‘Want to know how to build self-confidence and self-esteem? Here are the exact steps to more confidence and better self-esteem, which leads to better overall mental health.
You can have all the determination in the world and work like a dog but without confidence, you are just spinning your wheels. Why? Because determination without it equals desperation and desperation comes from a spirit of lack.
Therefore, in this post, you will learn how to build self-confidence and self-esteem so that you can feel better about yourself, stand up to bullies, and go after what you want in life.
Once you learn this important and life-changing information, you will be compelled to do what you must do to raise not only your confidence and self-esteem, but your overall happiness!
This post is all about how to build self-confidence and self-esteem so that you can change your life for the better!
How to Build Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem
When you’re always unsure and insecure, it is a proven fact that you won’t perform as well at school or work. Moreover, you’re likely to have strained relationships.
High self-esteem and confidence levels equal great performance and rewarding relationships, which equals success. Therefore, all this combined equals even MORE CONFIDENCE than before!
Why? Because it reinforces more confidence!
A winning attitude is key to having success in any area of life. Also, you’ll have faith in yourself, which will get you through tough times.
One of my favorite speakers is Zig Ziglar and he talks about “Stinkin Thinkin” and the damage it can do to self esteem. Therefore, you must turn this “stinkin thinkin” into thoughts of success, gratitude, and happiness.
Only then will you be amazed as you watch every area in your life take a turn for the better. And it will happen like magic!
Once you Build it, you must maintain it.
However, once you build your self-esteem and confidence, you must maintain them. Moreover, they will still be times when you will fail. However, remember this.
Failure is the predecessor of success. You will always make mistakes. No one is perfect nor all knowing. Instead of beating yourself up over your errors, look for the lessons that they mean to teach you.
Also, search for the positive in the mistake.
When someone tells you that you can’t, pay them no mind. Others can steal your morale if you allow them to. Moreover, understand that is not easy to be yourself and stay sure when surrounded by bullies.
Know that there will be others who hurl jabs and insults your way. Moreover, some people just won’t believe you can be successful. However, don’t put too much stock into their opinions.
Instead, hold on to your confidence and self-belief even if you have to give yourself pep talks several times daily. Adverse things will happen and people will hurt you. It’s just a part of life.
To feel hurt, anger, or sadness is normal and expected when something negative happens. Also, there will be times in life when you will not feel confident. Things will happen and throw you off kilter.
However, the difference is that when you have confidence, you will bounce back more quickly and will be less likely to dwell in negativity.
How to Build Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem:
If you have a negative mindset, you’ll need to reprogram your thinking.
For instance, if people bully you at school or at work, you’re more likely to feel insecure and have a horribly negative outlook. Therefore, it will take a lot of reprogramming in order to take back your confidence.
Moreover, it will be the hardest thing you may ever do in your life. It is easy to change certain things about yourself.
However, changing your thought patterns once others have conditioned you to think a certain way, is one of the hardest feats to accomplish. And it won’t happen overnight.
Negative thought patterns can take years to change completely.
However, once you start, little by little, you will see a positive difference in your outlook. Also, the circumstances that come into your life will change for the better.
You will begin to feel confident and the more confidence you have, the more momentum you will have behind it.
Therefore, always keep that momentum going and you will be on the right path for the rest of your life. With confidence and a winning smile and attitude, you can achieve beyond your wildest dreams!
How to build self-confidence and self-esteem:
Here’s how it works.
Through our thought patterns, we unconsciously ask for what we get, good or bad. Therefore, by sending a certain vibe out you always get the same in return.
In other words, if you are negative, you are unwittingly asking for more negativity to come into your life. On the other hand, if you are positive, confident, happy and at peace then you are asking for more of the same and it shall be given.
So keep showing your pearly whites and smile from the heart! I once heard Zig Ziglar talk about a spirit of gratitude. Counting your blessings and being thankful are the fastest ways to turn any negative into a positive and with it comes confidence. He was right!
Here are the steps you can take to change your way of thinking.
1. Every time you catch yourself thinking a negative thought, turn it into a positive thought.
For instance, you have a test or an interview coming soon and, in your mind, you ask yourself, “What if I fail?” or “What if I don’t make it?”
Immediately catch yourself. Then, turn that thought into a positive one by asking yourself, “What if I pass?” “What if I succeed?” or “What if I do make it?”
Or, if you find yourself thinking, “What if things go wrong?” Immediately turn it around and ask, “What if things go right?”
Also, if you catch yourself thinking that you’re a loser. Tell yourself, “No. I’m a winner.”
Continue doing this until thinking positive becomes like second nature!
2. How to build Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem:
Maximize your chance opportunities.
If you’re talented in writing and you find that there’s a writing contest enter the contest. In other words, instead of letting this opportunity pass you by because you’re too afraid that you’ll lose, face your fears and enter the contest anyway.
And you never can tell. You just might win that contest! The point I’m making here is to try! Because if you don’t try, you don’t know. Put another way, if you try, you at least have a good chance of winning. However, if you don’t, there’s no chance of it.
Therefore, taking risks is crucial if you want positive change in your life.
3. Get out of your comfort zone.
This brings us back to what we mentioned in the last section, taking risks. Confident people with high self-esteem take risks. Therefore, because they take risks, they score many successes.
This isn’t to say that you’ll succeed every time, because you won’t. Even confident people fail. However, they don’t let failure stop them.
The confident do not give up. Instead, they move on to the next chance opportunity and they keep trying until they reach success!
Remember the line in Rocky Balboa, “It ain’t about how hard you hit, it’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done.”
In other words, confident people get hit all the time, but they keep moving forward. They keep taking risks and they don’t stop until they get to where they want to be. And that’s how they win! So, don’t be afraid to take risks!
4. How to Build Self-confidence and Self-esteem:
Don’t Compare yourself to others.
Self-comparison is the killer of confidence and self-esteem. Therefore, stop comparing yourself to other people. Moreover, realize that we are all different and we’re each made to do different things and have diverse experiences.
Embrace the fact that each person has a different mix of talents. Some have more gifts, some have less. However, it doesn’t meant that those with less are less capable of success.
5. Turn negative self-talk into positive and loving words to yourself.
In other words, talk to yourself like you would your best friend. Instead of putting yourself down, begin building yourself up.
Giving yourself love and acceptance and know that you deserve it. Encourage yourself to keep going when things get tough. Give yourself the love you would give to your family and best friends.
6. Set goals and work hard to achieve them.
Set goals and go after them. Work hard and don’t quit until you achieve those goals. Moreover, never let bullies and jealous people discourage you.
Why? Because if word gets out that you’re working on a goal, there will be those who will do everything possible to discourage you. And this goes especially if you’re a target of bullying. Therefore, keep striving and don’t stop until you reach the finish line.
No matter what!
This post is all about how to build self-confidence and self-esteem so that you can achieve better mental health and better life results.
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