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Bullies Have Enemies: 3 Ways to Use It to Your Advantage

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Did you know that your bullies have enemies too? ‘Want to know how to use it to your advantage? Here are ways you can do so.

bullies have enemies

Seasoned bullies have left a long trail of enemies behind them. Don’t believe me? Think about this. Bullies who have perfected their… ahem… craft have had plenty of practice. In fact, they’re had years of it.

There were many, many victims before you and there will be many more after you. That, you can count on. Bullies have hurt many people and destroyed a lot of lives. Therefore, you can bet that they have a treasure trove of enemies!

I say, treasure trove because it’s an advantage for you if you know how to use it.

Therefore, in this post, you will learn that your bullies have enemies.  Moreover, you’ll learn how to align with your bullies’ enemies, become friends with them, then leverage your new friends against them.

You’ll also learn how to get intelligence on your bullies to use as a weapon to protect yourself.

Once you learn these clever techniques, you will be able to not only garner support from those who’ve been in your shoes, but you’ll learn how to use commonality to make friends in the future. Moreover, you’ll learn how to benefit from strength in numbers and protect yourself against your bullies.

Bullies Have Enemies

Gossip runs rampant in small towns. Therefore, if you find yourself unfortunate enough to be a victim of bullies in a small town, gossip about your (perceived) transgressions has reached from city limits to city limits… at light speed.

However, take it from someone who has been there.

People talk smack about bullies too, only they don’t do it openly. Why? Because the talkers fear becoming the bullies’ next targets.

Therefore, the talk is always in secret.

Believe me, you probably aren’t the only one being victimized. There are others.

However, because the others feel shame over being bullied, they, more than likely won’t admit to it.  Moreover, because bullies will never tell you if these other victims exist, you never hear about it.

Therefore, you mistakenly think that you are the only one they pick on. Here’s how you use your bullies’ enemies against them.

1. Find out who your bullies’ enemies are and Befriend them.

This will be in your best interest if you’re a victim of bullying. It’s what I did, and boy, did I find out some really juicy tidbits about the lives of my bullies.

Moreover, most of the info I found out was some very embarrassing information!

The beauty of it is that I didn’t have to ask. I would only sit or stand quietly, observe, and listen! Bullies may think they’re stars, but scratch the surface, and you’ll discover that they don’t shine so brightly after all.

For example, Let’s say that one of your bullies is now a nurse, and you’re good friends with several nurses who’ve had the displeasure of working with her. They tell you that, “she is as incompetent as they come.”

Also, she has a big family secret. You live in the same town. Therefore, you know what that secret is.

Moreover, you know that, for years, your bully has bounced from one job to another. Her former employers either fired her or she quit when things didn’t go her way. Also, you know that she has also been through five, maybe six marriages.

Know that this information is telling. It instantly reveals the type of person your bully is. Therefore, you can use it as a weapon. Or you can use it to your advantage.

Bullies have Enemies:

Scenario 2.

 One of your friends, who is harassed by the same bully, tells you that the bully dropped out of high school. Your friend also tells you that she has ended up working as a waitress.

Or you may discover that she now owns her own restaurant but barely breaks even.

Maybe years later, you find that several of your school bullies are incarcerated or have been. Also, maybe one was convicted of murder and another convicted of armed robbery, running guns, or possession of illegal substances.

Granted, it’s been years since you were in school, however, the benefit to these stories is that it makes you feel so much better about yourself. Why? Because you realize that your bullies weren’t so hot after all.

Moreover, knowing they’re been locked up and are criminals gives you a sense of justice. Moreover, it makes you feel better about yourself because you know you’re nothing like them.

Bullies have enemies:

Therefore I repeat: Befriend your bullies’ enemies.

1. Befriend your bullies’ enemies. Befriend the other outcasts in your school, workplace, or community. Because I guarantee you that you aren’t the only one they’ve steamrolled. Bullies leave a lot of shattered lives in their wake and make lots of enemies. And strength always comes in numbers.

2. Listen out! You will hear many stories about your bullies from the rest of the outcasts and other people who cannot stand them. You will be surprised at what you find out. It may be that your bullies get laughed at too. People are only careful who they do it around and are quieter about it. They must be, or the bullies will target them too.

Bullies aren’t as important or invincible as they put on. It’s only an act! Realize that people such as these must work hard to maintain the facades they put on.

Moreover, the reason they give targets a difficult time is that targets don’t have to work that hard. They simply choose to be themselves.

Therefore, ingratiate yourself into the good graces of the enemies of your bullies and you’ll get an ear-full every time you got together.

Any information you get about your bullies is valuable to you. Always! Because it can then be used as leverage should the bullies come for you.

So, make no mistake. Bullies have enemies…LOTS of them! However, they will never in a million years tell you about it.

They don’t want you to know that others disrespect them behind their backs. Why? Because it would shatter the image of perfection and invincibility they’ve set for themselves.

The Bully’s Facade

Instead, they want you to believe that everyone loves them and thinks they are the best things since the wheel’s invention. And they want you to believe it because they want you to feel bad about yourself.

Put another way, if bullies can make you think that everyone loves them, then you’re more likely to believe the lie they drum into your head every day. That you’re just plain garbage.

Why? Because a bully’s popularity and greatness (perceived or not) only serves to re-enforce any dislike you have for yourself after you’ve been bullied for so long.

Please don’t let this happen to you. Befriend your bullies’ enemies. Open your eyes to your great value and worth. In that, you open your eyes to the facades your bullies hide behind and the acts they put on.

When you do this, I guarantee that your self-esteem will skyrocket.

2. Bullies Have Enemies:

Listen for Any intimate details about them.

Believe me, you aren’t the only one being victimized. There are others. But because the others more than likely won’t admit to being bullied and because bullies will never tell you if there are others, you never hear about it.

Therefore, you mistakenly think that you are the only one they pick on.

3. Let it boost Your Self-esteem.

You don’t have to take the info and spread it or use it against them. All you have to do is just know about it and it will give your self-esteem a huge boost! Why?

Because any embarrassing details you find out about your bullies’ lives is confirmation that you aren’t so unlucky after all. Moreover, it let’s you know that, just maybe, your bullies have been projecting their own misery unto you.

And they’ve been doing it so that they can feel better about themselves.

I can’t stress this enough! If you are a victim of bullies, it would be in your best interest to find out who your bullies’ enemies are. Moreover, align yourself with them.

It’s what I did, and boy, did I find out some really juicy tidbits about their lives…most of which is rather embarrassing information!

I didn’t have to ask. I would only sit or stand quietly, observe, and listen! Bullies may think they’re stars, but scratch the surface, and you’ll discover that they don’t shine so brightly after all.

The bullies I battled in school are only ordinary people. Yet, even today, most of them continue trying like mad to keep up with the Jones’s. Moreover, they work hard to make everyone think they have beaten the rat race.

 However, they’re failing miserably at it. Most have never left the small town and still put on the facade of power and a perfect life. It’s hilarious when you really think about it.

Any information you get about your bullies is valuable to you. Always! Because it can then be used as leverage should the bullies come for you.

Take this route and you won’t feel so bad about yourself when your bullies attack your character. You’ll only laugh inside, knowing what you know about them.

This post was all about the fact that bullies have enemies so that you can use it to your advantage.

Related posts you’ll enjoy:

1. Things School Bullies Try to Hide: 13 Things They’re Ashamed Of

2. “You Ain’t Shit!” – 5 Reasons Why Bullies Tell You This

3. Instigation: 3 Ways Bullies Sow Discord Between You and Others

4. Baiting: 5 Ways Bullies Bait You Into a Reaction

5. Bullying Tactics: 9 Subtle Moves Bullies Use to Avoid Detection

61 thoughts on “Bullies Have Enemies: 3 Ways to Use It to Your Advantage”

  1. aparna12 says:
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    Awesome! Your blogs on bullies is very very interesting and very impressive. Your suggestions to tackle them are fantastic. Bravo! Keep up the good work.

  2. Arun Singha says:
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    1. Instead, they want you to believe that everyone loves them and thinks they are the best things since the wheel’s invention. And they want you to believe it because they want you to feel bad about yourself.
    This is 100 % true. I have been finding it since long. I didnot know that this is their quality. After going through your posts, i understood everything that happened and happening. I know i can not stop. But i am alert! I am not getting hurt as that i used to . After studying ancient philosophy, i have made myself defensive for offensive words. managing somehow. I believe, it will improve further.
    As you said, ” WITH KNOWLEDGE COMES EMPOWERMENT’
    god is helping me through you, thats what i believe.
    Thank you so much, so so much.
    Best regards.🙏😊

  3. wjwingrove97 says:
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    A lot of my friends were bullied along with me, but we never had a single conversation about it! Silence is what makes tyrants and bullies strong..it is their oxygen! Thanks angel 🥞🥞🥞

  7. Maryanne says:
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    You don’t have to befriend a bully’s enemy to know that they are insecure and not that great. It’s psychology 101. People bully because they are unsure of themselves. It makes them feel “big” to belittle others. And it is true, bullies don’t became much in life because they have low standards and a team to cheer them on, no matter how small their accomplishments.

    • cheriewhite says:
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      True. However, when you’re a target of bullying, you need support, you need allies. What’s a better way to get that than to befriend the enemies of the bullies? It’s strategy and you just might end up with friends for life.

    • euroktoo says:
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      Some are- my boss just got promoted last year! And I have no idea why- he is is a steam roller- and I was his 4th in this school! I wish people in Human Resources understood this- it seems like they must have missed Psych.101. Amazing?! When you mention bully bosses to HR they seeem lost, aloof or better: in complete denial. I just heard about this author-Jeffrey Pfeffer – who wrote Dying for a Paycheck where he shares that workplace bullying & toxicity is the SIXTH LEADING CAUSE OF DEATH in the USA. I can imagine it is the same in Canada- yet who is doing anything?

  8. Kym Gordon Moore says:
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    Yep, bullies need not think they are immune to public and private scrutiny! What they throw at others gets thrown back at them with greater speed and harsher consequences. When will they learn??? 😲🤔🙄

  9. ourlittleredhouseblog says:
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    My brother-in-law is a bully. He even bullies kids and animals. He reminds me of that older brother in the movie weird science (from the 80’s). The weird creature he was turned into was so funny. He was just a mean, mean guy. My brother-in-law has been through several girlfriends, and the only time he got married it would last two years before his kind wife left him. He was even cruel to her. My mother-in-law loves him so much though and sadly does not treat my husband, her younger son with the same love. Bullies are made into the monsters they are by the environments they have grown up in.

    • cheriewhite says:
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      My heart goes out to all the people your broth-in-law bullied. And I’m proud of his wife for leaving his sorry butt! And you’re right, bullies are made by the environments they grow up in. Many, like your brother-in-law are made by their parents the Golden Child who can do no wrong. As a result, they become entitled, demanding, and arrogant! Thank you so much for sharing this. ❤️

  10. euroktoo says:
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    The ones from Junior High were the worst when I think back- but you know, none of them did a hill of beans with their lives. As you said, “most of them continue trying like mad to keep up with the Jones’s, making everyone think they have beaten the rat race and failing miserably.” Karma perhaps dealt them a fair hand after all! I never seek revenge- I wait – and I have great patience too- I just let Her roll out what is coming to them! LOL!

  12. RespectAll44 says:
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    Good post. Everyone gets talked about by some group or person. Look at any internet story and then read the comments. It could be a story on Mother Theresa and someone has a snide remark.

    I am going to softly disagree with you on a few things and hope you aren’t offended because I respect you but one, while it is good to know and be friends with the enemies of bullies it should be done for the right reasons. Don’t (and not saying you did) pretend like you are friends with someone you don’t really view as a friend just because they don’t like a bully. That is using a person and that isn’t right. Not saying you or anyone here has done that but fake friendships are cruel because someone gets hurt.

    Two, the nurse is a good example of someone’s behavior apparently not changing but I do have to respectfully disagree on a couple of things you said about the other one (and obviously I have no idea who this person is) but let’s all base things strictly on behavior not hardships in life. Her dropping out of high school can occur for many reasons like pregnancy etc. Many drop out of high school or college for a ton of reasons. Becoming a waitress isn’t a bullying issue, it is a job many do. We should never rank jobs and owning a restaurant is actually making something of yourself. Over half of all restaurants don’t make it and most only break even. It is hard to make a profit in that profession. If she is still a bully that’s valid. Owning a struggling a business isn’t. I mean unless we all are college degreed people and working in successful careers none of us should cast stones on that whether it is me, you, or another reader.

    I am sorry how that sounded. I just want all of us to be better people not in some ways being just like they are.

    • cheriewhite says:
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      “Don’t (and not saying you did) pretend like you are friends with someone you don’t really view as a friend just because they don’t like a bully.” -Awesome point! You’re right! 💯 And I couldn’t do that under those pretenses because it would feel fake to me and that’s not a good feeling! You just gave me an idea for a future post! Thank you so much!

      And you’re right about the restaurant work. I would never look down on anyone doing menial work because I’ve done that kind of work. However, this lady is still a bully because I received some really nasty messages from her after I published my first book just a few years ago.

      And please don’t apologize. You made some valid points here. 😊💖💐🌹

      • RespectAll44 says:
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        Thank you and if she is still bullying then that is something entirely different. Kids doing it is horrible, adults doing it indefensible and you would like to think someone who owns a struggling business which is driven by getting as many customers as she can, would develop some humility and respect for others trying to kick and claw their way through life. I certainly hope I am different than I was 20, 30 years ago. Some people never change though because it isn’t immaturity, etc like affects many of us especially during the puberty years, it is their true heart and that is just sad.

        • cheriewhite says:
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          You’re absolutely right. 💯 I believe she puts on an act in front of most people. Only the few who she bullies sees the real person behind the mask she wears. But that’s how bullies operate. They fool everyone else but show their targets the worst sides of them. It’s sad indeed. Because someone who’s truly happy doesn’t need to act that way.

  13. KT Workman says:
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    A few years ago, I got a new supervisor at work who was was a bully, and though she didn’t target me, she did two of my fellow co-workers, who were on the timid side. And there were others I didn’t know as well that she bullied to a lesser extent. It took me going to the head honcho and telling her what was going on to stop it. Though everyone who worked under this woman knew she was a bully, none would stand up to her, alone or as a group. I felt the only way I could stop the bully was report her to the boss, a woman I worked under for many years and who trusted me to tell it like it is. There is strength in numbers, but I couldn’t get my co-workers to band together. Luckily, the boss put a stop to the bullying.

  15. holliemayx says:
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    Thanks for this. I was always Bullied as a child growing up into a teen never was a bully myself. Thank you for this post it must be normalise importantly this topic 🤘🏽

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