‘Want to know exactly how to go about beating bullies at their own game? Here are 9 proven and effective tactics every bullied victim must know.
When bullies target you, it can leave you overwhelmed, confused, and depressed. Why? Because it seems that they knock you down at every turn, then keep you down. However, there are easy ways of beating bullies at their own game. You just need to know how to do it and do it successfully.
As someone who’s experienced it and learned the art of beating bullies at their own game, I’m giving you the nine easy but effective ways to outfox and outmaneuver your bullies.
In this post, you will learn the nine most effective ways to win against your bullies and become virtually invincible to bullies.
Once you learn these so-easy-it-shouldn’t-work strategies, you will rise above your bullies and become your own hero.
This post is all about beating bullies at their own game and the techniques you should use to do it successfully.
Beating bullies at their own game
Let’s get right into it! Here are the nine easy strategies you can use to turn the tables on your bullies.
1. See your bullies’ behavior for what it is, know where it comes from and realize the intentions behind it.
When you really stop and think about it, bullies can crack you up sometimes, can’t they? Or at least they should.
Bullies try to get your attention by making a smart-alicky comment here, a backhanded compliment there. This is a weakness and you can use it as such if you know how.
Many bullies will deliberately stand behind you in the checkout at the supermarket and sometimes a little too close. These are all attention-getting behaviors and if you’re a target of bullying, you’ve probably had people do the same to you on more than one occasion.
However, the funny thing is that when you see the behavior for what it is, where it comes from, and what’s it’s designed to do, you no longer care. And when you no longer care, the behavior ceases to be hurtful nor threatening.
Instead, it becomes boring, then hilarious or it only makes you pity the poor things.
Beating bullies at their own game means realizing that your bullies are miserable and pitiful souls.
Moreover, it must really suck to be a bully. All that expended effort to put on airs and all that hatred and vitriol! Bullies must carry around all that baggage and it only makes them look like the miserable pieces of garbage and not you.
All that negative energy that usually only ends up coming back to bite them later! All that effort to bring you down! And for what?
Attention? Is the meanness designed to intimidate those they find threatening? Maybe the bullies want to be feared, admired, or adored by everyone. Or, they may think it makes them look big and tough. They may think their behavior looks cute.
Nevertheless, the end goal is to feel better about themselves and more superior.
Sure. The mean and hateful behaviors of bullies can hurt, no argument there. However, after so long, there comes a point when you no longer give a crap.
Moreover, there comes a time when their behavior loses its potency and no longer has the intended effect it once did.
As a result, the people who bully you only become less menacing, less threatening, and less of an issue until they become downright boring. Then, finally, they become irrelevant.
Any behavior repeated over and over again gets so worn out and overdone until it becomes as stale as a three-day-old pile of shit that has lost its stink.
2. Beating bullies at their own game: Ignore and mock their insults, taunts, and worthless prattle.
Watch the bullies continue the same worn-out behaviors, making arses of themselves. They push a little harder and a little harder to get your attention. They may even use gaslighting to prompt you to get defensive.
Maybe they strategize and change tactics because what they’ve been doing just isn’t working anymore. However, it store bores you to death because, again, you just don’t care.
Therefore, you no longer react to it. You only walk away chuckling and leave the bullies standing there with their mouths hung open.
Again, bullies don’t realize that, after so long doing the same old shenanigans, they eventually reduce their effectiveness and become a real yawn. Moreover, your bullies become so pathetic in your eyes that you can’t help but to shake your head in pity.
So, understand that here are two things bullies hate- being mocked and your refusal to submit or react to their childish taunts and threats.
3. Keep being yourself.
In other words, don’t let their childish behavior change you. Again, this takes re-framing your mindset to see their behavior as an indicator that there is something wrong with them and not you.
Therefore, relax, be yourself, and let the haters hate.
4. Beating bullies at their own game: Keep taking care of yourself.
Put simpler, keep doing the things fulfill you and creating the life you desire. Practicing self-care is of the most importance when people bully you.
Eat right, exercise, take care of your physical and mental health.
The key here is to create your own happiness and well-being.
5. Focus on and take care of the people you love and who love you.
Instead of focusing on the people who could care less about you and want to see you suffer, focus on the people who love you and who lift you up. Usually, these people are your closest family members and friends.
Moreover, realize that those who don’t see your worth shouldn’t live in your head rent free. So, promptly evict them because they aren’t worthy of one ounce of your energy.
Also, work to create happy moments with these people because they love you and want nothing but the very best for you. Attend family gatherings or host them. Take trips with these wonderful souls. Stay connected with your people.
6. Beating bullies at their own game: Pursue your dreams and aspirations.
Work on your goals and focus on the things you wish to accomplish. This is, by far, the best way to handle bullies. Why? Because when you keep your mind on your goals and dreams, you’ll have no time to think about your bullies.
And, if you don’t think about them, they can’t control you. Heck, they can’t even phase you. And that’s a win for you and a loss for them. Remember that bullies try to get your attention. This is the best way to avoid giving it to them.
7. Get out and enjoy nature.
In other words, go for a walk in the woods. Or, you can go to the park and read a good book on a beautiful fall day. Whatever you love to do outdoors, whether it’s lying on the beach or walking your dog on a walking trail, get outside and enjoy nature.
It’s the best way to recharge, relax, and unwind. Also, it drives away depression because it releases endorphins. Moreover, it gives you lots of vitamin D3 from the sun!
8. Learn new things.
In other words, read, write, and look for lessons life can teach you. The point is not to let yourself stagnate. If you’re not learning new things, you stagnate very easily and that only brings depression.
Therefore, always take the opportunity to learn new things. For example, you could take a course or go to the library and check out a good self-help book to read. Whatever way you choose to learn, always strive to acquire new knowledge.
Your mental health will thank you! I guarantee it!
9. Pay them no mind and keep doing you.
When you focus on and do you, it frustrates and annoys bullies because you’re focusing on yourself and your goals and not them. Also, you are no longer being subjugated by your bullies, and that really tears them up inside.
Moreover, once things reach this point, they usually give up and go find another target because if something is no longer working, you change tactics. And if nothing seems to work, you run out of fortitude and give up.
Therefore, realize that it’s about self. The key is to stop focusing outward and start focusing inward. In other words, work on yourself. Why? Because, as stated earlier, when you’re too busy working on yourself, your bullies become irrelevant very quickly. As they should.
Realize that the reason bullies act the way that they do is because they have no lives. Moreover, they have no control over their own lives. Therefore, they try to take control over yours. Bullies truly are the most miserable of humans on earth. And once you realize this proven fact, they will no longer be an issue.
This is how you beat bullies at their own game!
This post was all about beating bullies at their own game so that you can finally take back your peace and therefore, control over your life.
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All good and true. Very inspiring as always…🙏🙏
Thank you so much, Jim! 🕊
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👏👏👏👏👌👌👌👌👌👌. Fabulous suggestions. Love this post.
Thank you so much. 🤗
Great post. I find that they were always looking for a reaction, for someone to shout, cry, argue, pull back etc. You take away the reaction, they struggle to continue.
During my school life, I didn’t always grasp things right away. I found this was a great skill against bullies and I didn’t even do it on purpose. They’d say something sneering or derogatory, but I didn’t hear it like that and so I wouldn’t give them the reaction – I would get humiliated or upset or fearful… because most of the times I missed the point they were making (mostly because I was in my own head).
The more negative reaction you have the more they feed off it. Attention is right, and they deflate pretty easily when the attention and reactions don’t come.
Absolutely! It sounds like you were wise beyond your age even as a child! Or to ignore it was your default. I’m so proud of you, Ari. 💖🕊
lol I think I was “accidentally” wise, because I certainly didn’t realise what I was doing lol
Some people are accidentally wise, Ari. You were blessed and I’m happy for you. 💖
Great post, as always. Yes, I see so many funny things now that Bullies did but it took time to get here. Your words helped, so thanks for that. I learned to turn inwards, focused on myself and my education and my own personal healing. Since doing that, I have made great strides in my mental health recovery. Think about yourself and what you need, not your Bullies, and you will find your way.
I’m so proud of you, Stella! 💖
Great post! Their goal is getting a reaction, and when they don’t get any, you’ve cut off their lifeline. We can’t control others actions, but the most important thing we can control are our reactions. The best revenge is a life well lived!
You hit the nail on the head! And it sure takes the wind out of their sails! 😂🤣😜
Great advice. i’m loving your series on bullies.
Thank you so much! Just knowing you’re enjoying it means a lot! 😊💖🤗
OMG, I love this part Cherie:
It must really suck to be a bully. All that expended effort to put on airs and all that hatred and vitriol they carry around and it only makes them look like the miserable pieces of garbage and not you.
Your 9 tips are on point girlie! 👍🏼🤩🌺✨💐😎
You made me laugh so hard – “(Their bad behaviour)gets so worn out and overdone until it becomes as stale as a three-day-old pile of shit that has lost its stink!” Unexpected- but say it like it’s so, sista! What a flair with the pen! OMG! Thanks for the roar!
You’re most welcome, Kim! 😁😁😜 I’m so glad I got a laugh out of you, girlie!
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Thank you so much! 🙂 😀
Good stuff. Being able to ignore it with no reaction always annoys them more. Especially if they claim you can’t do so and so and you prove then wrong. Online let them talk a little and instead of firing insults back, start picking the argument apart and the more the insults fly give them a block. If you do have to physically stand up to them done let them see you sweat.
That’s a bingo on every point you made! Walk on by and look right through them .It drives bullies up the wall when you respond like that- just let them talk and make total fools of themselves. Then pick the argument apart and make them look even more foolish! Baha! Bahahaha! 😂🤣😂🤣😜
Truth ! 😇
Thank you so much! 🤗 💖
Great list! I’ve been doing most of those things; yes, they work .I add two more to my own personal list. 10. Pray. 11. Keep on writing books, articles or journals.
Keep on keeping on. peace
Thank you, Linda! My apologies for not thinking of number 11, but you’re absolutely right! Praying is the best one! And I’ll definitely keep writing all three! 😊🤗💖🌹
No need for apologies. You do a great job of covering the topic ✍️
Thank you so much, Linda! 🤗💖
Once there was a person who was getting a little too close in the checkout. I finally turned to them and asked, “do you want to dance”. That did the trick and they backed off. The cashier was splitting a gut laughing.
Bahahaha! That was soooo gooood, Dwain! 😂🤣😂🤣 I wish I’d seen that!
Yeah Cherie, I took the wind out of their sail!
Boy, did you ever!!! 😂🤣😂🤣
VERY NICE POST MA’AM
Thank you so much! 💖 This means a lot!