There are secrets bullies don’t want you to know. Do you know what they are? Here’s everything you need to know.
In this post, you will learn the secrets bullies don’t want you to know to have the knowledge you need to protect yourself.
Once you learn all these hidden truths, you will be better able to call these creeps out and protect your mental health from them.
This post is all about the secrets bullies don’t want you to know so that you can stop being a victim and live your life in peace.
Secrets Bullies Don’t Want You to Know
Bullies hide many secrets. If those secrets ever got out, their whole world would collapse before their eyes. Therefore, here are all the secrets bullies will move heaven and earth to keep hidden.
1. Some Bullies are more scared of you than you are of them.
Bullies fear you might fight back. Why? Because if you do, you just might get the best of them. As a result, they’ll end up looking weak and being bullied themselves.
This is why they keep you afraid to fight back. However, realize that you should fight back. I’ve seen several bullies bully their victims to the point that the victim finally snapped.
As a result, the victim beat the living daylights out of them. Also, on some occasions, the victim whipped the bully in front of an audience.
Therefore, the bully never bothered them again, and the target finally won respect.
2. They’re insecure.
Bullies constantly worry about what others think of them. This is why they act the way they do. They want to seem perfect.
Why? Because they’re so afraid that if others find out about the real person, they won’t like them anymore.
Bullies want so badly to be liked that they will bully you in front of an audience to score laughs from everyone and get approval.
Therefore, call them out on it. I promise you’ll feel much better once you do.
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3. They crave approval.
Bullies want approval. More than that, they want others to admire and adore them. And if a bully doesn’t get approval, they feel inadequate.
So they bully in front of an audience to get the approval they feel they never get. You must realize that bullies are simps. And they simp in ways that aren’t so obvious.
However, understand that anyone who seeks approval is needy. Only pathetic losers do that.
Therefore, see it for what it is, and your self-esteem will skyrocket. Why? Because you’re so awesome that you don’t have to resort to such behavior.
4. They’re posers
Bullies are constantly trying to look cool. They strain themselves to keep up appearances. They know that most people think that cruelty is “cool” as long as they aren’t receiving it.
Therefore, many bullies bully to look cute to any bystanders and witnesses. And sadly, most bystanders are under the misguided belief that bullying is cool.
Moreover, they don masks to hide their true, pathetic selves. Bullies aren’t happy with themselves. So, they work hard to hide their flaws and put on a persona of perfection.
For instance, you may see one of your bullies wearing clothes from department stores like Nordstrom every day. But you may get lucky and notice him pull out a 20-dollar wallet from Walmart. That’s when you’ll figure out that he’s nothing but a poser.
So, find ways to use it against him. Then use it to your own advantage. I can think of several, and I’m sure you can too. Just knowing this will keep you out of the doldrums and view your bullies for the losers they are.
This should make you laugh because you know they’re not so cool after all.
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5. they fear exposure.
Bullies get by only on appearances. The fronts they put up are only illusions and mirages. Moreover, without the facades they work so hard to maintain, they have no leg to stand on.
For instance, magicians will never tell you how they make things disappear or pull rabbits out of hats. And they won’t tell you how they can do card tricks. The reason they don’t is that their tricks are only optical illusions.
And if you ever found out how they do it, it would blow their act, and people would lose interest. They’d go bankrupt.
It’s the same with bullies. Understand that their lives are filled with cracks that just might expose who they really are. Think of these cracks as smoldering hot spots that threaten to blaze again.
Bullies are forever running around pouring buckets of water on these hot spots. They have to bust ass to make sure these hot spots don’t ignite.
Also, they must continuously struggle to maintain control of everyone and everything, and that’s not easy.
Bullies realize that once their real personality seeps through, people will lose respect for them and they’ll lose power. And if they lose power, their mistreatment of others will come back to bite them in the ass… hard!
6. Their biggest fear is losing face.
Bullies only have power that you and others give them. Therefore, if they lose face, that power is gone. Usually, bullies lose face when victims stand up to them.
For instance, a bully hits you and you punch them back. In fact, you beat the daylights out of them in front of everyone.
That embarrasses a bully. And the people who see it will realize that they aren’t as tough as they made themselves out to be.
Therefore, others quickly lose respect for them.
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7. If you stand up to them, others might follow.
Remember the movie, “A Bug’s Life?” In the film, the grasshoppers bullied the ants. Here’s a quote from the lead grasshopper that you might remember.
“You let one ant stand up to us, then they might all stand up. Those puny little ants outnumber us a hundred to one. And if they ever figure that out, there goes our way of life.”
The head grasshopper said the quiet part out loud. He revealed every bully’s worst fear. If one victim stands up to me, it will encourage everyone to do the same. But most people still haven’t gotten wise to this yet.
8. Being a bully is hard WORK!
Believe it or not, bullies must work hard to keep up appearances. They’re good at maintaining their fake facades.
In other words, bullies, especially popular ones, have an image to keep up, and they monitor themselves nonstop, twenty-four-seven.
They must keep up with and remember all the lies they tell to keep their stories straight. Moreover, they often spend beyond their means to appear wealthy.
Is it any wonder that many bullies get charged with crimes like embezzlement, fraud, and theft? Most have to steal to keep up!
Therefore, they’re constantly afraid of losing face if any of it ever gets out.
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9. They aren’t happy people.
They can’t be. Why do you think they bully others?
Bullies need a victim. They can’t be happy unless they’re bringing someone else down. The only thing that makes bullies happy is seeing you suffer.
Therefore, see this as a testament to how miserable they really are. They do it to feel better about themselves. Moreover, they do it to distract from their shortcomings and insecurities.
Bullies also bully to make themselves look superior, better, smarter, and more powerful. It takes a miserable person to be a bully.
Many bullies aren’t happy at home. They have stressful marriages and family lives. Or, if they’re in school, they have bad relationships with parents and siblings. Therefore, they feel powerless there.
However, at school or work, many bullies can control others to keep from feeling so powerless. So, keep your ears peeled and try to find out what their home life is like.
For example, if you’re in a bathroom stall and you hear your bullies enter the restroom. Draw your feet up and listen in on their conversation. You’d be surprised what you find out!
The trick is to find any good ammunition you can use to your advantage.
10. They’re weak.
Bullies bully because they’re feeble-minded people. Ever wonder why they’re so loud, obnoxious, and pushy?
It’s because they don’t have the brains or social intelligence to get what they want any other way. Therefore, they must use force and intimidation. This is often the reason they use physical violence.
Why? Because it’s the only way they can get their wants and needs met. All this makes for a life of drama and conflict. So, smile about it.
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11. Bullies are jealous of their victims.
Bullies can’t handle anyone else’s success. And they really flip out when someone they deem inferior accomplishes something big.
They’ll make it their mission to destroy you if you score more wins than them. And it’s the same whether you’re better-looking or more talented.
Understand that bullies despise anyone who has what they want but can’t get it. Therefore, they will try to take it from them. And if they can’t take it, they will punish the person for having it.
However, they would never admit that in a million years. Why? Because jealousy smacks of inferiority. And the last thing any bully wants is to look inferior.
So, feel good about the fact that your bullies are jealous of you. It only proves that you aren’t the inferior one here.
12. They Bully to compensate for their weaknesses and shortcomings.
If bullies can look strong by making you look weak, they can make up for their own weaknesses. Moreover, they can distract the negative spotlight away from themselves and onto you.
Therefore, they use you to hide their own imperfections.
Also, bullies will run with rich people or the popular crowd because it helps them to forget about the fact that they’re nothing. Moreover, they feel this makes up for anything they lack.
Let’s say that a male bully feels he isn’t man enough. He will often drive around in hot cars and flaunt money to make up for the fact that most girls find him disgusting.
Female bullies will often use fashion, makeup, cheap knock-off designer bags, and the latest hairstyles to compensate for the fact that few people like them. Or they may have a bunch of friends and use that to make up for not getting a date.
Who wants to date someone with a haughty attitude? This should give you a huge pick-me-up!
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13. They crave attention.
Bullies love attention, and they’ll do anything to get it, especially if they have narcissistic personality disorder.
Also, when a bully sees someone who outshines them, they fear that person will take the spotlight away from them. Bullies share attention and recognition with no one.
They must be adored by everyone at all times. They feel they have to be at the center of everything, and the world should revolve around them.
In Conclusion
Bullies have secrets they don’t want exposed, and they’ll move Heaven and Earth to keep those secrets from coming out. Therefore, use this information to boost your confidence!
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This post was all about the secrets bullies don’t want you to know so that you’ll realize that bullies are pathetic and get a huge confidence boost.
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