Many times, bullies will blow up on their targets for absolutely no reason. When they’re later questioned about the blow-up, they can’t remember why they lost their temper. So, they drum up fake memories to fill in the blanks in order to sound plausible instead of ridiculous.
When bullies confabulate, they do it to feel sane when they wouldn’t otherwise. And the way they feel sane is to insert made-up stories to fill in the blanks. I’ve seen this happen many times and even had bullies justify themselves to me by the same method.
Sometimes, confabulations can be mistaken for real memories and the truth to the confabulator.
When bullies confabulate a justifiable reason for their appalling behavior, they believe themselves. So, is it any wonder that most abusers appear to others to be telling the truth when they justify and rationalize away their abusive actions?
When a person believes their own lies, others are more likely to believe them too. It’s a fact.
Confabulations have an incredible effect on witnesses. When people hear lies spoken as truths, it is as if you’ve entered the twilight zone.
No one wants to be under a bully’s influence, but people get sucked under it all the time. Many people have had their lives destroyed, even taken because they were persuaded by bullies. And those who saw through those abusers and spoke out were either silenced or paid a heavy price for daring to open their mouths. This has also happened to entire cultures and populations.
Understand that confabulations can be a powerful weapon because, again- the bullies who confabulate believe themselves so it’s a sure bet that others will believe them too. That’s why we must learn to either properly counter any confabs or let the bully drag them out until others get tired of hearing them squawking about it.
With knowledge comes empowerment!
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Oh noooo…not the confabulations from the confabulators!!! 😜🤣😁 It’s so sad that they have to work sooooo hard to be front and center. 😝 I agree with you, people get sucked in and can be destroyed because of it. Great post girlfriend! Another message on target!!! 🎯👍🏼😊💖✨
Thank you so much, Kym! 💖 And I agree with you, girl! 💯 They have to work sooo hard! Life’s too short for that mess!
Ain’t that the truth! 🎯
Bullies bully because they think it’s normal behaviour.
Bullying is learned. If it’s not corrected it only gets worse and hurts more people.
Absolutely, Matt! 💯 Bullies get worse as they get older.
I’ve never thought about this before. Interesting…thanks😊😊
You’re very welcome. 🙂
Thank you bunches, RJ! 😊🤗🕊
The ירידות הדורות curse defines g’lut Jewry. Examples of this Torah curse, they flourish like daisies on a Spring day. But a general statement, as expressed comparable to the opening thesis statement here, requires qualifying particulars. Its the latter which separates a Torah תוכחה\\rebuke// from religious rhetoric//propaganda. Therefore the theme of the current discussion which this blog introduces shall make the codification of the תרי”ג Commandments made popular in Reshonim codes which categorized the 613 into 248 positive and 365 negative commandments. Publication of these codes produced a domino effect that cursed the Jewish people to this very day.
Mitzvot commandments define Torat Moshe … the Torah revelation. Not till about 6 Centuries after Rav Ashi and Rav Ravina sealed the Talmud Bavli, did rabbis representing g’lut Jewry first start their attempts to organize the commandments into nice & tidy codes. Torah functions as Common Law expressed through the discipline of comparing commandments as precedents to make a depth analysis of other Torah commandments. The concept of opposing Yatzirot, as learned by Rabbi Yechudah Ha’Nasi in ברכות, this interpretation learns from the story of Adam Ha’Reshon eating fruit produced by the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil.
Rabbi Yechudah interpreted the incorrect spelling of לבבך\\לבבכם as expressed in the opening first two paragraphs of the Mitzvah דאורייתא of kre’a shma. This later mitzva serves as the foundation upon which stands all avodat HaShem as expressed through the mitzva of tefillah. Torah mitzvot commandments compare to braids of a woman with long hair. Mitzvot commandments, when braided together, they give a depth dimension to the 2 dimensional single hair strands.
Torah Common Law radically differs from statutory\religious law which the Reshonim codifications of the תרי”ג Commandments, their false scholarship foisted upon the Jewish people. This pathetic era, 950 – 1400 CE, wherein virtually all rabbis kissed, and made love with that foreign alien woman of Torah faith — her name “Assimilation”. With all general statements, exists exceptions to the rule. The French Ashkenazi Rashi\\Tosafot school of Torah scholarship more successfully fought off the seductive kisses, whereby that foreign alien woman sought to seduce g’lut Jewry. Alas the Rambam Civil War, several of its most terrible consequences — the total destruction of the Rashi\\Tosafot school of T’NaCH & Talmudic scholarship, followed by the forced imprisonment of Western Jewry into Ghetto prisons; the forced mass population transfer of Jews unto Eastern Europe, primarily unto Poland.
Sephardi, primarily assimilated Spanish rabbis, their clout and influence dominated both that pathetic era of T’NaCH and Talmudic scholarship, as well as the current era – the Acharonim scholars – whose “dark light” dominates the Yeshiva world to this very day. Common Law does not function in any way comparable to statutory law, religious law; the former expressed through lateral courtroom legal rulings … whereas the latter rests upon the יסוד of cults of personality…. Jews keep the halachah simply because Karo ruled a halacha; which he codified within his Shulchan Aruch. The authority of Yosef Karo among Traditional Jewry, it compares to that which JeZeus & Paul lords over Xtians.
Statutory & religious law often expressed through codifications and dogmatism. Both this and that do not require Oral Torah logic formats, whereby both T’NaCH, Talmud, and Midrashim all most essentially require. Once the Sephardi assimilated Spanish rabbis, that ‘golden and silver Age’, that tumah reigned supreme, Jews ceased to study Talmud to learn Oral Torah logic. The assimilated replacement theology organized the Torah – Talmud into cubes of religious subjects of rigid law. Something like extinct dinosaurs bones fossilized into stone. Comparable to the false picture made famous by Cecil B. DeMille, which has Moshe descend from Sinai carrying two tablets of stone with the 10 commandments.
שמות לב:טו — ושני לחת העדת בידו, לחת כתבים משני עבריהם מזה ומזה הם כתבים
Not just DeMille read this p’suk making a literal reading of its words, but virtually every beit knesset which holds the Safer Torah, employs this childish and foolish imagery. Torah prophets command mussar. To learn and understand Torah mussar commandments requires the Oral Torah פרדס logic system of learning; by and through – other Torah commandments learned as precedents. This critical sugia of the Written Torah שמות לב:טו – לה, requires the law of Common Law and not statutory law or religious law to grasp its mussar rebuke unto the generations of bnai brit Israel alone. Goyim reject to this day the revelation of the Written and Oral Torah @ Sinai and Horev respectively.
Therefore the intent of this specific blog, purposes to learn this critical sugia of the Chumash through the משנה תורה של דברים\\The Book of Deuteronomy…לשמה…the first Commandment of the Sinai revelation. This conversion\perversion/ of Common law unto statutory & religious law, this avodah zarah effectively מחני נא מספרך אשר כתבת//it expunges Moshe from the Book of Life.
The discipline of Oral Torah Common Law learns the Written Torah strictly and only by means of comparing other Torah precedents. The 5th Book of the Written Torah, specifically composed by Moshe the prophet on the last day of his life. This last book of Aggaditah serves to “braid” the other commandments located in the other Books of the Torah, with the purpose — to interpret the depth of the Torah commandments located within the first four Books of the Torah codification.
Common law Talmudic scholars debate over precedents presented by both the prosecutor and defense judges. Herein explains the ‘Difficulty\Answer’ style of the Sha’s Gemarah. Middot have a common translation as measurements. Therefore first, intend to introduce a less precise sugia precedent learned from the משנה תורה and then compare and contrast that distant precedent with a closer more precise precedent.
דברים ז:יז – כו compares and with another slightly distant precedent: דברים יב: כט – יג: ו. These slightly distant precedents, they none the less serve as powerful precedents to interpret the Spirit of k’vanna of Moshe breaking the tablets, that משל Aggaditah. Another slightly distant precedent, דברים טו: א – יא, it compares to yet another slightly distant precedent דברים טז: יג – כ.
Now contrast these four slightly removed precedents with this more precise Torah precedent דברים כג: ג – ז. Avodah zarah directly learns from Mamzarim and Bil’am the prophet. The latter, Moshe the prophet emphasizes – the avodah zarah expressed by the ‘Evil Eye’ of Bil’am, his desire to weaken and impoverish the chosen Cohen nation. So Moshe did not engrave 10 commandments upon two tablets of stone. Rather the משנה תורה defines the Spirit of K’vanna of the revelation of the Torah @ Sinai expressed through the commandment to develop a ‘Good Eye’ toward our bnai brit people. The Talmud emphatically teaches the דיוק, that hatred without cause resulted in the g’lut of Judean Jewry in the days of the Roman empire.
May HaShem bless this learning to negate the domino effect known as ירידות הדורות; caused by assimilated rabbis, their perversion of Torah common law into statutory law, and religious law. The correct study of the Torah learns first and foremost, it absolutely requires the discipline of the Oral Torah לשמה logic
Learned a new word today!
Awesome sauce! I’m so glad to hear that! “Confabulations” is a word I learned just three years ago and I’m fifty now! You never stop learning no matter how old you get. 💖💐🌺🕊
Thank you for your lovely comment! 😍
I learned a new word today and I will definitely be taking a closer look at it so I can confidently use it – ‘Confabulations’! 😊 Thank you – will introduce this to my English language learners – they will have a blast!
You’re very welcome! I didn’t learn this word myself until about 3 years ago. I’m fifty now, soon will be 51. You never stop learning no matter how old you get! 😄
That’s the truth!