‘Want to know all the widely-held bullying myths that you need to bust right now? Here are all the wrong beliefs you need to know about.

People often mistake myths for facts and obscure people’s judgment. Myths can also blind you to bullying behavior, even when it’s happening right in front of your face. In fact, they can even make it hard for you to know when someone is abusing you.

Therefore, in this post, you will learn about all the bullying myths that are floating around and the facts that debunk them.

Once you learn all about these falsehoods, you will be able to see bullying exactly for what it is. Moreover, you will learn the facts about bullying rather than be misled by a bunch of myths.

This post is all about bullying myths so that you can better discern bullying facts from fiction.

Bullying Myths

There are many myths floating around about bullies and victims. And they’re wrong. Therefore, you must bust those myths if you’re a victim of bullying and you expect to get a fair shake.

Here are all the myths.

1. Victims are weak losers who deserve bullying.

Despite all the available information about bullying, there are people who still believe that you’re weak if you suffer at the hands of bullies. Moreover, they also believe that you’re a loser.

However, know this! You are not weak, nor are you a loser. In the past twenty years or so, we have found that bullies don’t only target people who are physically impaired in some way.

Moreover, they don’t only victimize those with mental handicaps or those who have difficulty in social situations. In fact, bullies target mostly those who are good people with hearts of gold.

Anyone who is multi-talented can fall victim of bullying.  Star achievers and performers often suffer bullying because they’re exceptional.

However, understand that bullies perceive these people to be threats to their power.

When high-achieving targets outshine bullies, especially those with narcissism, they unwittingly provoke jealousy. Therefore, bullies will pull out all the stops to make them pay.

If nothing else, understand this! Bullies hate to be beaten at anything!

Nobody deserves bullying. Ever! Bullying is harmful and can destroy someone’s life. You must realize that bullies are evil people who are predatory by nature. So, learn to see them for who they are.

2. Bullying Myths:

Bullies are brave, strong, cool, exciting, and in control.

Ha! Bullies are the opposite of these things. Let me break it down for you.

Bullies are brave.

Nope! Bullies are great, big cowards! They’re only good at hiding it. Bullies live by the motto that strength comes in numbers. Therefore, they run around in packs.

They hide their cowardice behind groups of flying monkeys. You will never catch a bully alone because a bully doesn’t know how to stand alone.

The bullies’ followers are there to back them up and do their dirty work. Realize that bullies get their power from an entourage.

Without their wing-men to cover them, they would be powerless.

Bullies are strong.

‘Taint so! Bullies are weak. They only hide it behind aggression, loudness, and false bravado. Moreover, bullies will instill unnecessary fear in you if you allow it.

‘You see? Bullies are notorious bluffs and blowhards. The tough act they put on is a way they hide their weakness.

And your fear is where they draw their power. Therefore, don’t be afraid of these windbags! Stand up to them and do it confidently.

Then, they’ll likely leave you alone and go find someone else to mess with.

Bullying Myths:

Bullies are cool.

Au contraire! Bullies are pathetic. They bluff, they posture, and they’re notorious one-uppers.

Moreover, they always have to be king of the hill and better than anyone else. All of this is a sign of insecurity and self-loathing.

Why? Because if they were secure in themselves, they wouldn’t resort to this type of buffoonery. People who are happy, confident and secure with themselves have nothing to prove.

Therefore, they don’t go around trying to intimidate others to get their point across.

 Bullies are exciting.

They may seem exciting at first, but they get boring pretty quick. Why? Because bullies are notorious for talking incessantly about themselves.

In other words, they brag and showboat until you want to chew off your arm just to get away from them. And they won’t be so exciting when they turn on you.

 Bullies are in control.

Really? Is that what you want to call it? Um…not!

Bullies can’t control their own pathetic lives. So, they seek to control you in order to feel powerful.

And in doing that, they create enemies who hate them with a passion. Bullies may control their victims to a certain degree. And they may put the fear of God in them.

However, they’ll never control what those victims think of them. Because the mind and thoughts are free.

And if they run across someone who has a strong sense of self, what are they going to do then? Some people won’t fall for their guff.

3. Bullying Myths:

Bullying is a normal rite of passage that all people endure.

Not so. There’s nothing normal about bullying. Moreover, it’s not a rite of passage. And there are many people who never suffer bullying.

Therefore, another bullying myth bites the dust!

Here’s what bullying is. It’s perverse, twisted, and sick. Bullying only speaks volumes of the bully’s lack of character. It never reflects on you.

Bullying is always a reflection of the bully’s insecurity, jealousy, and hidden rage. And the more we learn about it, the more evidence we get that supports this.

4. Bullying builds character.

No, it doesn’t. It tears it down and suppresses it.

Bullying instills fear in its victims. It makes them afraid to relax and be themselves. People don’t feel safe when bullies target them.

In fact, being bullied can cause victims to shut down. And they bury parts of themselves for their own safety.

As a result, bullying can lead to low self-esteem and poor mental health. So, stand up to bullies and they’ll likely leave you alone.

5. Bullying Myths:

Bullying is only Darwinism, Natural Selection, or Survival of the Fittest.

It may be a dark part of human nature, but a reason doesn’t equal an excuse. Bullies and their enablers often use this line as an excuse for their rotten behavior.

Moreover, supporters of it say this to normalize this despicable and pathetic behavior.

This is why it’s important not to fall for these myths. You must dispel them to protect yourself.

And never blame yourself for someone else’s crappy behavior. Hold on to your truth.

If anyone rattles off any of the above lines when you speak out against bullying, counter those statements. And do it with conviction!

Other facts about bullying

1. You can never appease a bully.

Never! This goes no matter what you do to satisfy the bullies and no matter how many times you tell them what they want to hear.

If you submit to them, your bullies may go away and leave you alone for the time being. However, they always come back for more.

Bullying Myths:

You can never submit your way out of being abused.

Put another way, the more you submit, the more your bullies will hound you. Why? Because it’s how they get what they want from you.

Moreover, by cowing down to them, you make yourself look weak. And bullies prey on weakness.

Therefore, stand up to them and they’ll leave you alone.

Sometimes it takes a final showdown before your bullies will finally give you the respect you deserve and go find another target to bully. Think of the movie “Tombstone.”

2. Bullies thrive on your fear of retaliation and further harm.

Know that your fear is understandable because it is a natural human response to danger. So, I don’t blame you for it.

However, you must realize that your bullies thrive on your perfectly normal fear response. And they will exploit it every chance they get!

Why? Because your fear has, so far, gotten them what they want. So, why would they stop?

Begin standing up to these creeps! You may face the possibility of getting beat within an inch of your life. But you’ll never improve your situations unless you learn to take risks.

3. Bullying myths:

Bullies only understand strength and power. They do not understand reason, diplomacy, nor politeness.

There are no polite ways to handle bullies.  Also, you can never reason with them.

Realize that bullies only see niceties, pleasantries, and politeness as weaknesses to exploit and manipulate.

Therefore, you must communicate with your bullies in the only language they understand. You must meet them exactly where they are.

This means refusing to be afraid to set boundaries. And when you set your boundaries, you must do it firmly and mean it!

Moreover, you cannot just set boundaries and expect your bullies to respect them. You must also enforce those boundaries with consequences.

Why? Because your bullies will see this as a challenge. And you can best believe they will rise to that challenge.

In other words, they will violate your newly established boundaries just to dare you and prove to you that they can. And when they do, make sure that the consequences are severe enough to make them stop!

The consequences must be so severe that your bullies won’t even want to look in your direction again, much less mess with you.

This is how you earn respect!

In closing, realize that your bullies want you to believe these myths. They do not want you to know the facts. Therefore, do your research. Once you learn the truth your bullies try to hide, you’ll feel more confident in yourself. I promise!

This post was all about bullying myths and facts so that you’ll know that the bullying you suffer is no reflection on you and that bullies are more pathetic than you think.

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