Bullies are notorious for demanding that their targets change- that targets change something about themselves that they (the bullies) don’t like. We know that bullies point out anything they don’t like about targets to divert the attention of everyone else away from their own shortcomings and imperfections.
You should always be yourself and never allow bullies to change you. Here are the reasons why:
1. If the bullies can’t find something wrong with you, they’ll invent something wrong with you. If you want to better yourself- get an education, lose weight, get a better job, better home, etc., that’s completely normal because you’re doing those things for yourself. You’re making sensible changes and not to please anyone else.
But if you’re content with your life and some idiot demands you change something about yourself that they don’t like- something that’s not harming anyone, then you have a right to tell that person to go take a long walk off a short pier. Who are they to tell you that you should change?
2. Trying to be someone you aren’t to please others requires too much effort. Why would you want to expend so much work to fake your way through life? You’ll be watching every word that comes out of your mouth and every step you make, which means, you’ll be in a constant state of high alert because you’ll always worry what others think of you. Even if you do get accepted by others by being fake, it won’t make you happy. This is no way to live!
3. There will always be those who don’t like you no matter what you do. Therefore, all that extended effort, just to be liked, is all for naught. You’ll be jumping through hoops for other people. You’ll be shape-shifting yourself into a pretzel and in most cases, it doesn’t make people like you any better. What it does is cause you to live a life of undue stress and anxiety. Is that how you want to live? I hope not.
4. Genuine people and those who matter will only lose respect for you. Let’s be real here. No one likes nor respects a person who is fake. You won’t be taken seriously and, in most cases, you’ll only be bullied worse for your willingness to bend over backwards to gain acceptance. In other words, you’ll only get the opposite outcomes to what you hope for. How disappointing!
Sadly, I see people living in fear- being careful not to say the words, “mother,” “father,” “man,” “woman,” “he” or “she.” And I can only shake my head is dismay and embarrassment.
I write this because we live in a world that is trying to change us and what it wants to change us into is utterly ridiculous. No, wait! Ridiculous isn’t the word for it. Insane is a more appropriate word.
For example, bullies aren’t the only people who will try to change you. The media and other puppet masters also want us to change- even change the way we speak. They want to eliminate the words, “mother,” “father,” “sister,” “brother,” any word that identifies genders of family relatives. It’s crazy!
If they want to use different terms, then fine. To each their own. But how dare they demand that the rest of us change for them?
Who do they think they are?
Since when do they decide how we speak, what we believe, and how we behave?
Who died and made them lords over the rest of us?
And who are they to decide what’s right and what’s wrong?
I’m going to go out on a limb here and tell these radicals that they do not get to decide how I nor anyone else speaks, behaves, or lives.
Understand that they are bullies themselves and are well-known for pushing boundaries and intruding on others. They have to be bullies to burn down people’s homes, businesses, and entire cities to make a point. They must be bullies to assault little old couples or children on the street.
And they’re so arrogant that they feel entitled to tell the rest of us what words we should say to identify members of our families. Again, who do they think they are? This is a blatant attempt at power and control.
And the media and universities have now become a brand of police- also telling us how we should speak, act, and think. Here’s my take on it- I think this gender inclusion crap is a bunch of hogwash. God help them if they were ever told how to live!
These people suggest that the word “mother” be replaced with “gestational parent” or “birthing parent,” and the word “father” be replaced with “non-gestational parent,” or “non-birthing parent.” What???
As I said, I, as well as most others, could care less how other people live. Whatever floats their boat, I always say. You do what makes you happy and allow me to do what makes me happy. In short, you do you and let me do me.
And that’s the message I have for the radicals out there: I don’t stick my nose into your business, so kindly keep your nose out of mine. Go away and leave the rest of us alone. Get a life. Get a job. Get a family. Get a dog! And get a life!
Because, at the end of the day, we’re all just people. And all most people want is to freely practice their faith, raise their families, make a living, and be left alone. Nothing more.
Sadly, bullies don’t know how to leave people alone because they’re determined to violate boundaries. Bullies are all about power and control. They’re all about domination over others. That’s why it’s up to us to stand strong and refuse to change for them. It’s up to us to live our lives the way we want and to live life on our terms. Understand that bullies only have the power we allow them to have.
With knowledge comes empowerment!
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Thanks for this! Can you do a post on how to deal with living with bullies who are related to you next? 😅
You’re most welcome. And I can do that. It will take me a while because I handwriting my posts first, then I polish it, then type it in a word document and polish some more, then save, then publish on the blog. It may not be next, but I’ll definitely write a new post on it and have it up in a few weeks. I always work a few months ahead but I’ll definitely have this post up in a few weeks. Thank you for the idea! 💖💐🌺
You’ve inspired me! Take your time! I look forward to seeing the rest of your works 🙏🏽❤️ God bless you!
Thank you so much! God bless you too! 💖
Bullies are dangerous.
Few days back I didn’t know who these bullies are.
Now I am aware.
They are wicked.
I actually named my bully as
Wicky and fucky.
I am extremely sorry.
But I am honest and sincere.
My bully is dangerous for society, not for me alone.
A hard core……
I’m so sorry to hear this, Arun. But I understand how you feel. Know that you’re free to speak your mind here. 🤗💖
I am blessed.
You have come to me as gift from the Lord Jesus. Lord loves me enormously.
I am quite happy in my life with everything around, except that bully, the Satan.
But I am sorry to say these, because I loved her with my deepest heart’.
I only got ignored.
In young age however, it was but good life in all respect.
My daughter is married and established too.
Anyways, I trust in Lord Jesus Christ.
Thank you so much for your support and encouragement ☺️🙏
I understand completely, Arun! God bless you! 🙂
I love your post! I was bullied viciously back in high school, and I wish I had your blog for those moments. Continue spreading the awareness of bullying, we need more posts like this one. Great work! 🥰😊✨
Thank you so much, Gabrielle! You don’t know how much this means. My heart goes out to you and I’m so sorry your classmates treated you so horribly. I feel your pain because I was bullied too- chronically and viciously, for six long years. It got so bad that I attempted suicide at the age of fourteen and almost didn’t make it. But God gave me a second chance and I couldn’t be more grateful! Now, I use what I went through to help others who are bullied today! And I love doing it!
Know that you are no longer a victim, you’re a victor! And know that there was never anything wrong with you and that you are and always were enough. You have value no matter what bullies may tell you. And know that you’re among friends here! 💖💞
Your welcome, and thank you Cherie, it means a lot to me! 🥰🥰🥰🥰
You’re most welcome! 💕💕💕
Well said Cherie! Nobody has any right to tell someone else how to live. That’s bullying.
Thank you so much, Michael! 😊😊😊
Preach it Cherie💯✅🎯💕💕
Thank you so much, girlie! 💖You have a way of uplifting with your comments! 😊
I’m so glad😃
Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord, my [firm, impenetrable] Rock and my Redeemer (Psalms 19:14)
As long as Our words are acceptable to God, we are not required to change them in order to appease the bully liberal media, nor these ultra liberal universities!! Thanks for posting this Cherie!!💕
You’re most welcome! 💖And you’re absolutely right! 💯God accepts us as we are, flaws and all!
A very thoughtful post!! I remember how some ‘cool’ people used to tease me about being studious back at school. And for some time i started adopting their ways but then I realised that it wasn’t how things work. Because as you said, “If the bullies can’t find something wrong with you, they’ll invent something wrong with you.” 🙂
P. S. Thanks for following The Amateur Pen. 😉
You’re very welcome! And thank you so much for sharing your experiences- I’m so glad that you took your power back and decided to be yourself! It’s such sweet freedom! 💖💕💖💕
Such a powerful post Cherie! Thank you.
You’re most welcome, Stella! 😊