Do you want to know all about the crybully and all the signs of one? Here is the definition of it and the characteristics of this pathetic type of bully.
Crybullies are pathetic human beings. They act tough but the minute you give them a dose of their own medicine, they run crying to a teacher, supervisor, manager… anyone who will listen. Moreover, they have ways of making you look like the bad guy when, in fact, you were only defending yourself against their vitriol.
Therefore, in this post, you will learn all about the crybully, the signs you’re dealing with one, and the tactics they use to play the victim.
Once you learn this important information, you will be able to call them what they are and nail them on their tactics. As a result, you will be a wonderful advocate not only for yourself but for anyone else these people bully.
This post is all about the crybully so that you can confidently call them out and protect yourself from blame.
A new term has emerged in the last few years to describe the pathetic type of person who doesn’t mind dishing out the crap but can’t handle it when it gets kicked back their way. We call this person, a crybully.
So, what is a crybully?
A crybully is a bully who’s also a crybaby, who runs to authority and “cries like a little bitch” whenever their targets stand up to them.
Here’s how they operate.
These people repeatedly provoke their victims for an extended period of time. Moreover, the target first tries to ignore them to avoid conflict and keep down the drama.
However, this only serves to encourage the crybully to continue and escalate the behavior. Why? Because they come to believe that the victim is a wimp who won’t do anything about it.
Therefore, they think that they can continue to bully the target and get away with it.
But when the target finally gets fed up with their crap and responds in kind, the crybully suddenly gets their little feelings hurt and feels indignant.
So, to get back at the target for daring to stand up to them, the crybully runs to a teacher, principal, supervisor, or manager.
This person tattles on the victim, like the schoolyard sissy they are. They play the victim while painting the target as the bully. Therefore, bystanders and authority become outraged at the victim.
They accuse the innocent person of being the bully while giving the real bully sympathy.
How the crybully benefits from playing the victim
The instigator then basks in the attention as others give her a pat on the head and lavish her with sympathy. All the while, they also get satisfaction with the blame others place on the real victim.
This gives the crybully a huge sense of power.
Moreover, these types of bullies will also disparage their targets to peers in efforts to smear them and trash their reputation. Understand that these types of manipulators are everywhere and they’re vindictive!
However, understand that this kind of behavior only speaks volumes of these types of bullies. It says that they’re not only cowards but entitled little brats.
They think they should be allowed to treat others any way they want without repercussions. These people are the pathetic ones here.
Therefore, you should be proud of yourself and feel good in knowing that you don’t have to resort to these shenanigans. And in situations such as these, these types of bullies should be the subject of your ridicule.
Because ridicule and shame will be the only way to make these bullies leave you alone.
How do you spot these types of people?
1. Characteristics of the Crybully:
Self-entitlement
Again, this person doesn’t mind provoking you over and over, but when you finally get fed up and show your ugly side, they aren’t only surprised but offended.
Understand that these types of bullies feel entitled to do whatever they want to do and that you have no right to stop her. Moreover, they believe you don’t have a right to even say anything against it.
These types think that they are beyond reproach and that you should never question their behavior.
Understand that they feel that the world owes them and that they have the right to mistreat you. Even more astonishing is that they think that you’re just supposed to bow down to them and take the abuse.
In other words, they expect you to let them harm you, then take it with a smile and a yes sir/ma’am. Why? Because:
“I’m always right, and you’re always wrong.”
“I’m better than you.”
“You’re inferior to me, I’m superior to you, and how dare you stand up to me? You have no rights as far as I’m concerned.”
Note the quotations above and understand that, though they may never come out and say it, this is how these chumps think.
2. A crybully will gripe, whine, and complain when something they don’t like happens.
For instance, you call the bully out on his BS. Moreover, you report or speak out about his bullying. In other words, you say or do anything to prompt authority figures to hold him accountable for his despicable behavior.
Therefore, the manipulator will then bitch, moan, and regress into a toddler if they have to face responsibility for anything. He’ll throw a temper tantrum, railing against the injustice and unfairness of it all.
He may also do something to get back at you for daring to stand up for yourself.
Understand that crybullies must always get their way. Also, they think they can do no wrong. Many times, they will get furious with and throw a fit with you.
If the crybully is female, she may dissolve into a puddle of tears and tell not only authority but anyone who’ll listen that you’re the bully.
3. These manipulators will shout you down if you don’t agree with them or you call them out on their bad behavior.
They think their words, actions, and beliefs are golden. If you happen to speak against their deplorable behavior or hold a different view, crybullies will instantly turn into petulant children.
They’ll call you all kinds of ugly names and launch personal attacks against you. Moreover, they may even hit you first. But, if you hit them back, they will cry like a wimp and claim that you started it.
4. A crybully wants everything handed to them and doesn’t like to put in the effort to earn it.
Crybullies are entitled to have whatever they want when and how they want it. They don’t like to work for anything. Also, they don’t like to wait for it either.
In other words, these types of people are impatient. When they want something, they want it right now, not five minutes from now, not even one minute from now.
They’re like spoiled children. If they don’t get what they want, they will never stop bothering you until you cave in and give it to them.
You must understand that crybullies do this to wear you down. However, you must only double down and resist, no matter what. So, stand firm if for nothing more than to teach them a lesson.
5. Crybullies hate the thought of anyone else having a life better than they do.
When these kinds of people see someone else doing better than them at anything, it makes them feel indignant. In other words, they feel that life hasn’t given them a fair shake.
They will often sulk and play on others’ sympathy. Also, they will also try to get back at the person for being just a little luckier than they are.
Understand that these types of individuals see the success of anyone else other then themselves as injustice.
6. They Have a victim mentality.
This point takes me back to how the crybully tries to make the victim look like the bully. In some cases, this person deludes herself into believing that she is, in fact, the victim.
And sadly, they’re very successful in making others believe that horse manure.
Therefore, when you think of a crybully, think Nellie Olson in the TV series, “Little House on the Prairie.”
Don’t pander to the crybully and don’t be too nice and try to calm them down. If you do, they only keep manipulating you.
There you have it, folks. If you see any of the above characteristics, you might have a crybully on your hands. The best way to battle this type of bullying is to name it and shame it. Putting a name on these things makes them so much easier to deal with and overcome.
This post is all about the crybully and their traits so that you can confidently and successfully call them out on their bullshit and protect yourself from their incessant gaslighting.
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You explain this very well, Cherie. I’ve known a few people like these over the years and I wish I had this to call out their behaviour at the time.
I hear you, Michael! Most of my bullies were crybullies and they knew exactly what they were doing. Like you, I wish I’d called out their behavior back then. However, I didn’t know the names for it. And if you can’t name something, you’re going to have a hard time explaining it to people without rambling. So, I figured it was best just to stay quiet. That was my thinking back then.