‘Want to know what happens when victims of bullying snap? Here is what happens when victims of bullying get fed up with the abuse.
Many victims become so fed up that they blow up on their bullies and beat the brakes off them. I’ve seen it happen, and it isn’t pretty.
Therefore, in this post, you will learn what happens when victims of bullying snap and why they do it. This is so that you will not only recognize when you’re about to snap, but also when another victim is about to explode.
Once you learn all about these crucial details, you will be able to stop it before it happens.
This post is all about what happens when victims of bullying snap, so that you can get a handle on it before you lose control of your emotions.
When Victims of Bullying Snap
Oftentimes, victims endure bullying for so long that the sadness builds until it turns to rage. People can only be pushed so far. And when someone pushes you over the limit, you snap and get out of character.
No one can endure bullying and abuse and stay quiet and polite forever. Human beings have their breaking point. And when a victim reaches their limit, things can become dangerous very quickly.
your give-a-damn has burst
If you are a victim of bullying, you will eventually get fed up with people’s crap. Then…BOOM! You snap at someone who pushed you over your limit.
Believe me, I understand, and if this has happened with you, I cannot fault you for it. I empathize with you wholeheartedly.
It’s not that you want to fight. In fact, you hate fighting. However, if you’re a 5’4”, 120 lb. teenage girl with a target on her back, what do you do? Stand there and let them jump you?
Like most targets, I too hated to fight, but there were times I didn’t have a choice. It was either fight or let them beat me within an inch of my life.
Not only would the girls try to jump me, but the guys would too. And sadly, most of those redneck brutes had no qualms or reservations about beating up on a female. It did not matter if she was little.
Some of them even threatened me with a knife or a box-cutter. Amazingly, I got out of there alive.
When Victims of Bullying Snap:
What happens when you reach your breaking point?
Short answer? You snap! That’s what bullying does to you if you don’t have the proper tools to deal with it. Bullying gives you paranoia and makes you desperate.
It puts you in survival mode! In scientific terms, it rewires your brain to always prepare for a hostile environment. It also awakens your primal instinct for self-preservation.
A victim of bullying lives on adrenaline. They must always be on alert. In other words, they must grow eyes in the back of their head.
To be a victim of bullying is to constantly prepare yourself for danger every time you turn a corner. However, after so long, this gets exhausting.
This comes from personal experiences.
I cannot count the times in school I showed my booty to people after taking all I could take. And there were times I didn’t just let off a little stream, I blew a gasket!
Understand that the longer you are bullied, the more the pressure builds. The sense of injustice! The sadness and rage! It all piles up, and, before you know it, you snap!
Again, we are all human. No one can hold it all inside forever; it doesn’t matter how resilient they are. It’s not humanly possible.
You’re like a bottle of soda that’s been shaken up until it finally spews. Like a dormant volcano that finally awakens, you erupt when that last creep crosses your boundaries.
Some people, you scare half to death. Others, you piss off even more and make them twice as determined to get you. And a few see your tirade as personal entertainment.
I did that a few times back when I was being bullied and abused at school.
There were times I’d yell, curse the bullies out, throw stuff, and slam doors. I would tell people to get the eff away from me and not to come back around, and I admit it. I showed the worst sides of myself on a few occasions.
When Victims of Bullying Snap:
Brutal Fights
I remember grabbing one girl by the hair and beating the living snot out of her in the library. This happened after she’d spent the last several months getting in my face and spouting taunts.
Another bully received the business end of a fist after attempting to shove me down a flight of stairs. I remember running back up the stairs and whacking her upside the head with a fist.
The second time I struck her, it was with my purse, then a textbook. I hit her with everything I had in my arms at the time.
The next thing I remember is dragging her down the stairs. As I pulled her down the steps, she hit and bounced off every step. “Thump, thump, thump, thump… “
Once I got her to the bottom, I beat and kicked her until a teacher and three other students pried me off her. These were only two of the many incidents that occurred during those years.
You end up doing things you regret later.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s not something I’m proud of. Each time this happened, I remember feeling terrible about it after everything cooled off.
No decent person wants to lose their composure and act foolishly. However, when you’ve been pushed for so long, there comes an eventual breaking point.
Yes, I got into fist fights. I won some fights, but I also lost a few.
When Victims of Bullying Snap:
It becomes a cycle.
Sadly, it all seemed to be a cycle. After getting bullied and bullied for several months, I’d snap. Some of the tiredness even bled over into my home life.
Sadly, when bullies have worn you down, you’re too exhausted to even be there for the people you love. Bullying causes you to run out of patience and energy.
You can’t pour from an empty cup. So, you just don’t give a crap about anything or anybody. All you want is to be left alone.
Looking back, I realize that I didn’t handle the bullying correctly. Therefore, you must understand that if you don’t set boundaries early, this is what happens. It’s why we have so many school shootings.
Again, it’s because most victims don’t handle bullying the right way.
Setting Boundaries can help you stay calm and handle bullying in a healthy way.
Today, I’m a much calmer and happier person than I used to be. Why? Because I’m more assertive and I set boundaries.
Here’s what I do if I say no or ask someone to please stop doing something and they continue: I either tell them to leave right then, or I walk away after telling the person exactly what I think of them. I then cut them out of my life.
You cannot control another person’s behavior. However, you do have control over how you react to it. You have the power to choose whether to continue having them in your life or send them packing.
Therefore, show them the door. Fast! Once you refuse to associate with them, they no longer have easy access to you. Therefore, it’s not nearly as easy for them to get to you and harm you.
Never allow people to bully you and get out of control with their abuse. Speak out when people violate your boundaries.
And do it from day one. It’s the only way to keep the pressure from building and reaching a boiling point.
When Victims of Bullying Snap:
Stand up for yourself.
I cannot stress enough the importance of standing up for yourself and doing it the right way. And timing is everything. You must do it in the early stages—the moment the bullying starts.
Why? Because if you don’t, your life will turn into a constant battle. You will react the wrong way. You will give over more and more of your power until you become powerless. Then, you will become angry and bitter. You may lash out at others.
Your reputation will plummet. As a result, others will mistake you for a bully when you’re only defending yourself.
This is why many victims who fight back are mistaken for bullies. When you take abuse for a long time and then snap, you have a hard time with people. In fact, you have difficulty with life in general. And it can ruin your future.
You can avoid this by standing up to bullies and practicing confident body language.
In closing
If this is similar to how your life is going, I cannot stress enough the importance of seeking help. Please don’t give up on yourself. There is still time to turn it around. You still have hope. You can make positive changes in your life.
The purpose of this post was to give you the information you need to recognize when you are headed toward your breaking point and provide ways to reverse course.
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