We all know that bullies are cowards who hide behind a façade. But what makes that façade? What are the exact ingredients that make up the bully’s façade?
Before I give you each ingredient in detail, let me tell you that bullies are like peacocks. They like to strut around and fan out their tails, showing us their prettiest colors. And they do this to collect admirers, followers, and allies. That’s exactly what the bully’s façade is used for- to draw people to them. And bullies are good at duping their cohorts into thinking that they’re perfect and can’t be touched.
Only their targets know what’s behind the facades- victims know the real people behind the masks. So, again, what exactly are the ingredients that bullies use to build their carefully crafted facades and promote those fake images?
Here are your answers:
1. Impeccable Attire. Most seasoned and well-practiced bullies dress in the best and latest fashions. These people love to be pleasing to the eyes because they understand that, sadly, most people are materialistic and beauty-obsessed, and everything is based on appearances. So, they wear the fanciest clothes, the trendiest hairstyles, the sexiest makeup, etc.
They show off these things to look the best and give the appearance that they’re rolling in money and that their life is perfect- all to impress others. Most of all, bullies also do it for one-upmanship!
And…here’s something else! Many of my bullies didn’t have a pot to pee in or a window to throw it out. Not that being poor makes a person bad, but!
Most bullies will go flat broke buying fancy clothes and sporty cars to pimp around town in just to keep up a fake persona. And they’ll be up to their eyeballs in debt. Many of these people are constantly having a hard time paying or failing to pay their bills.
They’re the types who will run to mommy and daddy for bailouts and handouts, yet they spend a fortune on clothes, hairstyles, manicures, pedicures, facials, cosmetic surgeries, you name it!
Because of this, I’ve known many workplace bullies who committed crimes such as theft, embezzlement, and forgery because they lived way beyond their means and got their butts in a crack they couldn’t get out of. And they got caught!
2. They put on a good show. Seasoned bullies are also the best showmen. They put on an act to gain admiration, support, or sympathy. They make grand gestures. They’re good at reading people and finding out their likes and dislikes and how they react to certain stimuli. They make themselves constantly hyperaware of the people and moods around them, then adapt to them.
You’ll often find these bullies standing in the very center of the rooms they’re in, and they’re the types who despise being outshone, outsmarted, or outdone.
3. They’re master wordsmiths. They use clichés, euphemisms, and loaded words to impress others with their speech. They also use big words to prove how smart they are when, in reality, they’re as incompetent as they come. They also tell people what they want to hear and say everything with conviction. This is why they’re such convincing liars and why they’re so good at making the target look like the bad guy.
But here’s something else you need to know:
Although seasoned bullies are very popular among people, they’re also hated and feared by rivals and enemies. And they do eventually get brought down. I’ve seen it happen many times.
Julius Caesar was one such example.
“Caesar had his Brutus and Charles I, his Cromwell…” – Patrick Henry.
With knowledge comes empowerment!
Superb post. Always love reading your posts.
Thank you so much! 💖
Julius Caesar is my favourite Shakespeare play…Caesar was certainly a model bully 💖💖
Yes he was! We studied Shakespeare and “Julius Caesar” in ninth-grade English years ago and I loved it! 😍
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I’ve seen the same thing in people who like to push other people around. They put on a good show, but have nothing below the surface.
Exactly, Molly! 💖 You said that perfectly! 💯
Another great post. Cherie! I worked for someone who was precisely as you stated: “standing in the very center of the rooms they’re in, and they’re the types who despise being outshone, outsmarted, or outdone” Gosh, one time my bullyboss came into MY classroom, proclaimed that of course my room ran like a well oiled ship afterall, because I was one of HER teachers and then twirled like Mary Tyler Moore in the opening of her old show back in the 70s. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z1GC6yXZ4e4
I kid you not!
Omgoodness! 😯 Sounds like she had a serious case of narcissism- mental illness!
That she surely did, Cherie!
Ok this is interesting because I recently removed a guy from my life who is literally the Top Business Person of Burnaby this year. He’s worked very hard in his industry (and probably throws many people under the bus to get where he is, honestly), but he’s childish and makes fun of women. He strings them along and plays games. Had a BMW. Of course, not all successful people are bullies, but I think success can enable people to be that way if they are naturally a bully.
I’m glad you got rid of him for your own mental health, Sara! You did right. 💖💐🌹 And it’s true that if people are naturally bullies, success will only fuel their arrogance.
You are so very right about power and knowledge. By continuing to exercise my desire to out this clod contractor, I found the information that should put him in line to go to jail. Thank you for giving encouragement through your thoughtful talks about bullying
You’re most welcome. 💖💐🌹 And thank you for your encouragement. I hope you get your justice and fairness.
Bullies are really sad and pathetic individuals who spend their lives looking over there shoulders . . . as you say, they eventually are brought down.
You’re absolutely right, Mark! 💯 They are! It’s because they’ve bullied so many people and made so many enemies and that in itself makes them paranoid- and rightfully so! What a miserable existence, huh? 😁😁😁
Agreed about the miserable existence. Life’s way too short.
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