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Confidence looks great on anybody! Even you! Therefore, in this post, you will learn all about confident body language and ways to look like you just won a million bucks!
Once you learn all about this life-changing information, you will not only look but feel better! Moreover, your magnetism will skyrocket!
This post is all about confident body language and ways to look confident so that you not only give your self-esteem a boost but your charisma too. And the best part is that you’ll less likely look like bully-bait!
Confident Body Language
The look of confidence can be the difference between being badass or being bullied. But before we talk about body language that make you look confident, let’s talk about the body language you should avoid.
5 Body Language Mistakes You Should Avoid
Bullies are always on the hunt for targets. Therefore, they look for signs in a potential target that screams “victim.” But, how do they do this?
Bullies will study your body language first and foremost. They also notice your emotional reactions to certain things.
In other words, they watch how you handle conflict and adversity. Here are all the negative body language moves and ways to correct them.
1. Lack of Eye-contact (Looking down or away)
Lack of eye-contact signals either dishonesty, or a lack of confidence. This is exactly what bullies look for.
Many victims of bullying get nervous in social situations. This is understandable.
When people have bullied you for long enough, you no longer feel safe in social interactions. Therefore, you’ll often avoid them altogether.
A little nervousness is normal. However, when you’re nervous to the point of avoiding eye-contact with others, bullies may notice.
As a result, they’ll peg you as a victim. Also, even people who aren’t necessarily bullies may mistake you for being deceptive.
Therefore, the best thing to do is to relax and look others in the eye when socializing. Realize that not everything is about you.
Make the interaction about the other person or people in the conversation. Smile. Act confident.
Yes, acting confident may seem fake. However, personal experience has taught me that if you act confident, you will soon feel confident.
And confidence is the best way to get through any social situation. Also, it lessens your chances of attracting bullies.
2. What isn’t Confident Body Language:
submissive body language
This includes poor posture, such as slouching and hunching down. Also, people-pleasing is another form of submission.
Behaviors such as shying away from saying what you want to say and not seeking to achieve your needs are forms of people-pleasing.
You must stop this behavior right now. Begin standing and sitting up straight. Stop trying to please other people. Instead, start achieving your own needs for a change.
Remember that you deserve, just as much as the next person, to have your needs and wants met. Therefore, start working toward your own goals. And to hell with the rest of them if they don’t like it.
3. self-protective behaviors (closed body-language)
Crossing of the arms in front of you and crossing your legs are both self-protective behaviors. So are hunkering down into the shoulders and hiding the neck.
Bullies will instantly notice this behavior from a mile away and think, “fresh meat!” when they see it.
Instead, open up and allow yourself to take up some space. Lengthen your neck and hold your head high. Relax. Always relax!
4. What isn’t Confident Body Language:
Having a Sheepish Look On Your Face
That includes downcast eyes, holding your head down, and looking bashful. Again, hold your head high.
Look people in the eye and smile. I guarantee you they will appreciate it when you do and think more highly of you.
5. trying to stay motionless to avoid drawing attention
This almost always gets you opposite results. Staying motionless won’t keep you from drawing attention. It just might get you the wrong attention- from bullies.
Therefore, you must move freely and I’m going to say it again… relax!
You must watch your body language if you don’t want bullies to spot you as a potential target. In fact, it’s the most important thing you can do.
If you catch yourself looking down, correct this by looking people in the eye or looking ahead. If it’s slouching you find yourself doing, sit up straight.
And keep doing this until it becomes second nature, no matter how long it takes. Why? Because body language speaks louder than words ever will.
Moreover, not only should you mind your own body language, you should also watch the bullies’ nonverbal cues as well.
11 Confident Body Language Cues
Close to ninety percent of our language is nonverbal. All too often, when bullies have attacked you for an extended period, your self-esteem and mental health suffer.
Even worse, people will see it in your everyday body language. You won’t realize it’s happening.
Consequently, most targets only attract more bullies and bullying. Why? Because their body language changes with time as they endure daily abuse.
In other words, the victim’s body language will transform from confident to diffident– meaning lack of confidence. This is the reason most victims have very few friends.
Why do most targets of bullying have difficulty making friends?
This is because, others can spot insecurity a mile away. And it makes it difficult to attract healthy people into your life.
You’ll only attract users and more abusers. Why? Because, human nature dictates that healthy people stay away from those who have low self-esteem.
If you aren’t confident, you’ll attract predators. And these people will only pretend to be your friends to exert control over your life and get something from you.
Moreover, nonverbal signals, such as lack of eye contact, looking down, fake smiles and closed body language make you appear unapproachable.
Confident Body Language:
It’s not your fault.
Naturally, this is not your fault. It is just something that happens after you’ve endured abuse for so long. However, here’s the good news!
Confident body language is something that you can learn. Moreover, it’s something you can teach yourself and practice.
And once you perfect it, you will instantly attract faithful friends and better people into your life. Also, you’ll begin to repel bullies and other human predators.
Here are 11 powerful tricks you can use to Look Confident and instantly win friends.
1. Smile! And smile genuinely!
Smiling at people shows that you approve of them. Also, it shows that you’re open to friendships.
Moreover, it conveys confidence and confidence is where it’s at! On the other hand, a fake smile is easy to spot and a major turn-off.
It only repels people and invites more bullying. Fake smiles only hurt more than they help.
2. Make good eye contact.
When you make good eye contact, you show others that you are genuinely interested in them. It also shows respect.
People love those who take an interest in them. Therefore, when you’re engaged in conversation with someone, look them in the eye.
Just don’t overdo it or you’ll seem creepy. Just find that happy middle.
3. Confident Body Language:
Stand up straight.
Bad posture, such as slouching and hunching, only conveys insecurity and low self-esteem. So, stand up straight and walk with purpose.
Also, throw in a few power poses when you stand. Feet should be shoulder-width apart, with your hands on your hips with your thumbs on the front of your waist.
This also signals confidence. Again, confidence keeps bullies away. When a bully sees someone do this, they think twice before messing with the person. Why? Because their body language is signaling confidence and, more importantly, power!
And if there’s one thing bullies understand, it is power!
4. Practice open body language.
This will instantly make you more approachable. Put simpler, open body language means facing the people you talk to and keeping your whole body turned toward the person you’re speaking to.
Also, look them in the eye when. When you do all this combined, you’re signaling that you’re interested in what the other person has to say.
5. Slightly lean in when you talk to someone.
Again, this shows that you are fully engaged and interested in what the other person is saying. However, only do it slightly to avoid invading your interlocutor’s personal space.
Make sure to do this properly and you will build rapport with the people you speak to. Also, they will be more likely to trust you.
6. Confident Body Language:
Nod when you agree with the person you’re talking to.
Nodding not only shows that you are listening and fully engaged. Also, it conveys understanding and agreement.
Therefore, it’s a very powerful form of communication and often gets amazing social results!
7. Use hand gestures when you speak.
Using hand gestures can help you to think and express your thoughts and feelings more clearly. Moreover, it conveys understanding, energy and warmness.
8. Relax.
If you want people to feel at ease around you, relax when you’re having a conversation with them. There is nothing worse than talking to someone who seems nervous and tense.
Not only does it weird people out, it sends the message that you might be trying to hide something!
Therefore, always relax around others. Having relaxed body language conveys that you’re comfortable and confident with yourself.
Moreover, it shows that you’re confident about them too. It signals trust. Therefore, others will be comfortable and confident with you.
9. Confident Body Language:
Hold your head up.
Holding your head down or looking down conveys low self-esteem and lack of confidence. Therefore, always hold your head high. Doing this says confidence and others notice.
Look like you feel good about yourself and your attitude will soon align with it.
10. Be aware of where your toes are pointed.
If you’re in a conversation with someone and your toes aren’t pointed toward them, it only conveys that you want to go elsewhere. In other words, it says that you don’t want to be with the person.
Now, some people don’t think about the feet. However, those who are the most aware of body language cues will.
Therefore, always stand with your feet and toes pointed toward the person you’re talking to. It signals that you want to move toward them – that you’re happy to see them and speak with them.
11. Make sure your body language is congruent with your words.
This is so important! If you’re saying one thing and your body language doesn’t match, you will come off to others as insincere.
As a result, they won’t take you seriously and will be repelled by you. Nobody likes fake. So, more than anything else, be sure that your nonverbal cues are in line with your verbal ones.
This post was all about confident body language so that you can not only keep bullies away but attract healthy people and friendships.
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