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Are you friendless because bullies have destroyed your reputation? ‘Want to know how to make new friends and keep them? Here are the tried and true ways to attract friends into your life.

When bullies have destroyed your good name, people often misjudge you and turn against you. But, what if I told you that there are still numerous opportunities for you to make new friends?

In this post, you will learn the exact steps to make new friends. Moreover, you’ll also learn how to keep them.

Once you learn all these powerful body language techniques and practice them long enough, they’ll become like second nature and you will attract good friends into your life.

Moreover, you will repel bullies and fake friends because they’ll sense that you aren’t the one they want to tangle with.

This post is all about how to make new friends through the use of body language so that you can attract healthy people into your life and repel the fakers.

Make New Friends

Close to ninety percent of our language is nonverbal. In other words, body language (actions) speaks louder than words ever will.

All too often, when bullies have attacked you for an extended period, your self-esteem and mental health suffer. Even worse, people will see it through your everyday body language, and you won’t realize it’s happening.

Moreover, they won’t want to be around you because they’ll see that you’re a victim. You’ll give off that bullied vibe that will only repeal the good, healthy people and attract bullies and abusers.

In fact, most targets only attract more bullies and bullying because their body language changes with time as they endure daily abuse. The target’s body language will transform from confident to diffident– meaning lack of confidence.

This is the reason many targets have few friends.

Why do most targets of bullying have difficulty making friends?

This is because others see insecurity in you. They may not know what it is nor where it comes from. However, they’ll sense that there’s something about you that’s not right.

Therefore, they’ll only move away from you, not closer. In other words, you won’t attract healthy people into your life. You’ll only attract users and more abusers.

Why? Because it’s human nature. People attract those who are most like they are.

Healthy and secure people stay away from people who give off signals of low self-esteem and depression while those who are unhealthy attract others who are unhealthy. Life attracts like.

Therefore, you’ll only attract people with low self-esteem. Even worse, you’ll also draw predators- people who fake a friendship to either exert control over your life or to get something from you.

You’d be surprised at how nonverbal signals, such as lack of eye contact, looking down, fake smiles or no smile at all, make you appear unapproachable. It’s the same with closed body language, such as crossing the arms over the chest.

Make New Friends:

It’s not your fault.

Naturally, this is not your fault. Therefore, don’t beat yourself up over it.

It is just something that happens after a person has endured abuse for so long. However, confident body language is something that well-meaning people in your life can teach you.

Even better, you can even teach yourself and practice it when you read the right books that teach it. And once you perfect it, you will instantly attract faithful friends and better people into your life.

And the best part is that, if you practice the methods you learn for long enough, if will come natural to you and you won’t even need to think about it.

Just imagine putting of the right signals and attracting people into your life without effort! Now THAT’S what I call winning!

Here are 11 powerful tricks you can use to instantly win friends:

1. Smile! And smile genuinely!

Smiling at people shows that you approve of them and are open to friendships. It also conveys confidence and confidence is where it’s at!

However, people can easily spot a fake smile and it will only turn them off. A fake smile repels people, or worse, invites more bullying. Fake smiles only hurt more than help.

Therefore, don’t just smile with your mouth. Do it with your eyes too. A real smile brings crinkles around the outer corners of the eyes. Don’t worry about any wrinkles. Because, trust me! These kinds of wrinkles are so attractive!

2. Make new friends:

Make good eye contact.

When you make good eye contact, you show others that you genuinely respect and are interested in them. Moreover, people love those who take an interest in them.

Therefore, when you’re engaged in conversation with someone, look them in the eye. Just don’t overdo it or you’ll seem creepy. So, find that happy middle.

3. Stand up straight.

Bad posture, such as slouching and hunching only conveys insecurity and low self-esteem. So, stand up straight and walk with purpose.

Also, throw in a few power poses when you stand. This means the feet should be shoulder-width apart and your hands must be on your hips with your thumbs on the front of your waist.

These signals convey confidence. Also, it can keep bullies away because when a bully sees someone do this, they think twice before messing with them.

Why? Because their body language is signaling confidence and, more importantly, power! And if there’s one thing bullies understand, it is power!

4. Practice open body language.

This will instantly make you more approachable. Put simpler, open body language means facing the people you talk to and keeping your whole body turned toward them.

When you do this, you’re signaling that you’re interested in what the other person has to say.

5. Make new Friends:

Slightly lean in when you talk to someone.

Again, this shows that you are fully engaged and interested in what the other person is saying. However, only do it slightly to avoid invading your interlocutor’s personal space.

Make sure to do this properly and you will build rapport with the people you speak to. Also, they will be more likely to trust you.

6. Nod when you agree with the person you’re talking to.

Nodding not only shows that you are listening and fully engaged. Also, it conveys understanding and agreement.

Therefore, nodding is a very powerful form of communication and often gets amazing social results!

7. Use hand gestures when you speak.

Using hand gestures can help you to think and express your thoughts and feelings more clearly. Moreover, it conveys understanding, energy and warmness.

8. Relax!

If you want people to feel at ease around you, relax when you’re having a conversation with them. There is nothing worse than talking to someone who seems nervous and tense.

It weirds people out big time! Therefore, always relax around others. Having body language that is relaxed conveys that you’re comfortable and confident with yourself and in turn, others will be comfortable and confident with you.

9. Make New Friends:

Put away your phone.

There is nothing worse than talking to someone who has their face in their phone, texting. It conveys that they’re more interested in what’s on their screen and not what you have to say.

Moreover, it’s downright rude and disrespectful. So, lose the phone when you’re in conversation with someone. It’s just good social etiquette.

10. Be aware of where your toes are pointed.

If you’re in a conversation with someone and your toes aren’t pointed toward them, it only conveys that you don’t want to be with the person and want to go elsewhere.

Now, some people don’t think about the feet but those who are the most aware of body language cues will. Therefore, always stand with your feet and toes pointed toward the person you’re talking to.

It signals that you want to move toward them, that you’re happy to see them and speak with them.

11. Make sure your body language is congruent with your words.

This is so important! If you’re saying one thing and your body language doesn’t match, you will come off to others as fake and insincere.

As a result, they won’t take you seriously and will be repelled by you. Nobody likes fake. So, more than anything else, be sure that your nonverbal cue are in line with your verbal ones.

Make New Friends

In Conclusion:

When you begin practicing these techniques, they may feel weird at first. However, don’t quit.

Practice them every day until they become second nature. Then, watch the magic unfold as people instantly become warmer and more receptive toward you. And you will make terrific friends in the process.

Just as it’s important to know what body language to use to make friends, it’s also equally as important to know what body language to avoid.