‘Want to know why bullies won’t leave you alone? Here are all the reasons bullies keep coming after you so that you can plan your defense accordingly.

Once bullies get a bead on you, they are relentless. In fact, they are the most persistent people on earth. They are like a dog with a bone, and most won’t stop coming after you until they get you.

Therefore, in this post, you will learn all the reasons bullies won’t leave you alone, so you will no longer feel confused and can begin taking the proper steps to defend yourself and restore your safety.

Once you learn all about these vital details, you will be better prepared when bullies place a target on your back.

This post explains why bullies won’t leave you alone, helping you clear up the confusion and become more determined to stand up for yourself.

Why Bullies Won’t Leave You Alone

If you’re a target of bullying, I’m confident that you’ve asked these questions a million times over.

• “These bullies despise me so much. Why don’t they get a life and leave me alone?”
• “They think that I’m such a bad person, so why don’t they just let me go?”
• “Why don’t they just forget me, go on about their business, and let me go on about mine?”
• “If I’m such a disgusting person to them, then why can’t my bullies simply just stay away from me?”
• “My bullies hate me so much. So, wouldn’t it be better for everyone if they stayed away from me? If they just went on and did their thing and let me do mine?
• “If I’m as loathsome as they say I am, why waste the energy to chase me down and harass me?”
• “Why would people continue to pursue a person they so vehemently detest?”
• “Why do they keep talking to me at all, even if it is abusive?”

After all, it would be a sensible solution to their problem. They stay away from you; you stay away from them, then everyone can be shiny and happy. Right?

Unfortunately, that’s not how it works out.

As much as I hate to tell you, bullies will never go away and allow you to live in peace. If they have selected you to be their target, they won’t just go away quietly.

Here’s why.

1. Their Goal is to Dominate you.

Bullies can’t dominate you by staying away from you. To lord it over you, they must engage you. They must stick close to you. You can’t dominate if you don’t watch the person.

Understand that a bully’s entire mission in life is to dominate and subjugate…period. And if not you, anyone. You just happen to be the easiest victim for them. You are the person they have in their sights.

Therefore, their goal is to subjugate you, to hold you down, and oppress you. Realize that this is the only way bullies can thrive. In fact, their very ethos is in mentally or physically enslaving and tormenting you.

2. Why Bullies Won’t Leave You Alone:

bullying you gives them meaning in their lives.

In short, the only way bullies can have some semblance of meaning in their own lives is to dominate another human being. Why? Because they could never attain (or obtain) power any other way.

Outside of trying to control and keep a tight grip on others’ lives, bullies can’t find meaning. And they don’t have any sense of effectiveness or self-worth.

Bullies have no substance. They have zero redeemable qualities. The vast majority are only life losers disguised as winners and cloaked in false perfection.

So, it makes perfect sense that the only way they find meaning is through subjugation. Therefore, they ride roughshod over people they perceive to have the least power.

You must realize that if your bullies just left you alone, they would have nothing else. Why? Because there is nothing left out there for them.

3. Outside of the places they take over, Bullies are nothing.

These bullies may indeed run the school, workplace, or community. However, outside of those environments, they take over and rule with iron fists; they have nothing, zip, zilch, squat!

On the other hand, you have a healthy mentality. You don’t have to bully others to find meaning in your life. Why? Because chances are that you already have it outside the bullying environment.

Unlike your bullies, you find meaning through unity and togetherness with your family and friends. You also discover it through your church, home, talents, hobbies, and interests.

Sadly, bullies don’t have these things to fall back on.

4. Why Bullies Won’t Leave You Alone:

Bullies need victims.

Understand that bullies must have victims. In fact, they need them. Bullies need people whom they can oppress and subjugate. They crave people they can order around and tell what to do.

Bullying itself requires targets. Take the target out of the equation, and bullying ceases to exist.

If one is going to be in charge, there must be people to be in charge of. You can’t be a ruler if there are no people around. In other words, you’re not the boss of anything if there are no people to boss around.

You can’t be a king if there’s no kingdom, because for a kingdom even to exist, there must be people living in it for you to rule.

Put another way, it would be like discovering a deserted island and declaring yourself king of that island. If a king has no people to rule, he has no kingdom and, therefore, no power.

It’s the same with bullies. Without targets to lord over, there’s no power for them to have and enjoy.

5. Without victims, bullies have no power.

Here’s another thing to consider. If you’re a target of bullying, your bullies don’t like the fact that you want to get away from them. Why? Because if you were to escape their abuse and declare yourself a separate person, you would take their power right along with you.

Therefore, the thought of you leaving the environment only enrages your bullies. Moreover, any attempts you make to evade them will be met with intense anger. Then, they will escalate the abuse to punish you.

Again, when you flee or fight back, you’re attempting to take away the only power they have.

When Bullies Won’t Leave You Alone:

The battered wife.

The same thing happens when a battered wife finally musters up the courage to leave her abusive husband. It drives him up the wall, and not because he’s lost her. It’s because he has lost power over her.

Bullies are no different. Their rage and hostility at the possibility of you either fighting back or leaving the environment is all about the threat of losing power.

Remember that bullying is abuse. And, just like domestic violence, rape, molestation, or any other form of abuse, it is about power.

Since bullying and abuse are the same, they’re both about power.

Therefore, bullies will never allow you to live in peace. The reason bullies won’t leave you alone is that to do so would mean them losing the only thing they have- their power…over you.

6. power is addictive.

The power that bullies get from bullying you is addictive. It gives them a rush of authority. However, that rush wears off quickly.

In other words, bullying is like a drug. And like any drug, it gives the user a high or a rush. When it wears off, the user then searches for another hit.

Power is addictive. And bullies are insecure people with fragile egos. They’re insecure people in control.

As long as they can keep you worn down, where you accept their abuse, they have power over you. And the longer they have power over you, the more addicted they become to it.

Their pathetic little egos feed off of controlling you. And the more they feed their egos at your expense, the stronger that power-addiction becomes.

However, once you get an ass full and decide to stand up to the creeps, you take back your power. Then your bullies become outraged. Why? Because you have taken away the very thing they’ve become addicted to.

7. Why Bullies Won’t Leave You Alone:

Bullying is like a drug to bullies.

How does someone who’s addicted to drugs act when you suddenly cut them off from their drug supply? They climb the walls! It’s the same with bullies when you defend yourself and take back your power – the drug they’re addicted to.

Therefore, to bring you back under their control, your bullies might put on the nice act and become apologetic. However, this doesn’t happen often because bullies are prideful.

In most cases, your bullies will increase the abuse. They will reinforce their power by punishing you for defending yourself. For instance, verbal bullies begin verbally assaulting you, and you counter them with a good burn.

Your bullies may dial up the abuse by giving you a good beating. It’s a fact that most verbal bullies become physical bullies. And this is why.

Bullying always escalates. Why? Because, as with a drug, the user builds a tolerance to it. Therefore, they need more of the drug. With bullying, bullies may start by calling you names. But that soon loses its thrill.

Then the bullies escalate it and begin physically abusing you.

8. You’re an easy target.

Because you don’t fight back, they know they can get away with it. In other words, by not defending yourself, you only reward their behavior.

So, who wouldn’t keep doing it if it gives them the rewards they’re looking for?

The only way your bullies will leave you alone is if you start setting boundaries. That means imposing consequences on anyone who violates your boundaries.

Therefore, you must defend yourself from bullying if you want bullies to leave you alone. It’s the only way to get them to stop.

This post was all about why bullies won’t leave you alone so that you will begin defending yourself and take back your right to safety.

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