power over another. Put bluntly, it’s because they couldn’t get sex any other way.

Maybe they have no game- they have a hard time seducing a woman to go to bed with them. It could be that they don’t know how to flirt with or court a woman effectively.

Moreover, maybe they’re creepy or unattractive and women find them disgusting and repulsive. Either way, they’re a turn off to them, which means that they are ineffective and powerless.

So, the only way they can get sexual gratification is to use force and violence- rape!

It’s the same analogy with physical bullies. Anytime anyone has to physically threaten you to make you do what they want, it only means that you have all the power, not them.

Yes, they may beat the crap out of you. However, you don’t have to resort to that kind of behavior to get your needs met.

And your scratches, bruises, and broken bones will heal. But your bullies’ stupidity and lack of social intelligence, powers of persuasion, and people skills are things they are stuck with forever!

And if nothing else, remember this! You have a God-given, animal right to defend yourself from harm. If a bully is pounding on you, it’s no use to rely on the school, workplace, and sometimes the law to protect you.

You must learn to protect yourself and if that means throwing up your dukes, so be it!

This is how to deal with physical bullies:

Recognize hostile body language and know when your bullies are about to get physical is the first thing you do. Be prepared.

Then, what do you do if they get in your face or hit you?

What you do, is you haul off and knock the hell out of them. Moreover, you do it hard enough to knock them on the floor. Then you keep beating them until someone pulls you off them.

Never give them a chance to get up! Because, if they ever get up, they’ll come back after you. You want to keep them down until someone comes along and breaks it up.

Moreover, you want to put such a beating on them that they won’t even think about messing with you again.

You may get a three-day suspension. However, getting kicked out of school for three days is better than putting up with a bully for three years.

So, put up your fists and defend yourself! Always! It’s how you set and enforce boundaries!

This post was all about how to deal with physical bullies so that you won’t be afraid to fight if you have to.

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