Everywhere you go, be it the workplace, the school, the community, anywhere, it seems that the worst, most vile and nastiest people are celebrated and those who just want to live their lives in peace and go about their business are despised.
In a world that thrives mostly on smooth talk and appearances, authentic and good people are demonized by others because people see them as threats and feel they must contain threats. But allow me to break it down a little more.
1. The biggest reason bullies are celebrated, and mentally healthy people are hated is because people place their priorities on the wrong things- power, fame, sex, money, success, and good looks- things they feel would make them feel and seem more important.
Also, too many people think that strength is all about the ability to buffalo others and look tough. Granted, this may have been true back during the caveman days, but not today. Today, strength comes from social intelligence and the ability to keep quiet and listen. Strength comes from mental toughness, not physical.
Genuine strength comes from staying true to yourself and committing to the right thing in an environment of wrong. It’s staying kind and good when you’re surrounded by evil. True strength is standing up to power bullies when you feel at your weakest. It’s having the endurance to take life’s gut punches and having the resolve to get back up.
2. Another reason bullies are celebrated, and good people hated is because bullies are notorious for sucking-up to power in power to win favor and special treatment. Good don’t or won’t kiss booty to get ahead. They prefer to advance on their own merit. Good people are true to themselves and feel they don’t have to lick someone else’s boots to survive and thrive. They mind their own business and don’t get involved in cliques and social politics.
3. Bullies are well-known for making the good people with healthy minds look evil and mentally ill and they do it by provoking them into an argument. Bullies know better than to tell blatant lies, so they take a tiny grain of truth and embellish on it, adding their own personal spin to it and making things and people look worse than what they are. Make no mistake, bullies are good at distortions.
They are like magicians in that they create illusions that are believable. You’ve heard the term, “sleight of hand,” but bullies have a talent for, “sleight of word” – they’re the best wordsmiths in the business of bullying. For example, a good person can make an honest mistake and a bully will take it and make it look like the person didn’t do the thing by accident but deliberately. Bullies are experts and making simple mistakes look like evil sins punishable by death.
4. Again, good people are considered threatening in an environment of evil because they have a flare for exposing truths that bullies would move heaven and earth to keep hidden. Sometimes, these people, just by their authentic and down-to-earth personalities, can expose bullies and the bullies know it, so, they decide that it’s better to mob them (the authentic people) out before they bust them (the bullies) out.
Therefore, anytime you are faced with a bully, and you know you never did anything to provoke the person, it’s because of the four reasons above.
With knowledge comes empowerment!
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Hi charie, I love your blog and your posts.
Thank you so much, Zeal. 🕊 It’s so good to meet you and It’s a pleasure to have you here! 😊🤗
Thank you Cherie, and thanks for liking my blog and post, it really means a lot to me. For someone like you to like my post is something big for me and it is gonna go into my diary. Thank you
It’s my pleasure, Zeal! I wish you much success on your blog and in everything! <3
Thank you Cherie, you are a very nice person. I really want to learn from you. Can I be your apprentice
Sure you can! 😊
Thank you. When do I start master? What should I call you? Boss, master, ma?
Please just call me Cherie. I’m just a normal everyday person. I’m not a boss, master, or anything of the sort. I’m a helper. That’s it. 🙂
Well Cherie, thank you once again. Can I start now?
Just keep writing, Zeal. You’ll get better with time. It’s what I had to do.
Really, You just kept writing and nothing more?
It helps to do a lot of reading too. And always have a dictionary or thesaurus with you. Those are also what make you better.
Ok. So the inference here is that if you are a great writer then you can be a great blogger
Yes. But you have to read too. And I would advice having a niche.
Can you elaborate on the niche part and can we talk chat elsewhere, can’t believe we are chatting in the comment section 😆
A niche is a special interest. Like my blog niche is Bullying. I talk about what it does to targets and what targets can do to protect themselves. Find your interest, whether it be cooking, camping, bullying, mental health, or otherwise. And make your blog based on your niche
Ok, thank you. Well my blog’s niche is gonna be about enlightenment cause I would love to post about a variety of things
Enlightenment is a great niche!
Thank you Cherie, So I will start writing tomorrow. I wanna write about Dreams and visions _what do you think?
Sounds like a great thing to write about. 🙂
Thank you, You are really helpful. Where are you from?
Tennessee, USA. And you?
Nice, Tennessee is a great place. Well, my place.. I come from Africa, Nigeria to be precised. There are lot of bad things about this country so I don’t really like telling people
I completely understand, Zeal. Know that you’re always welcome here and on this blog.
Thank you Cherie. What languages do you speak?
Nice, Well I speak English, W. Africa creole and a little Spanish
Good deal. I can speak a moderate amount of Spanish, but my main language is English.
Really, Ok. Como estas?
Bueno. Qué pasa?
Great writing 💖💖💖
Thank you so much, Mohinul! 🕊
Wonderful post, Cherie! An excellent explanation of the reasons why bullies get cheered and good people treated like dust.
Thank you so much! 💖
You are totally right, as always, and sending good messages. I worry that, in the future, at least half the people we meet are going to be bullies. When I was a kid I bet it was only around 30 per cent. It’s the way society is going. But keep up the good work, because I’m probably wrong, as always…Hugs for you and this poor stupid world 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️
Sending you lots of love and light, Jim! 🤗💖 Thank you so much!
hugs all day long 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
Sending you lots of hugs too! 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
oh my 😳😳😳😳
“2. Another reason bullies are celebrated, and good people hated is because bullies are notorious for sucking-up to power in power to win favor and special treatment.”
I always wondered why this happens in the workplace, where if some tattletale makes up a story (“Steve was on his email when he wasn’t on break!”), the supervisor believes them, but then won’t listen to the story of the accused. Now I know why, and it relates to the other article you wrote: people are lazy. By tattling on someone, that person is doing the supervisor’s job FOR them. However, if the accused tries to tell their side, and their side contradicts what was already heard…well, that is too much work for them to sort out. Easier to just tell the accused to shut up.
“3. Bullies know better than to tell blatant lies, so they take a tiny grain of truth and embellish on it, adding their own personal spin to it and making things and people look worse than what they are.”
I am going through this right now. Fortunately, the lies are being told to people who are smart enough to see right through them. (I don’t want to say too much “out loud” about that, for various reasons.)
I completely understand and my heart goes out to you! 💔 May you have victory over these people and have peace at work! 💖💐
Great observation. Thank you for sharing.
You’re so welcome! You don’t know how much I appreciate you! 💖💐🕊
hey cherie, your blogs focus on bullying is inspiring. Its really great to read you voicing against all the terrible things bullies put people through. I hope you keep writing and hope you realize how much your blog actually helps the readers!!
You don’t know how much this means, Riya! Thank you so much! <3
This is what I call a very informative niche blog nicely focused on one specific topic and well researched. Thumbs up
Thank you so much, Eduardo! This means a lot! 😀
Honey chile, I have to agree with you that bullies are like magicians in that they create illusions that are believable. Their dysfunction and deception never ceases to amaze me. SMH 🙄😱😣 Very good post girlfriend! 👏🏼🥳😁
Thank you so much, girlie! And I so agree! Can you say, psychological sleight of hand? 😁😁😁
LMBO, girl you are truly a riot!!! I LOVE IT!!! 🤣😆😂
#3 really resonates with me especially. I noticed once I really started focusing on reaching my goals, suddenly I was weird or crazy. Nobody has any issues with me when I was younger and cared more about pleasing people. It really is so true that the genuine people are often targeted by the insecure trying to look more important.
*had (typos) lol
It’s okay, sweetie. I make typos too…a lot! 😁
Sadly, that’s exactly what happens, Sara. People want you brainwashed and submissive. They don’t want you independent and pursuing your goals. I’m so sorry you were treated so badly by these types. 💖💕
It’s alright. It was quite eye opening at first. Like people who you were sure would support you suddenly turn against you. O.O I think keeping your circle small is so important – being with those who truly want to see you happy and successful.
I couldn’t agree more with you, Sara! Keeping your circle small is the best because most people don’t deserve to be in your life. Keep company only with people who’ve been behind you through thick and thin. Those are the relationship that last a lifetime.
That’s very true. <3
“Good people are considered threatening in an environment of evil because they have a flare for exposing truths that bullies would move heaven and earth to keep hidden…” Well ain’t that the truth!
I tell the truth and that is why I was slandered so I would appear hostile when I spoke against your abuse and the unjustices of it all. My nickname is more valid than: I am the Keeper of Secrets- your dirty, despictable little secrets because you, BullyBoss- you pathetic little Ring Leader, shoved me outside the Circus Tent! I will find a platform, and I will be heard!
Wow, the things you stir in me Cherie!
Thank you so much, Kim! And I love your quote at the end! Now that really stirred emotions in me! <3
Oops! I also meant to add that you’re 💯 percent correct on the quote about Good People! Soooo spot on! <3
No quote at the end, Cherie- that was exactly how it was! So I know I will find a platform to be heard- starting here!
You’re right, Kim! And you’ve found it here! Speak until you run out of words, sweetie! Let it out! You always have a listening ear! ❤🤗
👍❤️- the perfect platform for me right now! Thank you again and again!
You’re most welcome! 💖💐🌹🕊
How true …especially the part about bullies sucking up to power.
Thank you so much, Shanti! 💖 This means a lot! Welcome to the Chateau! 🤗
Thanks Cherie 💕nice to meet you
It’s a pleasure to meet you too. 😊
PS: Today I stumbled across this article- maybe it could shed some light on why people are mean and then continue to trek to the dark side.
Thank you so much for this, Kim! I’ll definitely check this out when I get back home. <3