‘Want to know how to go about removing toxic people from your life so that you can finally live in peace?
Dealing with bullies, abusers, and users who suck the life out of you can add unnecessary stress to your life. However, if you’re anything like me, you’re probably desperately searching for the best ways of successfully removing toxic people.
You will learn the best and most effective ways to remove human leeches from your life.
Once you learn these techniques, you will be smart and successful at removing toxic people. As a result, you will live a more peaceful and relaxing life of freedom and happiness.
this post is all about how to go about removing toxic people and reclaiming your peace.
However, before you can learn how to remove these happiness thieves, you must first know how to spot them.
Toxic people are those who are ungrateful and never see the positive side of anything. They are also those who are notorious gossips, complainers, and whiners.
Other names for toxic people include,Negative Nancies or Nathans and Debbie or Danny Downers.
A toxic person will undermine your accomplishments and successes by stunning you with backhanded compliments. In a nutshell, they suck the oxygen out of the room with their negativity. In that, they make you want to run for the nearest exit when you see them coming.
I can’t stress enough the importance of giving these happiness thieves the old heave-ho. And once you do, you’ll be surprise at the amazing things it will do for your self-esteem.
But! It’s much easier said than done.
Removing toxic people means making hard decisions
It is only natural that you want to be liked and be accepted by peers. However, when you are a target of bullying, those wants can be hard to attain due to lies and rumors that bullies may spread to keep you isolated and alone.
You see? The last thing a bully wants is for anyone, and I mean ANYONE, to want to be friends with you.
Therefore, it’s too common for bully targets to become desperate for friends. Some get so much so that any human connection with anyone their age will do.
As a result, bullying victims may get involved with the wrong people. In other words, they hitch their wagons to people who only tolerate rather than accept them.
However, just because your new friends aren’t directly abusing you (hitting, shouting, name-calling) doesn’t mean they’re your friends. Therefore, don’t mistake this as a friendship and latch on.
Also, you may feel that these losers are the best you can do. You may think that there’s nothing better out there for you. But this is wrong. You can do better, you just don’t know it because bullies have convinced you that you can’t.
And sadly, while your back is turned, your “new buddies” at school or at work are rolling their eyes and talking through their teeth. I want you to realize that these new friends of yours are no better than your bullies. They only feel sorry for you. Yuck!
Therefore, these are the types of people who are toxic and you should ditch them… fast!
Removing Toxic People: Here’s How You Weed Them Out!
1. Be Yourself.
You may feel that you must build a fake persona for the sake of friendship and approval. However, what you don’t realize is that most of your friends aren’t really for you. They only act like they are just to get something from you.
Consequently, these people can reek havoc in your life if you aren’t careful! I want you to realize that like attracts like.
Understand that when you’re fake, you only attract more like-minded people into your world. In other words, you’ll only draw in fakes, fraudsters, and imposters!
On the other hand, when you begin being yourself, these people will naturally be repelled because they won’t like it.
Being real has a way of intimidating and threatening the fakes. It strikes fear in them because a person who’s for real has a chance of exposing their fakery.
Is it any wonder that fake people either stay away from or bully those who are real? It’s because realness scares them to death!
Two things happen when you decide that you’re going to be your true, authentic self. First, it allows you to see who’s for real and who isn’t. Secondly, you scare away the fakes. Trust me, this is what you want to happen.
In other words, when you’re authentic, you force people to reveal their true natures and tell you all you need to know about them.
2. Removing toxic people also requires you to Set Boundaries.
This is a biggie! Setting boundaries is not easy. It can be frightening sometimes.
It’s especially hard when someone pushes you too far and the situation calls for you to put on your bitch-face. However, some situations call for you to show your booty to people.
Therefore, when these circumstances arise, don’t worry about what others might think or say about it.
If nothing else, remember this. Boundaries always expose the imposters. Always!
When you start setting boundaries, watch how people react! You’ll be amazed at how many people get angry and upset!
You will automatically see their evil sides as they immediately turn against you. Moreover, they will react by trying to lay guilt trips on you or smearing you to others, among other things.
But understand that anyone who gets angry at you for having boundaries only does so because of their own self-interest. Realize that these folks benefited all this time from you not having any boundaries at all. So, do you think they want those benefits to stop?
Don’t be afraid to let these people go because they never were your friends and therefore don’t belong in your life. Your real friends, on the other hand, will be happy for you. These people will cheer you on because they will genuinely care for you want what’s best for you.
3. Speak and Stand in Your Truth.
When you begin freely speaking out, especially about past abuse and bullying, you can bet that you’ll make a lot of people angry. You’ll make bitter enemies not only of these people but also of those who stood by and watched it happen but fail to stop it.
Moreover, even if you don’t use their names and choose not to identify them, it won’t matter. Understand that any abuse thrives on silence. Therefore, abusers and most bystanders don’t want you talking about it at all!
Sadly, these toxic leeches are sometimes those we call friends. Abusers can’t chance being exposed and seen by others in a negative light. Therefore, they’ll go to great lengths to shut you down.
Again. This is how you weed out all the fakes and expose people for who they are and you must deep-six these people. Fast!
Understand that for a garden to not only grow but flourish, you must get rid of all the weeds. The same goes for the people in our lives.
If you continue to surround yourself with users, abusers, and people who only stifle you, you’ll have no chance of growth and advancement.
On the other hand, when you remove all the junk people, you make room for new people of better quality to come into your life.
4. Removing toxic people: Voice your opinions.
This is more important to do today, more than ever! Why? Because most people nowadays tend to get abusive and bent out of shape when they discover that you don’t have the same opinions, beliefs or convictions as they do.
So, do you want people around you who don’t respect your rights to be a separate individual with an independent mind? I would hope you wouldn’t.
Understand that everyone is different. Different people have different backgrounds and experiences. Your background and experiences is what shapes your perspective.
Therefore, not only should you respect the opinions of others, but they should also respect yours in return. Though we may not always agree with them, we can respect them and continue to get along with those who have differences of belief and opinion.
However, many don’t live by that virtue these days. And when people resort to ad hominem attacks against you when you don’t agree with their views, they only reveal their own evil intolerance and that they never were with you to begin with.
Therefore, show them the door quickly!
5. Go No Contact.
In other words, have no more to do with these life-suckers. Understand that you’re not ditching them to be mean to them, you’re doing it for your own psychological well-being. Just as we take care of our physical bodies, we must also take care of our minds as well.
By avoiding people who only want to bring you down, you restore your self-esteem and overall mental health. Also, your quality of life will skyrocket and you’ll have more happiness and peace of mind.
Therefore, do these five things, to expose and get rid of the weeds.
You’ll be surprised at how it changes your life. Moreover, what will really astound you is the high quality of new friends who come into your life later!
This post was all about how to go about removing toxic people from your life so that you can begin living a happier, healthier, and more peaceful life.
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