‘Want to know about bullies and victim-mentality? Here’s everything you need to know.
Bullies don’t mind dishing the nastiness out to their victims. However, when the victims start giving it back to them, they’ll play the victim-role real quickly.
In fact, they’re the biggest cry-babies in the world!
Therefore, in this post you will learn all about bullies and victim-mentality so that you can keep from being blamed for their attacks.
Once you learn all about these important facts, you will be able to confidently call them out when you defend yourself against your bullies and they try to act like they’re the victims.
This post is all about bullies and victim-mentality so that you can recognize the behavior and call it out. Also, you can protect yourself from getting blamed for your bullies’ ratchet behavior.
Bullies and Victim-Mentality
Bullies have a grandiose sense of entitlement. Why? Because they’re so quick to attack you without provocation. However, you finally get fed up and show your ugly side, it not only surprises them, it also offends them.
Therefore, they’ll assume the victim role.
Here are 9 behaviors of bullies who play victim.
1. They Dissolve into a puddle of tears.
If a bully thinks they’re about to get into trouble over their bad behavior, they’ll quickly turn on the water works. They’ll cry those crocodile tears and play the victim.
Unfortunately, they’ll do it so convincingly that others will fall for their bullshit. Therefore, be prepared and don’t take the blame for their bad behavior.
Call out those fake tears. And do it loudly and with confidence. Why? Because they’re nothing but a bunch of cry-bullies.
2. They Get Outraged at you for standing up to them.
Understand that bullies feel entitled to do whatever they want to do and you have no right to stop them. In fact, they believe you don’t have a right to even speak against it.
They think that they are beyond reproach and that you should never question their behavior.
You’re bullies think they have a right to mistreat you and you’re just supposed to bow down and take their crap. You’re just supposed to let them harm you and take it with a smile.
Why? Because, in their minds, you’re inferior. So, you should just shut your mouth and take it. They may not come out and say it. However, this is how these chumps think.
3. Bullies and victim-mentality:
They’ll grip, whine, and complain when things don’t go their way.
For instance, if you hold them accountable for anything, your bullies will bitch, moan, and regress into a toddler. If you stand up to them, they may run to a teacher or boss-man and cry like a little bitch.
They might throw a temper tantrum, railing against the injustice and unfairness of it all.
Also, they may also do something to get back at you for daring to stand up for yourself. Understand that cry-bullies must always get their way. This is why they get furious with and throw a fit with you.
Then, they’ll tell anyone who’ll listen that you’re the bully.
4. They’ll shout you down when call them out on their bad behavior.
To them, their words and opinions are golden. Therefore, if you happen to speak against them, your bullies will instantly turn into petulant children.
They’ll call you all kinds of ugly names and launch personal attacks against you. Moreover, they may even hit you first.
But, if you hit them back, they will cry like a wimp and claim you started it.
5. Bullies and Victim-Mentality:
They want everything handed to them.
Cry-bullies are entitled to have whatever they want when they want it. They don’t like to work for anything. Moreover, they don’t like to wait for it either.
These types of people are impatient. When they want something, they want it right then. And they’ll never stop bothering you until you cave in and give it to them.
You must understand that your bullies do this to wear you down. However, don’t give them the satisfaction. Double down and resist, no matter what! Stand firm, if for nothing more than to teach them a lesson.
6. They hate it when someone else has life better than they do.
When your bullies see you doing better than them, it makes them feel indignant. In other words, they feel that life hasn’t given them a fair shake.
They will often sulk and play on others’ sympathy. Also, they will try to get back at you for being just a little luckier than they are.
Understand that these types of individuals see your successes as injustice.
7. They Shift the blame to you.
This point takes me back to how the bully tries to make you look like the bully. In some cases, this person deludes herself into believing that she is, in fact, the victim.
And sadly, they’re very successful in making others believe that garbage.
Therefore, when you think of a cry-bully, think Nellie Olson in the TV series, “Little House on the Prairie.”
Don’t pander to the crybully and don’t be too nice and try to calm them down. If you do, they’ll only keep manipulating you.
8. Bullies and Victim-Mentality:
Many Bullies Cop Out Behind Victimization.
Too many people use past trauma as justification for wrongdoing. They feel that because they suffered, life owes them somehow.
I have seen people mistreat others merely because of the bullying they suffered in the past. But, why do they do this? It’s because they think that it’s the only way they can feel empowered again.
Sadly, I was guilty of the same thing in high school. It isn’t something I’m proud of today.
For example, some may choose to rob a bank or burn down a corporate building because they grew up poor. Because they didn’t get a fair shake in life, they think that it justifies their crimes.
In their minds, the world owes them. Therefore, they have a good excuse for striking back against a system they believe screwed them over.
And, when the law finally catches them and hauls them off to jail, they become even more embittered. Why? Because they believe that being held responsible for their crimes only further evidences that they aren’t getting a fair shake.
We’re all responsible for our actions regardless of what happened to us in the past.
Evil behavior always brings consequences. You reap what you sow.
Your feelings are valid but your actions aren’t. Past victimization does not justify wrongdoing. Ever! A reason does not equal an excuse. We’re all responsible for our lives, whether you like it or not.
I could have gone on bullying others because people bullied me in the past. But where would it have gotten me? Nowhere! That behavior would have only brought consequences and more misery.
Wouldn’t it be better to learn from adversity and take accountability for your life? Therefore, it’s up to you to try to make your life better than it was in the past.
9. Bullies and Victim-Mentality:
They live in the past.
Now, reminiscing isn’t a bad thing. To look back on yesterday, when life was much simpler, makes you feel good. Happy memories always make you feel better.
However, when you constantly ruminate on the bad stuff that happened to you, that’s when it becomes a problem.
You hold grudges. And you long to someday get back at the person who hurt you. This isn’t good for anyone. It only eats you out from the inside.
Bullies are notorious for holding grudges.
Sadly, too many survivors of bullying hold on to grudges. They constantly ruminate over the bullying they endured, wishing they had knocked the hell out of the bully. They look back with remorse, shame, guilt, and regret.
Now, it’s normal to do right after you’ve gotten out of the toxic environment that encouraged the bullying. I completely understand. However, when this goes on for too many years, you only hold yourself back. Unnecessary baggage only keeps you down.
Therefore, don’t trap yourself in an endless cycle of what-ifs. Why? Because, when you do, you only keep yourself stuck in a quagmire of misery.
Also, you forgo opportunities to learn from and grow from those experiences.
So, let it go. Accept what happened and learn from it. Let it make you better instead of bitter!Only then can you reach empowerment and find happiness.
In Closing
Nothing makes you sicker than seeing some punk bully start something they can’t finish. And there’s nothing more pathetic than a bully who pushes someone too far, than cries like a schoolyard sissy when they get their ass kicked up between their shoulders.
But sadly, this is how most of them get away with bullying.
Therefore, if you’re a bully, do yourself a favor. Don’t mess with someone and expect not to get some in return. Don’t be a cry-bully.
And, if you’re a victim, stand up for yourself even if your bully tries to put on the innocent little victim act. Continue to hold your boundaries.
Don’t fall for the crocodile tears or the selective outrage. Call that shit out! And stand strong. Realize that victim-mentality is only a farce, designed to keep your bullies’ asses out of trouble.
And lastly, and most importantly, refuse to see yourself as a victim. Instead, see yourself as a target. Why? Because there’s a difference between a target of bullying and a victim of bullying.
This post is all about bullies and victim-mentality so that you can recognize it when you see it and be prepared for it when you stand up to your bullies.
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