Let’s face it. We live in a society of three things that kill peace and happiness- self-loathing, self-consciousness, and low self-esteem; and it shows every day. We see people with victim mentality, people running around in fear, and people who carry unnecessary guilt.
Targets of bullying do this all the time to prove something to their classmates, neighbors, or coworkers. Even people who aren’t necessarily targets of bullying but have been brainwashed by media to believe that they’re somehow responsible for the evil in the world do the same thing. I want you to understand that you are not responsible for someone else’s atrocious and unspeakable actions.
For example, last summer, we saw on the news, where people people would kneel before certain groups to virtue signal and prove they weren’t racist, xenophobic, or homophobic. And while these people were kneeling, those they were kneeling before only laughed. It was quite pathetic.
‘You see? Here’s the thing. If you know who you are and that you aren’t any of these things, you don’t have to prove it.
My point is that that if you know who you are, what you stand for, and that you haven’t done anything wrong- if you know in your heart that you’re not what others say you are, there’s no need to bend over backwards and jump through hoops to prove otherwise.
At the same time, you absolutely must loathe evil and yes, even speak out against it. But virtue signaling isn’t necessary.
I hate racism, xenophobia, and homophobia with a passion and I speak out against it. I hate anything that marginalizes human beings on the basis of being different and not their character and their behavior. But I won’t take responsibility for the despicable behavior of other people and I will never virtue signal to prove anything because I don’t have to.
I know who I am and I know that my virtues are there whether they’re visible or not.
So let your goodness and humanity speak for itself. Let your truth do the talking for you. Stop being afraid of conflict and of being labeled. If you’re carrying guilt that isn’t your burden to carry, stop it right now. Know that a fearful person is a controllable person. Don’t be that person!
Don’t be the person who is constantly trying to prove something to others because, in the end, you only demean and degrade yourself.
Instead, be the person who hates and speaks out against evil and wrongdoing. Be the person who shows love to people of different races, nationalities, orientations, religions, beliefs, or any other differences. But most of all, be the person who’s positivity, love, and good deeds speak for themselves. Remember that we’re all human beings deserving of dignity and love.
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Thank you so much. 💞
Very excellently put Cherie! I believe that the best way to convince people believe you are a certain thing is to try to prove you’re not that thing.
Thank you, Michael.
Hi Cherie… Just wanted to let you know how much value and information all your posts hold for me. Sometimes not even the closest person to you can say the things which you need to hear and you find them written somewhere while scrolling leisurely… 😊 Thanks again for sharing all this and keep up the good work !!! 🧡
My pleasure, Akriti. And thank you for your encouragement. 😊🤗
Thank you so much, Greg! Hope you’re doing well, friend. 🙂
Thanks 🙂 I am, for the most part, although I might need an unplanned blog hiatus soon with what life will be like in the next few weeks.
I’m doing well for the most part… I’ve been living the last month like COVID isn’t a thing, but they’re bringing back, and in a few cases enforcing, mask mandates here, and I feel this constant lurking dread that everything is going to shut down again, and that I’m going to have to relive the nightmare of doing my job ineffectively from home and not being allowed to see my friends… and it’s frustrating knowing that many states won’t ever go back to that. It has me wondering again if moving would be worth it, but there are so many complicating factors involved in that decision…
I’m so sorry to hear that, Greg. What state do you live in if you don’t mind me asking?
I’ll email you privately. Or if you’re like me and you like puzzles and such, it’s pretty easy to figure out from the 4/12/96 episode, since people have correctly been able to guess or figure out where that episode actually took place in real life even with the name of the city changed.
I got the email, Greg! Oh Lord, my heart goes out to you! 😱😱😱
Hopefully they’ll get that creep out of office soon and you’ll be a lot freer!
I hope so, I certainly didn’t vote for him, and never will… unfortunately, enough people here support that administration because the only thing he and his party have done well is convincing enough of the public that all of the problems in the state and country are the other side’s fault. And a recent poll showed that people here are okay with wearing masks… I think it’s because of virtue signaling. I wonder how many people will still be okay with it if everything shuts down completely again…
Sometimes, in order to destroy fools, you must let them have their way and let them destroy themselves. And I so hate to say that because they’re going to take a lot of innocent people down with them. People who didn’t ask for any of that crap. It’s heartbreaking 💔😢
That’s very true… although it’s taking way too long here, and still getting worse… another part of the problem is that the other party can’t put together any likeable candidates that will get any support from beyond their extreme wing. That’s just how the country is these days…
I received a clear answer to prayer two years ago that God wanted me to stay here, that there was still work for me to do here. I don’t know if things have changed, though…
That’s completely understandable. The last thing we need are extremist candidates- left or right! I guess that’s why I’m Independent. Because most Democrats are for lawlessness, enslavement, and destruction and most Republicans are too wussy and spineless. There are not enough Moderates in either party.
But yes. Go where God wants you.
It is exhausting to keep living to prove to others, to get other’s approval and such freedom when we are able to break out of those shackles. Your post calls out on so many aspects of this so effectively. Self love and awareness is so crucial.
You got that right! There are a few times when it pays to be lazy and that situation is one. My grandmother said it best when she said that living for other’s approval makes you their prisoner. Thank you so much for your lovely comment! ❤
Ah, I love the message that when we know who we are, we don’t feel like we have to prove ourselves. There is power in authenticity. <3
Absolutely, there is! Thank you so much for your positivity! ❤🤗
Haha! :-D! Loved it!
Well said. No need to bend over backwards.🤟