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Female-on-Male Bullying: A Catch-22 No One Talks About

Female-on-male bullying is something people rarely discuss. Therefore, want to know all about it so that you can recognize it when it happens. Here’s everything you need to know.

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It’s not something we talk about. However, female-on-male bullying happens more than we know. Therefore, in this post, you will learn all about it so that you can recognize it when it happens.

Once you learn all about it, you will be able to call it out and stand up to it if you are a male who a female bullies.

This post is all about female-on-male bullying so that we can address the problem instead of burying it.

Female-on-Male Bullying

Here’s a reason why I believe that the term “toxic masculinity” is bogus.

Many times, you have a situation that most people ignore and almost no one talks about. And that is female bullying against male targets, and why society gives male targets a bum rap.

I cannot count the stories I’ve both read and heard about males being abused by vicious females. Boys and young men, who, under normal circumstances, are kind and caring but get pushed too far by their female tormentors.

And when they finally get enough of it, they strike back to defend themselves.

Females who Put Themselves in a Man’s Place.

Unfortunately, after suffering bullying for so long, the pressure builds to a breaking point. The poor guy finally decides that enough is enough and hits the girl back after she hits him first. As a result, HE gets blamed simply because he is male.

The girl knows very well that society protects females due to the still widely-held belief that females are the weaker sex. Therefore, she uses it to her own advantage by playing the “woman card” and feigning victimhood. And she completes the act with crocodile tears, rationalization, and projecting blame onto her victim.

The conniving and cunning female also deceives by acting sweet and innocent in the presence of the right people. She is silver-tongued. She is a pro at spinning a convincing story to deceive authority while demonizing her male target, all to avoid being held responsible.

The male target is actually a great guy with good morals, values, and ethics. However, to bystanders and the authorities, he is just another punk who goes around beating up on girls.

Female-on-Male Bullying:

The Catch-22

So, he ends up either suspended/expelled from school or arrested and charged with a crime, while his female bully looks on with a smirk of gratification. She then escapes punishment and goes on to select yet another male victim. Thus, the cycle continues.

However, let’s say that the young man doesn’t hit her back. He only restrains her to protect himself; he will still be dehumanized and punished because he laid hands on her.

Yes. You read this correctly. If someone physically attacks you and you restrain them, you can STILL go to jail. It will be as if you delivered the first punch because your hands were touching the person. It is impossible to restrain anyone without touching them.

This is just a sad example of how completely backward the rules and laws in this country really are.

The Second Catch 22

Let’s say that a young man is being bullied relentlessly at school by a girl or a group of girls. The girls have harassed this boy for many years. And, during this time, he is the bigger person and walks away instead of fighting back.

The other boys also laugh at him and make fun of him, calling him a wimp because he refuses to “hit a girl.” They feminize him by calling him names, such as “wuss”, “pussy”, “bitch-boy”, to attack him and strip away his masculinity.

And when the guy does the wise thing and reports the bullying, they tell him to “man up” or “toughen up.” And the other boys only shame him for being a “whiner”, “crybaby,” or “tattle tale”.

Female-on-Male Bullying:

What happens when being the bigger person doesn’t work?

Then, the young boy finally gets sick of the mistreatment, and walking away doesn’t work. This is what happens. He snaps at one of the girls and batters her until her lip and nose are bleeding. Now, all hell breaks loose!

Why? Because he goes from being labeled a wimp to being viewed as a punk who gets his jollies by beating up on females. Therefore, he can’t win no matter what he does!

So, authority members suspend, expel, or arrest him for assault and battery. Also, the other boys now want to jump him because he hit a girl.

As a result, the targeted guy, although a victim, is now marginalized by the system, which is supposed to protect him. But what other recourse does he have after he’s tried everything to defend himself and make the harassment stop?

The Moral Decline in Females.

My purpose is to open a few eyes and let society know that girls do sometimes bully boys. Women bully more and more men. Females are more prone to violence today than ever before in history, due to the significant moral decline of girls.

However, understand that this article does not apply to male bullies, who go around physically or psychologically harming females. It applies only to innocent male victims, who only want to be left in peace and live an everyday life like everyone else.

If two men are at odds with each other and resort to fisticuffs, they usually end up later patching things up. And they will go somewhere to have a beer together. Not so with women.

If two women get into an altercation, they are likely to hold onto their hatred. A woman is like a dog with a bone. She will cling tightly to her grudge against her rival until the heavens come crashing down.

Female-on-Male Bullying:

Male Victims Have it the Worst.

I’m a woman myself, and I know firsthand that when it comes to evil, women and girls can be the most vicious of the sexes! In most cases of bullying, victims who are male get a bum rap! We must bring this to light!

It’s high time that we wise up to these females and expose their misdeeds to as many people as possible. Not all girls are made of sugar, spice, and everything nice.

Female bullies are sneakier. They’re better at going undetected than male bullies. Granted, there are always exceptions, but this is true for the most part.

Male bullies lean more toward outward physical bullying, and females lean more toward bullying of the psychological variety.

Female Bullies:

Most females are passive-aggressive and commit much of their bullying on a psychological level. Again, thanks to radical feminism and the moral decline in today’s young girls and women, physical assaults perpetrated by females are increasing at an alarming rate.

Females bully by Dividing and Conquering—attacking the targets’ relationships. Girls and women use smear campaigns, gossip, rumors, and witch hunts. These tactics are all designed to turn everyone against the victim.

Girls and women also use projection. In other words, they all project their own shortcomings onto their victim. Bullies do have flaws, and their greatest fear is you exposing them. Projection is the best way to hide their own imperfections.

Female bullies will use distraction. They distract others’ attention away from their provocation onto the victim’s reaction to it.

Female-on-Male Bullying:

Psychological v/s Physical Bullying

Psychological bullying includes exclusion, dirty looks, taunts, insults, rumors, and lies. Also, it can consist of thievery, invasion of the target’s privacy, and destruction of the target’s property and relationships.

If this does not work, they may then resort to violence, although not as often as male bullies. If females want to cause bodily harm to their target, they are more likely to persuade someone else to do the violence for them.

They may send a male friend or a bigger and tougher female friend to catch the target alone and physically assault them. Moreover, they get them to comply by offering incentives.

These girls may offer illicit sex to their male friends to get them to do what they want. On the other hand, they may offer a tougher female friend inclusion in their clique and the chance to climb the social ladder.

These bullies may also offer money.

Female-on-Male Bullying:

Female bullies love to tear down your relationships.

By instinct, females are nurturers. Nature has hardwired girls and women to maintain relationships, especially family and romantic ones. Many young girls plan to get married eventually and have families of their own.

Thus, female bullies aim to sabotage the victim’s relationships. Again, most girls and women dream of finding a mate and having children from a young age.

Why? Because they have an instinct to nurture. Females are usually the family’s caretakers and homekeepers.

Slut-Shaming

Therefore, it should not be any surprise that female bullies are notorious for calling their targets names like ‘whore’, ‘slut’, ‘tramp’, ‘floozy’, and other names that attack femininity and virtues.

Moreover, anytime females call another young lady one of these names, there is an even deeper meaning behind it. Therefore, here’s the hidden meaning.

It’s that you are not marriageable. Female bullies deem you unworthy of a mate or children, and you are not considered to be a woman.

Female-on-Male Bullies:

Male bullies:

Because nature has hardwired most males to be hunters and gatherers, guys tend to be more physical. And why not? Back during prehistoric times, males had to hunt and bring home the food to feed their families.

Often, they had to fight off wild animals and men from other groups to survive. Although there are exceptions, males are more likely to use physical aggression.

People expect young men to be strong and tough…to display manhood. Therefore, if the target is another male, the boy bully will not only use his fists, but will also try to feminize their target by repetitively emasculating him.

In closing

If females bully a male victim, it’s even worse for that victim. Again, if he defends himself, society will automatically accuse him of being the aggressor. If he walks away from her, society will accuse him of being a weakling.

Therefore, this puts male victims in a trap that they can’t escape from.

This post was all about male-on-female bullying so that you can learn all about the unique effects and circumstances that male victims suffer.

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Male vs Female Bullying

‘Want to know the differences in male vs female bullying? Here are all the contrasts you need to know about.

male vs female bullying

Males and females bully differently. Moreover, there are differences between bullied males and females.

Therefore, in this post, you will learn the differences of male vs female bullying so that you’ll better understand ways that members of each sex bully. You will also learn the difference between male and female victims.

Once you learn all about these distinctions, you will know how to protect yourself from both male and female bullies.

This post is all about the distinctions of male vs female bullying so that you’ll recognize these differences and know how to defend yourself in every bullying situation.

Male vs Female Bullying

female bullies

Female bullies can be the most vicious. Why? Because they seem to be better at going undetected than male bullies.

Granted, there are always exceptions to this rule. However, for the most part, this is true. Male bullies lean more toward outward physical bullying. Females, on the other hand, lean more toward psychological and social or relational bullying.

In other words, females are mostly passive-aggressive with their bullying. However, there is a moral decline in today’s young girls and women. Therefore, physical assaults perpetrated by females are increasing at an alarming rate.

Females bully by Dividing and Conquering. They try to ruin their victims’ relationships.

Girls and women also use smear campaigns. They spread gossip and rumors. Moreover, they go on witch hunts.

But, make no mistake! These tactics are all designed to turn everyone against their victims. Their goal is to isolate their victim.

Female bullies also use projection. Put another way, they project all their shortcomings onto the their victims.

Bullies do have flaws and their greatest fear is having them exposed. Therefore, projection is one of the best ways to keep their own imperfections hidden.

These bullies will also use distraction. How do they do this? By distracting others’ attention away from their own behavior and pointing out the negative qualities in their targets.

Male vs Female Bullying:

Psychological v/s Physical Bullying

Girls and some boys, use psychological warfare. Psychological bullying includes exclusion, dirty looks, taunts, insults, rumors and lies. Moreover, destroying friendships and relationships also counts as psychological bullying.

Also, it can include thievery, invasion of the victim’s privacy and destruction of their property.

If this does not work, females may resort to violence but not as often as male bullies. If girl bullies want to cause bodily harm to their target, they’ll send someone else to do their violence for them.

Female bullies may send a male friend to beat up their victim. Or, they may send a bigger and tougher female friend. The minions will then catch the target alone and physically assault them.

Now, you may wonder how they get these minions to comply. Here’s how.

Bullies get their flying monkey’s to comply by offering incentives. For instance, girls may offer illicit sex to a male friend to get them to do what they want.

On the other hand, they may offer a tougher female friend inclusion into their particular clique. With that, they give them the chance to climb up the social ladder.

They may also offer money.

By instinct, females are nurturers. Nature has hardwired girls and women toward maintaining relationships whether they be familial, friendships, or romantic.

Many young girls plan to eventually get married and have families of their own.

Therefore, female bullies will sabotage their victim’s relationships. Most girls and women, from the time they are small, dream of one day finding a mate and having children.

Why? Because they have an instinct to nurture. They are more likely to be the caretakers of the family and home.

Male vs Female Bullying:

Covert vs Overt Bullying

Therefore, female bullies are notorious for calling their targets names that attack the feminine virtues.  They call their female victims names like ‘whore’, ‘slut’, ‘tramp’, ‘floosy’ and skank.

Moreover, anytime a young lady is called one of these names, there is an even deeper meaning behind it. Here’s the hidden meaning.

If you are a female victim of these vicious bitches, they call you these names to imply that you aren’t marriageable. In other words, you aren’t worthy of a mate or children. And you are not considered to be a woman.

A female bully wants to brainwash you. This is the reason her attacks are so vicious and repetitive. She wants to convince you that you are worthless.

And she will stop at nothing to make you believe it!

Additionally, she knows that if she can make you believe the lies, there is a strong chance that you will live up to them. We are what we believe.

Therefore, she will try to drum it into your head. And if she does, she will succeed in breaking your spirit. Then, you’ll likely prove her right.

Females aren’t always the weaker sex.

Again, get this straight. Female bullies want you to live up to the names they call you. In other words, if they call you a whore, they want you to be one.

So don’t live up to it! Show her up! However, she will not give up so easily.

Girls tend to hang on to their hatred to the point of obsession. The bullying becomes a ritual. And when you stand up to a bullying woman, don’t expect things to get better.

Male vs Female Bullying:

Male bullies

Nature has hardwired most males to be hunters and gatherers. Therefore, guys tend to be more physical. And why not?

During prehistoric times, males had to hunt and bring food home to feed their families. Often, they had to fight off wild animals and human males of other groups in order to survive.

Although there are exceptions, males are more likely to use physical aggression. Therefore, most young men are expected to be strong and tough – to display manhood.

If a victim of bullying is another male, the boy bully will likely use his fists. Moreover, he’ll try to feminize the other boy by repetitively emasculating him.

Emasculation of Male Targets

Male bullies often bully other males. They call their victims names like, “sissy”, “pussy”, “bitch” and other names which attack the male pride. Their goal is to cause them to feel less like men. Therefore, they’ll try to strip the victim of his manhood.

And if the male target speaks out against the treatment, the male bully will trivialize it by referring to the target as a “whiner” and tell him to “man up.”

Other males may see the victim as going against “man-code” if he dares to report the bullying.

And male bullies who are physically violent usually beat up on males and females. However, there are a few cowards who’ll never stand up against another guy. They only beat up on girls.

I knew a few of those types of boys in school.

Male vs Female Bullying:

The Difference between Bullied Boys and Bullied Girls

I’m female and have discussed bullying mainly from a female perspective. However, I would like to help you distinguish between the plights of bullied girls and bullied boys.

What usually happens to female victims?

After her peers have bullied her for so long, she feels alone in the world. Also, when she reports the bullying, others usually rebuff her.

It’s bad enough when school staff ignore her pleas, but when members of her own family refuse to listen to her, it’s twice as painful. Once this happens, she begins to feel that no one cares about her.

What Bullied Girls Experience

Bullies shame female victims for their looks, femininity, and virtues. They call them names that attack them as women.

People will use their weight and their appearance as a weapon to cause harm. Even sadder is the reality that if their self-esteem is low enough, some live up to the names bullies call them.

Consequently, some bullied girls turn to sexual and dating partners to get the love and approval they’re missing out on. This usually doesn’t end well.

Male vs Female Bullying:

What Bullied Boys Experience

Bullied boys have it much worse. Many don’t have partners to fall back on because girls expect them to be tough. When a boy is bullied, he isn’t seen as macho. Instead, others see him as a wimp.

Also, people consider it “un-macho” for a boy to report being bullied. Others may tell him to “suck it up.” Why? Because it goes against the male code of conduct.

This can also erode male self-esteem.

Male Targets Have the Highest Rates of Suicide

Once bullies have stripped a young man of his manhood, it becomes next to impossible for him to get a date and find love. Although the suicide rate among females has skyrocketed, It remains to be much higher in males.

Therefore, no matter what, we must encourage bullied males to speak out and report bullying. We must also encourage them to seek therapy.

Males must also have older males in their lives to remind them of their worth as men. These older men must also re-enforce those positive messages.

We must also encourage females to speak out and get help, as well. Moreover, they must also have older female role models who lift them up.

These role models must instill in them that they are beautiful even if others try to bully them and tear them down. In short, they must teach them to know their worth!

And finally, they must see themselves as targets, not victims.

This post was all about male vs female bullying so that you know the differences in the ways they bully. 

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