Want to know the types of people to avoid to protect yourself from bullying and abuse? Here are all the people you need to be aware of.
One of the first steps in protecting yourself from bullying is to know what types of people you should avoid. Therefore, in this post, you will learn all the types of people to avoid to keep yourself safe.
Once you learn all about these types of people, you will be able to spot them a mile away and avoid them like the plague.
This post is all about the types of people to avoid so that you can become more bully-proof and resistant to all kinds of human predators.
Types of People to Avoid
Trusting your feelings is also important. Why? Because some people are experts at hiding their true intentions. It’s a good thing we all have a sixth sense and can sense the vibes and energy others put out. This can also work in our favor.
Here are the types of rotten eggs to be aware of and avoid at all costs:
1. The gossip
The gossip is a walking tabloid. You’ll see and hear her talking trash about different people, and you’ll notice she does it all the time.
Many gossips will even talk about people they don’t know. They always seem to know everything about everyone- everything, short of their bathroom habits.
So, know this! If they talk about others, they will talk about you, too. Ditch these people…fast!
Gossipers, Busybodies, and Buttinskies
Maybe it’s the nosy classmate who’s never short of personal and intimate questions about your private life. Or it’s the workplace gossip who never shuts up and always seems to know your business before you do.
Maybe you have a nosy neighbor across the street who forever peers through her window at you and the other neighbors. Whoever they are, these types can be a real hemorrhoid to those of us who only want to be left alone.
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The end goal is power and control!
Understand that these people can be bullies too. Their gossip, butting in, and having a constant nose stuck in your life can be a form of attempted control.
Bullies will often ask you personal questions to embarrass or humiliate you. And they will be the kinds of questions that make you cringe! Naturally, it may upset you and you might storm off.
However, what you should do is laugh, make fun of and humiliate them. And enjoy every minute of it.
Realize that even in the adult world, you’re going to have people with more nerve than a bad tooth. There will be those who will pry into your business and openly ask you personal, even embarrassing questions.
You might as well prepare for it now because they’re everywhere!
2. The big–nose
This person is virulently nosy and should be considered a twin sister to the gossip. Why? Because most gossips tend to have their faces in everyone’s business.
You will often find them asking personal questions and eavesdropping on conversations. Also, you may see them eyeing people intensely and butting in. They insert their cheap two cents where it doesn’t belong.
While we’re on the subject of nosy people, let’s delve a little deeper.
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The Difference Between Curiosity and Nosiness
A fellow blogger and wonderful friend, Kym Gordon Moore, posted about the subject on her own blog a few years back. You can find her lovely and insightful post here.
So, what is the difference between curiosity and nosiness? Simple. Curiosity doesn’t violate anyone’s boundaries, whereas nosiness does.
In the words of Kym Gordon Moore, “Being nosey is prying into other people’s business, meddling, being intrusive, and snooping, oftentimes gossiping about what they find out.”
“…curiosity is more of a desire to learn something new that enhances one’s intellect and not about poking your nose in other people’s business for annoying reasons.”
Her statements were spot on, and I couldn’t agree more!
What do Nosey People and Curious PEOPLE do differently?
A curious person doesn’t invade others’ privacy. They are more interested in educational information. They want to know more about how things work than they do about other people.
On the other hand, a nosey person will pry into your personal and private business, trying to get some dirt on you. Then, they will spread it to everyone later.
Moreover, a nosey person will snoop through your mail, your computer- heck! If they can get access to all your social media passwords, don’t think they won’t go there, too.
Understand that bullies are such people, and they will be the nosiest. Why? Because they’re always and forever on the hunt for damaging information they can use against you.
Nosiness is invasive. If a nosy person asks you a personal question and you refuse to answer, they will accuse you of “having something to hide.”
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NOSEY people will claim you have something to hide if you don’t give them answers.
This is how bullies trick you. They will use the “having something to hide” line to coerce you into giving up the details.
Moreover, you might feel compelled to give it up even if they know it’s better to keep it private! When bullies make this accusation, you may cave in and go against your better judgment.
You may answer the bullies’ questions to prove that you don’t have anything to hide. And that’s when you get yourself into trouble.
Therefore, if you ever find yourself in this predicament, know this. Your refusal to answer isn’t about having anything to hide. It’s about some things just not being anyone else’s business. Realize that you have just as much right to privacy as the next person.
Additionally, bullies will accuse you of being nosy when you’re trying to learn something new. This happened to me, and, being a young teenager, I fell for the lie, and it affected my learning.
Nosiness can run in families.
Many of these people had parents who were the same way. They had mothers and grandmothers who would tell them to watch others and report back to them.
I know this because a neighbor did the same to me many years ago. Therefore, nosiness is a generational thing with many. About 90% of my classmates also came from nosy, overbearing families. So did many coworkers I’ve worked with down through the years.
And it’s these kinds of people you should blow off and wave away like that pesky little fly that keeps buzzing around your face.
Don’t get angry with them. Just shake your head and pity them because it’s those types who really need to get a life and often don’t have one.
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Responding to a Nosy Person
It’s essential to learn the difference between curiosity and nosiness. Knowing this difference will make you able to counter busybodies with confidence.
For added clarity, here are the definitions of curiosity and nosiness.
Curiosity- a desire to learn something new that enhances one’s intellect and broadens one’s education. It includes reading, researching, studying, observing, and listening for information that can make you more intelligent and help you grow. Curiosity is non-invasive and non-intrusive. It does not seek to violate personal boundaries or to cause harm.
Nosiness- prying into other people’s personal business. It includes meddling, snooping, asking personal questions, and eavesdropping. Nosiness is invasive and intrusive. It seeks to violate another’s personal boundaries and cause them harm.
Learn these differences by heart, and you will be better able to counter bullies in any of the scenarios mentioned above.
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The two-face
The two-faced person is an even closer sister of the gossip. These people pretend to be your friend but stab you in the back. And, the sad thing is that you’re usually the last to know.
Again, if they talk about somebody else, they’ll talk about you, too. Just give them time. Therefore, be careful what you share, not only with these people, but with anyone. Don’t share anything you wouldn’t want anyone to know.
And two more words of advice. Steer clear!
4. The drama queen/king
This rotten egg is a chronic complainer who always seems to have a problem with every solution. They are never happy and are impossible to please.
Moreover, this person also seems to have unending misfortune – bad break after bad break, back-to-back. Sure, we all have times when we must vent, and we all have bad luck.
That’s perfectly normal. But when it’s constant, you have to wonder if the person is unknowingly bringing much of it on themselves somehow.
Drama queens and kings complain about everything and everybody. And they will complain about you, too, eventually. Bad moods have ways of spreading fast.
So, if the person consistently dogs your mood, it’s best not to have anything to do with them. No one wants to be around a sad-sack nosebleed who whines constantly. Why? Because being around them can quickly become a drag.
More importantly, drama queens and kings also tend to be suspicious of people. They’re the type who think everyone is out to get them or that everyone has ulterior motives.
And if they think everyone is out to get them, they’ll assume you’re out to get them, too. And they will try to get you before you get them. Again, steer clear!
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The passive-aggressive person
This person is sneaky, and you should avoid them as well. Why? Because if they even think you’ve slighted them somehow, they’ll unleash a rash of covert attacks. And they will be attacks you won’t even see coming until it’s too late.
Also, if they have an agenda and you happen to be standing in their way, look out! They will make your life a living hell. This person is to be avoided at all costs!
6. Anyone who puts out bad vibes.
When you’re around some people, you can sense that something is off about them. Or you pick up on the bad vibes and energies they put out that don’t feel good. Always listen to your gut feeling because vibrations don’t lie.
When it comes to bullying, many people find out the hard way. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Save yourself years of trial and error and the heartache that goes with it. Get rid of these people…pronto!
Avoiding these six types of people will save you many headaches in the future. The trick is to observe the people around you. Then you will figure out who the troublemakers are and who to avoid.
This post was all about the types of people to avoid so that you can save yourself trouble down the road.
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1. Curiosity vs Nosiness: 3 Must-Know Differences to Learn
2. Nosy Bullies: 11 Reasons Bullies Pry into Your Private Business
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