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Suicide from Bullying: 3 Must-Know Facts

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‘Want to know all the facts about suicide from bullying? Here are all the details you need to know so that if you ever contemplate taking your own life because of bullying, you’ll reconsider and choose life.

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The suicide rate of bullying victims has skyrocketed in the last twenty years. This is heartbreaking. Therefore, in this post, you will learn that we can help lower the rates of suicide from bullying so that we can give victims hope and encouragement.

Once you learn all about these details, you will be able to lower the suicide rate, starting with yourself, and then give hope to those who still struggle.

This post is all about suicide from bullying, so that you can discover just how serious it is and not only take steps to ensure that you, yourself, do not end up being another statistic, but give other victims hope and encouragement so that they won’t become statistics either.

Suicide from bullying

Bullying has made headlines for the last twenty or so years. Millions of innocent kids are targets of bullying in school. And technology has only made it much worse.

I look back on my own suicide attempt when I was fourteen. I was angry that I survived the attempt then. However, I’m so thankful for my survival today. I now know that God gave me a second chance.

And he didn’t have to give me that. There are so many bullied kids who don’t get a second chance when they attempt suicide. Instead, they succeed at taking their own lives. And it’s heartbreaking!

God did not give me a second chance because I deserved it. None of us “deserves” anything from Him. I don’t know why he chose to give me another shot at life. But what I do know is that I’m grateful.

Here are 3 Facts about Suicide from Bullying

1. Victims don’t really want to die, they just want the pain to stop.

Suicide is not a natural act. It happens to bullied kids and adults when the bullying reaches such a high level that the person sees death as the only escape. It’s not that the victim wants to die. I don’t think victims really want death. They only want the pain to stop.

Victims feel they have tried everything else, and now, it seems that death is the only option they have left. Victims die from suicide because they have grown tired of fighting. They’ve tried reporting it, but no one listens because they don’t care.

Suicide from Bullying:

2. When bullied victims die from suicide, IT’S from an ACCUMULATION OF INCIDENTS.

Many times, the few friends the person has aren’t true friends. Why? Because they don’t have their back when the bullies come calling. This causes the victim to feel betrayed and sold out.

Nothing is worse than the realization that someone you trust doesn’t have your back. And, there’s no one worse than a friend who does not value your friendship.

Why? Because if they don’t value your friendship, they won’t think enough of you to speak against the torment. The shock of it is akin to being kicked in the stomach.

3. It’s not only the BULLYING, it’s the isolation, alienation, and lack of support that comes with it.

Targets of bullying have tried defending themselves, only for others to blame and punish them for it. Victims of bullying don’t consider suicide when the bullying first starts. They only reach the point of considering suicide when the bullying has gone on for so long and escalated such that the bullies have become deranged.

And when bullies become deranged, all they can focus on is ways to hurt their victims and hold them down. They become dangerously obsessed with their victims.

As a result, the victims suffer so much abuse that they see no way to escape it. Also, people have stopped listening to their cries for help. Sometimes, even family members.

 Moreover, it isn’t only the pain of bullying, it’s the isolation and alienation that comes when others bully you. It’s all these factors combined that add up to pain that only a few can comprehend. And, it’s what drives victims to suicide.

Suicide from Bullying:

Learning Everything you can about bullies and bystanders can save your life.

Bullies bully you because they want power over you. They want power and control over you because they don’t have it over their own lives. Bullies are so insecure that the only way they can feel good about themselves is to make you feel bad.

Bullies are the biggest cowards in the world. However, most bystanders are also cowards. Sadly, most bystanders would rather watch someone else being harassed and do nothing to help them than risk pissing the bullies off. However, when they refuse to help you, they are just as guilty as the brutes who inflict the torment.

Another thing bystanders don’t think about is that any one of them could be next. And they wouldn’t like it if they were the ones being targeted and others saw it happen. They would be humiliated if people watched bullies pummeling them with insults, fists, and feet.

And what if one of the people witnessing was in a position to help them but chose not to? Here’s the truth you need to see right now. Most bystanders are arrogant. Why? Because they don’t think that bullying could ever happen to them.

Therefore, as long as it isn’t happening to them or someone they care about, they don’t care. This is what makes them just as bad as the bullies themselves.

The Trauma from Bullying Accumulates over time

People who watch the bullying but stand by and let it happen have no idea. They don’t know what it’s like to be on the receiving end.

They can never comprehend the pain this causes. It is a pain that most targets can see no end to. Again, all too often, a victim resorts to suicide to make it stop.

Suicide is one of the top causes of death among people ages 12 to 25. And the death of any young person is a tragic waste of precious life!

Some bystanders consider ridiculing another human as being funny, cool, or both. However, to the person being ridiculed, it is anything but that.

Small taunts and digs can add up over time and have a cumulative result of pain that is devastating. When others bully you, the suffering only grows. Each taunt, dig, or cruel joke cuts a little deeper.

Suicide from Bullying:

Bullied people were dying from suicide long before it was considered newsworthy.

Long before the late 90s and early 2000s, the subject of bullying was a taboo issue to bring up. You couldn’t mention it in conversation or even write about it.

Up until about twenty-five years ago, most people refused to discuss it. Targets often kept it hidden due to the shame that typically accompanies being a victim.

Why? Because in most cases, they knew they’d pay a heavy price for it. It was likely that others would blame them, accuse them of being the aggressor, or label them as “weak.”

However, here’s the reality. It doesn’t matter how tough, strong, smart, or awesome a person is. Anyone can become a victim of bullying. And bullies are such cowards that they always attack in groups.

Suicide from bullying:

Bullying usually occurs in numbers.

There is strength in numbers. In other words, large numbers of people can have a cumulative power that can overwhelm even the greatest, toughest, strongest, and most intelligent individuals.

If enough others are against you, you are powerless. It does not matter how strong, smart, beautiful, or easy-going you may be.

Only when school officials open up, face the truth, and admit that bullying exists in their schools can they tackle the problem. Moreover, they can make a safer learning environment for all students.

Over the last twenty-five years, people have finally recognized bullying as a serious enough problem to address publicly. It has made national headlines and is now one of today’s issues.

I believe that this is long overdue.

We must teach kids confidence.

Too many parents and schools fail to teach children the confidence they need to stand up to bullies. Teach kids confidence and save their life.

In closing

If you suffer bullying at school or work, I want you to know that there is still hope. Additionally, I want to assure you that you are awesome, regardless of what your peers may think or say.

  Rest assured that you are never alone and that there are so many other people – awesome people who suffer the same. You are good enough and you do matter.

You have value. And your value does not decrease because of your peers’ inability to see your worth.

No matter how hopeless your situation may be now, you must know that life won’t always be this way. There will come a day when you will be free of your tormentors. I am living proof that you can go on to live a happy, peaceful, and successful life. Just don’t give up. Protect your mental health. Strive to keep living.

You are worth fighting for, and you are worth living for!

This post was all about suicide from bullying, so that you know all the contributing factors. Also, the purpose of it is to encourage you to live even when things are at their worst.

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Bullying Support: 7 Resources You Can Reach Out to

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Bullying support groups and organizations are life savers for victims of bullying. Therefore, if you or a loved one is suffering from bullying, gaslighting, and abuse, I want you to know that there are people and organizations you can reach out to.

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When bullies target you at school or in the workplace, a support system can be the difference between suicide and the will to live. I tell you this from experience.

Sadly today, there are people who don’t consider the damage bullying does to victims because most people don’t like to acknowledge it. Many people simply do not want to know that bullying even exists.

Moreover, many victims suffer in silence because they’re either afraid their bullies will retaliate or they’re too ashamed to admit that they’re victims. Another reason is that much of society is still under the misguided belief that bullying is “a right of passage” – a “normal occurrence that all kids go through.”

This is simply not true.

There is nothing normal about it, and no, the majority of kids don’t endure long-term bullying. Only about a third. And even this estimate is probably much higher because much of the bullying people endure goes unreported.

What you will learn:

In this post, you will learn about the bullying support resources available when you have nowhere else to turn.

Once you learn about all these people and groups, you will be better able to get the help you need.

This post is all about the bullying resources available to you so that you can get the help you need to either fight, face, or heal from the bullying. Know that you are not alone and that there are people out there who care.

Bullying Support

Bullying destroys the lives of millions worldwide every year. Moreover, those who haven’t experienced it still hold the belief that bullying is just a normal part of life. Regardless of what they think, bullying is one of the biggest morale killers.

Therefore, you may think that speaking up about it is out of the question.

Truth be known, you’re more than likely afraid that if you do speak up, others will shame you for it. They may tell you to toughen up. And maybe they did when you tried to tell them what was happening to you.

So, you toughened up. You started fighting back and defending yourself, only to have others blame you, accusing you of being the perpetrator.

As a result, the school principal suspended or expelled you. Or, maybe you were a bullied adult in the workplace and your supervisor fired you because you stood up to the bully.

In a nutshell, there still isn’t enough support for victims of bullying even today. How many child,  teen, and adult suicides could we prevent if we simply put the word out that help is available?

Moreover, how many could we’ve prevented decades ago? Unfortunately, that’s an answer we’ll never know because those victims aren’t alive to tell their stories today.

I can only speculate that it was more than likely well over half of all suicides, and I’m confident in that guess.

Therefore, if you’re a parent or guardian, listen to your child and take steps to support and protect your son, daughter, or grandchild.

If you’re a teacher and a child or teen comes to you and opens up about the bullying they suffer, please do not trivialize their pain nor rebuff them. Reach out to them and give them a listening ear.

Let this precious human being know that you’re there for them.

If you’re a supervisor or manager, please, listen for the sake of not only the target, but for that of your company. Companies lose millions per year as a result of workplace bullying. Therefore, it’s much more profitable to do the right thing than it is to ignore it or to blame the target.

1. Bullying Support Groups and Therapists

There are millions of support groups of other bullying victims and survivors. Many of the leaders of these groups have also endured bullying. Therefore, conduct research to see if one is available in your area. These groups are so beneficial because you’ll be together with people who’ve had the same experiences.

Moreover, you will be in a safe place to talk about what’s happening to you and get everything off your chest. The best part is that the members of the other group will listen and they will offer moral support. You will be among friends.

Moreover, a therapist will be able to help you. They can be a good source for counseling to repair your self-esteem and overall mental health.

They can also give you tips on how to handle a bully.

2. Martial Arts Schools

Martial Arts schools are great because, not only do they teach you how to defend yourself, they also teach you how to think on your feet. Moreover, many MA schools have classes on how to deal with bullies.

The best part is that martial arts also teaches you to have confidence, and your self-esteem will skyrocket. Therefore, if feasible, consider joining a martial arts class.

Note: Don’t tell anyone that you’re taking martial arts. You definitely don’t want your bullies to find this out until it’s time. Also, never use your training on a bully until you are completely confident in your MA abilities.

3. Bullying support for Parents

There are also many groups who support parents of bullied schoolchildren. Again, do research, ask around, see if your area has one. These groups not only offer support, they will also teach you how to be there for your child and how to talk to them.

4. trusted Family and friends

Trusted family and friends are also great avenues of support. Moreover, if you know they will listen with love, open up to them and tell them what you’re going through.

This often works when you don’t have the funds for therapy or group sessions.

5. trusted teachers

Notice I said, trusted teachers. Sadly, not all teachers are sympathetic to bullied students. In fact, I’m willing to say that the majority of them aren’t.

However, there are a few who are especially understanding. They’re the teachers that you don’t meet but maybe 1 to 3 times during your school career. Therefore, if you have a trusted teacher that you absolutely love, don’t be afraid to confide in them.

I speak from experience because I had a few teachers I could talk to when I was being bullied. And, let me tell you! They made a huge difference in my life! They are the teachers I’ll always remember with love!

6. workplace bullying support groups

Yes, there are support groups for bullied adults in the workplace. Also, if you need to see a therapist, they’re also a great resource for support. In many cases, therapists have made all the difference in the lives of many victims.

Therefore, don’t be too ashamed to see one. Remember that it doesn’t mean that you’re coming unglued. Although there is a lot of unfair stigma around seeing a counselor, you shouldn’t concern yourself with what others think.

This is all a part of self-care. Not only should you take care of your body, but you should also take care of your psychological and emotional well-being.

7. anti-bullying attorneys

Many lawyers specialize in anti-bullying law. These litigators represent bullied children and their families against schools that fail to protect them from bullies. Moreover, they also represent adults who have had their lives ruined because of workplace bullies.

They file lawsuits against schools, school systems, and companies for any damages done to victims, from lost wages to medical costs resulting from bullying. They will even help you to recoup any psychological costs and file for punitive damages from schools, companies, and bullies themselves.

Therefore, if you’ve suffer psychological trauma from bullying, don’t hesitate to consult one of these attorneys. Most of them offer a free consultation and they can tell you if you have a case.

Also, some of them will probably be pro-bono attorneys. In other words, you don’t pay fees to them unless they win your case or you get a settlement. Put simpler, if you get nothing, they get nothing.

In Conclusion

Any time people are bullying you every day, for everything, you need all the support you can get. Why? Because bullies are experts at manipulating social hierarchies and turning other people against you. And they do this specifically to whittle down any support you may get.

And why do they prevent anyone from supporting you? Because any support you get is a threat to your bullies’ power over you. Therefore, this is why most bullies are hellbent on turning others against their victims and isolating them.

This is why support groups, therapists, and attorneys who specialize in bullying are popping up all over the country. There is a need for bullying-support and it’s finally available as it should have been years ago.

Therefore, take advantage of these support systems. You’ll be glad you did.

This post was all about the bullying support resources that are available to victims and why you should consider reaching out to them for help.

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