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The Difference Between Bullying and Accountability

 ‘Want to know the difference between bullying and accountability? Here are all the details you need to know.

the difference between bullying and accountability

Some people tend to claim the victim role when faced with consequences for their bad behavior. Bullies do this all the time.

Therefore, in this post, you will learn the difference between bullying and accountability. You will also learn why consequences are needed to ensure a peaceful society.

Once you learn all about these essential facts, you will be able to confidently call out someone’s bad behavior. Moreover, you’ll be ready when they accuse you of being a bully.

This post is all about the difference between bullying and accountability. This is so that it won’t confuse you when bullies accuse you of bullying just for exposing their evil actions.

Trigger warning: Although I usually keep politics out of this blog, Bullying and politics go hand in hand. Therefore, a minimal amount of it will be touched on in this particular post. So, if you are easily offended, I would advise you not to read. If you do read this post, do so at your own risk.

The Difference between bullying and accountability

I received an email yesterday. The author of this email tried to shame me. They say that I called my bullies names and that it weakens the cause. Fair enough. They have a right to their opinion. And I respect their opinion, though I disagree with it.

In fact, I’m thankful for that email because it prompted me to write a post on a subject that has needed to be addressed for a long time now. It’s time that we learn the difference between bullying and consequences.

Bullying is about doing harm to someone who has done nothing to you. Accountability is about forcing someone to take RESPONSIBILITY for their bad behavior.

Most victims of bullying are good people who do not harm others. In fact, most of them have hearts of gold. And it’s why bullies and abusers take their kindness for weakness.

Bullying is about trying to hurt those who have done nothing to hurt you. You don’t have to provoke a bully.

Bullies are always on the hunt for victims. They go after those who have a characteristic they see as a weakness or someone they perceive as a threat to their power.

Accountability, on the other hand, is the consequences you suffer for bad deeds. It comes in many forms. People may call you out and expose you for evil actions. You may lose friends and associates, or your business may take a hit.

If you’re a kid, your school may suspend you. Also, your parents may ground you. If you’re an adult, you may lose your job or go to jail. When you try to attack someone, they may defend themselves and kick your tail up between your shoulders. Again, this is not bullying; it’s consequences.

And we need consequences to live in a safe and peaceful society.

The Difference Between Bullying and Accountability:

When you Set out to harm someone else, you forfeit your rights to dignity and respect

The epidemic of entitlement on this rock blows my mind. Too many think that they can do all the violence they want, but no one is supposed to hold them responsible for it.

Moreover, when someone does impose consequences on them, the first thing they do is scream, “bullying.” Bullies are notorious for this. And there is a name for such individuals. We call them a “crybully.”

The term is a combination of the terms “bully” and “crybaby.” Therefore, you get “crybully.”

Here’s a fact that most in today’s politically correct world don’t want to hear. In fact, they’ll probably get angry and label me a hypocrite. But do what you like, I’ll say it anyway.

When you deliberately try to hurt innocent others, you automatically forfeit any right to respect and dignity. Criminals forfeit not only their right to dignity and respect, but also their freedom when they commit crimes.

However, today, schools and workplaces coddle bullies. And the powers that be coddle criminals with the infamous “Catch and Release” and “Cashless bail.”

In fact, media outlets try to shame us for calling these predators what they are. Names, such as “thugs, monsters, terrorists, murderers, rapists,” and a host of others, are considered politically incorrect.

However, to hold bad people accountable, we need to stand up to PC because it is the downfall of society. We need to grow a spine and start calling evil individuals and groups what they are (i.e., Antifa = terrorists), it doesn’t matter who they are or what side they’re on.

Tell them what they are because they gave up their rights when they did wrong to others.

The Difference between bullying and accountability:

Too many people want to cry “bullying” when someone exposes their bad behavior.

The truth is that bad people hate having their conscience thumped at. Therefore, they whine and complain when someone calls them out. They reverse the roles of victim and perpetrator.

Many use their minority status or sexual orientation as crutches. You know what I’m talking about. You see it every day now. And they do this because they’re nothing but cowards.

However, wrong is wrong; it doesn’t matter your race, class, nationality, or sexual orientation. When you hurt someone, all that other BS is irrelevant! The only thing that matters is that you murdered someone, or you physically assaulted, raped, or bullied them.

It’s funny how tough these monsters are when they’re hurting someone else. But under the threat of accountability, they turn into the biggest cowards.

It’s time we start imposing consequences on those who do evil. This is why I urge those who are bullied to defend themselves- to stand up to bullies because most people in power will not hold evil responsible for their actions.

Therefore, if you’re bullied, it’s your responsibility to set boundaries and ensure your safety. And no law says you have to censor your words when it comes to this. Call your bullies and other evil people what they are.

The Difference Between Bullying and Accountability:

It’s time that we learn to distinguish between being bullied and being held responsible.

When you address someone’s bad behavior and they cry, “bully,” don’t buy it. Don’t let them shame you into silence or sugar-coat their actions. You say it and you say it directly. And if someone tries to harm you or your loved ones, you have every right to make them regret it.

And when they accuse you of bullying. You stand up and firmly say, “No! That wasn’t bullying, that was self-defense!”

The Difference between Bullying and Accountability:

VictimHood Does Not Excuse Bad Behavior

You see it all the time nowadays. Most baddies use past victimhood as an excuse to harm others. We’ve all been through bad times. Moreover, many people have suffered from bullying, abuse, and unfair treatment. However, it doesn’t excuse wrongdoing.

Just because someone victimized you doesn’t mean you get to go out and victimize another person. You cannot hurt people to get even with the world because it has shown its mean face to you.

Therefore, if you deliberately cause someone harm, you must face accountability for wrongdoing regardless of what you’ve been through. And copping out behind past victimhood only makes you look pathetic. The world doesn’t owe you a get-out-of-jail-free card.

It amazes me that so many people have the idea that when someone faces consequences for wrongdoing, they’re being bullied. And it’s why the term “bullying” has lost its meaning in the last few years.

Many seem to think that they can do whatever they want to others, then, when they get caught and are forced to face accountability, they want to claim that they’re being bullied? Ahem…no. There’s a difference between bullying and accountability. Consequences is not bullying.

The Difference Between Bullying and Accountability:

Cancel Culture Reversed

Many of the original supporters of cancel culture are now being cancelled. In the wake of Charlie Kirk’s assassination, many people have celebrated the horrific way he left this world. Never mind that this man was a husband and father of two small children.

And it did not matter that this man was willing to have open dialogue with the very people who hated him. All that mattered was that they hated him, and they wanted him gone. They were not willing to talk it out, and no one could reason with them.

But that’s what happens when a person is demonized for so long. People believe the lies, and they don’t want to hear the truth about the person. It’s the same with bullying in school and the workplace.

No one deserves to be murdered, no matter who they are or what their beliefs are.

Sadly, to justify harming someone, Bullies must first demonize them. 

Again, once bullies have succeeded in demonizing their victim, no one wants to hear the truth about them – that they may actually be a good person. And this is how bad people murder innocent people.

Many have posted vile things, films, and memes online about Charlie’s assassination. They’ve laughed, joked, and mocked his death. Or they’ve blamed him for his own murder. And, what they are doing is disgusting, it’s despicable, and it’s grotesque!

And why? Because he didn’t share their values and beliefs? There are people whom I disagree with. And there are those I strongly dislike. But I would never – not in a million years- cheer and celebrate their death, especially if someone killed them. Most human beings – real human beings wouldn’t.

Only demons from the deepest, darkest pits of hell celebrate murder. And now, they are losing their jobs left and right because of their evil online behavior. Those who supported cancel culture against others who refused to wear masks back during the COVID era are now being cancelled for their evil posts.

And they claim that people are bullying them. No! People are holding them accountable for vile online behavior.

It’s not Bullying, It’s Consequences.

During the last day or so, many people who celebrated this murder have posted videos of themselves crying and having a complete mental episode because they lost their jobs. However, they don’t realize that actions have consequences.

Now, most people like them may say it’s free speech. And I’m all for free speech. However, this is not about free speech; it’s about decency. It’s about being a human being.

When people speak the kind of evil they have about Charlie Kirk since his death, they reveal exactly who they are. Therefore, when they show themselves to be soulless and ghoulish people, no decent person wants to associate with them, much less employ them.

The Difference Between Bullying and Accountability:

It’s not about politics, it’s about Right and Wrong

For too many years, people in power with bad intentions have politicized right and wrong. They victimize an innocent person, then play victim when they face consequences. And it’s a shame. But wrong is wrong, no matter how you politicize it.

And when you do wrong, there are consequences for it. Therefore, accountability is not bullying. We call this responsibility.

Rest in Jesus’ arms, Charlie Kirk!

This post is all about the difference between bullying and accountability so that bad people won’t confuse you when they face consequences for their bad behavior by claiming that they’re being bullied.

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Things School Bullies Try to Hide: 13 Things They’re Ashamed Of

‘Want to know the things school bullies try to hide? Here are 13 things that they’re ashamed of and possibly part of the reason they bully in the first place.

things school bullies try to hide

School bullies may come off like they’re invincible and others may think so too. However, they have things they keep secret and hope others never find out. And many of those secrets are sad. However, it doesn’t excuse their behavior.

You will learn the things school bullies try to hide so that you can be assured that they aren’t as cool or tough as they try to make you think.

Once you learn these truths, you will feel better about yourself and pity for your bullies. Moreover, you’ll no longer hate yourself nor them.

This post is all about the things school bullies try to hide so that victims can be assured that under that tough exterior, bullies are just as vulnerable as they are.

Things school bullies try to hide

Bullies keep so many secrets. They have to, to maintain the facade they hide behind.

In other words, bullies must continue to wear a veil of perfection, toughness, and coolness. They take extreme pains to keep that veil from falling off.

However, if you watch and listen, your bullies secrets will eventually seep through by either foolish mistakes they make, or through the gossip of others.

13 Things School Bullies Are Ashamed Of

1. One or both of their parents are drug dealers.

A few of your bullying classmates may came from homes that people buy drugs out of. Because of this, these bullies are either ashamed of what they were living in or they feel ignored at home and this is sad way to live.

Therefore, they bully you to cover that shame and get the attention at school that they aren’t getting at home.

2. Things School Bullies Try to Hide:

They are on welfare.

Many bullies come from families that have a tradition of living on welfare. Moreover, in many cases, this goes back a few generations.

Sadly, a few of these bullies may deliberately have babies to draw a welfare check. Therefore, these are the kids who probably don’t care who knows.

However, most school bullies are ashamed of it and may take extreme measures to hide it from the rest of the student body.

Don’t get me wrong, I never look down on anyone who draws assistance. Life happens. We lose our jobs or issues with our health arise.

Therefore, sometimes we need a little help keeping the bills paid. I get that. But when someone tries to be someone they’re not and act like they’re better than the rest, I have an issue with it.

Granted, there’s nothing wrong with keeping it private, because, really, it’s none of anyone’s business. However, when you put on a facade and treat someone so rotten that they don’t want to live anymore, then maybe you deserve to be exposed.

3. Their parents fight all the time.

Many of your classmates may deal with drama at home. They may lie awake at night, hearing Mom and Dad fighting like cats and dogs in the next room.

They may consider this to be the norm. Therefore, they would start altercations at school too. You are what you live.

4. Things School Bullies Try to Hide:

They are being abused/neglected by parents.

Several of your bullies may be getting their butts kicked at home. Therefore, they come to school to bully and physically attack you and a few others.

Why? Abused children feel powerless. And so, these bullies do it to overcompensate and feel some sense of power. If they have no control over their own lives, they’ll come to school and assert control over someone else’s.

5. Their mothers have a different partner over every night.

So many bullies come to school and called girls whores, sluts, and skanks. However, it may be that these are names they really want to call their own mothers. Many of my bully classmates lived in these types of circumstance.

 Why? Because, in most of these situations, the lovers in these mothers’ lives usually come before the needs of their children.

Moreover, being ignored and neglected can make a child angry after a while. Therefore, they come to school and bully you to get some of that anger out.

Either these mothers may be working in prostitution to pay the bills or they’re desperate and afraid to be alone. No judgement here, but it does happen.

Whatever the case may be, it’s harmful for the kids and may breed some resentment.

6. Things School Bullies Try to Hide:

The Bullies have a parent who have an alcohol problem or drug addiction.

Such was the case with many of my school bullies years ago. Many of your bullies may be angry and bitter because they have parents who stay drunk and loaded. These parents usually put drugs and booze before their children.

 Therefore, it may force the family into poverty. Some of the parents may be “mean drunks” and lash out at their children.

Is it any wonder these bullies are so angry? This doesn’t justify their behavior. However, it should make you thankful if you live in a healthy home with loving and attentive parents.

Moreover, it should be a relief to you that your bullies are just as human as you and not the heroes they think they are.

7. Things School Bullies Try to Hide:

They have a parent who was supposedly a criminal.

One of my female bullies had a parent who was rumored to be a murderer. Although the suspected parent was a big wheel in the town and was never convicted, there was plenty of talk about it around town and everyone knew about it.

I believe there was a bit of shame and embarrassment there and she bullied to make herself feel better.

8. They’re living in abject poverty.

Many bullies may live in trailer parks, shacks, and in the projects. I can remember that some of my bullies didn’t have indoor plumbing and used outhouses for a bathroom- even in the winter.

Because they are ashamed of their living conditions, they’ll come to school and bully you to feel better about themselves.

Moreover, they may also bully you because they’re jealous that you might have life a little better than they do.

9. A parent has abandoned them.

Again, many bullies are full of anger and bitterness. Therefore, when they get to school, they’ll take it out on their vulnerable targets. It gives them a sense of power.

Also, because the parental abandonment throws many of these bullies into poverty, they’re also jealous of targets who have more than they do. Therefore, they bully them as punishment for being from families who are financially better off.

10. Things School Bullies Try to Hide:

They’re victims of sexual abuse by a family member or their mothers’ boyfriends.

These kids feel utterly powerless. So, to not feel so helpless, they’ll jockey for power at school by asserting dominance over their victims.

11. They’ve had multiple abortions.

Many female bullies, especially those who are popular, sleep around. As a result, many become pregnant, sometimes two or three times during school.

Moreover, if their parents are public figures with images to protect, they’ll force their daughters to have abortions to hide it.

Why? Because they fear their perfect little families will come under scrutiny. I remember one girl being forced into one in the sixth grade.

This is not to voice any political viewpoints here. The point is that bullies are far from perfect (but aren’t we all?). 

Yet, they’ll move Heaven and Earth to hide any blemishes and wear a veil of sheer perfection. Moreover, bullies will condemn others for doing the same things they themselves are doing.

Bullies are notorious hypocrites.

12. Things School Bullies Try to Hide:

They’ll go slumming.

Many bullies in the high school preppy crowd will sometimes go to the projects and sleep with some of the women who live there.

I can remember when the parents of two of my bullies found out that they were doing it, they sent them to a group home for the rest of the school year (ninth or tenth grade).

Again, bullies aren’t the shiny, perfect people they’d like you to think they are.

13. One of the teachers who bullied me was sleeping around

Teachers who bully certain students are known to have sordid affairs with some of the athletes on the school sports team.

Years ago, it was common knowledge around my town that my bully teacher was having these types of liaisons. However, because she had connections in town and her father was a businessman, she kept her job.

Moreover, everything was hush-hush around certain people who were allies of hers.

However, when people were at a safe distance and out of earshot of anyone who might have gone back and informed her of who the talkers were, they would trumpet the juicy info loud and proud.

In Conclusion

People can live their lives the way they want. No one is perfect and we all have hang-ups.

As long as it doesn’t affect your life, more power to them. But when they look down on others they deem unworthy of dignity and accuse them of committing the same sins as they do, it’s a clear indicator of gross hypocrisy.

The point is that most bullies have dirty little secrets they don’t want to get out. Always! Why do you think they target you with their vitriol?

It’s all designed to keep the negative spotlight off them and place it on you.

In other words, it’s a way to keep their own closet skeletons from seeing the light of day. Because if everyone is too busy looking at you, they pay less attention to their’ sins, snafus, and faux pas.

This is something you must keep in the back of your mind.

This post was all about things school bullies try to hide and the hypocrisy and double-standards that go along with bullying.

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