The most insidious thing about being a target of bullying is the loss of opportunities to meet new people. In other words, you lose the inability to move on with new friends. When bullies and their drones have unjustly slandered or libeled you, even total strangers will no doubt hear of you. Then, chances are that they will automatically have their minds made up about you before they get a chance to meet you. Sadly, this is one feature of bullying that crosses very few people’s minds.
invisible enemies
What’s even scarier you are left completely defenseless against any attack these strangers may bring. When you haven’t the slightest idea who your attacker is, how do you know who to watch out for? How do you know who to avoid? It’s impossible to protect yourself from invisible enemies.
This is often the case once bullies have unjustly used smear campaigns against you. It is a situation in which you are walking blind and it’s even more dangerous! You cannot see the enemy. Someone could walk right up to you on the street, in broad daylight, with a weapon hidden on them and you would never know of their intent to hurt or kill you until it was too late.
Remember. We lost the Vietnam War because we didn’t know who the enemy was. We didn’t know exactly who was or wasn’t on our side!
Fighting Ghosts
It’s the same when you are a target of bullying, especially if you live in a rural area where everyone knows everyone. Once your tarnished reputation reaches so far, there will be times when you won’t know who is coming for you. And it will be as if you are fighting ghosts.
Sadly, in these cases, the bullying has for so long gone on that your reputation in the community has become ironclad, and there isn’t much you can do to change it. Therefore, the best you can do to better your life is to move away and get a fresh start in a new town. It will be the only way you will find happiness and stability.
With knowledge comes empowerment!
Great post, Cherie!
You just described my very worst nightmare I use to have from 2017-2020 while I was living in Ontario. I use to throw up and get the shakes with the thought of leaving my apartment because I was terrified of being attacked because of the nasty narratives in the cyberbullying websites created in my name back then.
They shared on this site my name, pictures of myself and my husband, and address of where we lived and also worked, even with a map to make us easier to find. It was scary and I even quit my job in 2018 because of it. I had no idea if people were coming to see a apartment for rent, or me…
Thankfully, I haven’t had any of these dreams in a long time, not since I got back to my home Province. I have been shown the past 3 1/2 years that no one here cares what some random anonymous person writes about me online and I have since rebuilt my sense of safety. I haven’t worked in almost 6 years and am content with that too! I have embraced my retirement!
My nightmare has finally come to an end after 7 years, at least it has for me. I am enjoying my life once again!
Sweet Stella, it breaks my heart that you went through such terror. I can’t imagine the horror. But I’m so happy that you have taken your life back. You are to be admired. Sending you lots of warm and loving thoughts and hugs.
Cherie
Too right Cherie!
Thank you so much, Michael! God bless you and yours this new year.
And you!
Thank you! 😊
This is so true. This is the worse part or saddest part really.
It really is, Lindell. My wish as that you and others who have been through an ordeal like it can reclaim your dignity and your life and return to the happiness you once knew. And I have no doubt that you will. Sending blessings to you and yours.