Forgiving your bullies and anyone who’s ever wronged you isn’t easy, but it’s the most important thing you can do for yourself.
I know, I know! I can practically hear the groans of dread and scoffs coming from a few already. To be honest, I once had the same attitude myself anytime someone advised me to forgive. I wasn’t ready to because I hadn’t healed yet.
Sometimes, you need time to process the abuse you suffered and heal before you can forgive. Completely understandable! And only you can know when you’re ready. Understand that forgiveness doesn’t mean that the transgression they committed against you is okay, nor does it mean that you have to buddy up with the person who wronged you. But when you’re ready to forgive, it will only benefit you, not your attacker.
Allow me to delve a little deeper:
Forgiveness is a must! It is a prerequisite for re-empowerment and happiness. It’s not about letting anyone off the hook; it’s about setting yourself free from the toxic feelings of anger and hate, which will hold you back.
This message is for targets of bullying today and for survivors of bullying. Forgive them when you’re ready. I can tell you that for me, the ability to forgive was like a huge weight that was lifted off of my shoulders. There’s truly no better feeling!
Anytime you hold on to grudges and hate for a person, that individual controls you whether you realize it or not. They may have exerted control over the years they bullied you, but you don’t have to let them control the rest of your life.
Let me put it another way, holding onto and carrying around anger and hate doesn’t hurt the person it’s aimed at. It hurts you. Because the people you hate and hold grudges against either don’t know about it, or they don’t care.
While you’re sitting around stewing over someone who did you wrong, that person could care less. They’re going on with their lives and not giving you so much as a thought. So, why should you allow them to take up space in your mind?
Forgiveness is the only solution to this problem. It’s the only way that you will be able to take back control of your life.
If you want to be happy, successful, and live in peace, forgive the people who wronged you. It’s the only way!
With knowledge comes empowerment!
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Thank you so much! This means a lot!
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Aum Shanti
Thank you so much, Shanti! Wishing you many blessings! 💖🌺
Once again Cherie, you are dead right. The important thing is to only forgive when you are ready. Writing “He Was Weird” was how I forgave my bullies.
That makes sense, Michael. In writing your book, you were able to release all the pain that had been pinned up inside.
Great advice! And my favourite part is about “Forgiveness is a must! It is a prerequisite for re-empowerment and happiness”
Thank you so much, Stacy. 💖You don’t know how much this means!
I agree, forgiveness is about freeing ourselves, but for many being able to forgive seems far too generous, much more than the abuser deserves, so simply being able to reach a place of no longer carrying the burdens of anger, bitterness and pain, are a gift we give ourselves. Simply being able to release those burdens and be able to walk freely is a huge gift
Perfectly said, Tamara! Thank you so much! 💓
I agree, forgiveness is about freeing ourselves, but for many being able to forgive seems far too generous, much more than the abuser deserves, so simply being able to reach a place of no longer carrying the burdens of anger, bitterness and pain, are a gift we give ourselves. Simply being able to release those burdens and be able to walk freely is a huge gift we each deserve!
Happy Holidays to you and yours!
Happy holidays to you and your family too, sweetie! 🎄🎄🎄