Do you want to know the mind hacks that help with raising self-esteem so that you can feel more confident and have the courage to get things done?
When people are targeting you for bullying, raising self-esteem can be difficult. If, you’re like I was, you’re probably wondering how you can get your confidence back and reclaim your life. As someone who survived and overcame bullying myself, I’m giving you the same mind-hacks that I used to finally boost my confidence and change my life for the better
You are going to learn about all the tried and true mind hacks that work in helping you to not only win back your confidence, but also take back your personal power.
After you learn about all these clever mind hacks that help with raising self-esteem you will feel and be more confident than you ever thought possible.
This post is all about the mind hacks that help with raising self-esteem that every target of bullying needs to know.
Raising Self-Esteem
Before we get into the mind-hacks, lets discuss the harmful effects of low self-esteem and how it can negatively alter your life.
Low self-esteem can be a real energy-killer and motivation buster. As you probably know, bullying can have a devastating effect on both self-esteem and overall mental health.
Most importantly, the low self-esteem that results from bullying can alter the entire trajectory of your life. It may seem that bullies have taken control over how you feel about yourself.
However, it doesn’t have to be this way.
In fact, you can take control over how your bullies’ attacks make you feel and raise your self-esteem. You can re-frame the attacks and purposefully buffer your confidence and self-esteem against them.
Therefore, here are 4 easy mind hacks that help you in raising self-esteem:
1. Remember that it’s about them, not you.
When bullies and abusers insult you, realize that the insult is only a reflection of how they feel about themselves. Think about it. If bullies were truly happy people, they wouldn’t feel the need to hurt you or anyone else.
For example, if the bully calls you “worthless,” it’s a good indicator that he, himself, feels worthless. Therefore, it’s about them, not you.
Understand that people who are miserable want others to feel miserable too. Making you feel bad about yourself is the only way they can feel better about themselves.
Yes, being verbally (or physically) attacked hurts. However, you must put in the work to re-frame their attacks in your mind. Your self-esteem will thank you for it later.
Again, bullies draw their power by stripping others of theirs and making them feel powerless. When bullies attack you, they are projecting their own feelings of worthlessness unto you.
The only way they can feel good about themselves is to make others feel bad. Always remember that!
2. Any accusation a bully makes is usually a confession.
Bullies and unsavory people will often accuse you of something you know you’re innocent of. However, realize that what they’re really doing is admitting that they’ve either already done it or they are doing it now.
This is called, “projection” and it’s a classic bullying tactic that bullies and tyrants have used down through the ages. Moreover, bullies love to project and they’re experts at it.
For example, Back during World War II, Hitler’s Propaganda Minister, Joseph Goebbels once quoted, “Accuse the other side of that which you are guilty.” He described the use of projection in a nutshell.
Once you realize what your bullies are doing, you’ll be able to respond accordingly and more intelligently.
As a result your confidence will soar!
3. Raising Self-Esteem means realizing that Your bullies only speak from their own worldview.
This is especially true when they say things to discourage you from following your goals and dreams.
For example, you may be working on publishing a novel and your bullies overhear you telling your friends about it. They may butt in and say things like, “You’ll only fail at it, miserably,” or “Your book will never sell.”
Again, realize that they’ve probably never succeeded at anything in their entire lives. Truth be known, your bullies themselves feel like failures.
Therefore, they will say anything to discourage you from working on your goals and dreams. Why? Because they’re afraid that you just might reach them. Here’s a quote from a few years back:
“When others tell you, ‘you can’t’, they actually fear that you can and are even more afraid that you will.”
So, any time your bullies try to pee on your goals, ask yourself these questions:
Have any of your bullies ever published a book?
Have they ever been successful in the book publishing industry or at anything for that matter?
Do they even know anything about book publishing?
Chances are that they haven’t and probably never will. This alone should be a huge self-esteem booster!
4. The weight of a person’s words should always depend on how much they mean to you.
In other words, you place the most value on the words of the people you love and who love you the most. For instance, the words of your loving mother or father would carry more weight than the same words from some smart-alicky classmate or coworker.
The people that mean the most can be your parents, grandparents, siblings, spouse, or children. They may even be a best friend, or a trusted mentor.
Their words should always carry the most weight because these are the people who love you the most. They also want what’s best for you and cheer for your success.
Moreover, they are the people who will be honest with you even if it stings a little. In other words, they won’t be afraid to give you constructive criticism and they will do this to help you and keep you safe.
Therefore, their words are golden!
However, the words of your bullies or anyone who abuses you, carry no weight whatsoever. Or, at least, they shouldn’t.
Therefore, place value on the words of the people you love and trust the most because they only want what’s best for you and are out for your good.
5. Bullies Can’t Insult nor offend you unless you Place value On their opinions.
To rephrase this, for others to insult you, you must first value their opinions. Ouch! I know, that hurts! But you should realize that a bully’s words aren’t worth considering.
Any time you allow their insults to get under your skin, you give them validation, which is something your bullies do not deserve.
Therefore, just let them talk and embrace it! Stop thinking that something must be wrong with you. Because you’re fine just the way you are.
In fact, here are a few positive ways you can look at it:
a. When people talk about you, good or bad, at least you know you aren’t boring.
And most people would rather be “bad” than boring. Also, you must be doing something right if people are mentioning you all the time. When they talk about you, good or bad, they make you relevant.
B. When people talk smack about you, it only means you still consume their minds.
So, who’s really in control here?
C. You have a lot of power if you can stir resentment or hate in someone without trying or meaning to.
It only goes to show that the dummy doing the talking can easily be controlled by you with little effort on your part.
D. They must really admire you and want to be like you.
Otherwise, you wouldn’t even be an afterthought to them. They’re admitting that they don’t have lives of their own. So, they take an interest in yours, which means that your life must be more interesting than theirs!
E. They have an Obsession with you.
Like the old saying goes, “He who angers you controls you.”
So, why not feel good about it and, even better, take advantage of it by letting them talk. Because some things don’t need a defense.
Just sit back, smile, and let the pettiness amuse you. Be your sweet self, and others will see through the petty attacks too.
When you finally wise up and take this approach, the results will surprise you and your only regret will be that you didn’t realize this earlier.
Therefore, attitude is what it’s all about. With the right attitude, you can beat your bullies without ever lifting a finger!
Unfortunately, it took me years to learn these things. How I wish I knew all this when I was younger and during so much bullying and abuse.
The good thing is, you don’t have to trudge through years of trial and error like I did. Learn, then mentally rehearse these mind hacks and I guarantee that you’ll know them by heart.
Even better, they will hugely buffer your self-esteem when bullies come for you, and your confidence will begin to soar!
Most importantly, remember that with knowledge comes empowerment.
This post was all about the simple but powerful mind hacks that help with raising self-esteem so that they can be a buffer to your bullies attacks and give you the confidence boost that you need.
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