Opinions are not facts. ‘Want to know why they’re so cheap? Here are the reasons you shouldn’t care what others think of you.
It seems the people who know the least about us are the ones who have the most to say.
Therefore, in this post, you will learn that opinions are not facts. Moreover, you’ll learn why you shouldn’t care what others think or say about you.
Once you learn these important truths, you will no longer let the words of a bully, or anyone else who doesn’t matter, phase you.
This post is all about why opinions aren’t facts so that you can let others’ snarky words roll down your back and keep it moving.
Opinions are not facts
Facts are truths about you. Opinions are what people think of you.
Bullies talk a lot of crap and put on a fake persona. Moreover, they’re loud and obnoxious, which translates to thirsty for attention and admiration.
“Hey! Look at me! Look at me!”
Their lives are so pathetic that the only way they can feel good about themselves is to make others feel bad. It’s all because bullies are insecure and afraid.
They’re scared that someone else is either going to outshine them somehow or make them look inferior. However, should what they think of you ever matter?
What if I told you that your bullies’ negative thoughts of you only reflected those they secretly have of themselves?
Would you believe me if I said that their hatred of you is only a reflection of their own pathetic self-loathing? And that they’re only trying to put it all off on you?
Understand that bullies put on quite a show to look significant and relevant. Also, they must work damn hard at keeping up their images.
When you really stop and think about it, it’s just as pathetic as when someone stuffs their bra or puts a sock in their crotch. Anyone who must expend such an enormous amount of effort to keep the less-than-perfect parts of them hidden can’t be a person who likes themselves much.
Therefore, why should you value the opinion of some buffoon who’s desperate to be seen? Realize that this person’s opinion has no merit whatsoever. And their hurtful words carry little weight, if any at all.
If you know what to look for, you’ll see these people for what they are, and you won’t take them seriously. And when you do, it will buffer you from their attacks and your self-esteem will skyrocket!
Here are 7 reasons why the opinions of bullies don’t matter.
1. Opinions Are Not FActs:
Most Bullies are Fakers and Posers
In fact, a good majority of them are posers and fakers. Moreover, these imposters account for at least ninety percent of the population.
Therefore, should it be surprising that in high school and in the workplace, everything is based on appearances? Realize that those who fake it the best and most convincingly are the most popular ones in the bunch.
Also, they’re more than likely bullies to boot.
However, most people don’t pay attention to detail. And, they aren’t concerned with facts. Thankfully, there are a few who do. Even during high school, I noticed detail right off.
For instance, in the lunch line, I would notice that most of the guys in the clique would wear their flashy, designer clothes. However, most of them would pull out a cheap, fifteen-dollar wallet to pay for their lunches.
Many bullies do the same thing. They pose.
2. Most of them will bully you over your virtues, not your faults.
But you? You know that you don’t need to be fake and put on any fronts, yet you’re the one getting bullied. Do you know why?
It’s because you’re better than that and your bullies know it. Therefore, because you choose to be your authentic self, they give you a hard time over it.
Your bullies are jealous of you because you have the guts to be yourself. Moreover, you don’t have to work as hard as they do. To keep up fake appearances takes a lot of work.
Therefore, they project their fakery and insecurities onto you. Realize that people who are authentic and real will receive a lot of hate. Those who are comfortable with being themselves, are those most likely to suffer bullying.
It’s just a part of the messed-up world we live in.
So, I want you to know that when people bully you, it is not because you’re doing something wrong. It’s because you’re doing something right. In other words, it’s not that there’s something wrong with you, it’s because there’s something right with you.
3. Opinions Are Not Facts:
The value you give to an opinion is based on relationship with the person who has it.
“In order to insult me, I must first value your opinion. Nice try, though!”
~ T-Ronn Hicks ~
It’s a shame that most don’t realize this. But it’s true! When you value someone’s opinion of you, you’re naturally going to feel insulted if those opinions aren’t favorable.
Therefore, value the opinions of those most important in your life. Those people are the one who love you and help to grow and shape you into a better person. These people lift you up and help you feel better about yourself.
Moreover, they encourage you to reach for your goals. They’re most likely to be your family, friends, and your favorite mentors.
They are those whose opinions you should value.
On the other hand, if you don’t consider certain people important, you won’t value their opinions. Some people do not deserve for you to value their opinions.
And those people are those who hurt or abuse you. Your bullies fall into this category.
4. Bullies and abusers don’t qualify.
I want you to understand that if a person seeks to harm you in any way, their opinions hold no value. Therefore, you should consider them null and void!
They’re of no importance to you whatsoever! Why? Because they can bring absolutely no good to your life!
Again, you should only value the opinions of those who love and care about you. They are the ones who are down for your good and your advancement!
However, people who continually tear you down, wreck your self-esteem, and belittle you should have zero significance to you.
It doesn’t matter if they are in a high position. And, it doesn’t matter if they’re popular or have the most money. If they consistently tear you down, they’re no good to you.
Therefore, you should just blow them off and keep going.
Defending yourself and valuing the wrong people’s opinions isn’t the same.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t assert yourself if someone violates your boundaries. Because you should! However, don’t let it cause you to love yourself any less.
Blow off the petty put-downs of bullies. Why? Because, more than likely, the insults they spew have no merit in the first place!
I know it’s not easy. Believe me. I’ve been there. It took too many years for me to finally realize this important rule of life, but I’m glad I finally did. Better late than never.
Know that you can do it. Avoid toxic people as much as possible and only keep company with the people who have your best at heart.
You will know who these people are. Your gut will tell you. Moreover, their behavior will tell you. So, listen to that gut instinct and pay attention to the vibes others around you put out!
You’ll thank yourself later!
5. Opinions are Not Facts:
“If you care too much about what others think, you care less about yourself.”
This is what a fellow blogger wrote a few years back. And, she was right!
When you care too much about what other people think, you become a slave to those people. In other words, these morons own you.
Any time you care too much about the thoughts and opinions of others, you’ll bend over backward to prove your worth. You’ll be a yes-person because you won’t have the guts to say no when you really want to say it.
You’ll do things you’d rather not do. Also, you’ll agree with things that go against your beliefs and convictions. You’ll sacrifice your time, your resources, and yourself for people who don’t deserve it.
6. You’ll lose respect for yourself and others will too.
You’ll fall for other people’s BS and accept crappy behavior from them just to avoid conflict. And they’ll see you as a pushover.
In other words, you’ll be a doormat and lose respect for yourself. And you’ll look pathetic! To put it bluntly, you’ll kiss butt and eat shit all for the sake of approval. Yuck!
You’ll only attract users, abusers, and losers, who’ll only deplete you of time, energy, and worst of all, self-esteem!
Even worse, your submissiveness will come to be expected after a while. And once you do finally get tired of being walked on and grow a spine, people won’t respect you for it. They’ll be offended by it.
‘You see, here’s the thing. If you truly know your value, you don’t have to prove it because you know it’s there. Even better, others see it too. Why? Because they not only sense that others’ opinions don’t phase you, but they can see it in your demeanor.
So, stop caring what bullies and abusers think of you. They shouldn’t even matter to you.
7. Opinions Are Not Facts:
Although they can Affect Our Lives to a degree, opinions are not facts.
This bears repeating. Bullies’ opinions shouldn’t concern you. However, it doesn’t mean they can’t affect you, or even hinder you.
The reality is that the bullies’ opinions of you can have a huge impact on your life. Moreover, you may not want to admit it. And, no, it isn’t fair.
However, the reality is that the personal opinions of other people are often the deciding factor on whether you’re well-liked or hated.
Bullies influence the attitudes of others who otherwise wouldn’t have issues with you at all. Also, the opinions of bullies have ways of spreading far and wide.
They make bullies out of those who, under normal circumstances, would never resort to mistreating another human being. It’s amazing what a contagion effect bullying has on schools, companies, organizations, and communities.
However, don’t let that discourage you. Know that opinions aren’t facts and refuse to care what they think.
Why? Because, nine times out of then, if you don’t give a rat’s ass about others opinions, they won’t affect you. Moreover, others will notice that you don’t care. Then, they’ll leave you alone and go find someone else to bully and push their cheap opinions on.
This post is all about the truth that opinions aren’t facts so that you won’t care so much about the opinions of bullies and other people who don’t matter.
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