‘Want to know what a negative self-fulfilling prophecy is and how victims of bullying unwittingly bring it about? ‘Want to know how you can change your way of thinking so that this bad phenomenon doesn’t happen to you? Here’s how it happens and how you can turn it around so that it doesn’t keep happening to you.
When you’ve been a target of bullying for so long, your world becomes shaky. You began to doubt yourself and your abilities. Why? Because bullies and others had drummed into your head for so long and you can’t do anything right. Moreover, they’ve successfully made you believe that you aren’t good enough and never will be.
Therefore, in this post, you will learn about the negative self-fulfilling prophecy so that you’ll be compelled to change your negative thought patterns and begin thinking only positive thoughts.
Once you learn all about these secrets, you will work on having a positive mind. As a result, you will be better able to put your life in the direction of success.
This post is all about the negative self-fulfilling prophecy and how you can turn a negative attitude into a positive one.
Negative self-fulfilling prophecy
After bullies and others have put you down and degraded you for so long, serious changes in your thought patterns begin happening. You begin having symptoms that should warn you that you’re on your way to having a “bullied brain.”
Here are those symptoms.
1. You start to wonder if they’re right about you.
Moreover, you wonder if they were all along and that you just didn’t see it. If you aren’t careful, bullies will tell you lies about yourself so often, for so long, that you’ll begin to believe it too.
Why? Because a huge piece of your self-esteem has broken off. Therefore, your brain is rewiring itself to accept what these creeps tell you as gospel.
You may think to yourself, “Well, everyone else thinks I’m no good, maybe they’re right. Because if there is any good in me, why would so many people tell me differently?”
You think you’re using logic when thinking this. But you aren’t. What you’re doing is buying into the lies bullies have told you. Moreover, you’re mistakenly thinking that because the bullies have managed to convince everyone else that you’re no good, that it must be true.
It isn’t. Just because everyone else thinks you’re garbage does NOT make it true. Therefore, you must never fall for your bullies’ lies. Because, that what they are! LIES!
Again, just because everyone else thinks you’re trash doesn’t make it so. Moreover, this is what you must tell yourself every day, several times a day if you have to.
Never let your bullies get into your head. They may turn everyone else against you, but you don’t have to let them turn you against you.
Instead, hold on tightly to your worth and your confidence, no matter what!
2. Negative self-fulfilling prophecy:
You begin to get awkward and clumsy.
Let’s face it. When people bully you nonstop, you’re likely to turn into a bundle of nerves. Therefore, it is out of nervousness that you become clumsy and awkward.
This is because your brain is preparing itself for a hostile environment. Realize that this is a survival mechanism. The bullying has thrown not only your mind but your entire body into survival mode.
Therefore, your logical brain has shut down and your primal, survival brain has taken over. Therefore, you will begin to do things you normally wouldn’t do. When you’re in survival mode, you’ll make a ton of mistakes.
Your decision making takes a big hit. Any decision you make, you wonder if it’s the right one. You may have even become too afraid to make choices.
Therefore, you begin fumbling and screwing up constantly. Moreover, it seems that the harder you try not to make mistakes, the more of them you make. And it feels as if you don’t know which end is up anymore.
As a result, the more bullies ridicule, put you down, even hurt you for those mistakes. And there goes another piece of self-esteem.
3. You begin to make a ton of gaffes and blunders.
This also comes from nervousness.
As you continue to descend down this downward spiral, you unintentionally make gaffes that only make people angrier at you. You only rub them the wrong way when you’re only trying to quell the hostility.
Therefore, it seems that anything you try to do to help the situation only seems to have the opposite effect. This erodes even more of your precious self-esteem.
4. Negative self-fulfilling prophecy:
You then begin to have a horrible attitude and outlook on life.
You then begin to lose faith in humanity. Moreover, you have thoughts such as:
- All humans are mean-spirited, greedy, and selfish pieces of sh**.
- The world is a crappy place.
- I’ll never amount to anything.
- Life sucks.
5. Adverse things then begin happening in your life.
Adverse things begin to happen in your life. Your grades drop, your performance starts to wane, and you lose out on awards, achievements, and opportunities.
Moreover, all the while, your bullies are watching and smiling. Why? Because all that is happening to you is confirming to them that you really are “a loser.”
Even worse is that you know, deep down inside, what they’re thinking. Bam! More of your self-esteem is smashed to bits.
6. What relationships you have left begin to suffer.
The people in your life don’t understand what is happening to you. Therefore, they begin to question you. Some may accuse you of having a bad attitude. Also, some may accuse you of being stubborn or defiant when you’re really shutting down.
Therefore they become disappointed in you and eventually stop believing in you.
7. Negative Self-Fulfilling Prophecy:
Goals that were once easy to attain seem to become unreachable.
Schoolwork or work projects that were once easy for you suddenly become difficult. This is because you’re in survival mode. In other words, you’re too busy looking over your shoulder and trying to survive bullying to learn anything or concentrate on work projects.
After all, your brain can only do so much at once. Again, you learn and concentrate on work using your logical brain. Therefore, when the survival part of your brain turns on, the part involved in learning and concentration shuts down.
8. You become exhausted.
Living in survival mode wipes you out after so long. You become both mentally and physically tire and fatigued.
Sadly, others may accuse you of being lazy when you’re actually exhausted.
9. learned helplessness.
Finally, you stop trying at anything. Period. Your bullied and everyone else have convinced you that you’re doomed to fail and live in misery. Therefore, you unintentionally live up to their expectations.
Do you see where I’m going with this? It’s only the Law of Attraction at work. It starts with negative thought patterns. Like attracts like. What you think about, even on a subconscious level, always comes about.
However, know that it isn’t your fault. So, don’t blame yourself.
People consistently bombard you with negativity and every kind of abuse. And they’ve done it repetitiously.
In fact, they’ve already convinced everyone else that you’re evil, worthless, and foolish. However, it seems they’re breaking their backs, trying their damnedest to convince you of it too.
Negative self-fulfilling prophecy:
Still, You must take responsibility for your own well-being!
Because, every day, you hear the same vitriol and get the same abuse over and over. Again. Repetition, repetition, repetition.
However, this doesn’t relieve you of your responsibility to yourself.
You must train your brain to re-frame everything these creeps say and do. Moreover, you must train your brain to see through their behavior and see the intentions behind it.
And you must do it fast!
Otherwise, you’ll only start believing the crap that your bullies feed you. Then, you’ll to live up to it. Moreover, you’ll have a hard time controlling it or stopping it from happening.
See your bullies’ behavior and attempts to condition you. See The Attacks for what they are and what they’re intended to do.
Understand that bullies do all of this deliberately. Oh yes! There is both a method and a purpose behind it that’s either conscious or subconscious.
Put plainer, bullies mean to get you to believe that you are, in fact, worthless. Moreover, they want to force you to agree with it and that you deserve the mistreatment. Why?
Because if they can get you to believe it too, then you’re more likely to submit to their abuse and demands without protest. Moreover, if they can get you to believe you deserve the abuse, then you’re least likely to call them out or hold them accountable.
Therefore, they can continue to abuse you without any inhibitions. And they can do it with impunity.
Negative self-Fulfilling Prophecy:
Why else would they try to drum such garbage into your head a million and one times a day?
Understand that bullying, because of its repetitiveness and brutality, is a form of brainwashing. It’s not only physical, but it’s also psychological warfare.
In other words, it is designed to condition you to believe that you’re no good and will never amount to anything.
When you’re in a school or workplace full of bullies who loathe you and want nothing more than to destroy you, the psychology of it is akin to being stuck in a communist re-education camp.
It’s just as mind-altering as it is damaging.
this is because bullies spoon-feed you their bullshit repeatedly until your mind absorbs it and you end up believing it. They physically and emotionally beat you down. Next, they gaslight you and convince you that you deserve it.
In other words, they repeatedly tell you that you asked for the abuse and made them hurt you.
- You MADE ME hit you!
- You MADE ME mad!
- You MADE everybody hate you!
They blame you for their bad behavior when the truth is that you have no control over it. I want you to know this right now!
Negative Self-Fulfilling Prophecy:
You’re Not Responsible for their behavior!
You can’t control anyone else’s behavior. Only they have control over their actions. The only person’s behavior you can control is your own. Always remember that!
Again, start training your brain to resist these gaslighting statements!
Again, if you aren’t careful, this repetition of bullying, abuse, and gaslighting will brainwash you. You’ll internalize it and be convinced of it.
Once your bullies finally convince you that you’re the lowest form of life on Earth, you will adopt a poor attitude and begin behaving in a way that matches your new beliefs about yourself. I know it sounds unbelievable, but it’s true.
I can’t stress this enough!
- You’ll stop believing in yourself.
- You’ll have a condition known as “Learned Helplessness.”
- Your grades will plummet, and your performance will suffer.
- You’ll attract all kinds of bad fortune into your life.
- You’ll want so badly to get out of the bad environment and situation you’re in that you’ll begin making poor decisions and life choices out of desperation- choices that may alter the entire course of your life.
- You may drop out of school to get away from your bullies. I almost did.
- You may quit your job before you have time to find other employment.
- You may join a gang or extremist group to feel like you belong and to have friends.
- You may use drugs to fit in or to dull the pain.
And what’s really sad is that you won’t even realize it’s happening until you’re already too far down the rabbit hole. That is if you ever realize it.
Negative Self-Fulfilling Prophecy:
Bullying will change your life- either for better or worse.
It’s hard! I completely get that. It’s damn hard to keep loving yourself when you’re surrounded by people who hate you.
Moreover, I know how difficult it is to believe in yourself when it seems that no one else does. And I realize that it’s overwhelming to continue trying when everyone else is constantly telling you to give up- that you’ll never make it.
Believe me. I empathize with you because I was there and I almost gave up.
- I attempted suicide in the eighth grade and almost didn’t make it.
- I almost dropped out of school during the eleventh grade.
- I almost lost hope.
I did some desperate things back then- things that could have gotten me arrested or worse- killed!
However, if I’d held on to my love for and belief in myself, there’s no doubt that I would’ve spared myself a lot of pain.
But I eventually got mad- at myself! And when I got mad, I became determined that they weren’t going to destroy the rest of my life. I wasn’t going to let them.
That’s what you have to do- get mad. Get determined. Dig in your heels and double down. Be determined not to lose yourself. Don’t let them destroy the parts of yourself that matter.
Don’t let them take your person-hood!
Because if you give into your bullies and cave into believing what they tell you, it will become a Self-Fulfilling Prophesy. You’ll end up living up to everything they tell you. That’s not what you want.
You don’t want to give your bullies any more satisfaction than they’ve already gotten at your expense. No way!
Negative Self-Fulfilling Prophecy:
Why are they so hell-bent on making you believe their lies?
- Because they want to brainwash you.
- Bullies want is to break your spirit.
- Their end goal is to bring you so low that you never recover.
- If they can do the above three, then you’re likely to prove them right.
- Know that it’s all an attempt to reprogram you, and in a vast majority of cases, it works!
Self-fulfilling prophesies are real, and they can destroy your life. Therefore, don’t let bullies cause you to have a losing, self-defeating, and bitter attitude.
On the other hand, having confidence, loving yourself, and having a positive attitude will bring good things into your life. It may take a while but be patient! It will happen!
This is not to say that bad things won’t sometimes happen anyway because they do. Sometimes things happen that we have no control over. And it happens to all of us.
However, with a positive attitude, your life won’t be one huge string of bad luck. You will have victories- and more of them than losses.
Attitude does attract things into your life. Like attracts like. How I wish I’d know this when I was young.
This post was all about the negative self-fulfilling prophecy so that you can stop them before they happen by re-training your thought patterns.
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