No matter what other people may think of you, you are the only one who knows who you truly are. Bullies are known for spinning smear campaigns and witch hunts to turn others against a target because it’s the only way they can make their lies and accusations seem valid. However, no matter how convincing the bullies may be and how many people believe the lies and rumors spread about you, it doesn’t mean the talk is true.
Only you can judge who you really are, nobody else can. I know it’s difficult not to question yourself when it seems that others hate you. Anyone who finds themselves in this situation would ask themselves, “What did I do?” or “What did I say?” It’s only a natural human reaction to being ostracized. It’s difficult not to blame yourself.
But please, for your own self-esteem, do not blame yourself. Remember that the problem lies with the bullies, not with you. You are not responsible for what is happening to you. Believe it!
Although others may turn against you, just make sure that you do not turn against you! Remember that reputation doesn’t equal character!
Continue to love yourself. Continue to take care of yourself and be true to your own heart! Continue to do the things that give you pleasure and surround yourself with those who do love you and want the best for you. Because during this time, you must ‘baby’ your self-esteem and your confidence!
Bullies may turn everyone else against, you! Just don’t allow them to turn you against yourself because you have no reason to hate yourself. So, love yourself even when it seems that others hate you. I promise you that your self-esteem will thank you for it! You will thank yourself for it!
With knowledge comes power!
Only God can judge a person 😎😎
Absolutely!
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Thank you so much, Shanti! 💖
this is who i am. and it is not pretty
There you go! 💯
did you block me tho? i am under that impression. i could be paranoid and in error. get back to me.
No, I didn’t block you. You’ll always be welcome here. 😊🤗
ok my bad. i do get paranoid as the soon to return pope st tom returns . i ve been both Cherie.. but i just want to be at peace.
I understand. I want you to be at peace too. Sending you lots of hugs! 🤗🤗🤗
ty it s a time of transition from winter to spring.
Absolutely! 💯💯💯
i apologise for my error
I forgive you. 💖🤗
ty. i was guilty of judging and assuming.
You’re welcome! 🙂
There is a key aspect of reputation that isn’t often discussed and author Wayne Dyer alluded to its fragile dependency. He said that there are as many reputations for us as there are people we come into contact with. 1000 people equals 1000 reputations, etc. We do not control that area. What is under our grasp is what we choose to let in. Thank you for sharing and the beautiful Socratic reminder.
You’re very welcome, Dr. Maples! And thank you for your words of wisdom! Have a wonderful weekend! 😊
Yes ma’am! Be yourself 💯! You cannot allow anyone, no matter whether they are a bully or not to define you! Like you said don’t give them the room to turn ‘you’ against ‘you!’ Great piece Cherie dawwwwlinkkkkk!!! 😍🌟😘🌺😊💋💃🏼💖
Ahhh, thank you so much, sweethawt! 😍🥰💖💐😘🤗💐🌻🌞
You got it girlie pooh!!! 👱🏼♀️💃🏼🥰
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Great post Cherie, thank you for writing this post. I used to struggle with this growing up, especially in high school. Wish I had this post during that time. Thank you for this piece 🙏🏾💕
You’re most welcome, Gabrielle! And thank you for commenting. Like you, I also struggled with this in high school and wished I’d known then what I know now. Know that you’re better than you know, stringer than you think, and more beautiful than you realize! 💖💐🌺🌻 Sending lots of love your way! 🤗🤗🤗
Thank you so much Cherie 🥰🤗🥰🤗🥰
My pleasure! ❤️
Oh yes!! As you said, we should be too busy in our lives to hate someone, but always be there for ourselves!!
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Absolutely! 💯 And also be there for the ones we love!
I love this! Truly, we are the only one who knows who we are. Thanks for sharing!
You’re most welcome! 💖