‘Want to know how to stop a bully from bullying you? This includes how to stop a narcissist from bullying you and how to stop a teacher from bullying you. Here are thirteen time-tested responses to bullies and bullying that you need to know.
Having a bully on your tail can be frustrating, and that’s putting it mildly. If you’re like I was, you’re wondering what you can do to make this person go away and restore your peace of mind.
As someone whose experienced bullying firsthand, I’m giving you powerful tips on how to stop a bully from bullying you so that you can take your safety back.
You will learn about the most powerful strategies you can use to discourage bullies from coming for you and finally live a peaceful life.
Once you learn these time-tested strategies, you will make your bully think twice before targeting you again and you will win back your confidence, safety, and overall freedom.
This post is all about how to stop a bully from bullying you and the strategies you must use so that you can take back not only your confidence and self-esteem, but also a degree of control over what happens in your life.
How to stop a bully from bullying you
Many targets and victims of bullying have asked, “When will they stop bullying me?” That’s a fair question when it seems that everyone is bullying you every day for everything.
Therefore, here’s your answer. Bullies will stop bullying when you take away their power.
But…how do you take away their power?
You do it by using these strategies:
1. Stop giving a crap what people think or what they say.
However, getting to the point of not caring takes several realizations. It takes understanding what is behind the bullying and accepting that some people just don’t matter and are not meant for you.
Hey. I know it’s easier said than done. We all want to be liked and approved of by others. To be accepted and a part of a group is a natural human need.
But, some people are just no good for us. Toxic people do not deserve to be in your life, and bullies are toxic people. So why should their opinions matter?
Understand that when you finally stop giving a crap what other people think, that’s when people will stop bullying you.
Believe this: There will come a time when the bullies have pulled the same shenanigans for so long that it will all become boring to you. I say this because that’s the way it went with me.
That’s when their words and tricks will no longer have any effect on you and the way you see yourself.
As a result, it will take the wind out of your bullies’ sails. They will soon leave you alone and move on to someone else. Then, your life will skyrocket!
2. How to stop a bully from bullying you: Realize that everyone endures trash-talk, not just you.
You must realize that there will always be those with something negative to say. Understand that everyone gets talked about and that everyone has haters.
When you finally realize that you aren’t the only one people trash, you will have a whole new perspective that will serve as a buffer to any attacks bullies may launch.
Therefore, accept the fact that not everyone will like you and be okay with it. People are going to talk about you until the day you die, and even beyond. It’s just a part of life.
3. Know that a bully’s attacks say more about them than about you.
Again, just let them talk and embrace it! Stop thinking that something must be wrong with you. Because you’re fine just the way you are.
In fact, here are a few positive ways you can look at it:
A. When people talk about you, good or bad, at least you know you aren’t boring.
And most people would rather be “bad” than boring. Also, you must be doing something right if people are mentioning you all the time. When they talk about you, good or bad, they make you relevant.
B. When people talk smack about you, it only means you still consume their minds.
So, who’s really in control here?
C. You have a lot of power if you can stir resentment or hate in someone without trying or meaning to. It only goes to show that the dummy doing the talking can easily be controlled by you with little effort on your part.
D. They must really admire you and want to be like you.
Otherwise, you wouldn’t even be an afterthought to them. They’re admitting that they don’t have lives of their own. So, they take an interest in yours, which means that your life must be more interesting than theirs!
E. They have an Obsession with you.
Like the old saying goes, “He who angers you controls you.”
So, why not feel good about it and, even better, take advantage of it by letting them talk. Because some things don’t need a defense.
Just sit back, smile, and let the pettiness amuse you. Be your sweet self, and others will see through the petty attacks too.
When you finally wise up and take this approach, the results will surprise you and your only regret will be that you didn’t realize this earlier.
Therefore, attitude is what it’s all about. With the right attitude, you can beat your bullies without ever lifting a finger!
4. Know that you do not need their approval and shouldn’t even consider it.
Bullies love to brainwash you into thinking you need their approval. You don’t!
Moreover, bullies draw their power from brainwashing another person and making them believe that they’re nothing without their approval. Don’t give your bullies that kind of power.
In other words, don’t believe those lies. Ask yourself this question. “Who are they that my worth should depend on their approval?”
The truth is that you are enough and always have been and you don’t need their approval. Your bullies aren’t that important.
5. Realize that your bullies’ so-called coolness and badassery are only illusions.
Understand that bullies are not what they would have you believe. They’re not so tough. They aren’t the baddest mothers in the land. They’re only good at keeping up appearances and fooling others.
Moreover, once you ferret out your bullies’ weaknesses and see that they really aren’t all that, you will have confidence you never thought possible. You will easily blow them off with a “whatever.”
Your bullies will then move on to someone else because bullies can’t thrive without a victim.
To put it another way, take the victim out of the equation, and bullies have nothing. Remove yourself from the equation, and you have everything!
Therefore, you can only do this when you stop caring. Period.
6. If Bullies Get Physical, Defend yourself.
In other words, if a bully lays so much as a finger on you, punch them smack in the nose. Then keep punching the bully until he’s down for the count.
Remember that bullies only understand power, strength, and brute force. Therefore, you must communicate with them in the only language they understand.
Regardless of what school officials, managers, the media, and anyone in authority says, bullies will stop bullying you once you give them all five directly in the face. And I say this from experience.
Again, a good tail whipping works wonders.
Reclaim your power and watch your life become more rewarding than you ever imagined!
7. How to stop a bully from bullying you: If your bully tries to verbally assault you, don’t stay quiet.
In other words, respond to verbal abuse by coming back with a good burn. Why? Because burns always humiliate bullies, especially if an audience is present.
Moreover, counter the verbal attack with something funny, that stings even worse.
Bullies absolutely fear being humiliated and once you embarrass one bad enough and make him look like a chump, he’ll never bother you again.
This usually takes quick wit. However, this can be developed and mastered.
When a bully is verbally attacking you, the last thing you want to do is to say nothing at all. You may think you are ignoring the bully and you may very well be.
However, most bullies don’t see it as you ignoring them. No. They see it as either fear or defiance and they will only double down and really try to get you from then on.
Therefore, you must shut it down right when it begins. Again, a good burn is always best because it not only stuns the bully and throws them off balance, it also humiliates them.
So, deliver an awesome burn and the bully just may leave you alone and move on to an easier target.
Moreover, you will take back your safety and peace of mind.
This post was all about how to stop a bully from bullying you so that you can take back your safety, dignity, and your confidence.
Related posts you’ll enjoy:
1. Setting Boundaries: 3 Powerful Practices to Hold Your Ground
2. Physical Bullying: Should You Hit Back?
3. Signs of Toxic People: 5 Tell-Tale Indicators
4. Signs of Gaslighting: The 7 Signs You Must Know
5. Important Facts About Bullying: 3 Truths You Must Learn
Thank you for your article, have a very nice day, 🙂
You’re so welcome. And a nice day to you as well. 🙂
This is really such a good post and it made me realize that bullying doesn’t just happen in the context we often think of it. As in school settings when kids pick on you. No. It transcends to adulthood as well and sometimes we might fail to recognize the signs. Could be a partner, a friend, a coworker, a boss. We all want their approval, we easily become the yes people, we easily become targets especially new career entrants and it might take such a long time before one realizes what is going on. PS. This was a long comment but your post did really give a lot to think about.
You’re doing fine because I like long comments. 🙂 And you’re so right. Bullying happens not only in school but at work too, with new employees being the most vulnerable. Bullying can also happen by way of neighborhood bullying, spousal and child abuse. Those we think are friends may also bully us. You’re absolutely right with everything you mentioned here. Any form of abuse, whether it be sexual abuse, abuse of a worker by a boss, or domestic abuse IS a form of bullying because there’s a clear imbalance of power. Thank you so much for your wonderful comment! <3
You are welcome and thank you for the sharing the content ❤️
My pleasure. 😃
The problem with me is that I’ve never been quick witted. With everything, I got to go off and contemplate the universe in my thumbnail and then I can come back with an amazing answer. That was one reason why I suffered at the hands of bullies for so long.
I suffered that very same affliction due to lack of confidence, Michael. So, I completely understand where you’re coming from. Thankfully, I’m now pretty quick witted, which is one reason I no longer get bullied. The good thing is that quick wit can be learned.
I definitely advocate fighting back! I know there is a lot of fear for some people to do that and there is the potential for the person defending his or herself to get in trouble or sometimes even be blamed for it but sometimes you have to take possible short-term ramifications to change the dynamics. Bullies are cowards and the way I see it, if the bully wins then that was the expectation they had established. But by standing up to them, you are likely to get some admirers thinking “I wish I had their guts.” Or if you do fairly well whether you win or lose or its a draw, if you hang in longer than expected, you won that battle. Also, the bully even if they win is less likely to pick on you because they want an easier target. Finally they sometimes will back down and claim “you aren’t worth it” but it comes out of fear they will be exposed as a coward. And if you happen to win, then their reputation is completely gone. I have seen someone who was smaller and come across as meek surprise people by winning. I have seen some females get the best of a male. So many things and yes it takes guts but if someone is picking on my kid and they didn’t initiate it, by all means defend yourself!
Exactly right, Jill. Because, by standing up for yourself, you win respect.