Would you like to know the best things you can do when healing from bullying? Here are 11 ways to do it that I and so many other survivors swear by.
Bullying is very traumatic and impacts self-esteem; it often takes many years to heal. People who’ve never endured bullying cannot comprehend how it can change your life.
The good thing about leaving a toxic environment is that once you’re gone, you can begin healing and rebuilding your life. However, in many cases, it’s easier said than done.
Therefore, in this post, you will learn the best ways to healing from bullying so that you can begin rebuilding your life and take back your power.
Once you learn all about these important techniques, you will be compelled to put them to work for you and began putting the pieces back together again. In that, you will eventually get back to the happier life you once knew.
This post is all about healing from bullying so that you can start anew and look forward to a beautiful future!
Healing from Bullying
Healing for bullying can be difficult and may time years. However with these eight tips, you’ll heal quicker and more successfully.
Here are eight things you can do that can help you heal quicker.
1. Seek Therapy.
I realize that there’s a certain amount of stigma that goes with it. However, getting therapy is the best and most important thing you can do for yourself.
You must do what you must do to take care of yourself. So, don’t concern yourself with the opinions of others.
People are going to have something to say whether you do or you don’t. Therefore, do what’s best for you and to hell with them.
2. Healing from Bullying:
Rest.
When you’re fresh out of a bullying environment, you’ll more than likely to be exhausted. Therefore, get plenty of sleep.
Also, take some quiet time for yourself. Go on a walk in the park on a beautiful day, or take a pajama day. Get all the rest you can get for a few days.
3. Music.
Music is therapy in itself. Once you’ve got plenty of rest, put in some easy listening for relaxation. Also, you can play some slow jams like TLC or Keith Sweat.
Or, you can pop in some dance grooves and rock and roll to make you dance. There’s nothing that lifts the mood like shaking your booty around the house to Janet Jackson or Paula Abdul.
Moreover, you could rock out to some Van Halen, Judas Priest, or Def Leppard. Whatever your taste in music, you’ll feel much better when you do. So, get out those CD’s or stream some music on your computer.
4. Healing from Bullying:
Lean on the people who love you.
One of the most important things you need is a network of friends and loved ones who support you. Especially when you’re recovering from bullying!
Therefore, keep company with the people who uplift you, love you, and make you feel good. It’ll help you salvage the confidence you’ve lost.
5. Do things you enjoy most.
Indulge in your hobbies and favorite activities. Hobbies allow us to be creative. Therefore, if you create, you feel accomplished! So, rake in those little successes!
It’s those tiny little wins that will make you feel so much better!
6. Exercise.
Exercise is a major stress-buster. Moreover, you can get rid of all that negative energy like anger and depression by sweating it out in the gym or at home, to a workout video.
Whatever strikes your fancy, get moving and exercise! It will make you feel so much better!
7. Healing from Bullying:
Forgive.
Forgiving anyone who’s ever wronged you isn’t easy. However, it’s the most important thing you can do for yourself.
I’m probably going to piss a few people off with this. In fact, there was once a time I would get angry any time someone advised me to forgive my bullies.
However, since then, I’ve discovered that forgiveness is how we heal.
I do understand if you aren’t ready. Sometime you must heal before you can forgive. Therefore, take time to process the abuse you suffered and recover first. Only you know when you’re ready.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean that what they did to you is okay. Moreover, it does it mean you have to be friends with the person who wronged you. You don’t have to let them back into your life if you don’t want to.
It’s totally up to you.
If you don’t trust the person, that’s okay too. Some people, you can never trust and you must forgive them from afar. However, do forgive them. It will help you more than you know.
8. Take a trip.
After being in a toxic environment for so long, you may need to get away for a while. Therefore, visit a family member in another state.
You can also embark on a camping trip in the mountains. Or, you can hit the beach and relax in the sun as you listen to the sounds of seagulls and crashing waves.
Whether you prefer a tropical island or an Alaskan getaway, you’ll return home feeling much better!
9. Healing from Bullying:
Treat yourself to a day or night out with the guys or gals.
You and your pals could go to a concert or out to lunch or dinner. Maybe you can go window shopping or to a bar and listen to a live band. In other words, don’t isolate yourself.
Get out and have fun. Because sometimes it pays to go out and paint the town red!
Just go easy on the drinks. Alcohol is a depressant! Moreover, if you must have a few drinks, don’t forget to have a designated driver handy.
Healing can take a while to do and may also take much work. But in the end, it’ll be worth it!
10. Treat yourself to a pampering session.
What is a pampering session. It can be anything, from a facial to a pedicure. Moreover, you can treat yourself to a manicure or a new hairdo.
Maybe you’re the type who likes a deep massage in a spa. Also, you can treat yourself to the works – all of the above! There are spas that will give you the royal treatment for a nice discount!
If you’re a little low on funds, you can also give yourself a pampering session at home. For example, you could buy some bath bombs and treat yourself to a relaxing soak in the bathtub.
Or, you can give yourself a pedicure. All you need is a small tub and some warm water to soak your feet in. Also, you can use a pumice stone, foot file, and cuticle stick to remove dead skin and rough spots from your feet and toes.
To top it off, you can paint your toenails. Whatever you like to do, practice self-care. It will make a big difference in how you feel!
11. Healing from Bullying:
Protect and defend yourself from those who wish to harm you.
This means protecting your mind and spirit from attacks as well as your body. If someone attacks you verbally, no matter how subtle the attacks may be, you have a right to respond in kind.
If some creep tries to use physical violence against you, by all means, fight back! The point is to set boundaries! And, if you need to, enforce those boundaries!
Say no. Moreover, call out anyone who tries to abuse you. Whatever you do, never take abuse lying down. Ever!
Remember that you teach people how to treat you by what you put up with. Therefore, if someone violates your boundaries in any way, call it out. Tell that person, in no uncertain terms, to stop it now!
Let them know that you won’t tolerate bad behavior from anyone. Do what you must do to defend yourself from bullying and abuse.
Remember that you have just as much of a right to safety, respect, and dignity as the next person. Therefore, defend yourself as you would your best friend!
In fact, be your own best friend! Let no one disrupt your peace. Moreover, don’t allow anyone to stand in the way of your healing!
In Conclusion:
Self-care is the most important thing you can do for yourself. Moreover, self-care isn’t selfish, it’s essential, especially when you’re healing from bullying!
Be prepared for naysayers to tell you that you’re being selfish for taking care of yourself. However, don’t you believe it for a second!
Everyone has a right to take care of themselves. That includes you! Therefore, love yourself enough to put yourself first.
Because, baby! You’re worth it!
This post is all about healing from bullying and ways to do it so that you can recover without any disruptions and take your power back!
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It can definitely be hard. I think the biggest thing is to realize it is a reflection on them not you and the things said are not true. I think the biggest thing is to never be ashamed or scared to stand up for yourself. They initiated and when you tried to be the bigger person they wouldn’t let up often times. When they disrespect for you, fight the good fight and don’t back down.
In terms of ways to overcome, I have learned a few things. One, be good to yourself. Treat yourself and buy those new shoes you want or that new fishing pole. Get your hair down. Buy a pair of sexy shorts, a bathing suit, whatever and realize you are beautiful. Two, find more time to talk to your true friends and do things with them. Those that are true inner circle friends, make time because they are the ones that always have your back.
Those are awesome ideas, Jill! And you’re absolutely right with realizing that the bullies behavior is a reflection on them. And that’s hard to do because it seems like the brain wants to do the opposite. It wants to focus the blame on you rather than blaming the right people. These are some awesome points here! Thank you for commenting!
Btw, allow me to apologize for not seeing your comment earlier. I haven’t checked my spam filter in a while and wordpress mistakingly puts legitimate comments in spam sometimes. Know that I always try to reply to comments as soon as possible and I will be checking my spam folder from now on.
The exercise one did me a lot of good. After I moved out of the toxic town, I made it my goal to make the school basketball team in my new town. Therefore, I practiced nearly every day. It helped get over the bullying too.
Exercise works wonders! I’m so proud of you for doing what you needed to do to get passed it, Michael!
Thank you.
My pleasure.