‘Want to know about bullying and narcissism and how they connect? Here are several ways they’re related and how you can use it to protect yourself.
Bullies with narcissism truly believe they’re better than anyone else. They believe the world revolves around them.
Also, they think others should bow down to them like they’re royalty. Bullies with NPD have grandiose opinions of themselves. Also, they have distorted views on how others are supposed to treat them, and how the world is supposed to work.
If you’re a victim of bullying, you probably deal with many bullies like these.
Therefore, in this post, you will learn all about bullying and narcissism. Also, you will learn how they connect. Thirdly, you’ll learn the powers they have.
Once you learn all about this important information, you will know what to expect from a good majority of your bullies. In that you’ll also have knowledge of how to handle them.
This post is all about bullying and narcissism, how they connect, and the powers they possess so that you’ll know what to expect.
Bullying and Narcissism
Narcopathic bullies will take advantage of you and exploit your weaknesses for their benefit. They have no empathy and have no care how they harm you. They pass unfair judgements on you and anyone else they deem inferior.
However, people with narcissism have very fragile egos, and they feel threatened by anyone who outshines them. They put up mental walls to keep threatening messages and info from penetrating their sense of self-importance.
Moreover, those walls are supported by the insults they hurl at you.
Narcissism as a protective barrier
Bullies with Narcissistic Personality disorder can’t handle social rejection and they react fiercely to people they feel threatened by. For example, less than perfect evaluations shatter their grandiose self-image and send them into a fury.
Therefore, they protect and re-enforce their enormous but fragile egos by criticizing any negative evaluations and feedback. Many narco-bullies also use grandiosity as a cover-up for their feelings of vulnerability, inadequacy, and incompetence.
They’re deathly afraid that their shortcomings will be exposed. So, they hurl disparaging remarks and ugly names at others to distract others from their own flaws.
That’s why they need targets. They must have people like you to blame for their problems. They are really pathetic when you stop and think about it.
Bullying and Narcissism:
Seeing through the mask of perfection
It’s easy to see why these types of people are so hateful and hurtful. They need to hurt people to feel better about themselves.
Most people, especially confident people, don’t feel the need to constantly fire off zingers to intentionally hurt other people. Therefore, they don’t have to have a victim because they have a healthy sense of self.
No. People who are truly confident like to get along with everyone and enjoy seeing others happy. They have a love for other people and empathy for those who are hurting.
On the other hand, people who are infected with narcissism degrade others. Again, they need victims to collect psychological trophies from.
Healthy and confident people have a more favorable view of everyone, including people who are targets of bullying. Confident people who love themselves do not need to put others down.
But someone with NPD feels that the only way they can love themselves is to put others down. And those others include those who aren’t necessarily a threat to their grandiose views of themselves.
Narcissists feel their value comes from having power, riches, good looks, and popularity. Whereas, confident people get their value from having healthy relationships with the people who mean the most to them.
Moreover, they also place value on having positive experiences.
Therefore, these are the differences between narco-bullies and people who are truly confident.
Bullying and Narcissism:
Narco-Bullies Who Are Physically Violent
It comes down to the bully’s views of him/herself and others. Although, most narcopaths prefer subtle and indirect bullying, there are a few who use physical violence to get what they want.
The reason these bullies use physical force and violence is because they feel vulnerable in conflicts. Therefore, they go to the only problem-solving technique they’re most comfortable and familiar with- physical force.
Physical violence is the only way they feel they can punish their victims and, therefore, restore their self-esteem.
These types tend to crave instant and immediate gratification. Physical violence gives them that- an immediate rush of power and dominion. In other words, it gives them a thrill, a sense of control and that they’ve won.
Many physically violent bullies are egocentric and have delusions of grandeur. Therefore, when you stick up for yourself against them. They’re ready to kick your butt.
Moreover, all you have to do is say something, anything back to the bullies in defense and they’ll be ready to throw fists. Why? Because it shatters their grandiose image of themselves as tough guys who are always at the top.
It makes them feel weak and foolish. Then, they fly into a rage and use violence to restore that sense of power and invincibility.
Bullying and Narcissism:
In using physical aggression, these narcopaths feel they can restore their image.
Understand that these types of people are self-serving and feel superior to anyone else. Moreover, they think they have innate entitlements that supersede even the most basic human rights of their victims.
In other words, these bullies believe they’re entitled to harm you and do it freely. And they feel that you’re just supposed to “shut up and take it.”
In fact, in their mixed-up minds, you’re to just take the abuse without so much as a question.
And when you oppose and protest the abuse, these narcopaths will take it as an insult. Therefore, they’ll use forceful and violent measures to take you down.
These people derive feelings of pleasure when beating on you. Moreover, they feel no shame unless the wrong people find them out.
In most cases, they are open with their violence and don’t fear retaliation nor accountability. Why? Because they know that they have most people fooled. Or, maybe others are too scared to address the behavior and confront them.
As mentioned earlier, physical bullies with narcissism have no qualms about asserting their dominance over others.
Bullying and narcissism:
Physical bullies with nPD have a low threshold for frustration.
They feel their entitlement is supreme to your basic rights. Therefore, they confidently encroach on your time, your space, and your safety.
These bullies have a low threshold for frustration and will make you pay dearly for causing it. And where most people would feel guilt and shame over hurting someone, these bullies only feel powerful and victorious.
Sadly, there’s not much you can do to help these types of people. Most people with narcissism are resistant to any help or change.
Moreover, people who are physically violent and have narcissism usually end up in prison for battery or murder.
Unless you’re a black belt, there’s also not much you can do to protect yourself from these people. Why? Because the more you defend yourself, the more they’ll come back until they wear you down, maim you, or worse, kill you.
Therefore, if you are a target of these types, the only way you can ensure your safety is to go no contact. And, if that doesn’t work, you’d best either relocate, transfer schools, or find another job.
So, what are the 7 secret powers of narcopathic bullies?
1. They’re Skilled at Baiting you.
Bullies with narcissism are skilled at baiting you into an altercation. They may do it by saying something to trigger you or hauling off and hitting you first to get you to hit them back.
Why do they do this? So that they can play the victim and make you look like the instigator. And, trust me! They’re good at it. So, beware!
2. Bullying and Narcissism:
They’re Masters at Playing the Victim.
Again, they’ll provoke you when no one is looking, then play the victim when you respond in kind. Therefore, you must learn how they operate and be willing to call them out calming and confidently. The last thing you want to do is over-react by screaming and yelling.
That will only make it easier for them to paint you as mentally imbalanced or bully and make you take the blame for their behavior.
3. They Prefer indirect bullying.
The reasons bullies with narcissism prefer indirect bullying is because it’s much harder to detect. Therefore, the best thing to do is to never over-react. Also, never go into dramatics. You must handle these types of people calmly and coolly. Why?
Because, the last thing you want is give a narco-bully any ammunition that they can use against you. So, handle this situation with care.
4. They’re highly skilled at projecting their faults onto you.
In other words, they’ll accuse you of doing the same disgusting shit that they themselves do. Therefore, keep sight of your goodness and see this for what it is. Projection! Just the knowledge of this technique will buffer your self-esteem immensely!
5. Bullying and Narcissism:
They’re experts at distraction.
“Don’t look over here! Look over there!” In other words, these people will take your mistakes and use them to distract others’ attention away from their own flaws.
Therefore, once you see this tactic in it’s true form, you’re mental health won’t take such a big hit and you’ll be able to call it out confidently.
6. They’re geniuses at gaslighting.
Bullies with NPD will gaslight you to make you doubt your own perception of what happened. Therefore, don’t fall for this. You know what happened and you know what they did. So find good comebacks to respond to their gaslighting. And shut them down.
7. They’re Masters at charm and persuasion.
People with narcissistic personality disorder know how to pour on the charm. However, realize that the charm and niceness they so masterfully display is a facade. Moreover, it’s designed to not only gain them supply, but also flying monkeys to use against people who threaten them.
Therefore, again, see this for what it is and what it’s designed to do and you’ll be more likely to overcoming their abuse.
This post was about bullying and narcissism so that you can prepare yourself by knowing what to expect.
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