When you’re a target of relentless bullying, losing so-called friends becomes the norm. Sadly, this is the reality for many who fall into this category.
Most targets of bullying suffer deprivation of human friendship and therefore, they have no sense of belonging. We humans are hardwired for socialization and connection. When bullies meticulously strip those things away, it can be devastating. After they’ve suffered this deprivation for so long, targets can become desperate for even the tiniest crumb of affection.
Neediness always invites abuse.
In life, there will be people who come into your life not to help you but to harm you. Not to love you but to leave you.
Understand that when bullies target you, they beat you down, and render you sad, lonely, and worst of all, desperate! Add all this together and you have a stinking, toxic cocktail of vulnerable.
Realize that evil always attaches itself to those whom bullies have weakened and made most vulnerable. People smell desperation from a mile away and the target will repel those who are emotionally healthy and attract only the lowlifes whose only intentions are to use and abuse.
Predatory users love to catch you when you’re most vulnerable. When you are rendered powerless, you will draw in fake friends. They’ll be those whose only intentions are to use you until they get all they can out of you. Many will act as friends to hurt and humiliate you.
These people may use you for money or material things or they may simply use you for social benefits. Also, they may use you for the psychological payoff of taking domination of you. Whatever it is, know that they aren’t here for your benefit, they’re here for theirs.
So, when do these frauds show their true colors?
Many targets of bullying are shocked and dismayed when the monster finally shows its face. The target may say something totally innocent, but something the fake friends doesn’t like. Suddenly, the mask falls off and the poor target finds out the hard way that this person really isn’t a friend at all. The fake friend then turns their back and becomes an enemy. They may even bully the target like everyone else.
Here’s when they show their true colors:
1. When you stand up for yourself.
2. When you’re not afraid to be yourself.
3. When you speak your truth and stand on it.
4. When you let your opinions, beliefs, and convictions be known.
5. When you call them or someone they like out on their bullshit.
How do you recognize a true friend?
A true friend may not necessarily agree with you, but they’ll always respect your opinion. They will always accept that you’re a different person with your own set of values. And they’ll never turn their back on you or get hateful toward you for those differences.
True friends will allow and even encourage you to be yourself, speak your truth, and stand behind it. They wouldn’t want you to be fake for the sake of pleasing others.
Understand that if at any time, a person who claims to be your friend doesn’t allow you to be yourself. Or if that person doesn’t allow you to speak your mind, or show your emotions, that person is not a friend. Therefore, you should re-evaluate that friendship and give this person the old heave ho.
Know that you deserve better friends than them. That’s why it’s so important that you love yourself enough to know when it’s time to let go and move on. Because some people just aren’t worth your time. Always remember, you don’t lose friends, you lose frauds.
With knowledge comes empowerment!
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Cherie, this isn’t related to this post – How is Mike?
He’s doing much better. Still having issues but they’re nowhere near as bad as they were. His follow-up appointment is today. Pray that we get good news and that the blood cots are gone. Thank you so much, Jeanne! 💖💐🌺🌹
Very interesting take
Thank you so much, Pauline! 💞 This means a lot! 💖
Thank you so much, Ashlee! 💞
Well said. I hope your husband feels better soon we prayed for him on the road when I read your post.
Oh, thank you so much! 💖💖💖 You don’t know how much this means. We’re at his follow-up now waiting to be called back. He’s doing better but still has a few issues that need to be looked at. We should know more in a few hours why it’s taking so long for him to heal completely. It could be more than just his Diabetes.
I forgot about that song! Back when every pop song had to have the obligatory rap verse.
Absolutely, Greg! The song does have a point though. 😊
So true.. Yesssss.. Absolutely.. 👍🏼😊👌🏼👌🏼
Thank you so much, Typewriter! 💞 🤗😊
Great article! Bullies are attracted to people who have been abused and suffer from low self esteem because they tend not to stand up for themselves. Then those negative people pretend to be that person’s friend.
Absolutely right, Vanya! 💖💐🌹
great post Cherie and sending love!
Thank you so much Cindy! 💖💐🌹Sending lots of love on return, sweetie!
What have you done darling!!!!!! What a great piece of work with so much of depth. Loved every bit!!!!! After reading it, I felt what the heck I am writing!!!!!!!!!!! What an insight!
Awww! 😍🥰 Thank you so much, Sunita! 💞
Please give me your review on my stories, would be a great help to work harder and create better work.
I sure will, Sunita. ❤️ I’ll to get back on Reader and look you up on my list. I’ve got a lot of catching up to do on reading, that’s for sure!
Desperately waiting 😍❤️
Hey, Sunita! I commented on your posts, “The Break-Up” and “Team or Tame.” They are wonderful posts with a good moral behind each! ❤️❤️❤️
Oh Cherie!!! Thank you so much for all the encouraging words , means so much. Appreciate that you took out time to read, looking forward all the valuable feedback in future.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️😀😀😀❤️
You’re more than welcome, Sunita! 💖💐🌹I’ll read more tonight and tomorrow night!
Thanks for supporting , Cherie. Means so much.
You’re most welcome, Sunita! 💖
I really enjoyed reading this. It’s very insightful.
Thank you so much, Mindy. 💖 Thid means a lot.
Loved this insightful post! 💜
Thank you so much, Saania! 💖 This means more than you know! 🤗