As everyone knows, bullies are loud, obnoxious, and talk…most of them always talk and never shut up. Most targets are quiet, and yes, many are silent because of the fear bullies have instilled in them. However, there are those targets who are quiet for a different reason- they know that you can’t observe as effectively when you’re busy yapping.
When you’re quiet, you’re watching people closely and you’re also listening very carefully to them. Your silence allows you to pick up so much more.
You watch, you listen, and you learn so much about your bullies and bystanders too. You watch their body language and you can do it without staring- instead, you can use your peripheral vision and no one will suspect a thing from you.
You listen to their voices- tonality, pitch, the slightest quiver- and it tells you so much.
They always say that it’s the quiet ones you should watch out for.
In this case, they’re right! Because, on our silence, we can pick up everything and have you figured out in no time.
Understand that we may not be talking, but trust me- we’re watching you like a hawk and we’re listening. We’re studying your every micro-expression, analyzing every tiny detail in your movements and actions, and assessing every little sound you make. We’re also constantly thinking and planning. So if you’re a bully, especially a loudmouth one, don’t underestimate us. Remember, “it’s the quiet ones you must watch out for.”
And if you’re a target, use your silence to figure out not only your bullies, but also the bystanders and those who claim to be your friends too.
With knowledge comes power!
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Powerful this makes sense of why my sister who was so bullied and was a bully in the past became so silent and watchful as her illness progressed.. I learn so much from you.. I think sometimes I talk too much..<3
Thank you so much. And I’m so sorry your sister was bullied. God bless her! 💖🙏 And we all talk too much sometimes. But keep speaking out about bullying. And know that your sister isn’t to blame for the rotten behavior of her bullies. 💐🌹
so true its often men putting down women not always as I know so many sensitive young men suffer.. but in this case it was..
I feel her pain, sweetie! And yours too. I know it’s hard watching a loved one be treated so horrifically. 😢💔
It broke my heart esoecislky the shock treatment I tried to speak up but they got angry so I pulled back its all I could do. Thank you.
You’re welcome. 💖
YES ! ! !
Thank you so much. 💖
You can defeat your enemies by just silence so in most cases introverts are easy target for bullies at the same time introverts are the most dangerous people because you never know what they have observed and what are they thinking.
You aren’t lying about that! 💯🎯👍 Still waters run deep!
Now, this is truly some powerful advice, “Your silence allows you to pick up so much more.” I learned this lesson quite early, but it wasn’t easy. I was not always the one who turned the other cheek when I was younger and in such a situation, I clapped back with all I could muster. But to be more effective, I had to be still and silent in order to know what moves to make next! 🤔 Another good post Cherieeeee, Cherie baby! 🤗🎵😘💖🥰
Girrrrl! You sound like the younger me! I’d clap back in a heartbeat back then! But I’ve learned the hard way that it’s better to let them talk themselves into trouble! 😂🤣😜 As the old saying goes, “Loose lips sink ships!” The more they flap them lips, the more you can pick their brains and maneuver around them! And I love the last line referring to the song by the Four Seasons!🎶🕺💃
Look at you my friend, gettin’ your Frankie Valli and the Four Seasons groove on!!! 🎶🎤🗣🎵🎙
And let me say that I agree with you 💯 about them loose lips. Ships ain’t the only thing they’re sinking!!! 😲🚢🤨
Ain’t that the truth! 💯😁😜
Yes ma’am!!! 👍🏼
And girl, my grandmother listened to a lot of Frankie! 😁😁😁 So, I was a second-hand listener. 😜
LOL, second-hand ain’t a bad thing. Remember, big girls don’t cry my sweetness!!! 😜🥂🤗
Absolutely! 💯😁 They don’t cry-yy-yy! 🎶
Amen. My dog is amazingly perspective in picking up visual clues. I believe it’s because my beloved Buddy had to be watchful for any clues that his abuser would attack him. He was mistreated for 3 years before he was fostered and I adopted him. He’s a wonderful, but strange, dog.
Bless that sweet dog’s heart! 💔😢 How anyone could abuse an animal, I’ll never understand. And my Roxie is the same. I got her when she was a puppy and she’d been around four small children. She’s very intuitive because the kids used to pull her tail a lot before I got her. Animals and people who’ve been abused learn very quickly to be watchful. 💯
Bless you for also rescuing a pup. Enjoy the weekend.
You too. ❤