Do you often wonder whether you have fake friends or real ones? ‘Wanna know the subtle signs people give when they only pretend to like you and be for you? Here are the time-tested and proven indicators that your friends don’t really like you.
Having fake friends can leave you confused, exhausted, and worst of all, depressed with a broken self-esteem. If you’re anything like I was years ago, you’re probably wondering whether you have friends or frenemies. As someone who’s experienced this firsthand, I’m giving you all the signs you must look out for to protect yourself from being used and betrayed.
You’re going to learn about all the signs of an undercover enemy, from jealousy, to gossiping, to trying to steal your partner, and more.
Once you learn about all these signs that you have fake friends, you will be more emboldened to take the steps you need to take to rid these people from your life once and for all!
This post is all about the signs of fake friends that every victim of bullying should know about.
Fake friends
There will always be those who only pretend to see your worth but really don’t. And some never will see it. It’s just a part of life on this planet and we shouldn’t waste another nanosecond of our time on those people.
However, some people are terrific actors and it can be hard to tell if you don’t know what signs to look for. You must know the signs or you won’t know who to hang onto and who to let go.
Before we get into the signs, we must first discuss the one prerequisite that comes before being able to recognize these indicators. These are things you absolutely must do before you can spot these red flags and put it to good use.
Prerequisite: Always trust your gut.
Your gut feeling, or sixth sense is something we all have. It’s that internal alarm that goes off in when there’s danger nearby. In other words, it’s that bad feeling deep in the pit of your stomach that warns you when evil is around.
This gut-feeling, or intuition, is triggered by the energy and vibrations the people around you put out. Therefore, if you pay attention, you’ll pick up on the yucky energy your friends exude.
However, be forewarned! If you aren’t careful, you’ll likely mistake that pit-of-your-stomach feeling for being overly-suspicious. Moreover, the little voice inside your head will admonish you. It will tell you, “Aw, C’mon! You don’t know that person. At least give them a chance.”
Realize that self-doubt is a tricky animal. It convinces you to go against your God-given instincts. In other words, it compels you to ignore your innate gut feeling.
Self-doubt is what talks you into ignoring the bad energy you feel when you’re around unsavory people. Consequently, you open the door and let into your life people who are evil and nefarious.
Therefore, Never Doubt Your Instinct when you suspect fake friends!
If you ignore these things long enough, you eventually become blind to the terrible vibes and energy bad people exude. ‘You see, the ability to pick up on vibrations and energy is like your muscles. It must be exercised to become stronger. In other words, if you don’t use it, you lose it!
Your God-given gut instincts are the last things that you want to atrophy. In this mixed-up world, you cannot afford for these things to weaken.
Therefore, you must trust your gut. Especially if you are a target of bullying. Never allow others to convince you that you’re being too overly-suspicious.
If they accuse you of being “p*ranoid,” that’s a red flag. Never listen when they tell you that you’re “cray-cray” for following your intuition.
If ever you pick up bad energy from the people around you, listen up and don’t walk. Run!
Here are the signs of fake friends:
1.You feel bad or awkward around them.
Energy doesn’t lie. Although you may not consciously know that the people you’re with don’t value you, you’ll feel it in their vibrations.
Therefore, avoid anyone who makes you feel that something is “off” because the vibes you feel are a warning. Realize that these people don’t deserve to be in your presence or your life. You deserve better.
2. Empty promises.
These people make all kinds of promises but never follow through. That’s a HUGE red flag! Again, you deserve better than them. It’s time to ditch and switch to better people.
3. Their words don’t match their body language or actions.
They tell you that they like you and that you’re the best thing since the invention of the wheel. However, they don’t act like it.
Instead, they run hot and cold toward you. Sometimes they speak, sometimes they don’t. Moreover, they may treat you like dirt or ignore you when other people are around.
Again, get rid of these losers!
4. Fake friends only want to be with you in private.
This means that they’re probably ashamed to be seen with you. They’re all over you when it’s just the two of you.
However, in public or when others are around, they ignore you and act like they don’t know you. Again, get rid of these no-counts.
5. You make all the effort in the friendship or relationship.
You are always the one to initiate contact, do all the calling, all the texting, and messaging. Also, you make all the visits to their house, using your car gas and your time. However, they never reciprocate.
This can get exhausting. At some point, you find yourself wondering if they really care.
Therefore, it’s time to stop making so much effort and let them do some of the work if they want to contact you. and if they don’t, there’s your answer. Find better friends.
6. Fake friends take and never give.
They only use you for what they can get from you, then disappear when you’re the one in need. Again, this is so revealing. Have nothing more to do with them..
7. They never tell the truth.
If you find that a friend has been lying to you, you have to wonder what else they will lie about. Therefore, it’s time to start choosing friends who are honest and let these people go!
8. They’re jealous of you when things are going well for you.
If your friends resent your achievements and successes, it’s time to cut ’em loose. You deserve friends who celebrate your successes with you, not ones who are green with jealousy and see you as competition.
9. Fake Friends get angry when you talk to your other friends or a family member.
This is a huge red flag! A true friend would never want to keep you all to themselves. True friends won’t block you from associating with other people who love you.
In fact, they would want others to love you too. Moreover, any friend who feels insecure any time you talk to someone else is not good for you. Get away from them, pronto!
10. They have nothing to say to you… until you Unintentionally piss them off.
Some people claim to be with you. However, you never hear a peep from them until you trigger them somehow.
Then suddenly, the floodgates fly open and all the hate and resentment rushes forth like a raging torrent. Be glad because this is how you know they were never for you to begin with.
Now you can weed them out before they do even further damage. Therefore, know your worth and get rid of those who don’t.
11. Fake friends always disappear when you’re in trouble and need them the most.
They’ll leave you to fend for yourself when bullies come for you. Additionally, they may not be supportive when you’re having a rough time. For example, fake friends do not visit when you’re sick or be there for you when you’re feeling low.
Again, dead giveaway. Steer clear!
If you see any of these signs, get rid of them…fast! This person should be about as welcome in your life as a turd in a swimming pool!
You owe it to yourself to let these leeches go!
12. They Take Sides with your bullies and people who abuse you.
If you friends defend the wrong people against you, realize that they were never even worth knowing. They only proved to you that they’re worthless and can never be trusted.
Your fake friends may have defended your bullies because they were afraid of being targeted themselves. However, that doesn’t matter. True friends stick up for you no matter what it may cost them.
Therefore, the last thing you want is a bunch of wimps for friends. I know it hurts when someone you thought so highly of suddenly throws you under the bus!
Believe me, I’ve been there. Betrayal by people you think highly of is the most painful part of being a victim of bullying.
However, as painful as it is, you need to realize that not everyone is worth your time. Not everyone deserves your friendship.
So, when people turn against you, understand that it’s only the trash taking itself out!
Therefore, what you want are strong and brave friends- friends with substance! You want friends with the cajones to have your back and tell the bullies to go take a long walk off a short pier!
13. Fake friends will believe any lies and rumors about you.
Anyone who believes the worst lies about you and turns on you so quickly is NOT your friend. Also realize that they never had much sack, to begin with.
Again, take out the trash and discard them. They’re no good for you!
Therefore, you must weed out all the frauds and attract the people who truly value you and who deserve the privilege of being in your life!
However, here’s one last thought to consider.
Great friends are hard to find. Because the strong and true are few in this world.
Realize that you must be picky when it comes to allowing people in your life. Why? Because, the cold hard truth is that most people really are a bunch of bagless, weak-kneed wusses.
Just as a girl must kiss many frogs to find a prince who’s worthy of her love, a target of bullying must weed through a great many wusses to find people who are worthy of her friendship.
For others to value you, you must first value yourself! And that means loving yourself enough to walk away from people who are worthless to you (i.e., the fake friends who betray you). Moreover, it also means loving yourself enough to be selective of people who come into your life.
This post was all about fake friends and the signs they give you that you must be aware of.
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