‘Want to know all about nosy bullies? Here are all the reasons bullies keep their noses stuck in your business.
When you’re a victim of bullying, your bullies will watch you closely, clocking every move you make. Bullies love to stick their big noses into your business. For people who hate the very air you breathe, they seem awful interested in the details of your life.
Have you ever wondered why?
In this post, you will learn all about nosy bullies and why they pry into your business so that you will gather the courage to tell these snoops to mind their own damn business.
Once you learn all about these important facts, you will be able to better defend yourself against these types of bullies and preserve your privacy.
This post is all about nosy bullies to give you a peek into their minds and use the information to protect your precious privacy.
Nosy Bullies
If you’re a victim of bullying, you’ve probably wondered why your bullies can’t keep their big, fat noses out of your personal life.
You have the nosy classmate who’s never short of personal and intimate questions about your private life. Maybe, you’re having problems with the workplace gossip who never shuts up and always seems to know your business before you do.
Or, you know the spying neighbor across the street who forever peers through her window to spy on the neighbors outside.
Whoever they are, they’re bullying the crap out of you. Moreover, these kinds of bullies can be a real hemorrhoid when you want to be left alone and live your life in peace.
Here are all the reasons your bullies can’t stop spying on you. Moreover, they’re the same reasons your bullies ask you such personal questions.
1. Your bullies want to get information they can use against you later.
Most nosy people are, in fact, gossips, busybodies and buttinskies.
A nosy bully may ask you how much you get paid every week. I know. The nerve! Right? However, you must know why they ask you this question.
They’re trying to gauge whether they should feel jealous of you or better than you. For instance, if your income is low, than they can feel better than you and use the information to ridicule you.
If your income is high, they’ll be jealous of you and talk smack about you just to bring you down a few notches.
Therefore, if someone asks you such personal questions, politely tell them that they’re getting too personal. Let them know in no uncertain terms that you don’t share such private information with anyone.
Then walk away and never have anything to do with this person.
2. Nosy Bullies:
They personally want to see you mess up.
Bullies will watch you closely, waiting with bated breath, for you to screw up somehow. Moreover, they’ll listen in on your conversations, hoping you’ll say the wrong things.
We all make blunders every now and them. You will too, eventually. And your bullies will be right there to pick it up and use your gaffe against you.
Realize that bullies love to see you goof because it gives them the ammo they need to ridicule you with.
3. To see who you associate with.
If you’re a victim of bullying, your bullies will want to know who you associate with. Why? Because they want to know who to turn against you.
Think about it. A salesperson must know who his target audience is. It’s the same with bullies. They need to know who to target with their smear campaigns against you.
4. For gossip.
Gossip is purely judgmental and includes hasty generalizations about your character and private life. The purpose of gossip is to control your status by demoting you on the social hierarchy.
Another purpose is to justify bullying you by convincing others that you don’t deserve respect.
Also, it tightens group connections. And it gives higher status to the people who are privy to the negative information. Moreover, it sets expectations in the group as to how they should treat you.
Through gossip, the group establishes, maintains, or changes social infrastructures. Gossip promotes unity and shared enmity. With the use of it, the group will foster justification for hostility.
Therefore, it gives bullies a way to feel better about abusing you. Why? Because they can say that you deserve it and that they were reacting to “an evil enemy.”
Your bullies may tell others to keep it secret. However, they also ask others to inform them of any new information and updates about you.
Realize that gossip provides bullies reaffirmations that they’re right about you.
5. Nosy Bullies:
They want to find your weaknesses.
You can’t find your enemy’s vulnerabilities unless you get information on them. Therefore, this is another reason your bullies ask personal questions and watch you closely.
Once they find your weak spots, they can easily weaponize them.
6. For future blackmail (leverage).
If your bullies want to make you do something you don’t want to do, they can use anything negative information they find.
For instance, you’re a successful businessman who has to travel frequently. During one of your out of town trips, you cheated on your wife a few years ago.
She still doesn’t know about it. However, your bullies catch wind of it. Later, they decide they want to make you do something that’s against the best interests of you and your business.
Therefore, they threaten to tell your wife all about it if you don’t do what they want you to do.
7. To humiliate you.
Your bullies will ask you some of the most embarrassing questions.
- “Have you started your period yet?”
- “Are you a virgin?”
- “How is your boyfriend in bed?”
The audacity of them will leave you scratching your head because you just can’t believe that anyone would have the chutzpah. Especially if you were raised to mind your own business
Moreover, these kinds of questions will make you cringe! They might even upset you. You may tell them to get a life or just storm off without saying anything to them.
However, the best way to handle these people is to laugh, make fun of and humiliate them. And enjoy it.
I guarantee you that if you handle it like this, your bullies will never do it again!
8. Nosy Bullies:
For revenge.
Bullies often want to get back at you because they feel you slighted them somehow in the past. Therefore, they’ll dig for any dirt they can find about you.
And, once they find it, they will spread it around just to teach you a lesson.
9. To sow discord between you and others.
Nosy bullies love sowing discord among other people. They just can’t seem to get enough drama. In fact, they thrive on it.
These individuals always have their ear cocked, listening in on your conversations with others. They listen specifically for anything you might say about someone else.
Why? So they can go back to the person you’re talking about and tell them what you’re saying about them.
In fact, what you say may be innocent enough. You may be legitimately concerned about Kathy’s health and may be talking to mutual friends of you both. And these friends may be equally concerned.
However, once your bullies overhear all of you talking, they’ll go back to Kathy and tell her only the parts that suit them. In other words, they’ll twist the story to make it look like you and the rest of her friends have evil intentions behind it.
And before you know it, all hell breaks loose.
Bullies get a kick out of watching others tear each other down. The more they stir shit, the more it stinks. And the more it stinks, the better they smell.
Therefore, the next time someone tries to turn you against a friend, ask yourself who the division would benefit most. You, your friend or the instigator?
Also., you can ask the same question if someone tries to turn a friend against you.
10. Nosy Bullies:
For cheap thrills.
Bullies may ask you personal questions because they know that you don’t know any better. This often happens to victims who are on the Autism spectrum.
Evil creeps ask them embarrassing questions because anyone with ASD likely doesn’t realize they’re humiliating. Therefore, when they answer innocently, the bullies get to watch the person unknowing humiliate themself.
The bullies then get their fun out of it, laughing and ridiculing the person.
11. Just to have power over you.
Make no mistake! Any time, a nosy person searches for intimate details about your life, the end goal is power and control!
In other words, their having a constant nose stuck in your private business can be a form of attempted control.
Why? Because they can’t seem to control their own lives. Therefore, they wish to control yours. And they do it for nothing more than to cause an annoyance or embarrassment.
Even in the adult world, you’re going to have people who have more nerve than a bad tooth. In other words, there will be those who will pry into your business and openly ask you embarrassing questions.
Therefore, you might as well prepare for it now. Why? Because these kids of creeps are everywhere!
How can nosy bullies be so brazen with their questions?
When these idiots ask you such personal questions, they may shock the living crap out of you. After all, you’re the type who knows that asking such questions is shameful.
Here’s why some people have no shame in their intrusiveness.
Most of them are raised in nosy families.
In other words, many of these people had parents who were the same way. They had mothers and grandmothers who would tell them to watch others and report back to them.
I know this because, years ago, I had a next door neighbor who was the same way. We all nicknamed her, “Mrs. I-Spy.”
This woman would sit on her front porch and watch who came in and out of the other neighbors’ houses. She would even have her ten-year-old granddaughter watch everyone, then report back to her.
Therefore, nosiness is generational and tends to run in families.
How do nosy bullies get you to talk?
They Air their dirty laundry to get you to air yours.
Beware the big mouth who airs their dirty laundry.
If you’re a target of bullying, another type of person you should be aware of is the big mouth. These people give you their own personal details, hoping that you’ll give them some of yours.
However, be forewarned! If they tell their private business, they’ll tell yours too.
Here are the red flag topics they talk about.
- Their messy home life.
- A philandering husband.
- Their lazy wife who keeps a nasty house.
- Unruly and disrespectful kids they might have.
- Getting toilet-hugging drunk at a bar.
- Intimate details about their sex life (Yikes!).
- Details about their bodily functions (Yuck! Gross! Barf!).
Again, if they will trumpet embarrassing details about their own lives, you can bet dollars to doughnuts they’ll talk about yours. Therefore, keep your private business to yourself!
Any personal details about themselves that make you want to “call Ralph,” should especially make you want to run for your life!
Therefore, avoid these people at all costs. Not only will they embarrass the crap out of you, but they’ll dig for information about you that’s equally humiliating.
In Closing
Those who are nosy are usually toxic people.
Be aware that your bullies may not be so blatant with their personal questions. Many may be subtle and you might mistake it for curiosity instead of nosiness.
Nevertheless, realize that anybody who openly asks you such personal questions about your life has no respect for you. Therefore, politely end the conversation, and excuse yourself.
In fact, you should wave these morons away like that pesky little fly that keeps buzzing around your face.
And you don’t have to get angry with them. Just shake your head and pity them. Because it’s those types who really need to get a life.
Or, if you’re a smart-ass like I am, take the opportunity to have a little fun with them. Just catch it, throw it back at them and shame them with it. And why not? They asked for it.
This post was all about nosy bullies, their shameful questions, and why they ask them so that you know what to look for and how to respond.
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