No victim, no bullying. In other words, there can’t be bullying if there’s no victim. ‘Want to know why? Here are all the reasons bullies need victims.

Every day, bullies fool their victims into believing that they need their approval to have a good life.

Therefore, in this post you will learn the true meaning behind the phrase, “no victim, no bullying,” and why your bullies work hard to brainwash you and look like they have absolute power over you.

Once you learn all about these life-changing truths, you will instantly know that you have the power to run your own life and your bullies won’t be near as threatening to you.

This post will give you all the truths you need to know and make you realize, no victim, no bullying. When you realize that bullying cannot thrive without victims, you’ll be encouraged to stand up to your bullies and refuse to be a victim any longer.

No victim, no Bullying

There are reasons why bullies brainwash you into thinking that they’re all powerful and that they have the power to dictate your life. Moreover, they fool you into thinking that you need them somehow.

They want you to think that you need them! You don’t. In fact, it’s just the opposite. Understand that your bullies need you more than you will ever need them!

You may be scratching your head, wondering what I’m talking about. Moreover, you may wonder why they need you.

Here’s why bullies need victims And why Your bullies need you.

1. Bullies Need You to Demonstrate their power before others.

They use these victims as guinea pigs on which, to demonstrate their might. Understand that, if you’re a victim of bullying, your bullies will use you as an example to everyone else that they’re not ones to mess with.

Therefore, other people won’t stand up to them either. Why? Because they don’t want to be another you.

Bystanders would rather the bullies keep jerking you around. Why? Because, at least, they’re not coming after them. Therefore, they watch you getting bullied and think, “Nope! I don’t want none of that!”

2. They need You to feel better about themselves.

It’s no secret that most bullies are the most insecure souls on earth. Why? Because most average people wouldn’t go around abusing other people without a good reason.

If  you’re confident and secure in yourself, you don’t have to do these things. Therefore, many bullies feel bad about themselves. In fact, they don’t feel like they’re good enough.

Your bullies need someone they can be better than. Because, if you’re not better than somebody, than you’re on the bottom of the shit heap.

3. No Victim, no Bullying:

Bullies need a scapegoat.

Your bullies need you to blame their stupidity and bad behavior on. Moreover, they need you to be a dumping ground for all their problems and frustrations.

Also, they must use you as a distraction from their own shortcomings. Understand that if they can project all their flaws unto you, then others will be too busy looking at you instead of them.

Therefore, it’s easier for your bullies to hide their own imperfections by using you as a distraction.

Think about it, bullies are cowards. So, they hide that by making you afraid. Then, you’re the one who looks cowardly.

The use of a scapegoat is nothing new.

It’s as old as time. In fact, during the Medieval Period, kings and other monarchs often used scapegoats to keep their hands clean – or at least make them look clean.

Back then, it was common practice to execute scapegoats for the wrongdoings of kings. Blaming them and putting them to death kept the scapegoats quiet and the kings above reproach.

Therefore, the monarchs could continue unquestioned, and smelling like roses. Bullies do the same today, only in different ways.

No victim, No Bullying:

Bullying and scapegoating go hand in hand.

The purpose of scapegoating is to force another person to accept blame for sins of which you are guilty. Sadly, the person blamed is often innocent. Even sadder is the fact that he’s usually the one least likely to fight back. The person is then punished and sacrificed.

Bullies are notorious for refusing to accept blame for any wrongdoing or mistake. So, they search for the most convenient person to lay blame on- their target. And what’s the victim going to do about it?

The ability to transfer guilt to their victims gives bullies immense power. Understand that bullies depend on appearances to maintain their fake facades of gleaming-white perfection. Well-seasoned bullies must appear to be god-like at all times.

4. Bullies need victims like you for entertainment.

They don’t only need you for their own entertainment. But, they need to use you to entertain others and get a few laughs out of their audience.

Why? Because most bullies crave attention. Also, they want people to admire them. Therefore, they try to humiliate you in public to get those things.

5. Bullies need To Keep You Under their Control.

Think about it. Domestic abusers, who are also bullies, do the same to their partners. They keep them dependent by making them believe that they need them.

Why? To keep control of them. Only domestic abusers keep their partners dependent by keeping a tight grip on any money that come into the household.

Moreover, domestic abusers close their partners off from any job opportunities. They also cut them off from their friends and family who may loan them money.

Make no mistake! This is all designed to keep the abused partner in the relationship.

Abuse is abuse, whether it comes in the form of bullying or domestic violence.

No Victim, No Bullying:

Dictators and totalitarian governments do the same thing to their people.

Socialist and Communist governments, also bullies, want their people to think they need them. And they do so by forcing them to become dependent on them.

In that, they can keep control of their speech, their behavior, and their thoughts. So, how do these tyrannical governments keep their citizenry dependent?

They do it by controlling all the resources – food, the water supply, energy distribution, income and wealth distribution.

Why? Because, if you can keep someone dependent, you can make the rules and tell them what they can and cannot do. Even worse, you can force them to put up with horrible treatment.

Therefore, if you can make someone think they need you, you can force them put up with bullshit that they, under normal circumstances, would not tolerate.

Make them dependent on you for their very survival, and you can control every aspect of a person’s life!

What Do you think you’d have to depend on bullies for?

For acceptance and approval. Also, for the ability to make friends and establish relationships. Yes, many targets of bullying have been hoodwinked into thinking that they should depend on their bullies to have these things.

This kind of brainwashing is how bullies keep you begging for it. They dangle carrots of acceptance in front of your face.

Then, when you reach for those carrots, they jerk them back. And the reasons why bullies do this is to keep you begging.

Bullies want you to believe that you’re nothing without their approval. Moreover, they want you to think that you can’t make friends, find a date, or have any successes without their say so.

In short, they want you to think that they control your very existence

But, make no mistake! This is how they brainwash you to wrest complete control and domination over your life.

If they can make you believe that you’re nothing without their approval, then they succeed in taking away your power!

No Victim, No Bullying:

It’s all about control.

When bullies do this, they keep you afraid to be your own person. Moreover, they keep you scared to exercise your autonomy, speak freely, be creative, and to flourish.

In that, your bullies keep you fearful of standing up to them. They stop you from calling them out on their atrocious behavior and asserting your God-given right not to be abused.

Understand that bullies, domestic abusers, and oppressive governments have the same in common. To control everyone, favor their friends, and destroy their targets.

It’s how they keep everyone dependent and obligated, and, therefore preserve dominance and power over them.

6. Your Bullies Need you for their convenience.

Realize that in the minds of bullies, you and everyone else are only there for their convenience. In other words, you serve their purpose and their agenda. Nothing more!

If you’re exceptionally intelligent, you pose the biggest threat to your bullies’ positions. On the other hand, if you’re naïve, bullies will exploit it to the fullest.

Why? Because they know that naïve people aren’t taken seriously. Also, the naïve tend to overdo their claims of innocence. And others often mistake it as a sign of guilt.

7. No Victim, No Bullying:

They need you to destroy.

Especially if you threaten them somehow! Bullies contain threats by undermining them and wearing them down with constant smear campaigns.

They’re also use exclusion, and personal attacks to lower your social standing.  Again, most smart victims are socially intelligent. They stay calm when their bullies are reeking social havoc around them.

However, if you’re one of those socially intelligent victims, you’ll likely overdo being calm and relaxed. And others may mistake your stoicism for guilt.

Why? Because they’ll assume that your keeping it together is only an act and that you’re hiding something.

8. They need you to take responsibility for their negative feelings.

Here’s another reason your bullies need you. They need someone to make responsible for their negative feelings. They need you to be a lightning rod for their feelings of inadequacy, insecurity, and hurt.

And when they make you responsible for their bad feelings, you become the offender who must be punished and eliminated.

9. No Victim, No Bullying:

Your bullies need you to use as a dumping ground for all their emotional issues.

To combat their negative emotions, bullies demand that you take their shit. Also, they insist that you show them respect at all times. And, to bullies giving them respect equals allowing them to abuse you without protest.

Moreover, they also have the attitude that you should do whatever they tell you to do and make them feel powerful.

10. Your bullies need a bottom rat to ensure that they don’t end up on the bottom.

If you’re a target of bullying, they need you to stay on the bottom. Therefore, your bullies will go out of their way to keep you there. Every pecking order needs whipping boys.

In other words, they need easy victories for the higher-ups to collect.

If you are a target of bullying, I want you to understand that bullies consider it crucial that you stay on the bottom. Why? Because bottom rats make them and everyone else look good.

When your brutalize you, everything must appear as if you had it coming. Your bullies need to make everyone think that they were wronged by your stupidity, incompetence, and evil.

In Closing:

If nothing else, know this! You do not need approval from anyone except the people who love you back. If someone doesn’t see your worth, their opinions of you shouldn’t matter.

Therefore, stop allowing your bullies to program you into believe that you need them. Because, in reality, they are the ones who need you. Only they’ll never tell you that.

Lastly, realize that bullying cannot exist if there’s no victim. In other words, no victim, no bullying. Therefore, decide once and for all that you aren’t going to be a victim anymore.

Stand up to your bullies and take your power back!

This post is all about the true meaning of “no victim, no bullying” to encourage you to take yourself out of the victim role and find a more powerful role for yourself.

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